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My dad spent 6 months in jail earlier this year and has twice been tested positive for crack by his P.O. in recent months. He’s been doing crack cocaine for 5 or 6 years. He pays for absolutely nothing (no mortgage, no food, no utilities, no insurance) and makes about $800 every two weeks on workers compensation. My mother makes the mortgage and all bills and makes about $70,000/year after taxes.

Since my dad has a very current drug record, will my mom be forced to pay alimony if they divorce?

The house and mortgage are both in my mothers name.

Any help and sources will be great.
Thanks for your answers…I’m 21 actually, we have no minor children in our household. It may be worth noting that my mother also pays a large portion of mine and my siblings tuition. We receive nothing from our father.

I’m 17 and my EX girlfriend Brooke overdosed on heroin this morning. She is in the hospital and is in pretty bad shape. I feel so bad i still love her we dated for 2 years and then broke up after i cheated on her and my son Joesph was born as a result of my one night stand. We broke up for awhile however we quickly got back together when she got pregnant. Drugs was always the biggest problem in our relationship. She was even using during her pregnancy She got an abortion without my knowledge because she was worried she wasn’t going to be a good mother and couldn’t kick drugs. I was pissed and we broke up again despite my love for her. I was shocked and scared by her OD i what should i do to help her i don’t want her to die?
i don’t do drugs

I seen this question on a talk show yesterday about a mom who adopted 6 children who were born drug or alcohol addicted ,she is trying to pass a law that these moms should be prosecuted NOT just DCF involved . do you agree? I think its child endangerment and they should be prosecuted I think smoking cigarettes also.

I’m 17 and my girlfriend who also is the mother of my child gave me an ultimatum either her or my EX girlfriend Brooke. She told me if i don’t choose her she will make sure i never see my son Joesph ever again. This is a long story but while we were still dating Brooke got caught with possession of marijuana cocaine and heroin. And she was sentenced to a year in jail. I promised her i would help her get clean once she got out. However i had a one night stand at a party and it resulted in Joesph’s birth in late September. Brooke got out of jail and freaked out when i told her about my affair and Joesph. I then caught her using drugs again i was pissed she told me she went back to drugs because i cheated on her. She told me my son was a “bastard child” and a worthless piece of shit as well as his mother was a no good whore. As much as that hurt me i still continued to date her. Until she forced me to make a decision between her and Joesph and i choose my son and we broke up. I started dating Joesph’s mom she was excited she is in love with me and wants to start a family plus she hated Brooke and refused to let her be around Joesph. We have been dating for a month and i don’t think were right for each other she seems more focused on getting us to be a couple sometimes then being a mother to Joesph. I don’t love her but I’m trying to learn how to love her. I want to love her and be with her but i still love Brooke. After we broke up she went into rehab to get clean and show how much she loves me by finally getting clean. I met with her at a rehab meeting and i had a hard time not kissing her or hugging her. She is really trying hard to clean and i felt proud and felt her pain at the same time. I’m torn i love Brooke and it finally seems like is getting her life back on track and she is making great sacrifices for us. On the other hand i wanna love Joesph’s mom she is a great mother and really loves but i just don’t feel about her the way i feel about Brooke and i don’t wanna lose Joesph she is the most important thing in my life. Who should i choose?

i have a brother that is a heroin addict for years now. recently hes complaining of itching all over and his room is filled with bed mites. my mother and i dont know if its true. my father thinks its that he got a hold of something that he injected and is giving him an allergic reaction. i dont know anything about this drug and neither does my mother so i am lost. please dont judge i am just trying to help my brother.
thank you so much to everyone who answered. i also forgot to include he already has the worst HEP there is, and he already has a bad liver. thank you so much for not judging.

I am addicted to teen mom and I am 24 years old and I think its so lame that I watch it, but I can not stop watching it and feeling bad for the mothers on the show.
So, what stupid reality show are you addicted to? And why?

