His names Brian and he works as a waiter at Clydes in Alexandria. He’s living in northern Virginia with our mother. He claims he’s been just working and trying to get his life together, but all I’ve been hearing from friends is about him partying it up. I’m just very concerned about him.
My mom is a teacher at the school I go to, and I’ve recently been hanging out with a guy who used to be addicted to heroine. He also gets into a bunch of fights and hangs out with really bad kids, that threaten others and make gun threats, etc. He’s gotten out of the heroine and fights less, but what mainly bothers my mom is the fact that he’s made a gun threat and had police papers filed on him. He’s also clinically bipolar. We get along great, and he’s a really a good guy and very nice, if you can get past everything he’s done in the past, but still does currently. She wants me to have no contact with him, and I’m not supposed to talk to him at school anymore. I want her to try and see my side of the story, but since she’s a teacher there, all of the other teachers keep reminding her how bad he is. Help?
I am 15 going on 16 soon. Live in California. I can get a job in 2 months, which can pay for me. I am an addict myself trying to stay clean, and my parents, both being using addicts aren’t helping my situation at all. I am trying to stay clean so I can maintain good grades and eventually go into the Air Force. I want to get emancipated. Any lawyers out there? Anyone have any tips? I need HELP QUICK. Please answer… Anyone…
We found out we were losing our house a few months ago, and it’s torn my mom apart – stressed her to no end. She’s finally broken down and decided to leave my father, who’s a drunk alcoholic, drug addict, and pot head. She’s not taking us or my other sister (I have another, but she’s getting married, she’s going off with her man) with her. She doesn’t have the money. Why in HELL she thinks this life is better for us doesn’t get into my head. I’m sobbing, my dad is abusive, he steals the drugs I take for acute migraines I’ve gotten since a baby, he drinks every night with those meds and now he’s smoking pot on top of it all. And she’s LEAVING us with him. What do I do? I have no other family to turn to, none whatosoever. I’m 15 and still have a while to go until I’m legal and can live on my own. I’m scared, I can’t live with him alone. Help me.
I should’ve mentioned I’m homeschooled, it’s extremely hard for me to find adults to talk to about this stuff. My mother also currently has no job, it’s why she’s lived with my dad through-out these years, only for his finical support. She was planning to get one when/if we kept the house, so it’s no surprise she’s leaving and getting one on her own. Talking to a school counselor to find soical service is out of the question though
my mother in law is living with us and seems to be having all kinds of issues, which makes my husband go back to childhood bad memories. He speeks to my like im his councilor. she’s living with us because he doesn’t want her to die in the streets. We sent her to rehab but i cant tell if she’s sick or getting hi. my husband always says that she’s high, no matter what.
We have an adorable 9 month old baby, he went into rehab by choice 2 weeks before I had our son, after 10 years of heavy cocaine and alcohol usage. He came home a totally different person, he used to be my best friend and now he barely talks to me about anything personal, he won’t tell me how he feels, all we talk about is the baby and the weather. He is completely detached from me and it breaks my heart, I want so badly to be there for him but he won’t let me, the only person he will talk to is his mother. I can’t go on like this, I don’t understand why, I think maybe he doesn’t want me to be a trigger, or that he is following the 12 step program rule that you should not be in a relationship for the first year of sobriety. 3 months away from his 1 year sober and I don’t think I can do it anymore I feel like a roomate not an equal partner. Help.
My sister has been doing crystal meth since early high school, however she’s had “clean” stages in between. She’s in her mid 20′s now and she’s been doing it again. I’ve tried everything in my power to get her to stop. Even the death of my mom recently has no affect on her. She “quit” when my mother passed away 6 months ago and then started right up again. She refuses to go to rehab or to get help. I’m beginning to not want her to be a part of my life anymore.
I was adopted and I just met my adoptive mother about a year ago I’ve been living with her for 5 months and well smoke and drink together but then shell get really angry and see things that aren’t there she used to to do everything , and I’ll talk to her about friends etc and shell say she doesn’t like them and one time she kicked them out in the rain because she was wasted I love her so much but I can’t take this anymore but I feel bad moving out.. She helped me graduate and get out of an awful situation I was in before what do I do??
