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When it comes to my best friend, I’m an open book. I’m able to tell him anything without fear of him judging me or telling my secrets to anyone. I trust him more than anyone, but with this, I’m not sure if I should tell him. I’m actually so very ashamed of cutting, I’ve only told one person in my life, who was an ex boyfriend in the past, but he doesn’t even matter anymore. I wish I could take it back, but it’s not a huge deal because I never see him or have any contact with him.

But anyway, I’ve been cutting for 3 years, and it’s not an addiction. I do it either once every few months or once a month, but the past two days I’ve done it both nights. I cut on my thighs and hip so that no one will ever suspect. I’m so ashamed of this, because of how it is viewed in society. I do it as a way to punish myself when I get really depressed or feel like I’ve failed, and gained weight. (I’m bulimic for two and a half years.) I’ve had a really rough past which includes my fathers alcoholism, his abusing my mother, him molesting me, and just other things unfortunate.

He knows pretty much everything about me, except the cutting. The cutting is not a problem, not an addiction, so I’m not sure if I should bring it up. I just want him to know I trust in him so much, but I feel like if I tell him he might think I tell him just too many things. Plus I wanted to keep just a secret for myself, but now I’m unsure… what do you think I should do?

What do I do when he’s talking to me about how upset he is…

Shes constantly verbally abusing him, emotionally, sometimes physically… I hate what its doing to him… His self esteem has become low and hes becoming depressed… He can’t talk to anyone else about it… His dad is mostly out of the picture and he can’t talk to his mums boyfriend about it…

He isn’t a religious person so he doesn’t have faith in the Lord and he doesn’t have guidance…

Help me help him, please…

We’re 15… not old enough to drive… don’t see each other often since school let out and he’s leaving the country for the rest of summer in a couple days…

I’m so sad for him.

Please. Help.

My mother used to tell me to quit jumping on the bed because it will wear a hole in the mattress. I don’t live with her anymore, and I jump on my bed when I feel like it now–which is nearly every day. I know someone will plan to say that the best prevention is not jumping on the bed at all, but that is completely out of the question as I’m addicted to this activity. Would you recommend getting a mattress pad or something to cover that up to prevent premature wear to the mattress?

What about laying a piece of plywood across the top of the mattress?…although it will reduce the amount of bounce I get.

Ive been depressed this year. My reputation at school went down the drain , i last over 30 plus pounds, and gained a weak rep at school. Am 15 , dealing with a drug addicted mom, who is not the perfect role model for me.
peopel have seen my waekness, i had emotional outbrust, people know about my sucidal attempts, ppl know about the physical fights that happen at home..and i feel that this year, the guiys in my school have used all of this to thier advanatage..Guys in my school start pinching, shoving, grabbing me..and i fight back, but all that comes with that is more hitting from th em.

am scared for my life right now..& worried about this up coming year.

am so sick of being the vitcum..

I just want to run away from everythign..where i live right now is not doing me justice. I feel like i practically have to raise my self.
I need a mother figure..i dont have anyboady else to live with. And i dont even know who my dad is…

I have a older sister, who see everythign that happenign yet, i feel as if she does’nt care.

I been so isolated.., it the only way that i deal with the pain..

my emotions & feelings are all intense.

everywhere i go, am the center of attention..am that person that peole think got it bad, and build thier confidence over.

am that girl that peolpe take advantage of..am do freaking sick of the BS, that is happening..i have no support system..

i can’t even get a job, because am only 15, turnign 16 in nov.

I dont thihnk ill ever be happy in highschool.

my rep is just bad, ppl think so negative of me, ant hat’s bcuz i have’nt stood up for myself..

Am getting thepay next week for my depression.

I use be to such a smart, happy girl, who did’nt care about other thought. I knew whati wanted, did good in school, cared about what i looked like, but lately..i just dont care anymore.

am use to be such a smart 2 year back, but lately i changing..my mind is clouded, can’t seem to think straight..cant hold conversation, been ioslated for a long time now..

any advice?

my step dad treats me badly also…
at times he calls me outside my name, and has even threaten me at one times or another when mom was’nt there..

i never told my mom about this.

i never have any fun..this is my youth years, and i feel like am 30 sumthing.

am a virgin, anly had one relationship whcih last 2 days..i want love, but i refuse to look for it in all the wrong places..but it so hard fighting the odds..

my school consulaer, teacher

they dont like me ethier based on my rep at school.

in novwmber am thinking about going to job crop..but i dont know how this will affect my life..i feel ike am running away from my problem instead of dealing with it..

my best guy friends mom is an alcholic she get ruined her last chance with there family and it is getting bad.how can i help him right now he is very very upset. help asap
my dad is also an alcoholic, and my brother is a drug addict…

My father has been using meth for years now. My mom divorced him because of his addiction. I swear, my dad is a good father and the only problem that I can see in him is his substance abuse. I know he loves us dearly but he can’t improve his condition all by himself. I hope you can help me locate the best drug rehab here in our place. Thank you.