My mom is addicted to Norco and Xanax. She desperately wants to get off, but all these detox programs in our area cost thousands of dollars we don’t have. She is currently living off of SSI and I am a full time college student. Is there some way we could do this cheaply or for free? Are there any charities out there that do this kind of thing for people? She’s been addicted for over five years and her health is starting to deteriorate as a result. She’s tried cold turkey, as well as every relevant phone number in the book (including local churches). It seems like we’ve exhausted every possible option we know of. Any suggestions?
I live in northern California, San Fransisco Bay Area

My brother is the worst sort of person. He is a pill popper and a heroin addict who does it in the worst way. He has periodically gotten tickets for stupid stuff including marijuana and stealing scrap metal from a construction site. Now my mother has tried to help him understandably, but he left to go to my fathers house without saying anything which hurt my little sister and mother very much. B/c he is family! The last two times he has visited b/c my fathers does try and a teach the 25 y/o responsibility which he hates because of his vices’. The first time he disappeared for like a day or two and took my little sister to the store and came back in three hours. When questioned to where they went they said to the store. But my sister later admitted to going to a place where she had never been in the city and we believe to buy the junk. The second time he visited he not only disappeared, but during the week took my mothers car in the middle of the night to buy. He also hurt my mother trying to take the keys to do it again and she had to call me from work to stop the punk! I obviously don’t like him now ! But now she permanently wants to bring him back to try and sort him out. My mother had to buy me a safe my b-day and had to previously had to buy door locks to protect the homes valuables! Well, sorry about the grammar and I love my mother b/c she has helpped out the family and I do my best to help out too. I just don’t think he is very good to have around for n e 1. I’m not trying to be the person to stop helping him. I just want to enable him to keep using and abusing those who try and love him.

She showed up at my sons birhtday party strung out.
I know the it’s not the child’s fault and she is a very well behaved and well mannered, but I am affaid that something may happen if her mother shows up to my house while she is high.
My kids do not go over to her house at all unless we are picking up the child and then either me or my husband are with them the whole time.

my friend is addicted what should i do….i am wondering if i should tell his mom so we can do something serious but idk what to do any suggestions?

My sister is 18, since she was 11 she has been a nightmare, kicked out of school at 12, in trouble with the police for selling drugs and attacking police officers at 13 sent to a special school for bad kids, in foster care as she lied and said my mum was horrible to her. When she was 17 she got on heroin. She Then came off it about 4 months later with help of pills. She then said she had changed and was stupid blah blah blah. Anyway i now find out from my mum she is back on it. I cant help but hating her so much, i have no sympathy and dont feel sorry for her in anyway. She used all the excuses such as i wanted to try it last time but for me, they dont work again. My poor mother is going out of her mind, she isnt sleeping and to make matters worse she is due to go on holiday for the first time in 5 years next week. She is thinking about cancelling now. I absolutely despise my sister for what she is doing. Im bored of her “No one loves me” and “you dont understand” stories How do i cope with this and help my mum cope? I live abroad which doesn’t help. To me she is just a selfish, attention seeking nobody. It may sound harsh to a lot of you but unless you have been in the same situation then please don’t bother judging!! I just need some advice please.
She is too selfish and self absorbed to admit she has an addiction. To her its “oh we dont understand” or ” oh we dont know what she is going through”. My mum isnt strong enough to just cut her off until she realises she is hurting everyone around her. All her boyfriends are junkies who sell heroin for a living. She is a lost cause as far as im concerned. Rehab isnt for her as she is too lazy to go and the doctors wont send her. As far as im concerned she is dead already. I know it sounds terrible and i hate saying it but the way i see it is that if she wasn’t my sister i would feel the same, so why feel different because she is family? She has done nothing but cause my family grief since about the age of 12, and i wouldnt accept that from a stranger so why accept it from an attention seeking, immature child?

Also to me its not an addiction, especially not twice, its a way of life. And thats the life she chooses to live. I just wish my mum would feel the same way.

