Help! I’m bad! I keep snooping on my boyfriend. He’s never cheated on me, but I have the strong urge to keep an eye on what he and his best female friend (who doesn’t like me) talk about. Also, I know that he tells his family every time we have an argument, so I addicted to reading his emails to/from his mother and brother as well.
Help! What do I do?
My aunt and my uncle have both had problems with using drugs for quite a few years now. My uncle dosen’t think that he has a problem whereas my aunt knows that she does. She ran away from him after years of mental, emotional, and brutaly physical abuse to rehab. She won’t tell anyone where this facility was or what she did there. All she would say is that they helped her and that she admitted herself under a false name. Is that even possible? She is staying with my mother (her sister) now that she is out and she is having to hide from her husband because he is pissed off that she ran away. She wants a divorce from him but is doubtful that she will get it. The whole family needs advice about how we can help her and things to avoid or steer her clear of. Any advice will be appreciated. We truly do want her to succeed with her sobriety.
I have a sibling who battles addiction. But rather than viewing it as a sickness he has no control over I tend to think other wise that it is a selfish choice he makes!! He has been in rehab after rehab and has support, love, and EVERY opportunity in the world. Literally, every opportunity my mother is fairly wealthy and gives him ANYTHING he needs or wants. He will go sober for 6 months or so and then he CHOOSES to use again. He has even admitted the ONLY reason he uses is because he likes it. It’s not like he was molested as a child and is trying to cope with that or anything weird like that, he just likes to get high. Anyway sometimes I feel bad and think his brain HAS to have it, he is mentally ill and totally dependent on the drugs. Is that the case or is he just a SELFISH SPOILED person???
I know some people believe it is an illness just like cancer. But cancer patients didn’t choose to have cancer, drug addicts CHOOSE to try and use drugs.
I ask this because it took years to get my dad to stop drinking (he used to drink almost everyday) but I don’t know how he started. Now my mom is drinking, not everyday but special occasions (ex: parties, etc.). I want to know if by drinking only on occasions like parties, eventually cause her to drink everyday? If not, that’s good, but can anyone please tell me how would alcohol cause you to drink everyday? Just so my mom won’t go in that situation
thanks
My brother is addicted to oxy contin and has been for the passed 7 years. He has messed up repeatedly, and always comes up with a new bullshit story to explain to my mother and stepfather. They have known about his addiction for 4-5 years now but they continue to enable his problem. They pay for his rent and bills in order for him to sell oxycontin so he can take it himself. I try to explain to them that they feed his addiction but they neglect to here what I am telling them. Recently they placed him in a rehab facility where he spent all of 3 days. After rehab they bought him a plane ticket to florida to live with my grandparents in a elderly care facility. They schedule him a plane ticket to come back today, but he missed the plane ticket because he left the facility where my grandparents stay to work for someone which translates to me as hes doing it for his need of drugs. What can my parents do to actually help him out with his problem? I understand its my mothers son and she would do anything for him, but doesn’t it come to a time where enough is enough and you realize its time to let him go through trials and tribulations on his own.
My mom is 47 years old and it seems like whenever the drug is in the house she has to take it. I am not sure if I should bring up rehab or not because I am not exactly sure how long this has been going on. I am so upset, I feel like she is being so selfish. I mean if she overdosed and died she would leave the rest of the family alone. And I don’t understand why she is doing this. She has no reasons to, her life has been nothing but good. Someone please tell me what to do.
My husband has a long history of drug abuse. Before we married, he told me about it and also promised he was clean. Twice in the past 7 years he smoked crack and cleaned up again when I said I would divorce him. Now, he has become addicted to Vicodin which his doctor gives him for a pain issue. I found out 2 days ago he took 140 pills over a period of 2 weeks. I called his mother, his brother, and his adult daughter to tell them what problem I am having with him because I want help. I love my husband and I want everyone to help me to help him. This led to a huge fight which got out of hand last night because now that he ran out of pills he is drinking alot of alcohol. He threatened to leave the house and live on the streets because he would prefer “freedom” over my “control” of his addictions. Things calmed down and now I’ve convinced him to go inpatient and get detoxed.
