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I have been sober for over 15 years however I have gained 100 lbs. I am over 50 years old and I was pregnant 3 times, quit smoking and have a stressed life with Autistic child and abusive mother. I may be bipolar from all the stress in life and being a reformed drug addict. Is there something I can or should be taking to control my weight gain and depression together? Thanks for all your honest and knowledgable answers.

It did me – I left a while a go nearly 12 years ago now- I’m 27. I was in boarding school from the age of 8 to 16- 2 different school. First school we weren’t allowed home weekends, second one we where if we wanted.

Anyway, after I left, I couldn’t cope with the actual freedom of being free nor with the freedom of choice – just being able to do what I wanted, when I wanted, like go for a pi$$, without having to ask permission all the f****** time. For months after I left, I found myself asking my own mother if I could go for a wee. In our own house.

I think it was also being so young and away from home so much that screwed me up. And the strict regimes. Everything, really.

I went into a depression and turned to drink and drugs for a while, and have done some stupid things out of anger, I guess, for the way you are treated in boarding schools. I stopped the drugs a few years ago, but still drink, and am being treated for alcoholism right now.

A few people from my year I kept in contact with when we left went the same way. Some of them have died from ODs, 2 killed themselves and one other who was my best friend in school – she still is my best friend now- was severely anorexic for a few years.

Anyone who has been at boarding school in the UK had the same thing/heard of it happening?
I did post this in another category- Education primary and secondary.

My parents got divorced 2 years ago. My dad decided he didn’t love my mom anymore, and rather than start a new relationship behind her back he did the respectable thing and told her.

Looking back, that may not have been such a good idea. My mom hasn’t been the same since.

She is capable of convincing herself that her own lies are truth. I don’t know how to explain it…its like she ignores reality and just believes what she wants to believe.

For example, she’s convinced that my dad is a drug addict, which is absurd…and that her former best friend was seeing my dad.

This has caused problems. I was at my dad’s house visiting the other night and the cops showed up…my mom had called them and told them my dad was doing drugs there with me in the house. Of course, they got there, and nothing was going on. She has also stalked her former best friend, who she thinks is seeing my dad.

There’s so much more to the story, IM me at plzhelpme1389 if you want to help…thanks.

She has had two previous duis told officers that she did not drink until she got home which is not true. Refused to take any tests for alcohol level told them when they came out thirty minutes after wreck that she went home and drank and that she was drunk. They arrested her for dui and hit and run. Will this stick?

My husband and i have been married for about 6 years he has a 13 year old son from a previous relationship. Well his son is coming to live with us he just got out of Rehab for Heroin addiction and his mom wants nothing to do with him at all. Well hubby and i have three son’s of our own 2.4,6 and so as you can imagine i am concerned for there safty and well being but at the same time i also believe in Redemption so to speak everyone makes mistakes and i understand that so i am trying not to hold any preconceived notions about the kid but at the same time never had to really be a step parent to this kid and everything. I mean honestly i am more worried about him relapsing into it because he got into it to begin with because his gf was into it heavily and then she introduced him to it and then she died because of in OD so he got into it heavily trying to block out his pain and everything. Sorry for blabbing i just don’t know what to do with the kid hubby thinks there isn’t a threat and that he will be fine and that we just need to love on him but at the same time i don’t want him here =/. Advice?

I was on my bed with my legs dangling off and was playing a video game when next thing you know here comes my mom in the room sits down next to me then starts rubbing my leg with her foot. I didn’t think much of it then next thing you know i look down and her middle toe was bleeding! I had her immediately get a cotton swab and some alcohol cause I don’t play that. So what kind of case can I build against her?

The child of elementary school age is being teased and harassed by other children following the execution by stoning of her mother who was found guilty of committing adultery following an evening of drinking at a local tavern.

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Ok… this one is complicated and very long any help is much appreciated.

So it was a thursday afternoon at my place of employment and there had been talk that our boss and part owner of this company(mind you a family owned company) had been heavily drinking lateley relapsing back into alcoholism. This had been very clear the way he was acting the past couple of days around the shop… so i naturally was curious, and i was on my lunch smoking when i saw him walk by. for the sake of this i will call my boss “jim” in place of his real name. I said hey jim do you have a minute he came over and said sure and i was sincereley asking him if he wanted to sell his truck anytime in the near future and he said yea and on the subject we began talking about the baja 1000 which is a truck race for those of you who dont know. ok break time ended everything was normal i go back to my building and he was there and called me out of there to come B/S about the baja 1000 again for a good 45 minutes, and was still heavily intoxicated. and keep in mind his step mother who is also part owner of this company saw us having an aimless conversation in his office that day.