My mother died four years ago today, I was 16 at the time. She had issues with alcohol and was addicted to painkillers, in the end this pretty much destroyed her marriage, her relationship with her children and her life.

She was sick constantly for about 6 years before she died and two months before she did I was living with her but I couldn’t take looking after her anymore, it all got too much after 16 years and I left home, she was out of it pretty much all the time on alcohol and pills and I just couldn’t handle watching her kill herself anymore.

We got into a fight right before I left, I said a lot of hurtful things that had been building up inside of me for 16 years, I told her that I hated her and that she was a terrible mother, and I meant it.
I can still remember the hurt on her face as I screamed at her, then I packed my bags and walked straight out never looking at her once.

That was the last time I saw her conscious, the next time was in hospital right before she died.
As today is the anniversary, I keep playing that moment over and over again in my head, the look on her face as I told her I hated her, my one last chance to tell her that I loved her and that I would come back home if she decided to get better. My once last chance to touch her, to hug her.

I feel like I killed her, I feel like when I left she had nothing left to live for and gave up on life, because of me, because she thought I didn’t love her anymore. At the time I didn’t, I hated her guts, I thought she ruined my life. It’s taken me four years to realize that I did love her, but I don’t know if I’ve forgiven her…I don’t know what I feel towards her anymore. I just know that I would give anything in the world to see her again, to talk to her, to work things out. But I can’t see her ever again, I can’t ever resolve this, and its killing me.

How do I get over this? because I don’t feel right now like I ever will, I don’t want to be forever looking backwards my whole life? help?

my mom had to go to the hospital late last night because she’s stupid and won’t take care of herself amd won’t go to the dr. unless she thinks she’s dying which led my little sister having to spend the night over at my house….

A long time ago, my mom was addicted to drugs such as pot and meth and other illegals… and this morning when I saw her again, she said they told her she has a tumor in her leg and possibly cancer in her throat…..

could those be from some drugs she consumed a couple years back? she hasn’t been on them for 2-3 years but I know they’re bad for anyone…. I just don’t want her graduation present for me to be death or something like it… I’m only graduating in less than a month from high school…

I know it is a stupid question but I got to ask. My boyfriend told me yesterday that he tried heroin the night before and was like “I’m never doing that again.” I was really shocked that he did it, but since he said he was never going to do it again I tried to feel at ease about it to the best of my ability. I had my doubts that he would only do it that one time and boy was I right..
We hung out last night after he had hung out with one of his friends. He seemed– odd. I asked him right away if he had taken any sort of drugs and he was like “No.” Shortly thereafter I asked him again and he said “I only smoked pot. That’s why I seem fucked up.” About an hour later he randomly decided to just blurt out “I did heroin again.” I was so upset with him…
To make a long story short, I’m seriously afraid that he is going to get addicted and I don’t know what to do. He got addicted to pot and I know of people in my family who have done heroin and screwed up their entire life. I don’t want to see him going down a really bad path. He already has enough problems. Should I tell his parents about it? (He is only 19.) I know his mother would be heart broken if I told her, but I’m trying to look out for my boyfriend’s best interest. Please if you can give any serious advice I would appreciate it very much. This is a serious matter.

She showed up at my sons birhtday party strung out.
I know the it’s not the child’s fault and she is a very well behaved and well mannered, but I am affaid that something may happen if her mother shows up to my house while she is high.
My kids do not go over to her house at all unless we are picking up the child and then either me or my husband are with them the whole time.

so i’ve been taking this drug, it’s a prescription drug [wasn't perscribed to me] and it has opium in it. it’s oxycodone or something like that. i only did it a few times, until i got to the point of running out, but there wasn’t way to much of this stuff in the medicine bottle.

i was snorting/sniffing how ever you wanna say it, this drug, and now i think i’m addicted.

