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In australia can a parent go to court and get power of attorney over their adult child?
my mild intellectually disabled friend has decided to move out of home he’s 24 doesn’t always make the best financial choices sometimes and drinks a lot border-lining on alcoholism because his parents insist on controlling his life, they give him little or no say in anything and make decisions and choices for him that he gets no say in, they don’t listen to him which is why he wants to move out so he can be independent.

he’s now telling me that because he has decided to move out on his own his parents have decided to take him to court to get power of attorney.

can they do that?
is there any basis to their argument if they base their reason on his disability?
can the fact that they take money off him and give him very little to spend and his money is placed in his mother’s name and she won’t give it to him even though she promised to when he hit 21 be used as an argument in his defence?
could it also be used in his defence that the reason he can’t handle money is because he really hasn’t had any (see point above) to learn how to control it?

I’m 23 & have been living on my own and supporting myself since I was 17 years old & I’m doing pretty well.
My mother has always been an extremely abusive alcoholic and when I was a minor she severly physically, mentally, and emotionally abused me. I have a 9 year old half-brother who lives with her(neither of our fathers are in the picture).She doesnt physically abuse him but she neglects him and emotionally abuses him. She is drunk since the early morning sometimes and he is terribly afriad of her and wants to live with me.However, she has a nice home,a car, & makes sure he always has food and clothes.Its more about the fear and lonliness she makes him feel. I want to try to take her to family court to get custody but do I have a case here?The home he lives in is fit and she is able to hide her alcoholism very well and not drink for days at a time, sometimes even weeks.But it always comes back worse then ever. Would I be able to prove she is unfit? Anyone that knows law,please help.

My ex-husband and i are in a custody battle. I have previous drug charges, and he is a registered sex offender (over adult charges). dhs has an open case on me for failing a drug test for marijuana. some how another he passed his test. i have passed every test since, only failed the once, even went to rehab. he lives with his mother and sister in their 3 bedroom home. i live in my 3 bedroom home with plenty of room for the kids, can he get full custody of our children and step parent rights to my other child?

Vegans do not drink dairy because they claim that the animals have not been asked permission for their milk. So, if a woman wants to make some cash by selling her breast milk to vegans, can they drink eat? Could this lead to breast ice cream? Breast cheese? There would be nothing ‘morally’ wrong with this, correct?

I have a friend who seems pretty together but she does this hot/cold stuff and it’s crazy making. I know her mom is an alcoholic and her dad died when she was young. She also divorced about 6 years ago, kind of regrets doing that and now the guy just died at only 50. It’s hard sometimes being her friend because she seems to like me one minute and not the next. Not super mood swings but enough to make it a bit touchy. Advice?

I know about Al-Anon but would like to find an online group. My child is nineteen and lives with me, she does work but gets laid off and is drinking way too much. I am worried about her as my ex husband is also an alcoholic. I can’t seem to find much online about parents of adult alcoholics just children of them.