The day ended fine nothing happened out of the ordinary. The next day after break i walked by his office to ask him about some orders we were getting to see if they were still coming in for us to work on i walk by the office and saw him talking to the foreman and a shipping dept. employee and walk by and continue on back to work. about 45 minutes later a fellow employee of mine who is known as my boss’ drinking buddy outside of work comes to me and says hey jim wants to see you in his office and he isnt very happy. So naturally i ask ok well whats wrong he played dumb and said i have no idea.. little did i know id be walking into one of the scariest and most violationg situations of my life.

I find him and say hey jim whats up i heard you needed to see me and he said yea come with me. We takes me into the next room over shuts the door and just gets right in my face and explodes in a drunking violent yelling rage… his face no further than two inches away… (mind you im 19 years old and grew up with an alcoholic father)… reaking of alcohol just like the past couple of weeks he is screaming things like i thought when i hired you i told you never to fuck me over and things like if i find out this was you i will break your legs as well as if i find out this was you im going to shove this pole up your ass and during this intense yelling he grabbed my collar of my shirt very tightly tho the point where it started to restrict my neck and had to coax him to get off of me he then put his hand up tp my throat as you would go to choke someone and squeezed just enough to intimidate me and get his point across and said wait a minute what the hell is this even about and explains to me that his mother asked him that morning what him and i had talked about in his office and he told the truth and said baja 1000. and she slapped him across the face and said bullshit “timmy said you were doing cocaine” the name timmy refers to myself and i had never spoke those words to anyone. i then pleaded for my safetey and said you know i never said these things nor would think about and said you know you are a great guy and all sorts off ass kissing comments to keep the situation from escalating and hopefully ended and it worked.

I return to work infuriated and contemplate what my next move should be… i call my mother to see what i should do like call the police or leave or what. but no answer and i spot my friend that i work with someone who is my friend outside the workplace .. we went to high school together and are considered almost best friends to many. i told him what had happened to me….. he later goes and tells his uncle who also works there, that is who got us the jobs there. His uncle tells me we are going to solve this right now and get this straight so already an emotional wreck having thought of him as acting as mean and biligerent as my father gets when he drinks every night which is something i have had to deal with for 19 years i started to get very upset on the way to talk to the boss with my friends uncle almost to the point of crying.

We spot him outside the building where the incident took place my friend uncle kneals down in front of the boss who was sitting down and said what did you do…. the boss replies with i asked him if he said that i did cocaine, being very patient with our intoxicated boss he repeats what did you do… the boss takes myself and my friends uncle into the room where the incident originally took place. i had started crying due to my emotional distress and realating all this to the suffering i expierienced from my father. hye hugs me and just keeps on and on about how he is sorry and he shouldnt have done that i look at my friends uncle who commented on something the boss said to try and lighten the situation and o

I’m going to a party tonight for my birthday and we’re planning to drink, I’m turning 19 so I can handle myself, I’m not a 12 year old running around drunk, but my mom is super strict, she smells alchohol from nearly a mile away, If i drink around 11 and I wash my face, drink alot of water, brush my teeth, drink alot of water and chew gum, do you think she’ll notice when she comes to pick me up around 2?

My mom, an alcoholic for over 15 years, was recently diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver. She became diabetic two years ago and has lost massive amounts of weight, brusies extremely easy, has hair loss, and has difficulty walking as she says she often has no feeling in her feet. She decided that she does not care and is continuing to drink as much as she ever did. How long does she have left to live? I’m getting married next August and am wondering if she’ll still be alive by then.

Well, I’ve been looking into becoming a nurse and I found out the quickest way is to do it through becoming a CNA first which takes no time at all (so I’ve heard). Can someone tell me how long will it take? I already have training as a caregiver so I know what becoming a CNA means. Plus my mom was in the hospital and in rehab and I had got a lot of experience there as well.

My brother has been using drugs off and on for 30 years, since he was about 16.
He went through rehab once and was ok for a while, but went back to drugs.
Prior to rehab, he was stealing from my mom, in and out of jail, getting into scrapes with the low-lifes, being homeless, etc. So then he cleaned up for a few years and everything was ok…. until he started using again.
The next drug use cycle was even worse because he had married a VERY violent woman who also started using (she was in jail for attempted murder on him).

Anyway, during these 30 years, my mother just kept giving my brother money. Paying his way. Bailing him out. Rescuing him. “Believing” his lies (pretending to).