The problem is the family is blaming me… and saying I was on a mad woman rant when I called them to say he was using drugs. They said they already know he has a drug problem… and only he can deal with his drug problem. I guess they don’t want to help him… I don’t know. But when I listen in on their phone calls with him, they are talking to him as if they need to protect him from me because I am a psycho, or abusive, or controlling… but in reality he has got to the point in his life where he can’t take care of himself and I am the only one who works and does everything around the house. He stays on his pills or drunk and I am scared to death the man I married is going to kill himself on his addictions.
I guess it was wrong to ask his family to help me. What is wrong with everyone over here?
enjoy – I really appreciate your honesty. Believe me I want to help him and I thought I was doing the right thing. I feel so lost because I never dealt with a drug addiction before and I didn’t know what would happen in my marriage. I feel lost. I thought his family would all come to my aid and tell him he needs to clean himself up. I didn’t expect them to blame me when I have never done anything wrong.
I heard this drug can cure heroin addiction.
My roommate’s brother has been addicted for 7 years. It’s gotten so bad, he has paranoid hallucinations. He’s 37 years old and his mother is sort of enabling by letting him him in a trailer in their yard. His addiction is causing so much stress with my roommate, it would be great to help.
My mom is addicted to her prescription pain killers known as Oxycodone. Her dosage is the highest – 80mg – and her tolerance as well as addiction is SEVERE. She injects them into her veins after creating a sort of liquid out of them. I’ve tried everything to get her to stop, screaming, threatening, begging, crying, everything. It just seems like she does NOT want help. She’s told me her doctor supposedly has her in a waiting list for a rehab…but that’s what she’s always told me over the years. I’m 18 years old and I have no other home to live in. I would be out of here as soon as I could if it were possible. Thankfully I’m leaving for university on Friday and I don’t have to be here. But thinking about my mom constantly torments me and distracts me while at school. The withdrawals. The horrible shape the house is in (it’s constantly filthy and messy). She’s even lost her almost 10 year old son and it’s like she doesn’t even care. I’ve developed a hatred for my mom and I don’t even know how to deal with it. The sad part is, I’ve been living this almost my entire life.
Please I just need help on how to deal with this situation. It eats me up seeing her like this. This environment is so toxic and I just need to get out…..
My family lives a very stressful, chaotic life. my mom is a landlord or landlady and basically stays at home when no one has any complaints about the apartments. my dad has a bicycle shop business and it caught fire and burnt down a few months ago so now he just fixes things at the apartments if something happens. i have a 4.0, piano lessons, voice lessons, and i’ve finally realized that i have ednos or eating disorder not otherwise specified (which is basically anorexia, bulimia, and binge disorder all mixed into one). i have moderate depression and no one knows about my eating disorder. and my sister seems to be a little depressed as well (my parents tell us that they’ll only love us if we’re good and behave well)
my life is so chaotic right now, i just can’t deal with anymore! and i feel like nothing is going right and everythings just one big mess and to top things off, my mom has been losing money gambling and she tells us that she wins all the time and in denial of her addictio
She’s always asking to borrow money. Is angry and irritable when she loses. Tells us that shes somewhere else when shes really at the casino. She’s cold and distant. Shes always bragging about winning and being so lucky and gets mad when i confront her about her gambling. She has absolutely no hobbies but going to the casino, watching TV, and playing internet games. Gets really mad when I ask her where she is. She keeps telling me she has control and when she loses a certain amount of money she leaves the casino but i honestly really doubt that. it tearing our family apart even though we really weren’t close to begin with
She’s always asking to borrow money. Is angry and irritable when she loses. Tells us that shes somewhere else when shes really at the casino. She’s cold and distant. Shes always bragging about winning and being so lucky and gets mad when i confront her about her gambling. She has absolutely no hobbies but going to the casino, watching TV, and playing internet games. Gets really mad when I ask her where she is. She keeps telling me she has control and when she loses a certain amount of money she leaves the casino but i honestly really doubt that. it tearing our family apart even though we really weren’t close to begin with
