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I am having major problems with my toddler son’s father. We were married for 5 years and got divorced 4 years ago. I was pregnant when we got divorced, we reconciled but never remarried. I have issues with his alcoholism and marijuana use. He is 45 and I am 30, but he is the sole bread winner. The cars are paid off, but in his name, I have no job, the home is in his name, and I have no family around here. He does and he is friends with so many people here, and they all love him, so I know all his family and friends will run to help him. I can’t leave my son with him because he gets drunk and leaves half filled beer cans around, and the one time I did leave him with my son, I cam home and a loaded pistol was on the floor, and my son smelled of beer because he picked it up and poured it on himself. I do love my son’s father, it just isn’t working. I am so afraid because I have no money, no job and no car without him. My mom and step mom both say they will help me in any way and will get me something to drive until I get work. I am in college right now online, so I am almost finished with my credits to be a medical assistant, but I desperately need to finish before I can get work. I am a good mother, I am the only one who can care for my son, and my ex husband is really a good father emotionally, but he really can’t take care of him physically. he has changed 3 diapers in all the years he was in diapers. I am so upset. I want to leave, but I don’t want him to get my son : (.
Thank you. No I have never done a drug in my life. I have never even smoked or drank a drop of alcohol. I could pass any test. He could no though.
Pdooma? So I guess all mothers pre woman’s lib who were all stay at home mom’s were bad mothers? Where do you get off? I am a wonderful mother and the only reason I do NOT have a job is so I can take care of my son. You can’t just sh!t a job in this economy you know. I lost my prior job due to the economy as well and decided to further my education. How judgemental of you.

I’ve been thru this time and time again. I’d be so nice and do so much, and nobody notices. Then one day, I say “No” and all hell breaks loose. My ex boyfriend once called me selfish, because I wouldn’t agree to let his mother claim our son on her income tax (she had JUST met him and is a former drug addict). What do you say to people like that? It’s like they don’t get it.

I’ve been thru this time and time again. I’d be so nice and do so much, and nobody notices. Then one day, I say “No” and all hell breaks loose. My ex boyfriend once called me selfish, because I wouldn’t agree to let his mother claim our son on her income tax (she had JUST met him and is a former drug addict). What do you say to people like that? It’s like they don’t get it.

very religious and is usually 95 almost 100 percent right. I dated my ex for almost 2 years she lied, played games, and cheated on me several times she only admitted to one of about 10 things I know about which was the cheating on me that she covered up almost a year. The lies are very dangerous ones about a couple people that she says raped her but they really did’nt. When she met my mom she couldnt look her in the eyes and my mom suspects that she is a drug addict. to make a long story short my ex admitted that she use to have connections and when I confronted her about our problems she never answered me. Its been a few months and I still feel a little hurt and my mom always says thank God she didnt get us killed she is a dangerous tramp that im gonna read about. from what I mentioned I want to know what yall think

One night he comes home and kills the mother and then shoots himself and the little girl goes to a new family.

I’m 17, 5’6. I’m trying to recover from anorexia and bulimia. In the past 3 years my weight has gone up and down in the 110-150 lb range. I hit rock bottom a couple weeks ago. And just last week, I told my mom about my ED. I begged her not to make me have to see a therapist. She said she wouldn’t make me if I didn’t want to. As long as she knew I was eating right. Today I weighed myself and I’m 125. I feel miserable. I ate 2,500 calories. A binge. A huge binge. But I can’t even do anything to make up for it tomorrow. I want so badly to fast. It would be so easy and so natural for me to just give up. I’m not strong enough for this. I don’t want to talk about it with my mom. She get upset and worried when I mention it. She doesn’t need that kind of stress. Help me.

