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I have a friend from Argentina who is in a bind. He has cancer, and his father is a drug addict and a heavy abuser, he bets his wife and sometimes has my friend do it to his own mother. He is unable to leave because the only way he gets insurance is from his father, and he had also failed school.

He lives a fairly bad life, and I want to pray for him. I rarely resort to prayer, but tomorrow I have three for God, and I want to know what to have my pastor read when I do pray.

Hi. I’m eighteen years old and still live with my parents. I go out at least once a week and take home applications to try to get a job. I’ve been trying for almost two years now, and I’ve had no luck. I’ve been told many times how bad the economy is, so it’ll be hard for me to get one, but anyway.

I still live with my parents, and every single day my mother gets drunk. Sometimes she’ll start drinking before it’s even noon. She drinks a lot, and no matter how many drinks she’s had she always claims she isn’t drunk. Whenever my dad and I confront her about this, she screams and yells and tells us she hates us etc.

This has been going on for years. Whenever she starts drinking, she gets mean and vicious. There are times when I won’t even be in the same room as her and she’ll start yelling at me, telling me I’m lazy and fat and that I’m a loser (and to be fair, yeah, I don’t have a job, but I have a 3.4 GPA in college and I’m majoring in nursing, I can’t say I’m a loser. She didn’t even go to college.) and how much she hates me. Then she and my dad will get into a fight, and once he leaves (either to go to work or because he’s had enough of her) she screams at me saying I always ‘stick up for him’ even when I’m not involved in the conversation. She then tells me how I treat her like sh*t because I’m not there to stick up for her in a fight and that I’m useless etc.

When she’s drunk she’ll do mean and rude things and she doesn’t care when I confront her about it. She’ll tell me it’s my fault for her alcoholism and when I ask her why, she can’t give me an answer. She usually replies with “I don’t want to talk to you anymore” or “I can’t stand you” etc. and then won’t let me get a word in.

I can’t explain all the things she does when she’s drunk but she’s insufferable. She’s mean and cruel to me and my dad, and she’ll yell and scare my dogs to badly that they hide under tables and stuff. I don’t understand what made her this way, but I can’t take it anymore.

The problem is, I don’t have the money (no job) to move out or get a dorm, and I don’t know if what she’s doing constitutes as illegal and/or abusive because she’s not physically hitting me or anything.

But I really need help, and I need out of this. I’ve tried taking her to family counseling before, which ended badly. We (my dad, her, and myself) were trying to work things out when my mom just got up and left. I feel helpless and I don’t know what to do. Please help.
Please don’t tell me to try to talk to her because my dad and I have been trying for years and she doesn’t care at all, she always blames us for it (and can never explain why).
My dad has tried to divorce her but she… for a lack of better terms, won’t let him. As well, almost all our family lives in a different state.
I need this question answered: Is what she’s doing illegal?

Can she get arrested for it?

Can you sue your parents for child abuse?
I am 33. I was physically and emitionally abused and neglected by my mother until the age of 12 when I was put into the states custody.

I stayed in a foster home until 16 and became emancipated.

As part of my recovery process, I am interested in making my abuser face up to her actions. I have tried in the past but she just denies things. Also her alcoholism allows her to live a life where she can forget what she did to me.

Is there, legally, any way to hold her accountable for abuse? I am not interested in money- but having her held accountable on some level will help with closure.

thanks

I got very drunk at the weekend and verbally abused my girlfriend. Although I dont remember a thing she has told me everything I said and it was vile & disgraceful. I feel totally ashamed, there is no excuse for it and I’m so worried that it might happen again. Is there anywhere I can get counselling for this? She’s a wonderful girl, mother of my kids and I’m so scared that if it ever happens again she will leave

my parents are emotionally abusing me. they’ve given me scars i’ll probably have the rest of my life. they gave me problems with anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, anxiety, depression…. they’ve been fighting ever since i was little and i remember i saw my dad grabbing my mom and smashing her against the wall and stuff. and now i just recently turned 15 and i’m home from school all the time cause i’m recovering from my ED and my teachers wont let me go there until i feel better. and that makes my dad go crazy but its not even my fault…when i was anorexic and had my lowest weight he said to me how he wish i never was born and he used to beat me when i started crying and screaming.

