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My ex-boyfriend took out a school loan for my mom to start her own business, that I co-signed on. Payments start in November and he won’t be enrolled in school anymore. My mother basically blew the money that was supposed to be used for her business, so there is nothing left. And yes, I asked her if she blew it smoking crack, lol. But seriously-I really feel stuck between a rock and a hard place, yet I feel like I have no choice but to sue. She has no intention of paying it back and this will affect my credit. I think it is really unfair that I will have to pay thousands of dollars that I didn’t even benefit from. The sad thing is, she hasn’t held a job in 6 years and no plans of working. She owns NO PROPERTY or has ASSETS OF ANY KIND. I read through alot of the answers already, and most people have said wages can be garnished if I sue, or her home can be taken. Since she has nothing to claim- what are my options? If I sue-will it be a complete waste of time?

Today was yearbook today at school and everyone was coloring the words on the cover. So ya see, I tried it and I TOTALLY messed up. So now I want to take it off so it doesn’t look ugly and my mom won’t get mad. I know rubbing alcohol will take it off, but I wanted to make sure nothing else will happen to the cover. Thanks! I will give 10 points to the best and fastest answer! :D

My ex-boyfriend took out a school loan for my mom to start her own business, that I co-signed on. Payments start in November and he won’t be enrolled in school anymore. My mother basically blew the money that was supposed to be used for her business, so there is nothing left. And yes, I asked her if she blew it smoking crack, lol. But seriously-I really feel stuck between a rock and a hard place, yet I feel like I have no choice but to sue. She has no intention of paying it back and this will affect my credit. I think it is really unfair that I will have to pay thousands of dollars that I didn’t even benefit from. The sad thing is, she hasn’t held a job in 6 years and no plans of working. She owns NO PROPERTY or has ASSETS OF ANY KIND. I read through alot of the answers already, and most people have said wages can be garnished if I sue, or her home can be taken. Since she has nothing to claim- what are my options? If I sue-will it be a complete waste of time?

if you want back story here is my last question, it’s kinda long.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aq6Ox6230N0Ktt9pTrc5ll3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091229195801AASrNVv

anyways i talked to her about the problems her drinking has caused.
poor judgment, being at the bar instead of with family on holidays, the poor example it sets for my kids…

she blamed me of course. she said i was judging her and i have no place to judge her for what she does on her free time. she even said my husband and i drink in front of our kids like on thanksgiving. well yeah, i had a glass of wine. but she spent thanksgiving at the bar and didn’t show up until hours after the meal… big difference. i am somewhat familiar with an alcoholic deflecting onto others.. she blamed everyone but herself, talked bad about everyone in my husband’s family (who by the way are wonderful people) so she didn’t look so bad… and then proceeded to ask for my daughter this weekend. -this was the basis of this talk in the first place. she can’t have either of my kids like this..

so from any of your experience, is there anything else i can or should do to make myself clear to her or is it a lost cause? part of me telling her about her problem was also so i could absolve myself of any guilt if/when she kills someone while driving drunk.. so should i just leave it at that and wait for her to come to her senses someday before i talk to her again? i’m just not sure, i feel like i owe her something, but at the same time i know i owe her nothing and that she will make her own bed.. i just don’t know.. my husband is ready to write her off. i don’t blame him and i almost agree. i just want to know i have done all i could.
your experience with an alcoholic is appreciated. thank you.

7 years ago i split with my girlfriend, she then up and moved to ireland one day and there was no way i could track them down. Then out of the blue last night i had a phone call from her ex husband in ireland saying he is worried about my kids as the mother has turned into an alcoholic and that the kids r suffering and not going to school. I love my kids and have always wanted them in my life. I am now settled down with a wife and 2 kids so do u think there is a chance i could now get them back?? The kids r both under 10. Thanks for ur help in advance if u answer.

My mom is an alcoholic and has been for about 5 years. Her face is puffy and her abdomen is bloated. Her arms and legs are just flesh and bone. She doesn’t look healthy. She is in total denial that she has a problem. On top of that, her mother died a few years ago of cirrhosis of the liver. She is now taking care of her boyfriend who lives with her and is in the final stages of cirrhosis. Her boyfriend is dying in her home, right in front of her and she continues to drink. I honestly don’t know what her “rock bottom” is, that is, if it’s not death. She lives in another state so there’s not much I can personally do to help her. Can somebody help me? I don’t know what kind of help I’m seeking here, but if anybody has any advice on how I should confront her or if anyone knows anything about liver disease and whether or not I should be concerned about the health of her liver based on her physical appearance, it would greatly be appreciated.

My mom is an alcoholic and has been for about 5 years. Her face is puffy and her abdomen is bloated. Her arms and legs are just flesh and bone. She doesn’t look healthy. She is in total denial that she has a problem. On top of that, her mother died a few years ago of cirrhosis of the liver. She is now taking care of her boyfriend who lives with her and is in the final stages of cirrhosis. Her boyfriend is dying in her home, right in front of her and she continues to drink. I honestly don’t know what her “rock bottom” is, that is, if it’s not death. She lives in another state so there’s not much I can personally do to help her. Can somebody help me? I don’t know what kind of help I’m seeking here, but if anybody has any advice on how I should confront her or if anyone knows anything about liver disease and whether or not I should be concerned about the health of her liver based on her physical appearance, it would greatly be appreciated.

