We will help you get your mom off drugs!

I don’t even know what I want to ask, I just am reaching out anywhere I can think of. I have a 20 year old son who is addicted to marijuana, and is now dabbling with ecstasy. I found this out from his twin brother, whom is clean and has a new baby. He has great concerns for his brother, he has even contacted the show “Intervention”. I have sent my son to rehab three times, to therapy, to see a psychiatrist, I’ve even had him arrested in my own home. He is currently on probation, so I’m in the process of contacting his probation officer & needless to say I am kicking him out of my house (yet again). All this is coming to a head today which is not only the week of Christmas, but it’s also my birthday. I’ve been going through this with him since he was 15, I don’t know what else to do. He’s been back in my home for a little over a month now, he swore this time he was going to stay clean & he had no where else to go. I’m at my wits end and I just don’t know what else to do. I’m looking for a local NA group for ME (Baton Rouge area). I just need a little advice or support from anyone who has been here…my heart is breaking. I lost my mom last summer to cancer, and I thought that would be the break thru for him. He broke down in my arms & cried like a child because he felt like his grandma died being disappointed in him, his words. Then when his twin brother had a baby, he swore that would be it. He didn’t want his nephew to have a drug addict for an uncle, again HIS words. It hurts so dam much to watch him self destruct like this..help, anyone…

My dad is currently unemployed and my mother works all day, she is not home to see what he is doing. From about 2 o’clock p.m to about 10 o’clock at night all he does is sit on the computer an look at porn!! Please help!!!!!

He’s always complaining about being overweight. I cook him stuff and he likes it but still claims he’s hungry. He works nights and I send him what he likes to eat but he still runs to Whataburger or Wendy’s. I confiscated his credit card because he has ran up ALOT of money at these places. He says “its just 6.00″ but it adds up! how else can I stop him from doing this? He also goes to the bank, which is often open 24/7 and withdraws money till there is none left. Help! He has a spending problem. But cant spend any money on me for Mothers day *this was my first I got nothing*, my birthday, for Christmas he got me a $50.00 best buy card and we had an argument and he went and spent it on himself for a new stereo installation. He has a very professional job too..

My son is a pacifier addict. I used to only give it to him when he would get fussy while we were out somewhere but against my wishes my mother-in-law would shove it in his mouth at every chance she got. I told her that I want to try other things before shoving the pacifier in his mouth but any time he spit it out she shoved it right back in even if he didn’t want it or cry for it. Now my son can’t go without the pacifier for more than like 10 minutes because she has gotten him so used to sucking on it all day long. I really don’t care if he wants to suck on it, but the problem is every time he spits it out he screams like someone is cutting off on of his toes. And night time is the worst, he wakes up every 5-10 minutes for the first hour or two that he goes to sleep because he loses the pacifier then he might go a half hour to an hour before waking up again because he lost the thing again. He sleeps next to me in bed, yet I still can’t get sleep because he is waking up screaming all night long and as soon as I put it back in his mouth he dozes right back off. The only way that I can sometime get him to sleep without it is by using my boob as the pacifier and let him fall asleep while laying down and nursing but then I get uncomfortable and can’t move or else my boob may pop out and he will wake again. Is it too early or too mean to wean him from the thing at three months?

