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My x has forge my name on adoption papers because she held a resentment against my for leaving her.?

admin — Sat, 10 Sep 2011 21:36:41 +0000

One night I’m was riding past the house were my daughter lived and noticed that there were alot of people there . It was around 12 am. I called when i got to a buddies house, I called and ask what the hell was going on and wheres my baby, why is there so many people up there so late and she hung up on me. So i called back with no answer. then she finally answered and we talked for about an hour. Then after calling her by my new girlfriends name by accident, she hung up on me. I tried Back a couple of times and gave up.My buddy Tommy told me he would be a witness for me if anything happened,but i never even got the chance to call him from jail. The next morning I got a call from the police, witch she had been on the phone with the police officer lying like a rug. I told them the truth about what happened and all they said was I was being charge with harassment by communication . I was on probation at the time for some misdemeanor things. My probation officer herd about the incident and put me in jail. So when I finally get to court . I plead no contest, bad decision at the time because I was going to do time anyway for the violation. She had no proof or phone records, of coarse to prove her case. Then the judge told me if i ever was to go around her again i was doing serious jail time .There was never any mention about use having a child together. I had no one on my side while she had her dad and sister sitting and grinning when i walked into the court room. I felt so worthless and depressed when i finally got out I continued feeding my depression, self medicating If you will.I tried calling anybody and everywhere, but no one could give me any answers or help. This was about the time I tried committing suicide. I swallowed about 30 trazadone sleeping pills followed by a fifth of vodka. Well the x was not worried she got married 2 years after we broke up and they came into some money some how and ask the courts for an adoption. They got it because they said I signed my rights away. I DID NOT!!!!! I was never notified, never mailed any thing. They cannot say either they knew not my whereabouts because adult probation found me and always I had current addresses for them, from 1989 to 2002. She also knew this. because her sister and mother would always call him, my probation officer, and try getting me thrown in jail. Threw all this I am trying to battle depression, anxiety,alcoholism,the loss of my daughter. I was a mess. No one would help me not even my parents.About 2 years later When I was twenty nine years old my parental rights were taken from me with out my knowledge. by a vengeful X pulling some shifty crap. I have tried everything in my power to seek help looking every were asking everybody, but with out thousands of dollars for a lawyer no one will help me. If I were a women this would not be an issue. I’m sure I would find help right away. I have told my story to just about everybody I know and they all agree I got screwed. Can someone out there give me some advice or some kind of resource or somebody i can contact for help. Please help if you can but this is a very serious issue I will never give up on.Over the next 11 yrs I just about gave up.The only thing that kept me from laying across the railroad tracks was the determination to right this wrong.
Presently I have taken steps to Improve my live and change it for the better. I don’t drink, smoke, do drugs, I have recently been diagnosed with P.T.S.D also a social anxiety. I see a therapist once a week and follow my doctors treatment regiment to the letter. I know in my heart i will see her one day again and hold my baby girl

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What happens to mother who gives up her baby for adoption?

admin — Mon, 06 Jun 2011 05:38:26 +0000

I’m not trying to be gross or anything, I’m simply wondering, what happens when a mother wants to give up her baby for adoption right after it is born? I’m asking… what happens to the mothers breast milk? Since she doesn’t have a baby to drink it, how does she get it out? Does she get it out? Again, not trying to be gross, simply wondering! :D
I’m starting to understand now! Thanks for everyone who is answering! I’m trying to choose a top favirote but they are all so good! :D:D

Anyone know Florida adoption law?

admin — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 05:41:35 +0000

I have taken custody of a newborn girl. I’ve had her since birth and she is now 3 m/o. Her mother is a drug addict and is in rehab, was in jail, and is looking to probabtion once rehab is completed. I absolutely love this girl, she only knows me and my family (this was verified when I brought her to see her biological mother, she sat and screamed while being held by her while she was looking at me). The bio-mother has two other children, both she does not have custody of, and were heavily affected by the drugs. You would think I would have no problem with the history of this woman, but I’m worried because I am 22 y/o and not married. I heard that Florida rather you have a spouse and be slightly older. If anyone knows anything about the laws in Florida or just the procedures please answer.