I wonder– why, in 30 YEARS, did she never once seek any professional help or even go to an Al-Anon meeting herself, or talk to anyone about how to deal with a drug addict. She had a business card for a recovery therapist who used to be a DEA officer but she never made an appointment to talk to him. She just kept throwing money at my brother, then cutting him off for a few weeks.
Throwing money at him, screaming at him, then ignoring him for a few weeks.
Throwing money at him, screaming at him, then ignoring him for a few weeks.

Now my brother is finally getting cleaned up again and my concern is— she’s so codependent, she’ll sabotage his progress so she can keep “rescuing” him.

Why did she never ever seek out guidance?

My friend has been out of work for nearly 4 years, is a major alcoholic, and I would like to show his mother the statistics of him ever going back to work without an intervention.

My friend has been out of work for nearly 4 years, is a major alcoholic, and I would like to show his mother the statistics of him ever going back to work without an intervention.

My friend has been out of work for nearly 4 years, is a major alcoholic, and I would like to show his mother the statistics of him ever going back to work without an intervention.

My situation is kindof complicated, but I will try and keep it short.

My father is an alcoholic, and things got worse when my mother went away for work for 8 months. While she was away, she met someone else, cheated on my dad and she is now engaged to this guy. Because of my fathers alcoholism, he didn’t have a job, which made my mother very unhappy, and she wound up in the arms of another man.
My parents got a divorce about 3 months ago, and now my dad lives with my sister. I still love my parents, but it is so strange seeing them with other people since they have been married for such a long time. I am 19, and I just can’t picture my parents with other people.
The other day I was visiting my dad, and he was telling me about some of the dates he has been on, and how he took this girl from the video store on a date. He talks to all these women on facebook, and I just find it so strange. Am I supposed to be happy for him? How can I get used to him being with someone else other than my mother?

My husband and I recently got married (a little over a year ago) and also had a little girl in October. He has a son from a previouse “relationship” that he’s had full and sole custody of since he was three years old. The mother was a drug addict and gave up rights soon after his son was born. The rights where then given to her mother who my husband fought first to pay child support to so he could have visitation rights and then for custody. He eventually won and visiting rights where given to the grandmother which eventually ran out and are no longer in place. My question is, can the mother or grandmother regain rights to our son now? He will be nine at the end of August and his biological “mother” recently was put on parole after leaving a rehab program in prison. She has been in and out of jails and rehab for the better part of 8 years (it could be longer) and has no relationship with her son. They provide no financial support and the grandmother comes around maybe once a month. We where just wondering because we’ve been hearing rumors of them attempting to get lawyers.
I realize that any rational person would look at the situation and say no way because of the mother and grandmother’s history, but I want to be prepared for anything no matter how redicuolous.

My friends are planning a small get together two or three weeks after I give birth to drink a little bit and have fun. What do you think about this? Should I go or would that make me a bad mother? I’m a first time mom so I’m not sure. The baby would be with my mom for the night and she don’t see anything wrong about having a little fun since I’ve been cooped up for 9 months plus she would probably enjoy having alone time with her new grandson.

My girlfriend Brooke wants to get pregnant again after she had an abortion last week. She had the abortion because she is a drug addict and was using marijuana cocaine and heroin during her pregnancy. And she was afraid she wasn’t going to be a good mother and quit drugs. We broke up because she had the abortion without my knowledge i was pissed. She OD on heroin Monday morning. I was shocked and scared i love her so much. She is still in the hospital and we decided to get back together. She told me today she made a mistake aborting our baby and wants to get pregnant again. I don’t know what to think i am still hurting over thew lose of our unborn baby. And am worried about her recovering and working to get her off drugs. She agreed to go back to rehab something she refused to do earlier. What should we do?

my mom and i was washing the dishes together. this is the first time for this. my mom has been sober for almost a year after 12 year of none stop drinking. i just started crying while washing dishes. i was just thinking about everything that has happen in the past year. My dad came back with his wife and three children. my mom went into rehab. My four sibling and i moving in with my dad. My brother Will dying in a car accident. Kevin and I moving back to live with my mom while the other three stay with my father. all of us just stop talking to each other and stop being a family and just living together. i just started crying. my mom just stop and held me in her arm. in the 13 years of my life, my mom has never held me before. my life from last year change so dramatically. i wish Will could see us. in that one moment i forgave her and my father for everything that has happen. but at time i want to hold my angry i have for them and not forgive them. should i forgive her?