I have scoliosis, and pinched nerves and it makes my back, and most days my entire body hurt. Its the worst when I first wake up in the morning because my mattress is waaay to hard and springy and I can’t afford a new one. I also get migraine headaches pretty much every day as of late. My doctor said its probably do to pain in my neck that radiates from my back, but I don’t know if thats the case because I’ve always gotten migraine headaches even before I had Scoliosis. Any way so the pill bottle says to take 3 a day, or 1 every 6 to 8 hours. I go out of my way to take one a day in the morning when my pain is worst, then if I feel a headache starting I take an ibuprofen, but if the pain is to bad then I’ll end up taking one in the morning, and one whenever I get a really bad headache, which is maybe once every couple of weeks. In any case my mother just told me that she thinks I’m a drug addict and that I shouldn’t take vicodin because its a narcotic. I said you can’t get addicted taking 1 pill a day, and she said, well all I know is it’s a narcotic, and since you take 1 every day then you must be addicted. That’s her explanation. My doctor says it’s fine, and I’m actually supposed to take more than one, but I’m kind of tired of my mom looking at me like I’m a junkie or something because I take vicodin for pain. I could understand if I just took it just cause, but I actually have a legitimate reason to take them, and the fact that she looks at me like that bothers me. I mean is it possible that I could get addicted on one pill a day. Be honest, be brutal, I don’t mind, I just want to set the record straight so I don’t feel guilty every time I pop a pill in my mouth. It sucks living in a house full of people that make fun of you over something you have no control over. [I mean the pain] I did my physical therapy, and next I’m going to see a chiropractor so he can hopefully take my pain away so I don’t have to take medication for it any more, because my doctor said I’m to old for surgery now.
You all get thumbs up for being so helpful honest and kind. Thank you =) and I will continue to except more answers just in case you were confused by this message lol

okay, so i was taking my mom’s pain meds for 2 years, and i finally came clean and told her, she took me to a shrink and he diagnosed me with bipolar (other stuff was going on) … that was like a few months ago, and i was doing good … but i have been taking her pills again! its like i don’t feel right when im not taking them. i can’t get a good night sleep and relax. i have gotten some dental work done lately and whenever i get like vicoden from my dentist i always end up taking the whole bottle whether i need it or not!

so am i a drug addict?? im 17 i haven’t done like weed or crack or anything so i don’t know what being addicted is like. i never thought i would get like this.
so what do you think?

EDIT: i don’t need the vicoden anymore but i take it anyway! when my mom runs out of her meds i get very pressured and feel like she has to get them filled right away!

it really sounds like i am huh???? OMG what am i gonna do???

and your brother had the 3 kids. He is living with my mother with the 3 kids because she kicked them ALL out so she could play with her new found drug friends. The kids, 1, 2 & 7 are thankfully safe with my brother and mom but he still lets her see the kids over night when she wants them. This is all very new and the kids don’t want to go but my brother thinks he should play nice until he files for full custody and divorce. I think he should put his foot down and refuse her the right to see her kids!!! I also want to call the police on her and keep calling until something is done!!! I don’t live around them so it’s hard to be hands on but I just feel like my brother is being too nice!!! HELP! What should we do? Should I step in or stay out? What legally can he do right now???????? This is destroying him!!!!!! PLEASE HELP!!!
WOW…powerful answers!! Thank you. As I sit here in tears I wanted to add that I have made a call to CPS and they said there is nothing they can do unless the kids are being abused!! That’s crazy!!!!! I know some of you think I need to step back and let the Lord work, and I know your right, but my heart is in it for the kids and if if they were mine I’d run to the ends of the earth to protect them!!!!! Thanks again and I love ya for showing so much compassion!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh yeah, my brother just quite his job because she wasn’t watching the kids, but taking them to daycare so she could “party all day and my brother couldn’t afford the $500. a week in child care!!!!! He now is going back to his old job to he could be home with them…………can he ask the cops to go over there and do a weelfare check if she has the kids?

My 15 year old son was at his friends house last night and called his mother to come and pick him up because he didn’t feel good. It turns out he took acid (lsd) and was having a bad trip. He had dillusions of death and was in constant fear for about five hours. He swears this is the first time he took this, and I do believe him. I never expected this from him as he is a pretty responsible, loving, athletic kid, and to this point, always said the right things about kids and drugs.

