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In the past two years I have lost my father, underwent an enormous home renovation while living there, had a breast cancer scare, lost my year old granddaugther when her mother abruptly moved away with her, put my son through drug rehab for cocaine addiction, lost my job of 9 years and am now looking for a new one, my second son decided to live with his father, I will be turning 50 next week and my husband and I are separated because he feels I haven’t been there for him. My extended family all lives 1200 miles away and my few friends I have locally are married with busy lives of their own. I feel so alone and depressed. I don’t know how to handle all of this. I cry all the time despite the fact that I exercise regularly and eat healthfully. I go to church but dont know how to fit in. It seems no one really needs friends but me. I’m certain there are others out there who do, but I don’t know how to find them. Any help or advice would be appreciated.

My husband’s mom left him and his dad when he was 12 for another woman. She came in and out of his life many a time- most of the time on drugs or she was drunk. In February 2008, ( we were NOT married at the time) his father passed away and we both went to the funeral in SC (we live in FL). His mother was at the funeral and since he needed to be around family he let the past problems go. After the funeral she got drunk and it was not pretty. In May 2008 we got married. We couldn’t find her to send her an invitation (my husband said he had gone through many years of not knowing where she was-she didn’t keep in contact). We now live in a small 2 bedroom apartment and I am due with a baby girl any day now. One of those rooms is ours and the other is the baby’s. His mother has recently written us, telling us that she is in rehab for drugs and alcohol. She says she is attending classes to help with these problems. She also is asking to come visit us- “you should invite me down there” as her last letter said. At this point, we want her to continue rehab and we would like for her to visit but we do not have the money for traveling expenses or a place for her to stay. How can we tell her nicely that we can’t have her stay with us unless she pays for it herself and stays in a hotel?
She knows about baby. One other reason we don’t want her to stay is because she smokes and we don’t and she tends not to care (she smoked around my husband’s cousin who was 1 at the time even after she as asked not to. They had to hide her cigs.

I am a 19 year old male who lives in chicago ill, i live alone and has lost both my mother and father to drugs. and i am struggleing with a serious marajuana addiction myself, i smoke daily and is in serious need of help, i really want to go to rehab but i will not be able to pay my rent if i do go, my question is are there any grants or money out there that will help me with my rent while im in drug recovery…

My sister is a drug addict and has been in trouble off and on all her life. She lives with my mother and her behavior, attitude and actions are killing her. she was arrested AGAIN Christmas Day. She has done the drug rehab thing twice; it never sticks with her. My brother and I are doing everything in our power to make sure she serves time this time around. Is that cruel? We love her but she is way out of control and our mother is paying the price for it.

My younger brother is 20. He has been in rehab twice for drug/alcohol problems. At one point he was taking 30+ Xanax ‘bars’ a day until we got him into a program and detoxed.

Every time he gets out of rehab, he eventually goes out and gets his ‘fix’ again and gets hooked.

He even moved 2,000 miles away for a while to live with my Mother in CA. He did not know a soul there and still managed to find dope.

I think the reason he has such a hard time giving everything up is because he also has antisocial personality disorder. He seems to have no regard for other people’s feelings. He is very impulsive and a terrific liar and con. He plays on our (his family’s) emotions because he knows we want him to get help and always want to believe he is getting better….and then he will steal from us right under our nose.

I have been reading about antisocial personality disorder and know that the treatment of the disorder must be done first. He needs real behavior modification therapy to improve decision making skills. He could also use a mood stabilizer to help manage anger issues.

I guess what I would like to know is….how do you talk to someone about this disorder who has such blatant disregard for other people’s rights/feelings and even his own well being? How do you talk to someone who is virtually impossible to communicate with? How do you talk to someone who only indulges in conversation when there is some hidden motive to get something he wants?

How do you make someone realize the need for therapy?

I have a friend who says it’s okay to buy her 16 year old daughter cigarettes. We live in Texas and the daughter recently got out of a drug rehab hospital and told her mother that basically the mother can buy her cigarettes or she’ll start using drugs again. The mother said it’s the lesser of two evils. I say it’s illegal, but she says it’s not because in Texas you can serve your minor alcohol in your presence. Anyone have any ideas on the law aspect? (Let’s stay away from the moral aspect for this question, please). I’ve looked online and haven’t had much luck to prove my case to her.
Thank you for all of your answers. From what I can gather, there is no law limiting the age at which someone can smoke, but have to be 18 to purchase. Anyone other than a parent, legal guardian or spouse can buy tobacco for the minor and the minor can only use it in front of the said legal buyer. If the minor is caught with tobacco w/out the legal buyer present, then all applicable fines, classes & restitution apply.
I meant to say the only ones who can legally purchase is the parent, legal guardian or spouse. Sorry for the confusion.

