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I babysit for a 3 year old full time and his 5 year old brother part time after school. Their dad is pretty much a single dad, as the kid’s mom is going to jail soon and is an alcoholic. When I first offered to be his babysitter, he said he was going to pay me, and he occasionally does, but not much. On average, I have the 3 year old 11 hours a day and the 5 year old 2 hours a day and then both of them for about 11 hours on saturdays. It’s been 3 weeks since I started and he’s only given me about $200. He keeps saying that he owes me money for last week or that he hasn’t made it to the bank yet, but then I don’t get paid. He’s a really nice guy and I feel sorry for him for all the crap he’s going thru with the kid’s mom and trying to raise them (he’s a really good dad!) and I wouldn’t mind so much if we didn’t need the money. I feel bad asking for money when I know he’s having tough times both emotionally and financially. Any advice? Thanks!

My mom is supposed to be in some kind of treatment, but i’m not sure… And i think she has been drinking again. How can i tell for sure? Not ALOT, just very little.
I would ask her but she lies to me about it… And since she’s in treatment she has an excuse.

my house is his home, he has no savings, no health ins, bad credit, and wants to move back in. I want to sell my house. do i send him out on the streets? do i let him live there untill and get back on his feet and , save money, I have covered his expences for o long time and tired of getting him out of dept. he has no money mangement skills whats-so-ever. I love him very much and i’m afraid he’ll end up where he started, whitch put into rehab in the first place. He can’t seem to cut the cord from mom. His dad died 17 months ago and feel responciable for him still. I need to clean my house out since i don’t live there anymore, I just got married again. what do I do?

Child Protection Svs. knows, by my 16 yr old’s own admission that the complaint they were investigating had no merit, but came back again, and then a **3rd time** and accused me of “emotional abuse” because I drink alcohol. My daughter doesn’t want me to drink (I am NOT an abusive person, drinking or not, and a member of AA since 1988), because she doesn’t think it’s “fair” that she entered rehab for drug problems and I still drink. That’s a short version of the story that still continues. Bottom line is that I was forced out of *my* home and threatened with repurcussions if I didn’t enter rehab. I’m currently not allowed to be in my house when my daughter is there, though I’ve never been given any documentation that says so. (Her mother lives there too but we were never married and split up years ago. I invited them to stay with me so that my kid could have some stability, a sense of family, and that’s another story.) Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

i am 14 i started having sex when i was 12 i only had a couple partners n since i never had any STDS i been through a lot too much to explain but to the point where i wanted to just die still do. i was raised right but was spoiled,hard headed but very smart but didn’t use my intelligence. i always been told i was gorgeous and know i am but had low self esteem because 1st people said i was stuck up had a bad attitude which i never was just shy or that i was a baby then too grown just things teens deal with i been called a lot of things but it don’t matter cause i knew who i was n god do my grandmother died of lung cancer when i was 7 that’s why i hated my parents and family smoked but i started at 13 cause stress n it seem to free my mind of all the drama and bullshit i went thru i smoked weed,cigarettes and tried Ecstasy when my mother went to jail i went wild n have 3 brothers 1 was in jail for 6 years for a shooting of my life my 2nd oldest was a badass but now living life not too good but not bogus1 in college on my father side my father never been there he’s on crack my uncle raped my mother when i was little my parents were alcoholics damn near girls never liked me cause i was different n stayed took care not to be cocky but its the truth haters i couldn’t keep girlfriends in the project especially when i ended up moving to the projects where i stay now with my auntie cause my parents lost our house cars everything i been surrounded of negativity which i always been a good person i feel like i let people turn me into this ne who my parents are and was good parents who don’t have flaws but it matter then not now cause i learned happy at a young age but not so soon that’s part of the reason i felt i changed to fit in n cause i felt alone n unloved when my family broke apart i started to like older guys cause i felt secure but being honest they were to old n knew my age basically ive been molested im not looking for pity cause i knew what i was doing but they knew better n i didn’t see it that way as them being pedophiles at first cause i was vulnerable wanted love that’s all naive cause my brothers and real dad wasn’t there really but my mom was with my step dad 6 years n they been thru alot she went to jail for shooting him he’s white im black n i love him 2 death that’s my dad he always been there no matter what he’s a real man ne way june of this year my aunt took me to the doc n i found out i have herpes simplex 2 doc said she cant say how long ive had it n said i wasn’t the carrier which i knew someone gave it to me i dont know who tho ive been safe n using protection but since i started having sex these last 3 years i had sex like every couple months cause im not a freak or addicted but i always thought i found the one or trusted the wrong one i know all my sex partners but don’t talk to all.idk things do happen and god already planned my life but i just feel like i don’t deserve this i feel unnormal havent felt the same since not only im only a baby yeah i brung it upon my self but not really cause someone did this to me why i don’t get i allowed it somewhat n this is fucked up to say but it was a big wake up call sometimes there bad not only i never had anything it for me to get something the 1st time i cant get rid of it i wasn’t ready and regret having sex period wish i could go back n show im smart but when i was doing it i was accused of that pushed me to which shouldv’e been motivation now every bad thing is but i changed espically when my mother got out i felt complete secure not only i was transforming back into myself again a kid i was forced to act n be grown i had no one i been trying to move on its hard tho not only i will never forgive,forget or get rid of it i feel hopeless i pray every night n know god loves me but feel curse cause everytime i do good it seem like i get fucked.maybe i do need help but they’ve tried i think no one can help me but god what you think???