We had a long conversation about this, and told him I am going to take him to a Narcotics Anonymous meeting. I have gone to many Narcotics Anonymous meetings as I have abused prescription drugs in the past, and think he can benefit from hearing how normal, everyday people got caught up in drugs, and how it took over their lives. My question is, should I tell him I am a recovering addict and let hime know about my addiction? I am torn, because naturally I don’t want him to know, but it may hit home.

my boyfriend is a serious video game
addict. I’ve been with him 3 years and his addiction didn’t get bad until he
moved back in with his mother (for her health). I’m 18 years old. He’s 19. My boyfriend
can spend almost 20 hours a day playing video games when he has the chance. He
doesn’t notice when i try to get his attention “late at night” unless HE’S in
the mood. He doesn’t come out of his room very often while playing so i bring
his food to him. The only time he leaves is to go to the bathroom or when i tell
him to go take a shower. When we go over to a friends house, he brings his PS3
with him so he can play there. If he’s away from the game system, he spends
hours looking up prices of games, game reviews, new games on shelves. Just today
he got mad at me for not lending him a game from my house (that belongs to my
brother) that he wants to play. He doesn’t see that he has a problem but i’m
worried about him. I’m not going to leave him. I love him and I can’t stand the
thought of losing him. What should i do? Please help me.

She’s 12, going on 13 and last year she bought herself a laptop with her birthday money. It’s the only computer in the house however so we all kind of share it, mostly me and my sister.
Basically she acts like a drug addict. She spent literally all summer just sitting on the computer. She put on a bit of weight and became really pale and just never wanted to leave the house. She has no friends to hang out with and no interests or hobbies. All she cares about is her precious computer. During the summer I tried forcing her to come out for walks with me or to come to the library and she came out maybe twice but that’s it. It’s like it’s torture for her to leave the house. I encouraged her to make new friends in her new school and start going out more and I tried to give her advice but she wasn’t interested and hasn’t made many new friends.

At the weekends she just sits on the computer all day, or to take a break, watches TV or plays the playstation for a while.
I tell her to join an after school sport but she just says no, she doesn’t like sports. She doesn’t take any exercise.

I don’t know what she does on the computer. She used to talk to her old best friend on MSN and now as far as I know she plays games and just goes on bebo but she is extremely secretive about what she gets up to – nobody is allowed to look at the screen and she closes the lid if you come too near.
I’m trying to take the computer off her now. I’ll let her use it for a while each day and then just forcibly remove it from her room. The problem is that she doesn’t let it go without a fight. She says she hasn’t used it enough today, she needs it (I ask why she says because she wants it), that it’s not fair, that it belongs to her and she keeps coming into my room and asking for it back even though I say no. Then she gets slightly violent, trying to push past me to get to the laptop and I have to try and push her out of my room because she won’t leave. And then she slams the door really loudly.
Don’t ask why the parents aren’t involved. I’m 18 and our mother doesn’t discipline her. Don’t ask.
Why is she like this? She doesn’t listen to anyone and thinks she can do what she wants. What can I do?

My fiance is a drug addict and has been for six years. He does not have emotional support from his family and he has no friends. I am the only person he truly cares about and his mother has told me that he has gotten much better since he met me. Unfortunately he still uses. He suffers from depression and Borderline Personality disorder also. Some days he calls rehabs and attempts to do things to get better and others he is negative about his life and future. He uses drugs to compensate for his “sickness” when in reality the drugs are his ultimate sickness. He has to go to jail soon and will be there for at least five months. I’m scared that he will get better while there, but go back to using when he gets out. I don’t know what I should do for him. Please do not say leave him because it will never happen. He is my best friend and I would give my life if only he could get clean, Also please do not suggest 12-step meetings because he is not religious. Can anyone give me some advice?

My dad is a person who hates to leave his comfort zone. He will use the same shoes, clothes, his toothbrush, until it’s beyond nonfunctional.

My dad eats all the time, way too much, and very fast.

I hate it. I hate watching him eat. I hate it, and my mom and I can’t do anything about it.

He never exercises and seems to eat only the WORST things for you that are very very high in saturated fat. He eats like a whole package of cheese every night, eats things that are completely marinated in cheese and butter. He eats so horribly. I’m scared he will die soon.