we are buying property from estate. have told a couple people to not come back to see nephew living in trailor on our property. trailor belongs to mother n law. don’t want to make her move it but do want these not so good people to stay off property. nephew just returned from drug rehab and these are his old runnin buddies. what can we do to keep them off our property? we have told them twice. do we have any legal means? it is becoming a constant battle

my mom is living in alabama at the moment and i live in texas. my sister has pretty much disowned her. she is a drug attict, she wants everyone to take care of her, and she is very manipulative, she is 56 yrs old. she makes up illnesses and gets doctors to prescribe her LARGE amounts of pills, and she smokes weed, right now she is on speed/meth too. i want to put her in a home, wether that be mental, old folks, or rehab i dont know. i think it would be good for everyone especially my mom. if i could do this they might be able to find out what is REALLY wrong with her, and get someone to rashon her the right medications, she would be taken care of, i would visit often, and it would benifit all of our mental health. she is incompitent to take care of herself. anyways how would i go about doing something like this? is it possible?how much would this cost? ect…? plz help! no rude answers.
o.k. ive got the name and number of her doctor. what questions do i need to ask him??

I’ve been divorced for 5 years, my ex was sleeping around.I originally got custody of my kids. At the final hearing of your divorce she got custody. Since then she has started doing drug went to rehab and been a walfare case. Idon’t make very much money, about 15,000 per year. I am currently attending college and next semster will have an assosiates degree. Overall I have around 100 semester hours. I have worked in the same place for 3 years and they’ve always work around school for me. I struggle finacally, I always pay my child support. I only see my kids one day a week but would like to take care of them forever. Has anyone been in a situation like this? Over the past year I have saved around 2,500 to take her to court. This will wipe out my savings but it’s what I’ve saved for. How hard is it to get custody,I want my kids to have a smooth transition, I think they would be better off not seeing her. They sometimes ask me not to be taken away from their mother, they are 5 and 7.

Before i can get to now i have to go back to my past and share what has already happened, which plays a major role in the present.

I lost my first baby to his father, i was using drugs but didn’t become physically addicted, until children services and the baby’s dad fought for custody, and i could handle the fight, i tried but they made me feel so horrible for doing drugs about 5 times during my pregnancy that i believed i didn’t deserve him and he was better off without me and it broke my heart. I fell into a deep depression and starting using Opiates, pain pills, everyday and Higher and higher dosage so i wouldn’t feel the pain of losing my son. Needless to say 2 years later i cant go more than 5 hour w/o having to do some how dosage of pain medicine else i get sick and after 15 hours im in full blown with drawls

I never meant for it to get so bad, but when the with drawls hit its so painful i cant take it and that scares me Lets just say for on-line purposes i have to do a very strong and addicting opulent 4-6 times a day and no longer get “the buzz” i dint want one, but i do it so im not sick.

I Just found out Im a lil over two months pregnant and im scared to death. I want this baby, but i don’t want to hurt him or her ,and want my son back, but im scared if i tell someone im a drug addict and need help that, their going to take the baby away from me, and i honestly could not go through that again, i have never felt so much heartache as i did when they took my son away from me, and children’s services were mean to me, my case worker favored the father, she didn’t want to help me and i wasn’t even physically addicted yet and look Wit they did.

Two failed at temps at rehab, but i want to get clean , i want to be better and live life the way i should and not have to resolve it around if im going to have pain medication or not and if not then i cant do it.

I want this baby, i want a second chance with my first baby, i want to be the good mother i always could of been. Im not a bad person ,just went down the wrong road and i cant find my way back.

This is a hard drug /opi/ pain killer to get off of , and even harder cuz im pregnant, but i want help and im scared their just say o another drug addicted mother how could she live with herself and take my baby and never help me.

I dont know who to call, where to go , or what to do, and i have no medical insurence , please someone i need some hard advice .

P.S- If you feel the need to say something horrible and awful to me dont, i have already said and thought them all to myself, but im speaking out now and i want/need someone to help me.

-LosT & ScAreD

Before i can get to now i have to go back to my past and share what has already happened, which plays a major role in the present.

I lost my first baby to his father, i was using drugs but didn’t become physically addicted, until children services and the baby’s dad fought for custody, and i could handle the fight, i tried but they made me feel so horrible for doing drugs about 5 times during my pregnancy that i believed i didn’t deserve him and he was better off without me and it broke my heart. I fell into a deep depression and starting using Opiates, pain pills, everyday and Higher and higher dosage so i wouldn’t feel the pain of losing my son. Needless to say 2 years later i cant go more than 5 hour w/o having to do some how dosage of pain medicine else i get sick and after 15 hours im in full blown with drawls

I never meant for it to get so bad, but when the with drawls hit its so painful i cant take it and that scares me Lets just say for on-line purposes i have to do a very strong and addicting opulent 4-6 times a day and no longer get “the buzz” i dint want one, but i do it so im not sick.