is there any way to give up his parental rights? the mom is a drug addict and now the kid is in foster care, but now he has to pay insurance too and we can’t even afford it for our own kids. any advice?

I’ve started listening to Crystal Castles, CocoRosie,(actually, I’ve been listening to them for a couple years now.) Marilyn Manson and a lot of hardstyle,techno, and metal. My mother keeps telling me that all the artists have done drugs, and that the music will make me want to try them. I know that some artists really do drugs, but I don’t think that just listening to them will make me want to try acid or coke or something. I mean, just because I listen to “weird” music doesn’t mean that I’m going to grow up as a drug addict, does it? Is my mom right about this, or is she just overreacting? And yeah, I’ve thought about doing drugs, but not like in a way that I WANTED to do them, you know? I am aware of what drugs can do to you, and I’m not planning on trying them any time soon.

cause of drinking and if i am besides rehab or aa what other ways could i stop drinking. The reasons for me drinking alot now is my friend died from an od from herrione my mom left my dad i got fired from work and had to leave school. i have been drinking for five years im 19.

I’ve started listening to Crystal Castles, CocoRosie,(actually, I’ve been listening to them for a couple years now.) Marilyn Manson and a lot of hardstyle,techno, and metal. My mother keeps telling me that all the artists have done drugs, and that the music will make me want to try them. I know that some artists really do drugs, but I don’t think that just listening to them will make me want to try acid or coke or something. I mean, just because I listen to “weird” music doesn’t mean that I’m going to grow up as a drug addict, does it? Is my mom right about this, or is she just overreacting? And yeah, I’ve thought about doing drugs, but not like in a way that I WANTED to do them, you know? I am aware of what drugs can do to you, and I’m not planning on trying them any time soon.

I am really just looking for a pen pal of someone who has dealt with an alcoholic parent for most of their life. My mom has been an alcoholic since I was 14. She refuses to get help and is making my life, and my dad’s, and brother and sister’s lives miserable. Just looking for someone to talk to who has the same kind of situation and how they deal.

…able to make her see her sickness. Now, at age 41, I feel so guilty for not “making” her go into treatment, and now, I am viewing my sweet Dad as an enabler who could have done something to make her stop. Is this a common feeling among adult children of alcoholics? Thank you for your insight, in advance.

I have problems trusting people, getting close to people, and i have a major confidence issue. This seemed to stem from my mom being a drug addict, and my dad drinking and abusing me. My dad killed himself and i don’t talk to my mom anymore. i live with my grandma and i have a really hard time making friends. What should i do

For several months now, I am still bothered with happened to our neighbor who lived just across the street, near our house. He suffered a terrible withdrawal symptoms which nearly paralyzed him. His mom did not know what to do because she wasn’t aware her son was an addict. I want to know more about addiction so that I may also share them with my friend in our community. This can be a good prevention against drug use.