my mom always puts me down like today when i watched the “sweet sixteen” on MTV she was like “why are you watching this sh*t you fat hoe, do u think that u live in hollywood or what you anorexic b*tch”? i live in europe fyi…and she always tells me that i look like a “bi*tch, that i’m too skinny or too fat (imagine how funny it is when a eating disordered person gets called fat mulitple times), ugly, that i look like a cheap pro*titue and that i’m stupid and so on… i’m a cheerleader & dancer and i love it but everytime i practise my dad stares at me and tells me that i should give up cause i will never be good at it and i’m a fat hoe who will end up with no money and no real job. they never support my dreams. i wanna move to nyc when i get older and work with fashion and music but when my mom hears that she laughs and tells me its impossible and that i should give up. what should i do??? i seriously considered suicide but i dont want to cause i LOVE life and there’s 100000 things i wanna accomplish in life but they make it seem impossible. i reached the bottom now and i’m crying all the time. while my friends are at school i’m home binge eating and throwing up. i cant do this anymore… help anyone please help

my parents are emotionally abusing me. they’ve given me scars i’ll probably have the rest of my life. they gave me problems with anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, anxiety, depression…. they’ve been fighting ever since i was little and i remember i saw my dad grabbing my mom and smashing her against the wall and stuff. and now i just recently turned 15 and i’m home from school all the time cause i’m recovering from my ED and my teachers wont let me go there until i feel better. and that makes my dad go crazy but its not even my fault…when i was anorexic and had my lowest weight he said to me how he wish i never was born and he used to beat me when i started crying and screaming.

my mom always puts me down like today when i watched the “sweet sixteen” on MTV she was like “why are you watching this sh*t you fat hoe, do u think that u live in hollywood or what you anorexic b*tch”? i live in europe fyi…and she always tells me that i look like a “******, that i’m too skinny or too fat (imagine how funny it is when a eating disordered person gets called fat mulitple times), ugly, that i look like a cheap pro*titue and that i’m stupid and so on… i’m a cheerleader & dancer and i love it but everytime i practise my dad stares at me and tells me that i should give up cause i will never be good at it and i’m a fat hoe who will end up with no money and no real job. they never support my dreams. i wanna move to nyc when i get older and work with fashion and music but when my mom hears that she laughs and tells me its impossible and that i should give up. what should i do??? i seriously considered suicide but i dont want to cause i LOVE life and there’s 100000 things i wanna accomplish in life but they make it seem impossible. i reached the bottom now and i’m crying all the time. while my friends are at school i’m home binge eating and throwing up. i cant do this anymore… help anyone please help

I desperately need advice. Ive been living w my boyfriend for 4 years & have a 1 year old daughter. hes a good suporter and dad We love each other but Im scared of him sometimes. We argue a lot & one major issue is him going 2detroit to buy pot. hes been addicted to worse drugs before I knew him & im worried that hes going 2 empty our bank account on a drug binge one day (he did last year) Last week he promised 2stop going 2detroit & only smoke pot couple x a week for stress relief. Yesterday I saw that our atm card was used in detroit, so I asked him. He freaked out since i caught him. he started choking me & hitting me & now i have a lump on my head. Im scared 2 leave bcause we have a daughter. i dont have any money & Im scared of ruining my daughters life. i only want whats best for her but ive never been on my own let alone a single mom. i dont have a job but go 2 college. Should i keep my family 2gether 4 her sake or leave? hes a good dad but has major issues with anger towards me
He stopped smoking pot & did not do any drugs for years. this whole pot thing recently started happening again. I didnt know things were going to be like this when we had our baby.

But God doesn’t intervene to protect them? A question was asked about babies being born addicted to crack and someone answered it’s the mother’s free will. What the hairy heck is that supposed to mean?
Guardian 323 EXACTLY!! lolol

I am a teenager, and have adopted the messy habits associated with our age group. My father obviously gets mad at this. However, he goes off into a rant of how I am a failure, fat, not ambitious and such every time. I defend myself (verbally), and he either hits me with an object that he’s holding, punch me in the arm, slap me, or kick me. This doesn’t leave bruises, but makes me feel worthless. He always tells me to go live with my grandparents. Now, these grandparents raped my mother when she was a kid and as a result she struggled with alcoholism and died because of it. And, no, my grandparents didn’t rape me. He knows that it is a sensitive issue with me, but always threatens to send me to rapist grandparents. IS THIS ABUSE?
By “messy habits associated with my age group”, I mean not cleaning room regularly, and slacking on other chores. I am not into drugs, not sexually active and I am a good student.

I wanna call someone about my mom.