I Just found out Im a lil over two months pregnant and im scared to death. I want this baby, but i don’t want to hurt him or her ,and want my son back, but im scared if i tell someone im a drug addict and need help that, their going to take the baby away from me, and i honestly could not go through that again, i have never felt so much heartache as i did when they took my son away from me, and children’s services were mean to me, my case worker favored the father, she didn’t want to help me and i wasn’t even physically addicted yet and look Wit they did.

Two failed at temps at rehab, but i want to get clean , i want to be better and live life the way i should and not have to resolve it around if im going to have pain medication or not and if not then i cant do it.

I want this baby, i want a second chance with my first baby, i want to be the good mother i always could of been. Im not a bad person ,just went down the wrong road and i cant find my way back.

This is a hard drug /opi/ pain killer to get off of , and even harder cuz im pregnant, but i want help and im scared their just say o another drug addicted mother how could she live with herself and take my baby and never help me.

I dont know who to call, where to go , or what to do, and i have no medical insurence , please someone i need some hard advice .

P.S- If you feel the need to say something horrible and awful to me dont, i have already said and thought them all to myself, but im speaking out now and i want/need someone to help me.

-LosT & ScAreD

P.S- I think the reason i even started useingg drugs was to forget the pain and heartach i felt from the way men would treat me.I have been physically abused, emotionally abused and sexual abuse, i have gone through those with more than one guy, and more than one time my dad, the men i fall in love with./ My dad would hit me, i have had boyfriends choke and rape me, and the person i love now hits me and verbaly abuses me and he says it my fault cuz of my addiction,. Two days ago he punched me in my stomach , busted my lips and punched me in the sdide of my face/ The reason at that moment, i wanted to finish my toast before rushing to meet his dad somewhere.

When my husband was a child he grew up in a home filled with drugs. All kinds. His mother’s and step father’s drug of choice was speed/meth. His step father was abusive to my husband until the step father was caught hurting my husband ( who was o became only 13) and the step father was arrested. He used to find his mother’s drugs and pipes and flush them or break them, but eventually he became curious and tried himself. He became addicted. He was taken away from his mother at 15 and placed with his aunt. He became clean. We have been going out for years as teens. When we hit 20 we married. We had one baby girl and at that point he got a job that was graveyard shift. He fell back into drugs. He said it was due to stress and feeling that he needed to be able to stay up to work. I am a person who has lived a somewhat sheltered life, never done any drugs or drank or even had a cigarette so i didn’t see the subtle clues he was using again. I never thought he’d go back. When I did realize what was happening i left him and said he had to chose what life he wanted. Drugs or our family in one home. He quit. We moved away from his mom who still uses. I later had another baby, this time a boy. Soon after I caught him red handed using. This time i said he has to do more than promise me it wouldn’t happen again. I asked him to do out patient rehab and marriage counseling. As part of the rehab he cannot drink or do any drugs. He has slipped and drank 3 nights in less than 2 weeks. The meeting scheduled today he told me he was leaving to there but he went to his moms instead. I called his council er and found out he skipped class he admitted he went to his moms but swears he didn’t do anything but hang out. I don’t know what to do. I love him, he seems to want to stop, but weak willed, hes the father of my children. i asked him to leave for the night but what do i do next?

Though I respect the role of religion in recovery, I am worried about my friend’s new and extreme evangelical Christianity. He was heavily addicted to meth, went into a year long rehab in an evangelical Christian center, and has never been the same. When he got out, he spoke much of Christ. That was fine, since he found a guiding light, if you will. But he went back into the drugs. Now he’s been off of them again for a month. He’s broken up with the mother of his child, is convinced she’s possessed by demons, see’s thing in zealous and fanatical terms…I worry that he’s suffered permanent damage from the drug. He attributes certain psychological states to receiving the Holy Spirit (not that I don’t think that such experiences are unreal; rather, I think his is a sign of some extreme chemical imbalances).

Please, I’m not looking for any lecture on the way of God. I’m looking for some clues from someone with psychological knowledge who can point me in a direction to researc

I’ve basically been planning my mom’s death for 5 years. she’s a severe drug and alcohol abuser. I’m not looking for suggestions as to how to get her help, or what to say to make her change…because I’ve done absolutely everything. I’ve called the police on her, checked her into rehab clinics dozens of times, poured my heart out to her. She has lost both of her children (my sister and I) to child protective services and this has not done anything to make her stop. All I’m asking is for someone to help me find a way to cope with this feeling. This past weekend, she’s given off a real vibe that I’ve never seen before. Very disconnected from everyone, distant, and quiet while she usually makes a note of being outgoing and doing anything to cover up the fact that she’s a depressed drunk. She told her neighbour that her “days are numbered”…..how am I supposed to deal with this? I don’t live with her, so I can’t monitor her actions. Does anyone have any words of advice?