i heard if you’re addicted and haven’t had it in so long you’ll get sick a throw-up and shit. and i’m feeling sick. also someone told me you’ll go on “the nod” or something like that and you’ll kinda fall asleep on a on and off again kinda thing. well i’m doing both. and i feel like i need it.

oh sh*t, i think i’m addicted. i can’t get ahold of it anymore.

i’m not gonna tell anyone about it or they’ll all freak. my mom has been trying to get me outa the house since who knows when, so i not really sure what to do.

anyone have any advice on how to help me out.

other than, go to rehab [lol], cause I DON’T CARE [not yelling there just wanting people to know that] what you say, i really don’t. i’m not going cause i’m not going to listen.

so like i said, anyone know what i should do??
it’s not oxycotin, it’s oxycodone. but they’re pretty similar and you can overdose on both.

He jokes around a lot about a lot of things, but this is the only thing that really worries me.

I know he used to do heroin when he was a kid, but he quit. he didn’t go to any fancy rehab, or anything, he said he just straight up quit it, that’s what he always told my mother.

He is kind of sick. He has emphysema (won’t quit smoking), glaucoma (just got a cornea transplant and is starting to gain back his sight), and some problem with his kidneys.

I’m 16 and I see him once a week, because that’s all my mother allows me to spend with him, because of his record, and such.

I just don’t know what to do. Sometimes I feel like I’m the adult, and he’s the child.

My mother is in a nursing home with dementia and won’t be back. My husband and I moved in with him to try and get him caught up but he is in thousands of dollars in debt. He has two pending foreclosures on the house and there is a lien on it from the state. He is telling everyone that its my fault he is losing the house when all he does is drink and do crack everyday. My husband and I both have full time jobs. Is it wrong to feel that I need to worry about where my husband and I are going and NOT my brother who could care less about us?

OK, so my wife and I have been married for 15 years. We have a 14 year old boy and a 12 year old girl… Well about two years ago, my wife began doing heroin. Now, she is not a full blown addict and still gets the house work done, and still is a good mother… She is essentially just chipping…

Now our children don’t really know, although the oldest may suspect… My wife and I both teach them, not to do drugs…

Well being that it was her b-day, I had my two children chip in, and told them that I was taking mom to an all day spa… Well instead, I figured she would enjoy it much more, I could arrange for a day to get her “fix.”

So I took her to the local heroin den, and paid the guy enough money to keep her high all day… She of course loved it… And no one was none the wiser.

I mean when she came home she threw up a few times and fell asleep during dinner, but we told the kids it was part of the spa treamtment.

Now her mother, had suspected what had happend, got mad and left during dinner, causing this big scene… Upsetting her daughter and her grandchildren… Frankly I don’t think that she is a fit influence for the kids! If I gave my wife enough “junk” do you think she would side with me and get her mother out of our lives?

My husband and I won custody of my stepdaughter 2 years ago. Recently my stepdaughters mother lives with her current boyfriend w/child # 4 on the way. They have fights that the police have to come to their house. We didn’t know about this till 2 weekends ago when SD came home and told us the cops came cause her mom and bf were fighting physcially in front of kids. He grabbed her moms arm, she hit his head, etc. Apparently this is the 4th or 5th time cops came for domestic violence in the last 2 months, we just learned all this. Her mom says he was addicted to pills, and she got his doctor to switch his prescription and they are going to therapy now so everything should be all good again. Well she comes to get her Friday as this weekend is hers. Do we have any right to keep her from going somewhere we DO NOT feel safe for her to go? What if it does happen again & they both go to jail, does my SD goto CPS custody or will we get called to come get her?
We will violate court order if we don’t let her go, we know this. Just wondered if there is anything we can do in a situation thats bad, physcially and emotionally? Or do we have to wait till something bad happens, cause we want to avoid that at all costs!
WE HAVE CUSTODY! We won custody 2 years ago from her mother thru the court system. This is just her weekend to visit her per the court ordered agreement, TX standard visitation agreement.