When I was in 7th grade I was sexually abused by my stepfather while my mom was in the hospital for 15 months. I told my grandfather, but that age didn’t want him to confront my stepfather, needless to say he did (which now I know was best) and my stepfather denied it, when my mom was in full recovery she heard the story and always saw my stepfather as someone she couldn’t live without and told me I was a liar. My mom passed away when I was 15, I am now 19, but, I live with this every day… my boyfriend and I are sexually active (I know, I’m young, but, with mistake after my mom passed away I went kind of on a wild binge….) now, for some reason, when he touches me I get scared (he’s never forced me or anything) but, I have occurrences of that image in my head. I’ve went to consueling but it never helped (with 2 dif ladies) and they both only seemed to want to talk about themselves. I’m scared to even allow any1 to get close to me. I need closure and I want to get over this.
Any advice on how to live a healthy life after 8 years of this would be helpful, or how to cope. Thank you in advance
Sad, but true, both of them we’re liscened (sp) psychologist. She was sick for a long time, very overweight, and the hospital fed her before surgery, causing her to vomit in her lungs and freezing her lungs. She was in the hosp. for 15 months, got out, and died a few months later.

(im sorry this is long but im destraught and dont know what to do)
i was never a drug addict. but im going through a rough time. im 20 years old, female. i have chronic PTSD and OCD issues.

my mind is like a battlefield and i cant take it anymore. many times i just want to drink to get drunk to ease the pain temporarily..OR…i want to take my Klonopin pills (that i was prescribed) so i can get loopy and high off of those.

i did try getting high off of klonopin twice and it worked. i loved the feeling. i felt drugged. but during therapy my mom and my therapist got me to admit that i wanted an escape. i told them i was abusing my Klonopin. so basically my mom is managing all my medicines so i dont abuse them. i told everyone. “dont worry, i dont want to abuse drugs. i want my life to be good, not worse”.

but honestly, i still have this strong urge to use drugs. i found that mixing my Ativan with Ambien gives you an incredible high. and im soooo wanting to do that again.

please help me, i dont know what to do. thank you very much! all i want is an escape from my minddd!!
okay, whoever is telling a struggling addict to do more/other drugs is completely WRONG. but thanks anyway..

ive been living with my boyfriend for a year and a half now without paying any bills and his mother also lives with him and she has been a drug addict for almost 20 years.I am currently going through with buying a house and want my boyfriend to live with me but i dont want his mom in my home using drugs and bringing it around like she does now..how do i tell my boyfriend its either her get help or i dont want her at my house in a “good” way were he wont be offended.???

Okay. my brother is 30 and im 14. there problems at home and my brother sympathizes with me because he went through the same thing growing up. its nothing bad like drugs or physical abuse. its more of mental abuse. It would be really hard to explain but my mom is crazy. Like my aunts understand this because they lived with my mom for some time. and my cousins understand this. and my brother’s girlfriend has been around when my mom blew up.
but anyways. My brother has made plans for me to move into his apartment. It is still in the same town so i can still go to my school. The only problem is that Im afraid my mom wont agree. We would still go but knowing her. she will call the police and tell them that my brother kidnapped me. But can he get in trouble? because i am the one would be willing to go. its not like i was forced against my will.
Im actually forced against my will to live in my parent’s home

and its not like Im a bad kid. I dont drink, dont party, dont do drugs, and im not sexually active so no worries for me getting wasted or high or pregnant. I am a sensable person and I get god grades. I have a 3.8 gpa and im involved with a lot of school clubs and sports. I volunteer on the weekends at a phsyical rehab center.

and same with my brother. He was just the same ^^ and he got into Penn State (partial scholarship) with a high GPA and 1570 /1600 SAT score!

my mom constantly “mentally abuses me” she always says that we are failures and we will never get into college. We will drop out of high school and work at McDonalds. She has said much worse to us but i prefer not to bring those memories back..

when my brother was little he would always go to shrinks (5 actually) and they all said that the source of the problem was my mom. she was the reason my brother was unhappy. and so am I. About 95% of the time i am not happy when I am around her because of what she said or did to me. and that 5% when she is in a good mood is the worse because you know that she will blow up soon.
My brother is 30 and he is still being abused by my mom.

so what Im trying to say is that i really need to move out. I doubt my mom will let me go but I will probably just get up and go anyways. I dont want my brother to get arrested for “kidnapping” tho.
we dont want my mom to get arrested though and im not sure there would be enough evidence since its not physical abuse