My mom punished me for “back talk” but she doesn’t realize how lucky she is to have a child who is drug-free, alcohol-free, boyfriendless, intelligent, is a straight A student, and partakes in nothing scandalous at all!!! So I thought I would give her a little taste of what might make her miss the old innocent me!

my best guy friends mom is an alcholic she get ruined her last chance with there family and it is getting bad.how can i help him right now he is very very upset. help asap
also my dad is an alcoholic and my brother is a drug addict

My best friend is an 18 year old who has recently discovered her freedom. Since graduation she moved out of her parents house and started hanging out with addicts. A few months ago she told me that her worried mother had her car searched. The police supposedly found a crack pipe (supposedly she didn’t know that they were smoking crack) and several guns with missing serial numbers. The officer gave her a second chance. She then moved back in with her parents and got a restraining order against this boy. I was told that if she was seen with him again she would end up in prison. Two days ago I called her phone, only to find out that she has moved back out after getting back together with her boyfriend. She has completely changed. She has alienated her family by getting cought in lies and destroying the car that her parents let her use. She tells me that she can not help who she falls in love with. What can I do to convince her that she is wrong?

My mother in law decided to leave a bag of popcorn in the microwave unattended. This wouldn’t have been a problem if she used the “popcorn” button to do the popping as my microwave has an auto pop feature that works great. However, she punched in 5:00 and walked off. By the time she realized what she’d done, the smoke was already rolling out the cracks. The microwave still works fine, but it has a brown tint to the inside. We’ve scrubbed it down but have not been able to get it looking anywhere near is white as it used to.

Can anyone recommend a cleaner or some other way to get it looking like it used to?

My mother in law decided to leave a bag of popcorn in the microwave unattended. This wouldn’t have been a problem if she used the “popcorn” button to do the popping as my microwave has an auto pop feature that works great. However, she punched in 5:00 and walked off. By the time she realized what she’d done, the smoke was already rolling out the cracks. The microwave still works fine, but it has a brown tint to the inside. We’ve scrubbed it down but have not been able to get it looking anywhere near is white as it used to.

Can anyone recommend a cleaner or some other way to get it looking like it used to?

My mother was diagnosed with Acromegaly 3 years ago. She underwent surgery to remove a benign tumor from her pituitary gland. At the time, the doctors assured us that there would be little-to-no long term side effects. However, right away we all (myself, my father and sister) began to notice marked changes in her. At first they were subtle, but they have gradually worsened over the years. She exhibits symptoms of (in my opinion) medium/severe dementia, including personality changes, severe mood swings, inability to concentrate, dyslexic-like written and verbal skills, no short-term memory, no impulse control,etc. On top of this, she exhibits signs of severe depression and now finally advanced alcoholism. The final straw was when my sister came home at 4 in the afternoon and found her passed out. She had peed all over the house, left the burner on and both doors wide open. We fear that this has now crossed over into the “danger to oneself or others” category. The problem is that she refuses to seek help of any kind, and whenever she is confronted she becomes either hysterical or just downright vicious. We know that clearly something has to be done, but we have no idea where to begin. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read this.

This sounds so bad to say, but I really really REALLY don’t want my mom meeting my best friend. My friend lives around here, but is moving to the other side of the country … So, in a couple months I’m going to see her there. My mom wants to come, since I’m only 16 and “not old enough” to go by myself. I have been best friends with this girl for like, forever, but my mom and her have never met. Mainly because my mom is an alcoholic, bottom line … and I didn’t want them meeting. Now my mom says she wants to meet her when I go to see her. [I don't even know why she does though, she never even cared before.] My mom is also very sensitive and gets very verbally abusive if I bring up her drinking. And that is obviously the main reason I don’t want them meeting. So, is there anything I can do to prevent them from meeting? I was thinking of me meeting my friend in a public place then going back to her house to hang out, or something like that … so they wouldn’t meet but I don’t know. I just can’t directly tell my mom no … because of how she is … & My best friend DOES know my mom is an alcoholic, we have talked about it a lot of times. Especially when I’m really upset. When my mom is drunk [which is pretty much all day] she does crazy things … like taking her shirt off or singing and dancing and stuff like that. It’s embarassing. I just don’t want her to see that … Please help me. I’m not trying to sound like the worst daughter on earth but I really can’t stop thinking about how terrible it will be.

