I had to move back in with my mom. I’m 28 years old. Reason for moving back in with her is because of a Failed Marriage and the house belonged to my ex’s Family. So Until I find a new place of my own, my mother talked me into moving back in with her temporarily. My mother has always had a major drinking problem, things have become much worse for her . Recently she adopted a 19 year old foster daughter whos living here with us, she’s being paid to care for. The problem is, that my mother has a short fuse when she drinks. Its like she looks for problems. I’m worried about her getting into legal trouble because today, for example, I walk into the house, my mother is going off on the foster girl, because someone posted some semi naked photo’s of a woman on her facebook page. My mother happened to look over her shoulder while she was looking at her facebook page. She was screaming at her about she doesn’t want her looking at naughty things on the computer because she can get in trouble for that. My mother knows nothing about face book, and the foster girl was trying to explain to her that she did not put those on her wall, someone else did. I stepped in to explain to my mother that she has no control of what other people put on her page, my mother snapped back and said ” FINE THEN LET HER USE YOUR COMPUTER” Storms into her room and slams the door. All the while she was screaming and fussing about this , she’s standing there holding a big glass of wine in her hand.
About 2 hours later, I’m out of the house, my mother calls my cell phone. Says to me ” You need to stay out of my business, I’m not going to get in trouble over her looking at those things then hangs the phone up”. This foster girl does have some issues, she dresses very provocatively sometimes. Wears booty looking shorts with tank tops… I do understand that she should try to dress more conservatively, but I hear my mother talking to her, she says thing to her like ” You shouldn’t dress like a Hoochie momma”. And things like ” You should dress like my other daughter, who dresses more consevatively, maybe you should try to dress like she does”. It blows my mind. And my mother will say these things to her while I’m standing in the room. I pulled my mother aside and told her she should not use comparisons, and to try to go about it with a different approach, I could see how that may hurt her feelings. My mother gets angry with me and tells me she’s not doing anything wrong, and she is telling her for her own good. This foster girl comes from a rough backround, she’s not used to living middle / upper class. I don’t know what to do. The girl is 19 years old, I can understand my mother trying to help her out. Though My mother is being very harsh, with her approach, on top of that she’s drinking most days when she’s saying these things to her. I don’t know what to do.
Can My mother end up getting in trouble for this? I don’t really know if what I’m saying is even right? Maybe my mothers right. But It just seems that telling her she looks ” Sleazy, Hoochie Mama, ” And all this all of the time, on top her my mother telling her daily that Tattoo’s are Trashy… ( This girl has tattoos) Just feels odd.