For several months now, I am still bothered with happened to our neighbor who lived just across the street, near our house. He suffered a terrible withdrawal symptoms which nearly paralyzed him. His mom did not know what to do because she wasn’t aware her son was an addict. I want to know more about addiction so that I may also share them with my friend in our community. This can be a good prevention against drug use.

I have no girlfriend and i don’t know how else i could have gotten the herps. i need to know how to tell her she gave me herpies.

so yeah mom checked me in
i was 13
had my b day there
had my first girlfriend and best friend

so whats the deal i cant remember a lot of things
but rehab is clear as day???????

help me out?

am i alone in this
i never said it was MY mom you sick perverts

My 14 year old niece has been advertising herself for sex online at various swingers’ sites. She has posted pics of herself topless and another pic of herself masturbating. She lives abroad, so it’s hard for me to help her. I found out about her online activity through some shrewd detective work. It old her mom but her mom has not done anything about it. What would make a 14 year old get caught up in stuff like this? I believe she has actually met some grown men for sex. I can understand a 14 year old wanting to experiment with teenage boys, but advertising herself to 30 year old men seems way OTT. What might cause this behavior and how can I help? I’m wondering if she has been molested and that’s why she has become so over-sexed. She also drinks a lot of alcohol and binge eats (she is very overweight).

This last time, I decided to explore hospice so she wouldn’t be shuffled to different places. I asked the hospice rep if her antibiotics would be continued as well as food and drink and if family would continue making med decisions, because my goal was for her to hopefully recover from pneumonia, hope for best…knowing she might not recover. I WAS ASSURED BY HOSPICE SOCIAL WORKER THAT HER ANTIBIOTIC TREATMENT WOULD CONTINUE–WHICH WAS A BIG FACTOR IN MY DECISION(I HAVE POA)TO MOVE HER TO HOSPICE–I WAS TOLD SOME PEOPLE DO RECOVER. Within 7 hours of her moving, she was no longer on IV treatment(had I known this would be discontinued, I would not have agreed to hospice), we had to beg for food and she went downhill quickly. Today, I p[ulled her fromhospice and took her to emerg room because hospice decision did not feel right. Hospital says comfort care is “pull all meds- and let nature take its course”. I was not told all meds would be pulled. aM NOT A HAPPY CAMPER. ANY ADVICE?

My boyfriend was the best thing to happen to meTho he sold drugs,he helped me financially, mentally and spirituallHe is the reason I’m in college.My Mom(drug addict prostitute)would see him in public & run &hug him,my mom told every1 that he was her ‘Son-inLaw’, and my sisters proudly told ppl that he was ‘bro-My family stood behind our love100% or so i thought
He was murdered in Sept. After his murder my family becam destructive during my grievin, I dont have a car, so I depended on my mom to take me2the funeral. Instead she never came home that night and I had to PAY my aunt 2 take me 2funeral. None of my family hugged or comforted during the funeral, My aunt just said ‘Everything happen 4a reason and told me 2 HANG IN THERE’
When i talk about him 2 my lil’sisters they act ask if they are uninterested got in an argument with my mom and lilsister and they both were saying”Im glad that dope-dealin muthafucka is dead.I hope u burn in hell wit him!”
WHAT 2 DO WHEN U HAVE NO-ONE!
My boyfriend showed nothing but respect to my mom and my lilsisters. He would give them advice about boys, and treated them like they were his little sisters.
He was a perfect gentleman to my mother.
he and i never argued,
The only person who supports me now is his mom, and I just cant tell her the things my familys says about me and most importantly her son!
I JUST DON’T KNOW WHERE THIS SUDDEN HATE 4 HIM AND OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS CAME FROM.
He and a guy got into an argument and the guy stabbed him seven times, (Twice in the lungs, 3 times in the stomach and a fatally deep stab in the heart (I swear I feel each and evryone of those stabs everyday) My mom recently told me ‘I wish u were born dead, as a matter of fact, I’ll kill u myself, I’ll just stab u 7 times!” and started laughing.