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My husband filed for divorce in 3/2007. He is asking for sole custody of our 3 children with visitation for me being 2 days/week and 2 overnights/month. I am asking for joint legal, primary residential with generous visitation for him. He has made numerous allegations about me regarding alcoholism, drug abuse, child abuse and neglect. He has involved the police and DYFS multiple times. ALL investigations determined the allegations were unsubstantiated. I am currently $268,000 in debt due to legal fees. My husband is motivated purely by anger and revenge and he has a tremendous financial edge as his elderly parents are paying for his legal fees. When my children are with me (50/50 presently) , I care for them myself. When they are with him, they are pawned off to random babysitters because his job requires long hours and travel. My 14 year old son has already spoken to the Judge and has requested to live with me as he has for the past 9 months. Has anyone been through a similar experience and what was the outcome? Thank you

I want to know if it is me or I am crazy,Please help, Ok Im 27years old I have been drinking on and off for years and for the last three weekends I have came home and drank I live with my boyfriend of two years whom I love very much, and he does not work and pays no bills(also he paid 2400$ to get us in this place and in his eyes I have forever been in debt to him) and my mothers husband just lost his leg in a motorcycle accident I have been very stressed and trying not to drink but I have been coming home every weekend to find that my house is a mess,and he needs me to drive him to the store etc.and the cats have not been taken care of,also my boyfriend has been smoking pot with our female neighbor and speaking w her while im gone all week and this bothered me very much and I would come home and not had any intentions to drink and he would start in right away telling me Are you gonna drink fucking alcoholic slut basically anything he can to hurt me and I begged pleaded and cryd and told him I cant have him hanging out with that neighbor smoking pot and conversating (he is not supposed to be smoking at this point)……soooo he promises me he wont….low and behold he quits smoking pot and continues talking to this woman while im gone working and paying the bills(mind you he has no car and I have to drive him anywhere)also he says its just friends and to be honest I don’t think its appropriate to do so while im gone all week knowing it makes me uncomfortable……sooo this last weekend I come home early go to the store buy steaks n good eats for the night and rented a movie(also not I did not buy any alcohol cause I did not intend to drink at all) …. first thing he says to me is I know all about you and you have done this and that and it would take me to long to right point being also while I was gone he started talking to my cousin sadie and she told him basically 1/3 truth and 2/3rds absolute bullshit and I went ballistic because I being attacked by him and he was believing all the crap she was telling him(also it was not about cheating or anything it was things about my alcoholism from the past and she lied about things I have done she told him that I had wrecked my grandmothers car that I had burnt alot of bridges and crazy shit that he ate up in a heart beat not to mention she is very pretty and he falls for that crap) sooooo I was crying and very upset and told him I couldn’t take this anymore and low and behold I left and got very very drunk (bad descion) ultimately it boils down to this am I crazy drunk or do I need to remove myself from this situation please help!!
Also his reasoning behind stressing me out is that hes concernd about my well being and thats why he was talking to them but I think thats crap when I make an effort and out and out tell him what will help me and I cant see how calling someone names and accusing them of lies and saying yaa go put all your money down your throat thats what your gonna do anyways I know all about you, is gonna help any alcoholic but please tell me if im wrong I need answers

i dont hear from her for 2 months sometimes…when i get a call from my mom or someone i think they are calling me 2 tell me she is dead..she has all types of trouble with the law and all types of trouble with people….i talked to her last night and she really wants help and i want to help her..do anyone know of a free drug treatment facility preferably down south alabama,mississippi,or louisiana area or someone she can call

Ok Me and my brother haven’t seen our father since we were 4. Hes a deadbeat never paid a penny of child support, never calls just doesn’t care piece of sh*t. Anyway My mom has a HUGE anger problem always yelling at us shes always calling me a fat cow , piece of sh*t good for nothing ugly etc etc and same with my brother. I have no self esteem I cant keep any relation ships , I binge eat all the time, i do coke and now my brothers had a drinking problem for the past year and my mom thinks hes an alcoholic. She doesn’t see the connection, she treats us like big fu*kin pieces of garbage. Shes always saying she wants us out in the street she loves us cuz she has to but she don’t like us. There’s never any food in the house, she NEVER cooks. We never sat at the table once since my parents split. We never talk. Her and my family always talk down to be in front of other people they always say im an ugly fat cow everyday like 10 times a day, im good for nothing. My mom never has anything nice to say ever. I don’t remember the last time i was happy im always depressed i feel like if i don’t get out of my house soon im gonna me a 400 pound drug addict. Its like I don’t really get it im a good looking girl im just overweight (well about 50 pounds, I gained 65 lbs since Sept its crazy).

I was thinking of joining Job Corps Because thats residential and you get an education (I cant afford college and i just lost my job and theres no way i can afford my own apartment) and my mom makes sh*t money. I dont know what to do anymore, im always depressed and crying, i dont know what i ever did to my mom that she treats me like this. Ive had a job since i was 15 and i always helped out with bills and i always did grocery shopping and she yells at me more its like i can never do anything to make her proud.