He’s been in and out of jail numerous times, has been addicted to various drugs (although him and my sister say that they are off them now ) and his parents don’t like him at their house, because they do not get along. I’m 16 years old, my sister is 20 and her boyfriend is 23. He is not aloud to be here and when he is here, he in extremely rude. My mother works a lot just to support my sister and i, yet he comes here at about 9 in the morning and leaves at about 10 at night. she has to buy them cigarettes, food , etc. She doesn’t want my sister to leave and move out (because my sister keeps saying that they do not do drugs anymore, so she doesn’t want her to leave again). They both say they have anxiety problems and get a presription for Valium. My sister is supposed to take 3 a day, but went through about 150 in about 20 days. So she is over using that, and she always gets extremely mood-y when she is on it. If my mom says ” so what are you guys doing tonight” she gets VERY mad and will cry and say that she is just trying to get them to leave. It’s INSANE, I’m 16 years old!! I don’t want to be surrounded by this! My mom keeps letting it go on and I have had problems with anxiety and depression, from all this. My mom will sit down with me and she cries and yells saying that she is making a rule that he can not be here (especially because it’s illegal for him to be here) and the next second he comes over and it’s like it never happened. When that happens and I say something to her about him being here, she goes off at ME for trying to “start stuff” (and by “going off” i mean HUGE fight). If i tell my mom i’m going to talk to the police (because i’ve even heard them talk about selling drugs a few times and its illegal for him to be here) she says if I do that she’s kicking me out of the house. I really just don’t know what to do. I HATE living here with someone who is involved with stuff like that. I just wish he would go away and we could all just live normally. But my sister loves him too much (even though he gets very abusive at times and he is not aloud to drink for that reason) and won’t leave him. What should I do?!

Alright well I’ve noticed anytime I am hurting physically I usually rush to my shower get in and make the water STEAMING hot.
It usually makes me feel better, But I just want to know why I do that?
I’m unsure myself. For one instance in September i had surgery and got my gallbladder taken out.
When I got home I was practically begging my mother to let me take a shower.

Is it because I’m just weird or do am I just addicted to jumping in the shower when I’m hurting.

lots of efforts so he stops taking drugs..but he is not..now i got married .and my mom is with him..he is creating trouble..for my mom..she is old now..i feel very sad..i want my mom should happy in her life but bcoz of my yonger brother…she is not..he is 28 now but he is not understaing her…how i can help my mom in this situation..is there any way i can help my brother..he do not want to talk to any body and we love him very much..when we were kids my father and mother seperated…bcoz of this tragedy..he start taking drugs…
and i struglled alot and becom an engineer..I love my brother very much i want him to become a normal person..plz tell me what i can do for him and my mother ..plz..
he is taking drugs from 15 years..

every time we have a family get together she sits by my husband, instead of me or the grandkids.She also wanders off with him everytime she is around, and acts like a totl bitch to me, but defends him, even when he is an alcoholic, and not perfect, but she act like he is.How can you tell when a woman, step mom or other, is not just in lust, but in love withyour man????

I’ve read some questions, answers and even a number of scientific papers on the matter and I figure rather than invite a lot of “oh, all you need is fish-oil or orange juice” answers I’ll give you some bullet points.
>Born with Aspergers Syndrome.
>Aged 11 was sexually assaulted by a 12 year old in my school/class.
>Being ‘odd’ I was blamed and the small town I lived in’s homophobia had me driven to a bigger town.
>Had a girlfriend aged 16 (who was 15), broke it off because my mother kept treating it like her relationship to toy with. “she’s to good for you” – “your a vile pervert” etc….
>Ex-special forces father spent ages 5-15 beating the snot out of me.
>Now a 23 year old virgin cleaning toilets on the far side of town for only 1.5 hours and paid monthly for it.
>Had more (crummy) jobs than birthdays at this point.
>That girl-friend I’d had is now a crack-cocaine addict.
>I’ve been smoking weed since 15, councilors wont see me unless I stop smoking weed. (not going to happen.)

What would you do?
Ignoring ‘redneck dwaine’ who doesn’t realise I live in the UK where our army (which consists almost entirely of border-line rapists/if you asked the pope what a rapist is anyway) only gives medals for spilling your own blood and successful campaigns, rather than for killing people.

I fall in love with my ex bf and was with him for 2years. We been through for so much…! He had a drug problem(crystal meth)and Has been in rehab for a year now. Before he went, he treated me bad, called me names and cheated all the time. He left me for another girl telling me he’s not the one i’m looking for(what)? Since he been in rehab his mother told me he’s doing good and will be getting out in feb. She explained she haven’t heard from his girlfriend in a long while and don’t know whats going on. I told her: “I JUST WANNA LET YOU KNOW THAT I STILL LOVE YOUR SON. REGUARDLESS OF THE ISSUES WE BEEN THROUGH, I’LL ALWAYS HAVE HIS BACK!” She told me: “I ALREADY KNOW, I LIVED REMEMBER.” How does she know this? After all the things her so took her through, how does she know how I feel about her son??? I was so embarrassed! How in the heck does she know? She also texted me this: “I WANNA LET U KNOW THAT I WISH U AND MY SON COULD HAVE MADE IT HAPPEN” I almost cried how do mother know how you feel for their son???