My family lives a very stressful, chaotic life. my mom is a landlord or landlady and basically stays at home when no one has any complaints about the apartments. my dad has a bicycle shop business and it caught fire and burnt down a few months ago so now he just fixes things at the apartments if something happens. i have a 4.0, piano lessons, voice lessons, and i’ve finally realized that i have ednos or eating disorder not otherwise specified (which is basically anorexia, bulimia, and binge disorder all mixed into one). i have moderate depression and no one knows about my eating disorder. and my sister seems to be a little depressed as well (my parents tell us that they’ll only love us if we’re good and behave well)
my life is so chaotic right now, i just can’t deal with anymore! and i feel like nothing is going right and everythings just one big mess and to top things off, my mom has been losing money gambling and she tells us that she wins all the time and in denial of her addictio
She’s always asking to borrow money. Is angry and irritable when she loses. Tells us that shes somewhere else when shes really at the casino. She’s cold and distant. Shes always bragging about winning and being so lucky and gets mad when i confront her about her gambling. She has absolutely no hobbies but going to the casino, watching TV, and playing internet games. Gets really mad when I ask her where she is. She keeps telling me she has control and when she loses a certain amount of money she leaves the casino but i honestly really doubt that. it tearing our family apart even though we really weren’t close to begin with
She’s always asking to borrow money. Is angry and irritable when she loses. Tells us that shes somewhere else when shes really at the casino. She’s cold and distant. Shes always bragging about winning and being so lucky and gets mad when i confront her about her gambling. She has absolutely no hobbies but going to the casino, watching TV, and playing internet games. Gets really mad when I ask her where she is. She keeps telling me she has control and when she loses a certain amount of money she leaves the casino but i honestly really doubt that. it tearing our family apart even though we really weren’t close to begin with
My family lives a very stressful, chaotic life. my mom is a landlord or landlady and basically stays at home when no one has any complaints about the apartments. my dad has a bicycle shop business and it caught fire and burnt down a few months ago so now he just fixes things at the apartments if something happens. i have a 4.0, piano lessons, voice lessons, and i’ve finally realized that i have ednos or eating disorder not otherwise specified (which is basically anorexia, bulimia, and binge disorder all mixed into one). i have moderate depression and no one knows about my eating disorder. and my sister seems to be a little depressed as well (my parents tell us that they’ll only love us if we’re good and behave well)
my life is so chaotic right now, i just can’t deal with anymore! and i feel like nothing is going right and everythings just one big mess and to top things off, my mom has been losing money gambling and she tells us that she wins all the time and in denial of her addictio
She’s always asking to borrow money. Is angry and irritable when she loses. Tells us that shes somewhere else when shes really at the casino. She’s cold and distant. Shes always bragging about winning and being so lucky and gets mad when i confront her about her gambling. She has absolutely no hobbies but going to the casino, watching TV, and playing internet games. Gets really mad when I ask her where she is. She keeps telling me she has control and when she loses a certain amount of money she leaves the casino but i honestly really doubt that. it tearing our family apart even though we really weren’t close to begin with
She’s always asking to borrow money. Is angry and irritable when she loses. Tells us that shes somewhere else when shes really at the casino. She’s cold and distant. Shes always bragging about winning and being so lucky and gets mad when i confront her about her gambling. She has absolutely no hobbies but going to the casino, watching TV, and playing internet games. Gets really mad when I ask her where she is. She keeps telling me she has control and when she loses a certain amount of money she leaves the casino but i honestly really doubt that. it tearing our family apart even though we really weren’t close to begin with
Me and my mom has been on a trailer park for 2 years now. Since my father left us for his “legal family” my mom got so devastated that she resorted to heroin. Every Monday she would go under the bridge which is about a few blocks away from our trailer to buy her stash from spoiled white-suburban kids. I feel so helpless because I don’t have the spine to stop my mom from destroying her life. My only option now is to place her under a rehab program in the hope of saving her from her addiction. Is this a wise decision? or must I try to talk some sense in her before placing her under a rehab program?
I am 14..my mom and i have just moved……..we moved to be with my dad and the rest of our family..me and her are still not living with my dad.but we will in the next month or so? But the only way for my mom to cope is with alcohol…and its horrible…she drinks a whole bottle of vodka everyday…..(i know this because i know where she hides it and I look) apparently she stays in bad all day….when i get home from school thats where she is….about 30 minutes ago I went and told her about how i know…and she just went crazy..she gave me the phone told me to call my dad..that she does not want me anymore…what do i do???