I have 2 sons, 20 and 25. My 25 year old who is @ 6’4″ – 225lbs, is known to abuse drugs/alcohol. He and my younger son have a “co-dependent” relationship. I went to Texas to help my younger son with paperwork for a new “job adventure” that he and my older son took on, (both A.D.H.D.) my older son (with an “instigating” girlfriend) started cussing me and when told to leave me alone yanked me off the floor by my hair, hit me several times and pushing me down to the floor several times. I HAD to call the law. I put a warrant out for his arrest and had an emergency protective order put in. I told my younger son that he best call his brother and girlfriend to tell them they better get a hotel room until I got out of there and back to Alabama. He was extremely angry with me about calling the law. He did not call his brother and he and the girlfriend showed back up, I had the “deadbolt” locked. They started beating on the door really mad. My youngest son got so mad at me because I told him I was calling the police (because of the “protective order”)..he let them in anyway. I barricaded myself inside a bedroom until the law got there. My youngest son was not present at the time this happened yet kept telling me, because of the older son’s irrational behavior and temper that we were going to “get another place”. We never did. The older son was telling his little brother that I attacked him…etc… He actually believed it…( I am disabled, have neuro-vascular problems, degenerative disk disease in my total spine and muscle weakness upon repetitive or extreme exertion, 5’4″ and 125lbs) After the oldest was taken into custody, the younger son wanted to “bail” him out that very moment on a $50,000.00 bond. He couldn’t find his wallet (I was always “keeping up” with everything he kept losing) He decided to call the law on me and told the police that I stole his wallet and had his brother falsely arrested… which he called back to tell them “he found his wallet”… He and my older son’s “girlfriend” started cussing me so horribly because they were mad that I had my son arrested… I had bruises all over me and now having more difficulty walking… The youngest son would not pay me what he owed me, saying wait until HE got paid..(he has PLENTY of money already from his dad’s death in 2000).. The day before he had me to hold onto some cash for him from a refund. It was about $110.00. I wanted to get back home and away from the abuse (not the first time and I was already abused by their late father and and his father years back)… He didn’t want to pay me so I used his cash I was holding to pay a taxi to take me to an airport, I rented a car in which I was thankful I had enough money in my checking account to cover. I drove almost 8 hours to get home in quite a bit of pain. The next day I was really feeling the after affects..physically as well as emotionally… (“WHY”?) My husband took me to the hospital to get checked. As we were thier waiting we found where my oldest son had sent an extremely violent and profane text message threatening my husband and I both. I called in this to the Alabama police. They gave me a case number, etc.. He DID show for his hearing in Texas and will be “arraigned” in a couple of weeks.
I spoke with the Asst. D.A. in Texas. My son did not enter a plea at all. Was told to get an attorney. I know that my son could spend year or more in jail yet the Asst. DA asked what I would want done…?
I personally hold both of my sons responsible, including the girlfriend… I told the DA something to the effect of REHAB, counseling, probation, etc… but I really don’t think that is going to help my son(s) learn that you don’t abuse ANY women… I know for a fact that MONEY is the most important thing in their life, admitted by both sons, sadly enough. I left “money” and “abuse” to get MY life in perspective after a 16 year marriage. It seems that this “abuse” of women runs in the family… I never thought I would be traumatized again as my current husband and I have what others call and I would agree a “perfect marriage”, what I deserved and what I was blessed with after all the traumatizing events that I have endured throughout my life.

SO?… Here I am not wanting to see my sons anymore(?) because of this, my motherhood has been ripped from my heart..and it’s going to take me quite some time to heal over the emotional scars that have been “re-opened”, being betrayed by my younger son… I have thought seriously about filing a civil suit against all 3… They have plenty of money..(I am on full disabilty)

.I have had my gas turned off over 4 months ago for a $194.00 bill. They are well aware of this yet I still have to take a cold shower or heat water to take a bath? They don’t care about me… they only come around when they “need some ‘advice’, feel sick, heartbreaks, tummy aches”…etc…They expect my undvided attention…I have given it… They are never there for “me”, their own mot
BTW? I have another profile on YAHOO and I DON”T mind reading about someone else’s problems and have helped quite a few… If you feel you must give “useless” answers “to get points” then I feel sorry for you… I DO CARE about other people. I AM an empath…
To ALL of you that have given sincere responses?.. I send you my very sincere thanks!!! Bless you ALL!

