We will help you get your mom off drugs!

He lost his cusines to foster care , his drug addict mom came back into his life and then in feburary of 07 his dad (who is biologicaly his grandfather) died. I know he is not a bad kid. The life he has had would be hard for an adult to cope with . he is doing what he feels he has to to survive. I need to know how to help him .there is alot more to his story i could right a novel . but any suggestions would help and please dont condem him . thats part of the reason he is where he is now .
he was not born to be bad
my parents adopted him from my sister they have had him since birth his real dad wants nothing to do with him

I need to know what u guys think about the guys that I have chosen my characters to look like. Here are descriptions:

@Daniel-Has never been social, only child, his parents never fight in front of him, he has a really good life. His dad writes romantic poetry, so Daniel wants to find his “true love”. He has had dreams of a girl, scenes of what she does a few days at school or on weekends, and he really wants to find her. Hes kinda sensitive, he wants to help the girl, and he pays the bills to own a house for him, his adopted siblings (Hailey and Andrew), and his girlfriend (which is the girl from his dreams).

@Scott-Is the best friend to Daniel’s gf (has been for several years). He secretly loves her, but loves her enough to not rush her. His main priority is to keep her safe, safe from people such as his fraternal twin brother, Law (the girl’s ex that had abused her). Scott lives with Law, and his drug addict mom that never talks to them, and is always out. Scott is the good twin, and Law is the bad twin, in a perspective. Eventually, his best friend leaves him, and he becomes depressed. I want him to be cute/hot because I want readers to either like Daniel, or Scott.

@Law-He cares for no one. Has no respect for anyone. He is abusive. He gets into lots of trouble. He doesnt care about the law. His full name is Lawrence, but no one calls him that. He needs to be hot at least, because a lot of girls are willing to do anything to be with him.

OK, here are the pictures!

Daniel-

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Scott-

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Law-

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My fiancee still wipes his 8 year olds butt and thinks he should still be sleeping with us. I honestly thought the little boy was afraid to be alone I didn’t realize he still needed his but wiped when he used the bathroom. Grandma does this too. This kid yells for them to come to the bathroom and wipe his but. I told my fiancee when we moved in together I was not sleeping in the same bed with him because a lawyer advised against it in case allegations would be made by his drug addict mom if she came back. My fiancee sleeps with him now and not me. I think they are hurting his independence. I am pregnant and I think these people have some screwed up parenting going on and I am worried. Isn’t 8 too old to need your but wiped? Shouldn’t he be sleeping in his own room? I was a daycare worker and I have noticed some red flags in this little boy for serious problems and I think these people are making them worse. Do you have any advice?

My husband has 2 daughters: one 24 years old and the other one 17. The old one works and lives with her boyfriend. The younger lives with us and dropped School and it is not working. My husband feels constantly worried for his daughters due to his ex-wife is very irresponsible. She is a prescription drug addicted and collects disability. She always has financial problems and manipulates their daughters to get money from my husband. For example she gets problems with bills, obligates her older daughter to give her money and then the older daughter comes complaining to my husband. So, finally my husband ends paying his ex-wife bills. On Christmas he gave big extra money to his girls to buy gifts for their mom and friends. My step-daughters are old enough to buy the gifts with their own money. I understand buying Christmas gifts for his daughters but giving them money to buy gifts for others. It was not making much sense to me. My husband looks worried to lose their daughters if he doesn’t help their mother. Lately he asked his ex-wife to go to a rehab and he will help her with a place where to live. I feel like he feels guilty and obligated with her. I mentioned him that his ex-wife has a big family that she sees every weekend and has sisters. Her family should help her, not him. He answers ‘her family won’t help her’. I feel like he doesn’t understand the line. He has a big debt and we shouldn’t be getting into more bills. I feel like he needs to make understand his daughters that he doesn’t have any obligation with their mom. My husband’s ex-wife cheated him in the past and they are divorced for almost 10 years. I believe he loves me deeply but I feel that he doesn’t know how to handle the boundaries and he puts constantly his daughters in the middle. I love my step-daughters but they should be more responsible. Just in case we don’t have kids together. Please, give me your inputs and I would like to know what you think about my situation. Thank you.

1. Categorize these names into different groups ) such as white trash, ghetto, goth, hippy, rich girl, granny, etc).
- Bliss
- Jayden
- Alyssa
- Amelie
- Daisy

2. If you could name these characters for a book, what would you name them? Please put first and last name.
- Goth girl who is getting abused at home with a drug addict mom. Secretly wants to escape. Everyone at school thinks she is the typical goth girl but no one knows about the sadness in her life.
- Guy who is dating most popular girl but secretly likes goth girl because he thinks she is ” mysterious”.
- Popular girl dating character 2, but secretly cheating on her with another guy whose at another high school.

3. What house hold item would you use to name your kid if you had to chose.
4. What would your stage name be?
5. Which fashion designer’s name do you like the best?