A while ago, I would cry every night because there was nothing that I could do. I tried to talk to him about it and told him that I wanted him to take care of himself and get a physical (hasn’t been to the dr. in 20 years) so that he can be alive to meet his grandchildren in the future. He Laughed (to avoid confrontation). I told him that it feels like he doesn’t love us if he would put such a burden on us. He didn’t care.

I cried like every night (basically grieving) until I just accepted that he is going to die soon. Today, I spoke candidly with my mother about it (for the first time really). She always tries to tell him to be healthier, but he gets very angry. She has no influence on him, except to push him the other way (because their relationship is horrible anyway).

What can I do? He is eating right now in the kitchen, and it is driving me insane. It’s affecting MY LIFE too much.

Should I confront him often and risk having a bad relationship with him while he may die soon? Or should I leave him alone and enable him like he wants possibly letting him die way sooner and leaving me with a terrible guilt afterward?

Any advice at all? Has anyone dealt with a food addict?

Thank you.

i think im a sex addict. all i can really think about is getting out of school and doing it w/ my gf. i really think the only reason im getting good grades is b/c me and my gf made a promise to eachother that we would both pass all our AP classes together or no sex. and so far itz going pretty friking good. but i really need to stop this kind of behavior. im gessing my mother will eventually walk in on use some day and that cant happen so any ideas?

I want to help my best friend with this burden. He is 21 years old and living on his own with his father’s moral support, so he is not completely alone family-wise, but he is extremely close with his mother because his dad wasn’t in the picture until 14 years old. He loves his mother more than anything in the world and it deeply pains him to know where she is in life because, daily, he expects the call from his grandma that she’s dead. He has no hope she will change because it seems where ever she goes she gets into the same lifestyle. She is honestly a good person, sweet as can be. Are there any options for this woman because she can not keep hooking for a living very soon or survive as a meth addict much longer. I want to commit her to a rehab center, but I don’t know if that’s the best thing or if she will even go! She needs therapy, and that’s for sure. Her early life was tragic.

Please answer.

My fiance is a drug addict and has been for six years. He does not have emotional support from his family and he has no friends. I am the only person he truly cares about and his mother has told me that he has gotten much better since he met me. Unfortunately he still uses. He suffers from depression and Borderline Personality disorder also. Some days he calls rehabs and attempts to do things to get better and others he is negative about his life and future. He uses drugs to compensate for his “sickness” when in reality the drugs are his ultimate sickness. He has to go to jail soon and will be there for at least five months. I’m scared that he will get better while there, but go back to using when he gets out. I don’t know what I should do for him. Please do not say leave him because it will never happen. He is my best friend and I would give my life if only he could get clean, Also please do not suggest 12-step meetings because he is not religious. Can anyone give me some advice?

He only started the game back in March, but I have seen so many changes in him it is unbearable. I feel like everything about him has changed, like he has gotten very moody and would rather play world of warcraft then talk on the phone with me. His mother even complains. I even started playing the game with him just to see what it was all about, and now I understand clearly what makes it so addicting. So i don’t need that part explained to me. He has already paid for his first year of the game. I don’t know what to do anymore. He got mad at me last night for leveling up his character to level 50 on accident, because he was doing a battleground that required leveled 40-49. When that happened I knew there was something very wrong and that I have to find help.

YOU ARE AN INTERNET ADDICT WHEN…

1.) You refer to going to the bathroom as downloading.

2.) You step out of your room and realize that your
parents have moved and you don’t have a clue as to
when it happened.

3.) Your bookmark takes 15 minutes to go from top to bottom.

4.) Your nightmares are in HTML and GIFS.

5.) You turn off your modem and get this awful empty feeling,
like you just pulled the plug on a loved one.

6.) You start introducing yourself as “Jim at net dot com”

7.) Your heart races faster and beats irregularly each time
you see a new WWW site address on TV.

8.) You turn on your intercom when leaving the room so you
can hear if new e-mail arrives.