I have 2 sons, 20 and 25. My 25 year old who is @ 6’4″ – 225lbs, is known to abuse drugs/alcohol. He and my younger son have a “co-dependent” relationship. I went to Texas to help my younger son with paperwork for a new “job adventure” that he and my older son took on, (both A.D.H.D.) my older son (with an “instigating” girlfriend) started cussing me and when told to leave me alone yanked me off the floor by my hair, hit me several times and pushing me down to the floor several times. I HAD to call the law. I put a warrant out for his arrest and had an emergency protective order put in. I told my younger son that he best call his brother and girlfriend to tell them they better get a hotel room until I got out of there and back to Alabama. He was extremely angry with me about calling the law. He did not call his brother and he and the girlfriend showed back up, I had the “deadbolt” locked. They started beating on the door really mad. My youngest son got so mad at me because I told him I was calling the police (because of the “protective order”)..he let them in anyway. I barricaded myself inside a bedroom until the law got there. My youngest son was not present at the time this happened yet kept telling me, because of the older son’s irrational behavior and temper that we were going to “get another place”. We never did. The older son was telling his little brother that I attacked him…etc… He actually believed it…( I am disabled, have neuro-vascular problems, degenerative disk disease in my total spine and muscle weakness upon repetitive or extreme exertion, 5’4″ and 125lbs) After the oldest was taken into custody, the younger son wanted to “bail” him out that very moment on a $50,000.00 bond. He couldn’t find his wallet (I was always “keeping up” with everything he kept losing) He decided to call the law on me and told the police that I stole his wallet and had his brother falsely arrested… which he called back to tell them “he found his wallet”… He and my older son’s “girlfriend” started cussing me so horribly because they were mad that I had my son arrested… I had bruises all over me and now having more difficulty walking… The youngest son would not pay me what he owed me, saying wait until HE got paid..(he has PLENTY of money already from his dad’s death in 2000).. The day before he had me to hold onto some cash for him from a refund. It was about $110.00. I wanted to get back home and away from the abuse (not the first time and I was already abused by their late father and and his father years back)… He didn’t want to pay me so I used his cash I was holding to pay a taxi to take me to an airport, I rented a car in which I was thankful I had enough money in my checking account to cover. I drove almost 8 hours to get home in quite a bit of pain. The next day I was really feeling the after affects..physically as well as emotionally… (“WHY”?) My husband took me to the hospital to get checked. As we were thier waiting we found where my oldest son had sent an extremely violent and profane text message threatening my husband and I both. I called in this to the Alabama police. They gave me a case number, etc.. He DID show for his hearing in Texas and will be “arraigned” in a couple of weeks.
I spoke with the Asst. D.A. in Texas. My son did not enter a plea at all. Was told to get an attorney. I know that my son could spend year or more in jail yet the Asst. DA asked what I would want done…?
I personally hold both of my sons responsible, including the girlfriend… I told the DA something to the effect of REHAB, counseling, probation, etc… but I really don’t think that is going to help my son(s) learn that you don’t abuse ANY women… I know for a fact that MONEY is the most important thing in their life, admitted by both sons, sadly enough. I left “money” and “abuse” to get MY life in perspective after a 16 year marriage. It seems that this “abuse” of women runs in the family… I never thought I would be traumatized again as my current husband and I have what others call and I would agree a “perfect marriage”, what I deserved and what I was blessed with after all the traumatizing events that I have endured throughout my life.

SO?… Here I am not wanting to see my sons anymore(?) because of this, my motherhood has been ripped from my heart..and it’s going to take me quite some time to heal over the emotional scars that have been “re-opened”, being betrayed by my younger son… I have thought seriously about filing a civil suit against all 3… They have plenty of money..(I am on full disabilty)

.I have had my gas turned off over 4 months ago for a $194.00 bill. They are well aware of this yet I still have to take a cold shower or heat water to take a bath? They don’t care about me… they only come around when they “need some ‘advice’, feel sick, heartbreaks, tummy aches”…etc…They expect my undvided attention…I have given it… They are never there for “me”, their own moth

I have 2 sons, 20 and 25. My 25 year old who is @ 6’4″ – 225lbs, is known to abuse drugs/alcohol. He and my younger son have a “co-dependent” relationship. I went to Texas to help my younger son with paperwork for a new “job adventure” that he and my older son took on, (both A.D.H.D.) my older son (with an “instigating” girlfriend) started cussing me and when told to leave me alone yanked me off the floor by my hair, hit me several times and pushing me down to the floor several times. I HAD to call the law. I put a warrant out for his arrest and had an emergency protective order put in. I told my younger son that he best call his brother and girlfriend to tell them they better get a hotel room until I got out of there and back to Alabama. He was extremely angry with me about calling the law. He did not call his brother and he and the girlfriend showed back up, I had the “deadbolt” locked. They started beating on the door really mad. My youngest son got so mad at me because I told him I was calling the police (because of the “protective order”)..he let them in anyway. I barricaded myself inside a bedroom until the law got there. My youngest son was not present at the time this happened yet kept telling me, because of the older son’s irrational behavior and temper that we were going to “get another place”. We never did. The older son was telling his little brother that I attacked him…etc… He actually believed it…( I am disabled, have neuro-vascular problems, degenerative disk disease in my total spine and muscle weakness upon repetitive or extreme exertion, 5’4″ and 125lbs) After the oldest was taken into custody, the younger son wanted to “bail” him out that very moment on a $50,000.00 bond. He couldn’t find his wallet (I was always “keeping up” with everything he kept losing) He decided to call the law on me and told the police that I stole his wallet and had his brother falsely arrested… which he called back to tell them “he found his wallet”… He and my older son’s “girlfriend” started cussing me so horribly because they were mad that I had my son arrested… I had bruises all over me and now having more difficulty walking… The youngest son would not pay me what he owed me, saying wait until HE got paid..(he has PLENTY of money already from his dad’s death in 2000).. The day before he had me to hold onto some cash for him from a refund. It was about $110.00. I wanted to get back home and away from the abuse (not the first time and I was already abused by their late father and and his father years back)… He didn’t want to pay me so I used his cash I was holding to pay a taxi to take me to an airport, I rented a car in which I was thankful I had enough money in my checking account to cover. I drove almost 8 hours to get home in quite a bit of pain. The next day I was really feeling the after affects..physically as well as emotionally… (“WHY”?) My husband took me to the hospital to get checked. As we were thier waiting we found where my oldest son had sent an extremely violent and profane text message threatening my husband and I both. I called in this to the Alabama police. They gave me a case number, etc.. He DID show for his hearing in Texas and will be “arraigned” in a couple of weeks.
I spoke with the Asst. D.A. in Texas. My son did not enter a plea at all. Was told to get an attorney. I know that my son could spend year or more in jail yet the Asst. DA asked what I would want done…?
I personally hold both of my sons responsible, including the girlfriend… I told the DA something to the effect of REHAB, counseling, probation, etc… but I really don’t think that is going to help my son(s) learn that you don’t abuse ANY women… I know for a fact that MONEY is the most important thing in their life, admitted by both sons, sadly enough. I left “money” and “abuse” to get MY life in perspective after a 16 year marriage. It seems that this “abuse” of women runs in the family… I never thought I would be traumatized again as my current husband and I have what others call and I would agree a “perfect marriage”, what I deserved and what I was blessed with after all the traumatizing events that I have endured throughout my life.