I’m 19 years old, 5’10″ and very slender. Last night I drank 1 1/2 cups of pure rum (the bottle said it was 40% proof). I wasn’t looking to get plastered, but based on my body mass (and the fact that I can count the number of times I’ve drank on one hand…and never more than a glass of wine) that should have given me at least a little buzz, right?
I was trying to see how much I can drink and it not effect me. Not that I would ever try to drink and drive or anything like that. But, what I drank last night made no difference. I was with a friend and she said that she also noticed no difference in my behaviour or demeanour.
Is alcoholism hereditary? Looking at my family, it would seem so. On my dad’s side of the family, every single man is or was an alcoholic…a few (my dad and uncle) were/are also drug addicts. It’s how my dad died. On my mom’s side, though, there’s none. My mother says that I have an addictive personality and I know that when it comes to alcohol I need to be careful but, well, do you see where I’m coming from here? It kind of worries me that what I drank last night seemed to have no effect on me. That’s how my dad was…it took a lot to get him drunk, but he always seemed to manage it. But he had been drinking since he was 12. By the time I came along, he was an experienced drinker…more use to it, so it would obviously take him more. I never drink though.
so my brother who is 17 started smoking weed at i would say 14 years old.. we never catch him or even thought he did it until we found out by one of his friends that he was smoking…. we have had countless conversations with him about making him stop smoking weed.. he never stopped… his addiction just keeps growing to the point that he now doesn’t care to get home with his eyes red, high as hell… we have talked with my mother about what to do with him and we never end up with decision, we thought of getting him into a drug rehab but then my mother said that wasn’t good cause he was gonna meet people like him over there and get worst than he is right now so .. right now shes just letting him do what ever he wants.. i’m tired of hearing my mother cry about this, my brother is driving her crazy and she thinks everything is her fault… i cant deal with this shit no more… cause of my brother i cant even talk to my mother cause we always end up fighting and theres never peace in our house… any suggestions on what to do about this…. my mother is just waiting for him to be 18 to get him out of the house, thing that she says shes gonna do but i really really doubt it and i think we gonna be in this situation for a long long time if we dont do anything about it…. but i we dont know what… suggestions please.
another stupid answer… dude in case you didn’t know you can get addicted to anything… even get addicted to watching porn.. it might not be like heroin but you can get addicted to anything….
and why i want him to stop? first because is driving my mother crazy for her personal reasons and at the same time driving me crazy seeing my mother suffer… and second cause my brother is stupid and not far away he will get in trouble with the law. and third because it might lead him to another drug..
Before i can get to now i have to go back to my past and share what has already happened, which plays a major role in the present.
I lost my first baby to his father, i was using drugs but didn’t become physically addicted, until children services and the baby’s dad fought for custody, and i could handle the fight, i tried but they made me feel so horrible for doing drugs about 5 times during my pregnancy that i believed i didn’t deserve him and he was better off without me and it broke my heart. I fell into a deep depression and starting using Opiates, pain pills, everyday and Higher and higher dosage so i wouldn’t feel the pain of losing my son. Needless to say 2 years later i cant go more than 5 hour w/o having to do some how dosage of pain medicine else i get sick and after 15 hours im in full blown with drawls
I never meant for it to get so bad, but when the with drawls hit its so painful i cant take it and that scares me Lets just say for on-line purposes i have to do a very strong and addicting opulent 4-6 times a day and no longer get “the buzz” i dint want one, but i do it so im not sick.
I Just found out Im a lil over two months pregnant and im scared to death. I want this baby, but i don’t want to hurt him or her ,and want my son back, but im scared if i tell someone im a drug addict and need help that, their going to take the baby away from me, and i honestly could not go through that again, i have never felt so much heartache as i did when they took my son away from me, and children’s services were mean to me, my case worker favored the father, she didn’t want to help me and i wasn’t even physically addicted yet and look Wit they did.
Two failed at temps at rehab, but i want to get clean , i want to be better and live life the way i should and not have to resolve it around if im going to have pain medication or not and if not then i cant do it.
I want this baby, i want a second chance with my first baby, i want to be the good mother i always could of been. Im not a bad person ,just went down the wrong road and i cant find my way back.