My mom is an alcoholic and has been for about 5 years. Her face is puffy and her abdomen is bloated. Her arms and legs are just flesh and bone. She doesn’t look healthy. She is in total denial that she has a problem. On top of that, her mother died a few years ago of cirrhosis of the liver. She is now taking care of her boyfriend who lives with her and is in the final stages of cirrhosis. Her boyfriend is dying in her home, right in front of her and she continues to drink. I honestly don’t know what her “rock bottom” is, that is, if it’s not death. She lives in another state so there’s not much I can personally do to help her. Can somebody help me? I don’t know what kind of help I’m seeking here, but if anybody has any advice on how I should confront her or if anyone knows anything about liver disease and whether or not I should be concerned about the health of her liver based on her physical appearance, it would greatly be appreciated.

My mom is an alcoholic and has been for about 5 years. Her face is puffy and her abdomen is bloated. Her arms and legs are just flesh and bone. She doesn’t look healthy. She is in total denial that she has a problem. On top of that, her mother died a few years ago of cirrhosis of the liver. She is now taking care of her boyfriend who lives with her and is in the final stages of cirrhosis. Her boyfriend is dying in her home, right in front of her and she continues to drink. I honestly don’t know what her “rock bottom” is, that is, if it’s not death. She lives in another state so there’s not much I can personally do to help her. Can somebody help me? I don’t know what kind of help I’m seeking here, but if anybody has any advice on how I should confront her or if anyone knows anything about liver disease and whether or not I should be concerned about the health of her liver based on her physical appearance, it would greatly be appreciated.

My mom is an alcoholic and has been for about 5 years. Her face is puffy and her abdomen is bloated. Her arms and legs are just flesh and bone. She doesn’t look healthy. She is in total denial that she has a problem. On top of that, her mother died a few years ago of cirrhosis of the liver. She is now taking care of her boyfriend who lives with her and is in the final stages of cirrhosis. Her boyfriend is dying in her home, right in front of her and she continues to drink. I honestly don’t know what her “rock bottom” is, that is, if it’s not death. She lives in another state so there’s not much I can personally do to help her. Can somebody help me? I don’t know what kind of help I’m seeking here, but if anybody has any advice on how I should confront her or if anyone knows anything about liver disease and whether or not I should be concerned about the health of her liver based on her physical appearance, it would greatly be appreciated.

It’s been a few years since she passed away, but I don’t want to let her down.

They always get back together…hes an arse who is probably using her for our house cause he is a moron who blew his money on coke and he has even had the nerve to punch my mother before when he was drunk. I want to kill this man. I can’t tolerate this I wish he just never existed. What can I do?!

So I met this pretty cool girl at my summer class and we hung out all day yesterday. Well, today she started talking to this guys while we were planting corn… and he does drugs. Well, I found out so does she, and it’s beyond weed. They were going on about ecstasy, crank, weed, shrooms, and a million different types of alcohol.

Apparently, she comes from a drug abuse house hold her father is an alcoholic and so is she. He also gave her her first pipe and sometimes steals her drugs from her bedroom. She is only 15 and she admitted to me about being a heavy drug user, a raver, and a bit alcoholic.

My mother is a drug use therapist at a rehab center… should I tell her? I’m not sure, this is the first time I’ve ever had a real encounter with drugs, except with my brother using meth, but, I wasn’t that involved with it. The teacher was right there so he already knows… I don’t know what he could do. I mean when it’s that deep into her family and her life, is there anything we can do? She seems like she could of been such… a good person.

I gave my mother heroin injections when I was 8,9, 10…for a long while I kept that secret and felt terrible about it. Eventually, I learned I was just a kid. After a while I forgave me and her, and I no longer keep it secret. The truth really does set you free!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok one of my friend lives behind the shop that I work at. He’s about 55 years old and smokes crack atleast once a week. He’s been divorced three times and lives with his mother who is in her 80s. He cuts the grass at our shop for $15.00 a week and does yard work at several other places up and down the street. The guy has absolutely nothing, but is one of the most positive, happy, christian people I know. Before he started crack, he had nothing, and if he stopped, he would still have nothing. If he can smoke crack and be fulfilled with the way he lives his life is it ok?

She’s been drinking a lot since we learned her mom has cancer and my dad keeps taking her to court.