SO?… Here I am not wanting to see my sons anymore(?) because of this, my motherhood has been ripped from my heart..and it’s going to take me quite some time to heal over the emotional scars that have been “re-opened”, being betrayed by my younger son… I have thought seriously about filing a civil suit against all 3… They have plenty of money..(I am on full disabilty)

.I have had my gas turned off over 4 months ago for a $194.00 bill. They are well aware of this yet I still have to take a cold shower or heat water to take a bath? They don’t care about me… they only come around when they “need some ‘advice’, feel sick, heartbreaks, tummy aches”…etc…They expect my undvided attention…I have given it… They are never there for “me”, their own mothe

We are having a 50th birthday party for my mom in the 50′s diner theme (burgers, hot dogs, grilled cheese, chili, crinkle cut fries, applesauce, pickle spears, flavored sodas, floats, sundaes, milkshakes, cherries, etc.).

Since it is an adult party I am trying to come up with approriate mixed drinks and beer and frozen drinks that suit the theme.

Any ideas or suggestions?

Feel free to comment or suggest anything else also!

Thanks!

Can someone give me the name of some books that are about teens with a alcoholic dad or mom?
Stuff similiar to the book LUSH by Natasha Friend.
Thank you

Is it good for you? Bad for you?

I have a friend that drinks 8 oz/day.

Is it good for you? Bad for you?

I have a friend that drinks 8 oz/day.

As far as I can remember my mom has enjoyed drinking. Sometimes she’s funny and jokes around, but she has to drink every day and becomes a monster when she drinks vodka. Attacking us emotionally (she’s done it to me and my father and sister multiple times) she gets physically violent, and once when taunting me to punch her, got so angry she began to punch her own face & laugh. This is such a severe problem. I’m growing distant from my mom because I can’ ttake it anymore. I haven’t lived at home for over 7 years, but I am close to my family and we talk multiple times a week, and they only live ten minutes away. Her drinking is self destructive, and my dad, I feel sorry for him. Her rants last hours upon hours, and I don’t know what to do. Alcoholism has killed to of her brothers, both of which took their own lives, and I fear the same for my mom who is a housewive, and always has been. She has one friend, who I call Grandma, but even she doesn’t know about my moms alcohol problem. My sister and I have been talking about getting her committed to get treatment. I love my mom very much. She’s the first person I call when I have good news, or bad news. Sober she is a great woman, but like I said, a monster when she’s drunk. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I don’t want to loose this relationship but it is emotionally draining me slowly. Thanks.