I don’t want to get any fatter, Im already going crazy with this weight I gained and i dont want to resort to drugs or alcohol

I got pregnant at 16, and I thought I was gonna keep the baby. I ended up changing my mind during my pregnancy and set the baby up for adoption because I felt like I wasn’t ready mentally or financially to be raising a child so young. My mom was truly against my decision and has basically held a grudge on me and my boyfriend (the father of the baby) ever since.

She barely talks to me. And when she does, she’s drunk and she’s yelling at me. She always tells me that I’m a bad person for giving my baby away. She calls me names all the time. Her new boyfriend is a drug addict and I’m sure he’s got her hooked on drugs as well. I was the first person in the family to graduate from highschool, and instead of being happy for me and being there, my mom got drunk, called me and told me she hated me. She’s even told me that she wish she would have aborted me when she got pregnant.

The main reason why I gave my baby up for adoption is because my mother had me when she was young. She struggled to provide for me. I grew up in a bad neighborhood – full of drugs, prostitution, gangs etc. We barely ate because we couldn’t afford to, I wore the same clothes everyday.
I didn’t want that life for my son. I want him to grow up happy with a family who can provide for him properly.

Why can’t my mom get over this?
Yeah… my issue is pretty similar to Catelynn from Teen Mom. I wish I was making this up……..

I have a mother cat who has been poisoned by anti-freeze. It was in tuna a neighbor left out. Is it okay to let the kittens drink her milk?

…been tasked to put my mother’s affairs in order, due to her being bed-ridden & terminal; my father, also her ex-husband, came to live with her, a few months ago, to help her be comfortable, & to handle her affairs. In the midst of attempting to do this, he has been made my mom’s Power of Attorney. Unfortunately, my father has repeatedly succumbed to alcoholism (…this has been going on for about 4 years), & in the midst of trying to help my mom, & trying to ‘keep clean’, he has failed oh-so miserably, & has made himself more of a hinderance, than an asset. At this time, although having become a few days ‘straight’, he is not mentally capable of handling my mom’s affairs. He made made himself a most unreliable element, in this respect….

…in attempting to handle my mom’s affairs, is there any way that I can possibly effect any resolution in my mom’s affairs, & become her Power of Attorney, in my father’s stead?

…getting real frustrated, that I cannot do anything!

i seriously have no idea what happened. before, i would eat healthily and wisely, never passing 2000 calories a day. but since a few days ago, i suddenly went into this while craving-stage and started eating probably thousands of calories a day. i’d start out with a healthy breakfast and lunch, then binge and binge once i got back from school. it’s freaking me out. i’ve already gained weight, from my previous 118 pounds to now 120. help!
this would be a typical binge-eating day:

Breakfast
whole wheat toast, plain
glass of milk
apple

water in between

Lunch
chicken salad, light dressing
OR yogurt parfait with fruit and milk

After school
(this is where i start binging)
2 peanut butter jelly sandwiches
3-4 bowls cereal
TONS of granola bars — i don’t even know how many
a few apples
altogether probably 1000 calories gah

i’d eat and eat like this until dinner, but i’d STILL eat that chinese food my mom makes. and i’m not even hungry.

before bed, i could STILL eat. fruit or granola bars…

ugh, i’m so messed up! i don’t know what’s wrong with me…i can’t seem to control myself!!!
oh by the way i’m 13, 5’7″ and NOW 120 pounds :(

My husband has progressively turned into an addict. He wasn’t always this way but it runs in his family big time. His mother died very young from cirrhosis along with other relatives. He spent the summer in rehab and now he is worse than ever. He always uses the excuse that relapse is a part of recovery, but to me that should be every now and then not every week! I just don’t see him getting better until I leave and he hits his rock bottom.

I was convicted of 2 misdemeanors in Dec of 2006, served prison time, attended a 21 day rehab and I am currently on probation for the next 2 years. I have been applying for jobs like crazy,go on the interviews,impress my prospective employer but then comes the background check and thats where it goes sour. I was addicted to OxyContins. I am not anymore but I feel that my life is still being negitively effected, which in essence effects my children. I so badly want a normal life and a normal job. I am a good person but I don’t feel anyone sees me as “good” anymore. Any advice???

Her mom said that if she doesn’t gain 10 pounds before the end of the month that she’s going to put her in rehab . My other friend and I were trying to get her to eat today but she wouldn’t !

I need to help her but I don’t want to push her away .

Please help . What should I do ?

She says that it doesn’t help, but she takes it faithfully everday. I believe she is addicted.

http://gothamist.com/2010/04/22/high_driver_doesnt_feel_so_bad_abou.php

“The 18-year-old who was allegedly high on Oxycontin and Xanax when she drove a passenger van into a Hempstead, Long Island home, fatally striking the home’s owner, was hysterical when taken out of the police station yesterday. Kayla Gerdes screamed to reporters, “No, I didn’t [purposely aim for her.] Listen, stop — listen, it was an accident!