This is a hard drug /opi/ pain killer to get off of , and even harder cuz im pregnant, but i want help and im scared their just say o another drug addicted mother how could she live with herself and take my baby and never help me.
I dont know who to call, where to go , or what to do, and i have no medical insurence , please someone i need some hard advice .
P.S- If you feel the need to say something horrible and awful to me dont, i have already said and thought them all to myself, but im speaking out now and i want/need someone to help me.
-LosT & ScAreD
Before i can get to now i have to go back to my past and share what has already happened, which plays a major role in the present.
I lost my first baby to his father, i was using drugs but didn’t become physically addicted, until children services and the baby’s dad fought for custody, and i could handle the fight, i tried but they made me feel so horrible for doing drugs about 5 times during my pregnancy that i believed i didn’t deserve him and he was better off without me and it broke my heart. I fell into a deep depression and starting using Opiates, pain pills, everyday and Higher and higher dosage so i wouldn’t feel the pain of losing my son. Needless to say 2 years later i cant go more than 5 hour w/o having to do some how dosage of pain medicine else i get sick and after 15 hours im in full blown with drawls
I never meant for it to get so bad, but when the with drawls hit its so painful i cant take it and that scares me Lets just say for on-line purposes i have to do a very strong and addicting opulent 4-6 times a day and no longer get “the buzz” i dint want one, but i do it so im not sick.
I Just found out Im a lil over two months pregnant and im scared to death. I want this baby, but i don’t want to hurt him or her ,and want my son back, but im scared if i tell someone im a drug addict and need help that, their going to take the baby away from me, and i honestly could not go through that again, i have never felt so much heartache as i did when they took my son away from me, and children’s services were mean to me, my case worker favored the father, she didn’t want to help me and i wasn’t even physically addicted yet and look Wit they did.
Two failed at temps at rehab, but i want to get clean , i want to be better and live life the way i should and not have to resolve it around if im going to have pain medication or not and if not then i cant do it.
I want this baby, i want a second chance with my first baby, i want to be the good mother i always could of been. Im not a bad person ,just went down the wrong road and i cant find my way back.
This is a hard drug /opi/ pain killer to get off of , and even harder cuz im pregnant, but i want help and im scared their just say o another drug addicted mother how could she live with herself and take my baby and never help me.
I dont know who to call, where to go , or what to do, and i have no medical insurence , please someone i need some hard advice .
P.S- If you feel the need to say something horrible and awful to me dont, i have already said and thought them all to myself, but im speaking out now and i want/need someone to help me.
-LosT & ScAreD
P.S- I think the reason i even started useingg drugs was to forget the pain and heartach i felt from the way men would treat me.I have been physically abused, emotionally abused and sexual abuse, i have gone through those with more than one guy, and more than one time my dad, the men i fall in love with./ My dad would hit me, i have had boyfriends choke and rape me, and the person i love now hits me and verbaly abuses me and he says it my fault cuz of my addiction,. Two days ago he punched me in my stomach , busted my lips and punched me in the sdide of my face/ The reason at that moment, i wanted to finish my toast before rushing to meet his dad somewhere.
My mom is addicted to her prescription pain killers known as Oxycodone. Her dosage is the highest – 80mg – and her tolerance as well as addiction is SEVERE. She injects them into her veins after creating a sort of liquid out of them. I’ve tried everything to get her to stop, screaming, threatening, begging, crying, everything. It just seems like she does NOT want help. She’s told me her doctor supposedly has her in a waiting list for a rehab…but that’s what she’s always told me over the years. I’m 18 years old and I have no other home to live in. I would be out of here as soon as I could if it were possible. Thankfully I’m leaving for university on Friday and I don’t have to be here. But thinking about my mom constantly torments me and distracts me while at school. The withdrawals. The horrible shape the house is in (it’s constantly filthy and messy). She’s even lost her almost 10 year old son and it’s like she doesn’t even care. I’ve developed a hatred for my mom and I don’t even know how to deal with it. The sad part is, I’ve been living this almost my entire life.
Please I just need help on how to deal with this situation. It eats me up seeing her like this. This environment is so toxic and I just need to get out…..
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