They just showed it again. It just amazes me how much that girl accomplished in her situation. I think it’s so heartbreaking how much she cares for her mom even though her mom has been anything but a good mom to her. She even offered to bring her mom back home to live with her and get her back on her feet but she wouldn’t go! She would rather live as a dirty homeless junkie. I was so sad to see that she didn’t get to see her daughter graduate! Does anyone know how the girl is doing if they’ve followed it on MTV’s website? I was just wondering if she was able to meet with her mom again. I think Debra is one of the sweetest girls I’ve seen on True Life that really is a role-model!
i am an addict of meth who desperately wants a ticket to get clean..i have no support from social or family non addicts..very much in need of long term in patient rehabilitation and therapy..i am very much capable and experienced in quitting ..had a year..fell back.i am unable to sever my relationship with a “mother” who i obviously cannot feel anything other than life giving love for…but realisticaly, her choices during my upbringing and continual maturation were and continue to be of no positive or active role in improvement…this is no plea for attention .i need serious people who are capable of maintaining tough but also understanding of the many careful needs in such interventions
fighting to regain sobriety ,life ,career,and dreams!!!utmost self love
I have several adult students whose mothers are drug addicts or alcoholics and have shown up on their doorstep and expect the kids to take care of them, even though Mom is still using.
I think it was a TV movie, so it was never in theaters. The dad was addicted to drugs, and the mom past away.. does anyone remember the name?
Okay, more details, the daughter is really smart and loves school. It has a happy ending with her graduating from law school, Harvard Law I believe!
Or you can name any move that is reltvely similar to it.. anything helps!
My son (who thank God willingly went into rehab for a couple of weeks and is coming home on Monday) is just getting clean and is about to come home and i want to make sure that he is coming home to the most supportive and healthy envrioment. As an addict in recovery for over 8 yrs myself i know that an addict always ends up poisining there enviorment and the people around them end up becoming as sick as they are. As a parent it has been especially hard to not become an enabeler to my childs addiction, to not listen to the overwhelming desire within me that screams out for me to protect him and save him from the consequences of his poor choices and to follow my motherly instinct that drives me to want to fix everything and save him from every ounce of pain he might ever feel but thats not reality and it’s not the way to help him and while my mind knows that my heart doesnt. It is incredibly painful to stand back and just watch him go through so much unnecissary pain. So i while i go to therapy, he’ll start therapy now and we’ll also start family therapy i still felt like i needed something like an alanon to help me to have daily support to not enable and to get through the daily pain of possible relapse and the mainpulation of an addict, especially when that addict is your teenage son that knows his mother loves him desperatly and who has often used that love as a weapon against me. The problem with the idea of Alanon was that when i looked it up online it was strictly about drinkig. Now i know for me personally when i went to AA meetings i just substituted the words drinking for the word “drugging” in my mind because AA helped me stay clean but i emailed Alanon and they said they would not allow someone in there group that wasn’t dealing with an alcholic that they felt that might “stir up issues for other memebers” What the heck does that mean??? Also i was hoping they might have chat rooms or someting because i cant get to meetings due to being a single mom, having another child who is severly autistic and transportation issues. Anyone out there have any ideas or info?
25y/o father drug addict. mom does’nt touch drugs,developed the “keep busy block out” defense mechanism, after repeatedly trying to”fix”addict, amazing woman dealt w/problem as”best”as possible. both were not home1out getting drugs &1trying to remain a mentally stable provider/parent .13-17 I stayed away from home made very bad choices until 18 had my child, went to college,made a life for us. But this has/continues affect me. anxiety, problems w/relationships, i have got counseling, taken medication depression/anxiety.the “family problem” has been mainly on my shoulders.they still live together dont speak, not home at same times, still the same.how do i put this behind me? exhausted with this. want my child to have a “stable” mom better life than me. bad choices&dyfunctional family. similar situations parent/child pls share advice i want better,feel i have acheived what i can financially sought help from many profs. need closure,advice i have an amazing child&job no1 to turn talk2 TY!