Can anyone help me locae legal services to fight a pending adoption sanctioned by the state?

admin — Fri, 03 Sep 2010 14:29:57 +0000

Dear Sir:
I am not sure to send this e-mail when I have finshed it. I’m praying it makes it’s way into the right hands..I desperately need some intervention. My story is long and I apologize if I don’t tell it well but it truely comes from my heart…
In June of 2004 my husband and I took in my cousins children. 2 beautiful girls that immediatly stole our hearts. We agreed to this only because we were told the parents were giving them up for adoption. They said we had to wait for them to get out of jail to sign the papers..We trusted them. A months later the mother was released from county jail and we had to return the girls. In November of the same year and the mother called us again and asked if we could keep the children for 6 months while she went back to jail. No one else wanted them. They were 1 & 2 yrs old. Of course, we took them back gratefully. The mother ended up doing 13 months in prison on drug charges…The father did too.
My husband and I called every agency including DCFS to try to keep custody of the children and was told we were to far down the blood line to have any say in the children and that it was DCFS’s policy to clean the parents up, not to remove the children. Once again, we had to turn the children over and the mother refused to let us see them for 7 months.
In September of 2006, I get another call from the mother asking if I’ll take them and put them in school because she had no one to take care of them. Of course, I went and got them. I had them for another for another 11months.
In August of 2007, the grandfather was released from prison and reunited with the grandmother, who was also recently released from prison, decided they wanted the children back where they lived so once again, we had to return the children. 3 months later my husband and I gave up our jobs and apartment and moved to the city the girls lived in so we could at least see them. That month, the mother went back to jail, the father was released from prison and the children lived at their grandparents and we weren’t allowed to see them.
In August of 2008, my husband and I had to move where there was work and begged the mother when she got out of jail to let the kids come w/ us and we would help her find a place and get off the dope. The following month, the mother was busted smoking crack and the children were placed with the grandparents thru Luthern Services.We have not seen them since!!! We have been approved for visitation over a year ago but denied the visits because their Grandparents doesn’t want us to have anything to do with them so DCFS abided by their wishes. I can’t understand why the children were placed with them in the first place. They both have extensive histories of prison, violence and drug abuse just like the parents.
I recently called Luthern Services and was informed that the grandparents want to adopt which means we will never get to see the children we have loved and raised all these years. Don’t we have any rights? I have called agency after agency for the last 5 years trying to adopt these kids. I have followed all the rules and depended on the system not to fail us or the children but once again it has done just that!!! Can we contest the adoption and file ourselves? This is so unfair to us and the children. If you can get them away from the grandparents and convince them you wont tell, they will tell you the want to live with us. Each time we have had to turn them over they had to be pried out of our arms. Isn’t there anyone out the who can help us? All of us!!! Imagine loving and raising 2 children as your own all this time then be denied of seeing them ever again. This is just wrong on so many levels!!! Even if we cannot contest the adoption, is there anyway we can legally get some type of visitation? We are desperate. Everyday without them is a living hell!!! It’s like part of us is lost. Please help us or at least point us in the right direction for help. We have about 6 months before the adoption and we don’t know what else to do!!!

Thank You,
I have been doing internet searches for weeks but can’t seem to get anywhere. Just more phone #s of people who “can’t help” us. I was hoping to come across someone here that might have the right answers, not to cry “boo hoo” !!!
I forgot to add than I live in Central Illinois and I have called several attorneys and the few that will concider want huge retainers and all the others don’t want to fight DCFS. I have been calling state agencies for the last 5 years trying to get these children removed from that environment.

What are the effects of adoption on a child? Knowledgeable people, help!?

admin — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 20:40:29 +0000

What are the psychological consequences of a kid, who was say, adopted at 8 and had an alcoholic, previously heroin addicted birth mother, and never knew their father? Anyone experienced in psychology or social work or something could help.
Was anyone adopted when they were a kid, what has your life been like after that?

Family history of alcoholism in adoption homestudy?

admin — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 12:36:55 +0000

I am currently going through an adoption homestudy and my mother is an alcoholic. I don’t have much contact with her and when I do see her she is always sober. My children would never be around her without another adult ect. I have dealt with her alcoholism as my sister is an addiction conselor and my father is a M.D. Just wondering the social worker will see this as an issue?

Business Case For Adoption: Perspective Of Private Sector and States

admin — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 03:32:44 +0000

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moms and kids commonly treated like crap after adoption

admin — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 07:39:09 +0000

How will a misdemeanor affect my chance for adoption? An alcoholic mother?

admin — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 21:38:09 +0000

I am currently applying to adopt a child and have a home study coming up. My husband and I both have misdemeanors on our records. I have 3 MIC and my husband has 4. I am now 25 and my husband is 28. These misdemeanors all happened before we were 21. We have no other criminal background. I also have a mother who has been battling alcoholism for the last few years. She has been in treatment, but still struggles. She would not have ANY contact with my children if she is drinking, ect. Nor would she ever be left alone with my children (regardless if she is sober) without another adult such as my father. Just wondering how these skeletons in my closet can affect my adoption? And how I should approach them with the social worker? Thanks