I am an adult child of an alcoholic ACA & although I have come a long way, I am not there yet. I am not really free of all the feelings & triggers… the min I hear a cork come out of a bottle an uneasy trigger sets off, I am present in my awareness of this trigger & the others I have related to alcohol, but still can’t stop how it makes me feel. I put unfair judgements & pressures on my fiance & did this to my ex husband & I want to stop so that its not an issue in my relationship or a struggle within myself. I thought about trying to create new associations with the ones that trigger bad thoughts of abuse & uncomfortable feelings. I realize how unfair it is for my fiance to feel like he’s walking on eggshells if he has a glass of wine or a mixed drink or two when we go out or in the evening. Somedays I can say to myself it is just fun & life is supposed to be fun so relax, but other times I just react and get upset. My fiance has on occasion, driven with a mixed drink in his car for fun, which doesn’t even give him a buzz, we talked about it & he said that is wrong & he will stop. On occasion, say 10 times in the 7M we have been together, he’s mentioned he had a tiring or stressful day & wants a drink to relax – the emotional tie bothered / concerned me, why i don’t know – I suppose that should be fine to do, b/c he is never having more than a drink or two & will go for weeks sometimes without any alchol at all. He says he does not drink alone, thinks its weird, so he always tries to get me to have a small drink or shot when he does drink, if only I could look at it as fun & harmless…He has also mentioned that caffeine & caffeine pills dont work for him so when he is tired he drinks on occasion – I have seen this and it bothers me, not sure how to change this feeling? He’s also mentioned he’s not as socially outgoing as I am, & when he drinks he can feel more comfortable dancing & chatting with people. We’ve talked several times about this whole subject & my issues with it. He says he is his own person not my mom (who was the alcoholic) & that he doesn’t deserve such harsh judgement.

Well, we are going on a cruise & I soooo want it to be fun & not have that struggle (hear that voice) regarding the drinking or turn it into a nightmare with arguments. He says he wants to just have fun and doesn’t want to feel restricted & that he plans on having around 3 or more drinks every night…. I am dreading it.

I have a “friend” and I am going to use friend lightly now. I know her mother is an alcoholic and I am sure this has some affect on her actions. I feel like she enjoys hurting me time and time again. Like she is sabatoging our friendship purposely. She has done things that have brought tears to my eyes on many occasions and when I tell her that what she does hurts me her attitude is “opinions are like a**holes we all have them and we are all not going to agree.” Why is she like this and why does she enjoy hurting me?

As far as I can remember my mom has enjoyed drinking. Sometimes she’s funny and jokes around, but she has to drink every day and becomes a monster when she drinks vodka. Attacking us emotionally (she’s done it to me and my father and sister multiple times) she gets physically violent, and once when taunting me to punch her, got so angry she began to punch her own face & laugh. This is such a severe problem. I’m growing distant from my mom because I can’ ttake it anymore. I haven’t lived at home for over 7 years, but I am close to my family and we talk multiple times a week, and they only live ten minutes away. Her drinking is self destructive, and my dad, I feel sorry for him. Her rants last hours upon hours, and I don’t know what to do. Alcoholism has killed to of her brothers, both of which took their own lives, and I fear the same for my mom who is a housewive, and always has been. She has one friend, who I call Grandma, but even she doesn’t know about my moms alcohol problem. My sister and I have been talking about getting her committed to get treatment. I love my mom very much. She’s the first person I call when I have good news, or bad news. Sober she is a great woman, but like I said, a monster when she’s drunk. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I don’t want to loose this relationship but it is emotionally draining me slowly. Thanks.

As far as I can remember my mom has enjoyed drinking. Sometimes she’s funny and jokes around, but she has to drink every day and becomes a monster when she drinks vodka. Attacking us emotionally (she’s done it to me and my father and sister multiple times) she gets physically violent, and once when taunting me to punch her, got so angry she began to punch her own face & laugh. This is such a severe problem. I’m growing distant from my mom because I can’ ttake it anymore. I haven’t lived at home for over 7 years, but I am close to my family and we talk multiple times a week, and they only live ten minutes away. Her drinking is self destructive, and my dad, I feel sorry for him. Her rants last hours upon hours, and I don’t know what to do. Alcoholism has killed to of her brothers, both of which took their own lives, and I fear the same for my mom who is a housewive, and always has been. She has one friend, who I call Grandma, but even she doesn’t know about my moms alcohol problem. My sister and I have been talking about getting her committed to get treatment. I love my mom very much. She’s the first person I call when I have good news, or bad news. Sober she is a great woman, but like I said, a monster when she’s drunk. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I don’t want to loose this relationship but it is emotionally draining me slowly. Thanks.