Thank everyone who took the time to read and respond, I just wanted to add that I will would never give up on my child. i will always hang in for that angel! i would never be like either parent! i am just hurting inside. I try my hardest to mask my pain i dont want my child to be affected but it is very hard to continuously do also, i will not repeat a drug history without a doubt and i will not let my child be subjected to environments and situations the way my mother had. With that said it is not easy to say never affect him from the way i feel sometimes that is my concern. children are extremely smart and sense things, i should and deserve to smile all day long!
okay so growing up my boyfriend started smoking weed in like 8th grade. in 10th grade he tried coke and overdosed, but he was okay, thank god. he decided to never do that again, but continued to smoke weed.
less than a year ago, my boyfriend [who wasnt my boyfriend at the time, i didnt know him then] got into more serious drugs along with his weed, like acid and shrooms. it got realllly bad until he finally went to rehab. he came out, went to his NA meetings for a little and was totally clean, so he stopped going to his meetings [he reallyyy shouldnt have]. because now, hes doing weed again..
when we first started dating, he made me think that he didnt smoke, so i had nooo idea what i was getting myself into, but eventually i found outt..
he claims that when we first started dating, he stopped smoking during the day because “i made him sooo happy that his depression and anxiety and stuff went away so he didnt need to smoke” butttt eventually, he started doing it again during the day. he also told me that he HADDD to do it at night because he could never get to sleep due to the anger and depression and feelings and shit that hed feel. i told him to take sleeping pills or something but he says that they dont workk.. and to be honest, at first, i thought this was okay, because i felt bad for him. i have depression and anxiety too so i know how helpless it can leave you feeling, however his weed smoking began to cause problems in our relationship..
so finally, after he made some realllllllyyy baddddd decisions when he was high that effected our relationship, i told him that he had to stop because i couldnt deal with it anymore. i realllly do love him, but i cant deal with the mess his bud smoking is causingg. i basically gave him an ultimatum, it was weed, or me.
he chose me, and has been clean for 3 days now. the first night, however since he couldnt get to sleep and get rid of his feelings without his weed, he got realllllllyyyy drunkk instead. he is SUCH AN ADDICT. ugh. other than that, hes been good, other than the complaining and stuff about how “he cant bear to go on another day without weed”.
pleaseeeee help meee, i dont know what to do or how to deal with this! he is such a great guy and has sooooo muchhh potential but he just deals with his emotions sooo horribly. ive heard that youre supposedly supposed to go to “90 meetings in 90 days” of NA to become tottttalllly sober but he refuses to go everyday and says that its impossible. im planning on getting him there at leastttt once a week but i feel like thats not enoughh :/ i also think he should be in therapy but i dont think he has enough money for that.. he is just soooo miserable and i feel bad because i feel like a bitch making him choose between me and weed but its the only way to make our relationship work!!! =[[ anything else i can do? any suggestions? he’s 19, im 17, and i feel like im a mother taking care of my child.. thats nottt how a relationship should be =/ well all help is greattttlyy appreciated – thank youuu.<3
ps; sorry this is so long – i just felt like i had to tell you the whole story to completely understand what we’re dealing with heree.
its not that simple.. easier said than done.. STUPID.. bet youre one of those little 12 year olds on here.
loves to eat veges with me. Is that Ok???…especially Brocoli & Cauliflower. I began mixing them in their food. Also, I heard on a TV segment carrots etc. are good 4 them. How about Boston Baked Bean coated peanut/candies…they luv them too. But I don’t give them alot, but only a few. What other veg’s R good 4 them. & raw as well?
U would LUV to know their names….curious,…. let me know!
for a little while then go right back to his habits, I live with my mother and she just allowed him to move back in, and he seemed fine for the first few weeks and now he’s right back to his ways, I wanna know whats everyone’s opinion on some good tactics to try because the typical talks and convincing him to go to rehab has not worked too many times. He’s been in and out of rehab probably 20 times. I’m his baby sister, how many of ya’ll think the pretending to be on his level as in making him believe I’m doing drugs just as he is and playing that role just might get him to realize maybe he shouldn’t cause he’s rubbing off on me? We’ve tried everything and now I’m just trying to think of clever ways to maybe get him to realize what he’s doing with his life. any ideas?
I have started going to Sex and Love Addicts Anon (SLAA) and while my mother is in town I have to go to a meeting. She wants to see me while my meeting is on and I have to tell her that I’m doing something else or let her know I’m a sex addict.
She is very needy and always wants me to spend time with her but she doesn’t understand how extreme my life can be. Whenever I try to explain to her how things are she downgrades it to seem like I am just trying to get attention.
I can’t exactly explain to her that sometimes I spend the whole day in a brothal having sex with men and then after that go to a sex party to have my way with every man in the place twice sometimes, only to come home and want more from my partner (my partner knows about my work and is at the parties with me and is fully aware of my addiction to sex). It is not the sort of thing you tell your mother though.
Is there some way I can make her understand without shocking her?
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