9.) Your wife drapes a blond wig over your monitor to remind
you of what she looks like.

10.) All of your friends have an @ in their names.

11.) When looking at a web page full of someone else’s links,
you notice all of them are already highlighted in purple.

12.) Your dog has its own home page.

13.) You can’t call your mother… She doesn’t have a modem.

14.) You check your mail. It says “no new messages.” So you
check it again.

15.) Your phone bill is a heavy as a brick.

16.) You write your homework in HTML and give your instructor
the URL.

17.) You don’t know the sex of three of your closest friends,
because they have neutral nicknames and you never bothered
to ask.

18.) Your husband tells you that he has had the beard for
2 months.

19.) You wake up at 3 a.m. to go to the bathroom and stop and
check your e-mail on the way back to bed.

20.) You tell the kids they can’t use the computer because
“Daddy’s got work to do” — even though you don’t have
a job.

21.) You buy a Captain Kirk chair with a built-in keyboard
and mouse.

22.) Your wife makes a new rule: “The computer cannot come
to bed.”

23.) You get a tattoo that says “This body best viewed with
Netscape 3.0 or higher.”

24.) You never have to deal with busy signals when calling
your ISP… because you never log off.

25.) The last girl you picked up was only a GIF.

26.) You ask a plumber how much it would cost to replace
the chair in front of your computer with a toilet.

27.) Your wife says communication is important in a marriage…
so you buy another computer and install a second phone
line so the two of you can chat.

28.) As your car crashes through the guardrail on a mountain
road, your first instinct is to search for the “back”
button.

I live in a mixed neighborhood of huge homes to ,well ,crappy homes. Down the road is a “crappy” home and I suspect the adults are meth addicts. The town I live in is full of them. This couple, in their late 30′s have two daughters aged 11 and 16. The father and girls are very very nice people and I have befriended the girls somewhat. (Their mother is in jail). Today they came to use my phone for the first time ever, and I overheard them telling the grandma on the other end that they needed groceries.

My dilema is what to do. I hate the idea that the girls may be hungry and I can certainly give them food. But how do I do it without appearing as charity? Or should I just stay out of it. I am a sucker and have had my share of being taken advantage of. Incidently there is a soup kitchen a half mile from here that they could eat at.
You guys are great! It never fails to get some great answers quickly on this site. And I am pretty certain they are meth addicts so I will not invite them to dinner, altho the girls are wonderful to talk to and I would enjoy them. I will let you know what I end up doing and how it works out. Thanks a million for the idea.
lysa, I see your point but the small mountain town that I live in is inundated with this situation. Seriously. We have hundreds of families like this, it is an epidemic here. So I don’t really feel that I should report them to cps or anything like that. If they rounded up all the kids of meth addicts in this town, sadly half the school would be gone. It sucks.

im just wondering if reid is keeping the drugs because he wants more memories of his mom or if he is addicted to it now or if he took it to get it analyzed, although i think the crime lab would do that? what do you think?

I’m an overweight, 19 year old female with a family history of various health concerns including, but certainly not limited to, hyper tension, diabetes ( I and II), heart attack, and now cancer has struck in my immediate family (mother and sister both have thyroid and colon cancer).

I am a self diagnosed sugar addict – but all signs are pointing to my health taking to a turn for the worse if I continue my generally bad habits.

I quit smoking this year, and I’ve been collaborating with a doctor these past couple of weeks. We both agreed on a mainly liquid (and supervised) diet until I become a healthy weight.

Thing is, while I have a decent will on most occasions, I KNOW that if I completely strike out sweets, I’m not going to realistically make it to my goal health.

My question is, is there a way to indulge my sweet tooth while trying to compose a better lifestyle. The horror stories of refined sugar have haunted me for years, and I’m just looking for a way around them. I’m not looking for motivational approaches or a lecture. I just want to know what I can do to curb this sugar lust on my journey through good health?

Thanks in advance.