I’m kind of worried about my mother. She us to have an addiction to Meth she went to rehab for it about 9 years ago. And recently she has been acting as if she were high on some kind of drug. She does have a lot of health problems for which she takes medicine for. But I haven’t seen her act like this off of her medication.

She doesn’t sleep, Her eyes are blood shot red, She spends hours in the bathroom, She really isn’t acting herself lately.

What are you thoughts?

I had taken care of my Grandson for 19 months through the court and I need to know, if I should get outside legal advise. CPS told him @ birth because of his Mother drug expose and this is her 8 children within the CPS system. She been on drug for years and has been in and out of drug rehab and just lately she when AWOL from a program for 7 days and needs anger management direction. We are schedule for an hearing 9/2010 an I need to be prepare for this hearing. My Son’s is the Father of this child and she is putting him through pure hell.

Of course I am talking about the drug abuser who gave her three year old son weed and cocaine. The child tested positive for these drugs and the test showed long term use.

Why on earth would any American court allow this mother, even after rehab and ‘parenting classes’, to have her son back?

I believe a b*tch like this does not deserve to have any children at all!!!

What is going on with the “mothers” in today’s society? There have been so many cases of mothers and family memebers giving toddlers drugs and alcohol within this last year. The cases I’ve heard of are: the uncles who let there 2 and 4 year old nephews smoke weed; the mother that gave her two MONTH year old vodka; the baby found with meth in his system; and of course the current case above.

I pray for the safety of our children and I would like to know what the fck is up with these people!

My brother Michael commited suicide on August 2nd in 2002, His son’s second birthday. His son is still alive today and lives with my mother for his mother is a stripper and a drug addict who has hit rock bottom and is in rehab.
My mother had a heart attack after hearing that my brother’s death might not have been suicide.
Now, she drinks Vodka like crazy and makes my little sister make them for her. She yells at anyone who tries to help and last week, she was drunk for the entire week and locked my little sister out of the house.
She’s slowly going into depression, what can I do to help her or does this call for professinal help?
She has blamed me for being her drunk and I try to reason with her but she instists that I am to blame.
She also blames me for his death because I was there when it happened. I couldn’t stop him at all.
He had a gun, what was I supposed to do?
The little boy’s mother called him up Friday and told him she would take him to Chuckie E. Cheese’s and now it is Monday early morning and he show no emotion about it.

it is reported that lindsey lohan’s mother, while one famous daughter is in rehab after drug & alcohol problems are plastered all over the news, is going to have her own reality show on E! about managing her younger children & turning them into child stars. does anyone think that maybe this woman should not be raising these children???

I am 37 years old with 2 children and one on the way. Let me give you a bit of background…From the age of 12 – 16 my step father sexually abused me…my mother says after 10 years of counselling she was the victim and I am to blame ( she says I should not have worn bikinis to turn him on!!) It took years to get over but I did…with the help of drugs.( A couple of years ago I fell into a drug addiction (stupid…not proud) with Ecstasy.) I used it as a psychotherapy tool to release the hurt from my past but when it became a problem quickly got off!!! I told my mother at the time about my problem with Ecstasy hoping for support but instead was told I was the worst mother in the world. I never used around my kids…only when they were at Dad;s (joint custody). Oh yeah she told me I was a failure too when I left the Dad even though that had been the plan for 5 years. (He slept on the couch for 5 years straight!!!) I got married 2 years ago and just finished a 2 year Architectural Interior Design program.My husband and I had gotten clean, he got a great job, I got an education and we have a gorgeous house. My ex had been demanding for 6 months I give him joint custody and every second weekend off in the same breath or he would go to child services about my past drug use. I told him to go ahead. He had his girlfriend call me with the same threat. I told her to fuck off. In june I had a friend tell me my mother and my ex were going to try to take my kids away and put me in rehab. (My mother assumed I was still on drugs because I told her I had taken Jesus into my heart.) The day I finished school they called child services saying I was a drug addict, abused alcohol in front of the kids, emotionally abused my daughter and had mental health issues. None of these were true!!!! Child services bamboozled me into signing a “safety plan” while they “investigated” and then helped the ex get an ex parte granting him temporary sole custody. Child services had proof of 4 clean drug tests, 2 psychiatric evals saying Post traumatic stress disorder due to the sexual abuse and lots of letters validating my character (even one from my daughter’s teacher). The child protection worker lied to me repeatedly and lied to the judge on stand about many issues. I lost custody. The children are now pretty much home but I still don’t have custody returned. I find it appalling that child services, my ex and my mother would put my children and myself through such hell!!! I am now 25 weeks pregnant and have no intention of speaking to my mother ever again or letting her meet her third grandchild. I am left reeling that they would do this to our lives when we had made such great strides to make it. Any suggestions on how to get over the loss and pain and feelings of betrayal and abandonment?