Gerdes’s lawyer said that the teen was released early from a 28-day drug rehabilitation program, because her mother’s insurance would only cover seven days.”

Obviously, if this girl were still in rehab, this death would not have happened. Thoughts?

I currently been on lexipro, celexa, depacoat, setraline everybipolar medicine out there, and only smoking pot on top of it barely helps. it has always been like this before smoking. im at the point where idk what to do.. no one can understand me and come up with the right solution, and i tryd even if they come up with a solution and all it is to me is just a quick brush off question to others like they dont care. my mother at one point listen to me but now she just has her thumbs deep in her mouth while checking her facebook, saying she is listening but really she is only half listening because everything i ask in a question her answers are half ass which shows shes not showing any compassion..medicines are not working I obviously feel 100x better with it vs with out it, but when its not working its miracle like it should do, what else do I do? it sucks with it, because it killed my levito by 90% which sucks in a relation and when I crash with out my medicine its like a guy thats been on crack for years and just got off it.. idk what to do! I try to stay busy work out constantly its just nothing is working what do I do for smooth sailing in life, please no negative advice like Bipolar is for people that cry for attention, because its not.. im tired of pretending to smile and pretending to be strong please help i want to be happy but cant find happiness =(

his 50′s. All I know so far is they saw a spot on his liver originally and now they know its cancer. How diar is this news? My mom had breast cancer and made it through after cemo and radiation, and my dad had kidney cancer and was fine after they took out the kidney. But I have heard Liver cancer is more fatal? Any advise would help.

I was very drunk saturday night, and had a bad hangover yesterday. Could this just be an after affect of the alcohol? There’s a bug bite on my arm.

My mother told me she started drugs when she was 14. She definitely has not used them continuously until now (She is 51). She has experienced with Alcohol and Cocaine for the most part that I know of. How long will you expect that she will live.

I started playing an online game 6 years ago. Within playing the game the first two months, I encountered the most arrogant, know it all pissant of a man! He was rude, he made me feel stupid in the chatroom, he made fun of me, and was generally unpleasant to be around. Months passed where we would annoy and poke at each other.

After a few months, and a few wars, it became clear to me why I disliked him so much. It was because I was attracted to him. After two to three years, we grew to become friends and get to know eachother via conversations shared almost everyday. We began to look forward to our conversations – bringing with us tales of our day, teasing and especially good wishes. What grew to be like, became a lasting love. And for the past two years we have looked at each other with very different eyes. But there’s one problem.

When he visited me, I introduced him as a friend to my mother. When pressed, I told her I had met him through school. It was the only thing I could think of at the time that would let her accept him. She already thought I was addicted to the internet – when in truth, the internet had provided me with so many friends! Including the man I know is the one for me.

Lately, he and I have been discussing how much longer we can realistically keep the truth from my family. His family knows, and that is hard enough to admit to my mother and sisters. There is just so much that they’ve pressed into me that is wrong in my eyes. I wasn’t allowed to date in high school, they constantly joke about never being aunts and grandmother, boys are stupid and men are dumb. Yet I know they need to know that I met him online, if I am every going to be able to bring my family into the life I want to build with him.

My fears? They will disown me, throw me out, never speak to me again, hate me forever, prevent me from contacting him. Break my heart a thousand times over.

So my question is this. Parents, grandparents, anybody: If I’ve been lying to my mother about my one true love for years, if I’ve hidden the fact I met him online, that I want to be with him the rest of my life, and that he isn’t going anywhere…..how do I tell her? How do I tell her without destroying everything I’ve lied to protect?
I am 22 and he is 27 (this year)

every time we have a family get together she sits by my husband, instead of me or the grandkids.She also wanders off with him everytime she is around, and acts like a totl bitch to me, but defends him, even when he is an alcoholic, and not perfect, but she act like he is.How can you tell when a woman, step mom or other, is not just in lust, but in love withyour man????

I babysit for a 3 year old full time and his 5 year old brother part time after school. Their dad is pretty much a single dad, as the kid’s mom is going to jail soon and is an alcoholic. When I first offered to be his babysitter, he said he was going to pay me, and he occasionally does, but not much. On average, I have the 3 year old 11 hours a day and the 5 year old 2 hours a day and then both of them for about 11 hours on saturdays. It’s been 3 weeks since I started and he’s only given me about $200. He keeps saying that he owes me money for last week or that he hasn’t made it to the bank yet, but then I don’t get paid. He’s a really nice guy and I feel sorry for him for all the crap he’s going thru with the kid’s mom and trying to raise them (he’s a really good dad!) and I wouldn’t mind so much if we didn’t need the money. I feel bad asking for money when I know he’s having tough times both emotionally and financially. Any advice? Thanks!