She drinks when she’s depressed and she ends up really drunk. She emotionally hurts everyone around her when she’s drunk. She won’t admit it that she has a problem, but everyone can see that she does have a problem. Is there anything at all that I can do?

well i can start oFF by saying my sister in law put some pretty hurtFul things on her myspace about my mother in law ans me.
Shes not my sister in law yet, I married my husband about three years ago and he joined the army. i moved back home while he was deployed and i am staying with my mother in law. my sister in law and my husbands oldest brother moved into our old house with their new born. the oldest brother is addicted to drugs and i must say my sister in law is a psycho. she used to be with my husbands middle brother (my hubby is the youngest) and was all like i love you aFter only 2 weeks (literally). and then got pregnant by the other. we used to be cool. well i thought. she would come visit while my husband was away and come talk. what she was really doing was coming over and telling me that my mother in law was saying all these terrible things about me. i thought it was true….(some was some wasn’t… she exaggerated ALOT) but we moved away,,, drama Free…. and then my daughter and i moved home so i could Finish school. well my brother in law just went into rehab. adn my mother and i Frequently talk about what is going on. sometimes she just needs someone to talk to. shes trying to help her son. but hes been in and out oF rehab. we thought this time would be diFFerent but hes already trying to come home. And my sister in law wnats him to come home i think because she wants a break From the baby who is 6 months old now. she tells me that she wishes she could just check herselF in and stay somewhere For a Few days but she dosent truset anyone with the baby. i think shes paranoid they will take her baby away. but anyway. she posted some stuFF on her myspace about people being Fake. meaning me or my mother in law. i supported her. and i they asked For my input and i gave it. i wasnt being Fake. i dont kno iF i should bring this up to her or my mother in law. i dont want to create drama but she has hurt my Feelings with this, and she also talks about me as well. ONe other incident that happend… was i went out with my brother in law. as Friends… and i mentioned this to her… and she acted jelous (he dosent want anything to do with her because he thinks shes crazy as well because he dated her) it wasnt so much the jelouse that bothered me it was that she acted like i diddnt deserve his company. when we talked about this she had said that she diddnt think he and i could keep each others company, that we had absolutly nothing in common and that we were polar opposites. he and i agreed that it was nich to have each others company. there are more things. she just Feels that she is above me and my new Family. im sorry this im probably complicating but my mother in law will be home soon and i dont kno iF i should jus tshut up or say somthing. i really want to cuss my sis in law out… i dunno.

My fathers mother passed on 2 years ago and left him the house. The house was in perfect condition. He started tearing the house apart 18 months ago. The upstairs bathroom is gutted. He tore up all the wood flooring in the den. Sanded the walls. Ripped the wall paper off. The house is a disaster. I can’t make myself even go over there. It makes me mad/sad that he did this. Now he won’t finish it! He has left it a wreck! He has tore up the lawn now to change out the sewer, to public he has to connect it to the town. there is a trench the length of the house to the street. He has left that. He is cutting down most of the trees in the yard to make light for his new $150/each (10) new trees.
He is also doing a lot of spending on stupid things. like buying paintings going to auctions. Buying cars. Then trying to sell them for more.
When i confront him on the house or his spending habits. He make jokes “my mom died and i need time” But he says it laughing. Almost mocking. It is mean! I’ve expressed to him that if Grandma was still alive that she would be telling him to finish what he has started. He doesn’t seem to care.
I just wish that he would buckle down and finish the house and stop spending. he is addicted to spending. I’ve gotten to the point where i can’t go over there anymore and i’ve semi cut contact with him. He still leaves me messages stating that he got this great deal on a painting and that he sold it and made a $30 profit. I don’t care to know nor do i want to know how he is spending his monies from his mother. He should be saving with the way that the economy is going. But i think that he is addicted and I dont know if there is anyhing i can do to help him stop! He doesnt listen to me. in fact he never has….
Any idea’s on how to cope with this? Or how to make myself stop getting so upset over this. it is killing me and tearing me apart.
Thanks
This house has been in our family for 3 generations. It was a beautiful home in CT.
This house has been in our family for 4 generations. It was a beautiful home in CT.
My dad always hard a tough time holding on to money. And my mother has told me that when they were married that he did the same thing to there first home. he gutted it . when it was in perfect condition. that was one of the many reasons why she left him.
My father hasnt worked since 89 and collects BS disablity. so maybe he lacks responsiblity. my fear is that this house that i use to love will be sold cause of his errors in spending. and not having enough money to keep the house up
My dad always hard a tough time holding on to money. And my mother has told me that when they were married that he did the same thing to there first home. he gutted it . when it was in perfect condition. that was one of the many reasons why she left him.
My father hasnt worked since 89 and collects BS disablity. so maybe he lacks responsiblity. my fear is that this house that i use to love will be sold cause of his errors in spending. and not having enough money to keep the house up
My dad always hard a tough time holding on to money. And my mother has told me that when they were married that he did the same thing to there first home. he gutted it . when it was in perfect condition. that was one of the many reasons why she left him.
My father hasnt worked since 89 and collects BS disablity. so maybe he lacks responsiblity. my fear is that this house that i use to love will be sold cause of his errors in spending. and not having enough money to keep the house up
sorry for the add ons. my computer froze up and it kept repeating.