This sounds so bad to say, but I really really REALLY don’t want my mom meeting my best friend. My friend lives around here, but is moving to the other side of the country … So, in a couple months I’m going to see her there. My mom wants to come, since I’m only 16 and “not old enough” to go by myself. I have been best friends with this girl for like, forever, but my mom and her have never met. Mainly because my mom is an alcoholic, bottom line … and I didn’t want them meeting. Now my mom says she wants to meet her when I go to see her. [I don't even know why she does though, she never even cared before.] My mom is also very sensitive and gets very verbally abusive if I bring up her drinking. And that is obviously the main reason I don’t want them meeting. So, is there anything I can do to prevent them from meeting? I was thinking of me meeting my friend in a public place then going back to her house to hang out, or something like that … so they wouldn’t meet but I don’t know. I just can’t directly tell my mom no … because of how she is … & My best friend DOES know my mom is an alcoholic, we have talked about it a lot of times. Especially when I’m really upset. When my mom is drunk [which is pretty much all day] she does crazy things … like taking her shirt off or singing and dancing and stuff like that. It’s embarassing. I just don’t want her to see that … Please help me. I’m not trying to sound like the worst daughter on earth but I really can’t stop thinking about how terrible it will be.

This sounds so bad to say, but I really really REALLY don’t want my mom meeting my best friend. My friend lives around here, but is moving to the other side of the country … So, in a couple months I’m going to see her there. My mom wants to come, since I’m only 16 and “not old enough” to go by myself. I have been best friends with this girl for like, forever, but my mom and her have never met. Mainly because my mom is an alcoholic, bottom line … and I didn’t want them meeting. Now my mom says she wants to meet her when I go to see her. [I don't even know why she does though, she never even cared before.] My mom is also very sensitive and gets very verbally abusive if I bring up her drinking. And that is obviously the main reason I don’t want them meeting. So, is there anything I can do to prevent them from meeting? I was thinking of me meeting my friend in a public place then going back to her house to hang out, or something like that … so they wouldn’t meet but I don’t know. I just can’t directly tell my mom no … because of how she is … & My best friend DOES know my mom is an alcoholic, we have talked about it a lot of times. Especially when I’m really upset. When my mom is drunk [which is pretty much all day] she does crazy things … like taking her shirt off or singing and dancing and stuff like that. It’s embarassing. I just don’t want her to see that … Please help me. I’m not trying to sound like the worst daughter on earth but I really can’t stop thinking about how terrible it will be.

Many of you know, my father is an alcoholic. I’ve gone to Al-Anon and wasn’t too impressed with their “ways” of “letting the alcoholic be.” His lifestyle is killing not only himself but ther rest of our family, too, which is only my brother and me. (My mother died in 2001)

Is there another group out there that would be better suited for family members of alcoholics that would give REASONABLE and REALISTIC advice? I also have an appointment with a psychiatrist to talk about my problems, but that appointment isn’t until August 28th.

Also, do any of you have personal friends or family that have dealt with alcoholism? What’s the best way to deal with them? Confront them either sober or drunk?

Thank you all so much for your information.

My daughter and her best friend were on the back of a 4wheeler with her best friend’s mother driving. She had been drinking, and crashed. My daughter was injured. Should I have notified the Police? By law the hospital had an obligation to, and did and she was arrested for DUI. In the state of washington, driving any vehicle with a motor when impaired, private property or not can result in a DUI. What will become of this friendship?

I was very close friends with a girl about a year or two ago. We did the usual low key drugs and drank together. We were best friends before that even started. I tryed very hard to not even let her smoke pot because I knew she had such an addictive personality. I have never been closer with anyone in my life than I was with her. Long story short she got involved with a guy and he warped her and convinced her that I was a loser. I never forgave her and we are acquantices now, with deep wounds. I am drugfree now. I still care about her very deeply. She became a pothead. I found out today that she is using heroin. She is not even 17 years old. This is not the country it is washington DC. Her father died about 2 years ago and her mother gave up trying to protect her a long time before that. I was the last person to find out and I guarantee that I will be the first if not only person to act. Does anyone have any advice? Take into account I talk to her about once every 6 months very briefly.

My daughter is at her wits ends with her oldest daughter. There is certainly something amiss with her., Since I am bipolar, and on her fathers side, there was a suicide and alcoholism. Her husb. won’t support her in her search for help with her daughter. So she is going to have her hands full.
She is hoping the school will help her get help for her daughter. I really don’t want to go into detail, but there are many symptoms of bipolar, a lot of bizzare behavior; the extreme mood changes; inability to focus; the concrete thinking; anger problems; extremem jealousy of her little sister; (which by the way is perfectly normal). It seems like she is being defiant with her Mom, but she can’t switch from one thought into another one, thus the frustration and the response of anger with her Mom. She doesn’t seem to have ADHD,however, it may be a secondary problem. Any suggestions would be most helpful for the mother. She hates and loves her all at the same time. There isn’t a lack of love.