I’m 40 and had 2 kids with 2 bi polar crack heads. One was a hidden crack head prior to our 10 year relationship and the other turned in to one right after we split our 2 year relationship. My current husband of 3 years has abused cocaine before me and currently shows signs of bi polar and he smokes pot. He is angry and snaps and then he is the greatest.

Why do I keep getting into these situations? My childhood was filled with my father keeping the family in fear with his anger and mood swings, his drinking, his violence against my brother, and threatening to shoot my brother. My dad use to tell me how he will burn the house down when I am gone but with my mother and brother still in the house. He use to tell me how he will kill them and this is when I was only 9. Family use to have to hide me from my dad so he wouldn’t take me and drive intoxicated at 5 years old.

I still don’t have the relationship with my dad like I want. He is so distant.

Lets look at it…Atheists mostly always have something to say towards the Christian faith? If the Christian (According to them) is “suffering” so badly or is so “Lost” into religion, then why do they have to “torment” the person further? If you look at the majority of Atheists, they are incredibly quick minded. Something is always wrong with the next. You say this, and they say that. Most of them have not even read 1/3rd of the Bible, but they will go against it like they know every detail. It seems very unwise….

Alot of them have morals like “Smoke crack every day”, saying it does no harm. “Weed helps the person find themself.” “Alcohol is the answer!” But you have 17 year old drunks beating their mothers because of alcohol and drug abuse. They throw a finger so quickly at a Christian for not following their religion (or the laws of God), yet they show barbaric behavior themselves(According to the law of man and God. If you dont believe in man or Gods law, then what laws do you believe in? And do part of your laws consist of messing with anothers belief?) If so, it would be very low and pathetic. Undergrading people. Nobody likes to be made fun of or be the “outsider”.

Im just wondering….you dont have to “throw” your pathetic Atheistic sarcasm at the question. Be real. You’re so much better than a Christian, because of their wrongs and your “rights”. You judge a Christian according to their religion which you do not even believe in. Is that hypocritical? I think so.

Thanks.

My mom drinks alcohol alot and gets really mean. Today I told her that I think she should stop drinking and she told me to go suck a d i c k because she knows I’m gay. Should I listen to her?

We have been living with these problems for over 20 years now. It seems like lately she keeps saying that she has hit rock bottom, but continues to drink all night all. She has has an eating disorder, where if she does eat she will throw it up almost every night. She has been in and out of rehab places over the past 20 years and every time the doctors don’t think she will live too much longer. She also lies all the time about the things that she is doing, even when you watch her do it she will tell you shes not. During these tough times me and my husband live with them and now some of our things are missing (mostly alcohol). She of course says that she doesn’t take anything, but I don’t think I can believe anything she says anymore. My question is, how can I get myself not to be so mad at her to the point where I don’t even want to see her? If anyone else has gone through a similar situation, was there ever a time that it got better?

Is honestly always the best policy for your kids… what do you think?

From my own personal experiences when something bad or embarrassing happens within a family… like say the father is going into rehab for alcoholism the mother might just tell the child/ren that “daddy is at work” or “daddy’s on vacation”.

Should you lie like this to your kids or put it in a way that they understand.. like say “daddy is sick and he needs to see the doctor to get better.”.. which is partially true since most kids don’t know anything about rehab and addiction.

What do you think about this?

I always attract the wrong women everywhere in everyplace. Online and Offline. I always attract the Single Mom, the Drug Addict, the Gold Digger, Unemployed, and the Criminal. Why? I am multiracial though don’t look it. I myself am not physically attracted to Caucasian Women. Where I am going wrong or is this the sign of the times. 30 seems like the new 40 are was that 20. Almost all of my nieces, nephews, with the exception of my younger brother are married. Though I had better times with men but I don’t feel I am gay. Difficult Question for you and yes I am positive I don’t let things get to me, maybe I should and be blunt about it. Is there away I can be physically attracted to Caucasian Women? Or is that just my DNA?

He jokes around a lot about a lot of things, but this is the only thing that really worries me.

I know he used to do heroin when he was a kid, but he quit. he didn’t go to any fancy rehab, or anything, he said he just straight up quit it, that’s what he always told my mother.

He is kind of sick. He has emphysema (won’t quit smoking), glaucoma (just got a cornea transplant and is starting to gain back his sight), and some problem with his kidneys.

I’m 16 and I see him once a week, because that’s all my mother allows me to spend with him, because of his record, and such.

I just don’t know what to do. Sometimes I feel like I’m the adult, and he’s the child.