Child Protection Svs. knows, by my 16 yr old’s own admission that the complaint they were investigating had no merit, but came back again, and then a **3rd time** and accused me of “emotional abuse” because I drink alcohol. My daughter doesn’t want me to drink (I am NOT an abusive person, drinking or not, and a member of AA since 1988), because she doesn’t think it’s “fair” that she entered rehab for drug problems and I still drink. That’s a short version of the story that still continues. Bottom line is that I was forced out of *my* home and threatened with repurcussions if I didn’t enter rehab. I’m currently not allowed to be in my house when my daughter is there, though I’ve never been given any documentation that says so. (Her mother lives there too but we were never married and split up years ago. I invited them to stay with me so that my kid could have some stability, a sense of family, and that’s another story.) Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

is a pattern of mental and physical defects which develops in some unborn babies when the mother drinks excessive alcohol during pregnancy Alcohol crosses the placental barrier and can stunt fetal growth or weight, create distinctive facial stigmata, damage neurons and brain structures, and cause other physical, mental, or behavioral problems.The main effect of FAS is permanent central nervous system damage, especially to the brain. Developing brain cells and structures are underdeveloped or malformed by prenatal alcohol exposure, often creating an array of primary cognitive and functional disabilities (including poor memory, attention deficits, impulsive behavior, and poor cause-effect reasoning) as well as secondary disabilities (for example, mental health problems, and drug addiction)

knowing that this is 100% preventable, do you think mothers that drink while pregnant should go to jail?

Ok I have a 12 year old girl, and My wife (her step mother) and I had found out last minute that we were to go to a function. my dad and Alchie said he would watch her. when we came back 4 hrs later he was TRASHED he could not see straight and he did not know where he was/what he was doing

Much to my disappointment and my wife’s Shock

I have not said anything to him, he stayed the night because he could not drive. Or make it down the 3 flights of steers and left this am about 9 ish back to his mothers house…

He does not admit he has a prob or that he needs help.

I have already cut all unsupervised access to my daughter by my dad, He is removed from the authorized pickup list at my daughters school, He has 1 OUI/DWI . Probably not necessary but at this point I’m securing her as much as i can..

I grew up in a dysfunctional home. I Survived an Abusive childhood and will Never subject my daughter to what I went through , By 10th grade I had been to more AA meets than
most recovering alcoholics have been to in 3 years, I had to make sure he went. 3 nights a weekend 2 on Sat and 2 on Sunday… (I never went with the “Cool kids” to drink because I knew the road they were heading down and i didn’t want that ride… )
I’ve read the “Big Blue Book” 3 times and can recite any of the hit rock bottom stories..

To put it mildly I don’t drink.

I need to protect my daughter from the affects of alcoholism. She has already had a rough life. He mother broke it off with me and marred/divorced a deadbeat and my daughter was being taken for the emotional ride.

What do i do..

Other than know the i cant do anything does not help. the Serenity prayer just doesn’t work for me

My dad has an alcohol problem and it’s beginning to affect me. I’m currently in my final year at law school and decided to stay at home to help my mother. My dad, who has been battling depression and alcoholism for a long time, has started to relapse into the habit.
Before I use to know how to deal with it, go out with friends, play sport, study or play music in my room with the doors shut. Now, as an adult (26), I just don’t know what to do or say to my mother to comfort her.
Nearly everyday, he drinks in secret, even though we’ve repeatedly told him, that he shouldn’t have anything to hide, if he wants to have a drink just say so, make US AWARE of it. But everyday, he walks into the house smelling of alcohol and talking BS on the dinner table in front of guests.

It’s a huge embarrassment to me and I try my best to protect him in front of people. Sometimes, I go on a big defensive, which ends up making me look bad in front of others. Some may know he has a problem, and I know they talk behind his back.

I feel isolated every time I walk to the shops to buy things as I feel that people are beginning to associate me with him. But I don’t drink, I go to a first tier university and I study hard for my grades.

Every time he does this, I feel like I take a step back from him. Like I don’t really know him, I feel pity for him, saddened and sometimes (dare I say) hatred for what he puts my mum through.

What can I do?
Any advice will help.

Would having a drink because you want to negate negative emotions alcohol abuse if you do it once and never again?
Would holding down a job and never getting drunk, yet drinking every night count as alcohol abuse?

I think my neighbor is an alcoholic…her kids eat every day at my mom’s house!

Mom does drink and drives, only works part time and lives on ex husbands child support.
Ok a lot of people tryed to help her, even her ex husbend and still trying he dont drink,has a son in jail for killing a little girl,drinking and driving,,,,she is a bad person,child portection was even involved,and made things worst,she fooled them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!