Star if you like my question- I might do them every day depending on the response.

My husband has 2 daughters: one 24 years old and the other one 17. The old one works and lives with her boyfriend. The younger lives with us and dropped School and it is not working. My husband feels constantly worried for his daughters due to his ex-wife is very irresponsible. She is a prescription drug addicted and collects disability. She always has financial problems and manipulates their daughters to get money from my husband. For example she gets problems with bills, obligates her older daughter to give her money and then the older daughter comes complaining to my husband. So, finally my husband ends paying his ex-wife bills. On Christmas he gave big extra money to his girls to buy gifts for their mom and friends. My step-daughters are old enough to buy the gifts with their own money. I understand buying Christmas gifts for his daughters but giving them money to buy gifts for others. It was not making much sense to me. My husband looks worried to lose their daughters if he doesn’t help their mother. Lately he asked his ex-wife to go to a rehab and he will help her with a place where to live. I feel like he feels guilty and obligated with her. I mentioned him that his ex-wife has a big family that she sees every weekend and has sisters. Her family should help her, not him. He answers ‘her family won’t help her’. I feel like he doesn’t understand the line. He has a big debt and we shouldn’t be getting into more bills. I feel like he needs to make understand his daughters that he doesn’t have any obligation with their mom. My husband’s ex-wife cheated him in the past and they are divorced for almost 10 years. I believe he loves me deeply but I feel that he doesn’t know how to handle the boundaries and he puts constantly his daughters in the middle. I love my step-daughters but they should be more responsible. Just in case we don’t have kids together. Please, give me your inputs and I would like to know what you think about my situation. Thank you.

girls who are slutty and sleep around a lot want attention from guys right? i have never felt the need to want attention like that from guys and i think it is because i feel very loved by my whole family even though my family is split up, my dad always made sure he gave me lots of attention and made me feel loved in a very fatherly way. now my friend who grew up in a tough home with a drug addict mom and no dad feels she needs a guy to be complete.
does this have something to do with having no father? or having that fatherly figure in her life that she feels she needs attention from boys to fill that void?

frankly i am just so tired of my drug addict mom, my super religious uncle who forces us to go to church even though we dont want because he does not really show genuine care, i also hate my grandmother who loves money too much, i basically hate them all, and i feel stressed when i am around them, however, i still live in the same city, even though i already moved out and now have my own job and pay all my bills, my sister still has a contact with me, she tends to tell me things regarding my family and how they want to talk to me and see me, well i no longer want that, i am planning to set up a new life, i am about to get married with a wonderful man who has kind parents, and i really dont want to invite any of my family, however, there are times when i am being asked where is my family, i just want to be a new person and not see them forever, i just stopped hating them i just dont care anymore.

If you have been thorough this but never got help:

12- parents divorced
14- first love killed himself
15-grandfather died of skin cancer
15-step-dad committed suicide
17-close friend dies in drunk driving accident
19- very close friend dies on xmas eve from someone runnin redlight
17-23 was verbally/physically abused by b/f
Brother is a drug addict
Mom has horrible anxiety and work-a-holic

I am sad alll the time. I just want to be able to smile. I wonder why I am so sad, and think maybe I should face all these things? i am almost 25.
I think I am bi-polar. Should I of gotten help a long time ago? Or does everyone go through this and i am just complaining?

First off: This book is written in first person, by Tim, a moody metal head. It is written very realisticaly, no romanticism. It is also based off of the song “Swing Life Away” by Rise Against.
He feels like his life is going nowhere. He thinks he will be living with his drug addict mom and step dad and promiscuous half sister, in a 12×12 section of the basement working at the music shop for minimum wage.

He is in love with this girl, Lanelle. She’s bright and optimistic. She calls him her “good luck charm” because he saved her life a while back. They all hang out in the same group, but one days she invites him over her house.

The whole thing goes on, and Lanelle has a boyfriend. He’s sort of a jerk. Sebby guilted her into having sex with him, and she regrets it. She wants to break up with him, but swears he will kill her and Tim if she does. She winds up cheating on him. Sebby finds out and beats Tim very badly.

Tim stays away from Lanelle for a while, but they eventually start hanging out again. Just talking. They had a lot more in common than they thought. Lanelle eventually gets the courage to break up with Sebby. That night, she’s in the car with Tim. Sebby “accidentally” hits their car with his. He’s fine, Tim is fine, but Lanelle falls into a concussion. She get’s better, but finds out she has cancer. On top of that, she is pregnant, from Sebby.

In the end, she dies. Her last words at “I love you” to Tim. It was Valentines Day, They don’t know why she dies. The cancer was curable, the baby was still alive, surprisingly. But, they’re dead.

Tim tries to kill himself. He tries to jump in front of the train, but his best friend stops him. He makes him realize that Lanelle brought a lot of hope and beauty into his life. He realizes that Lanelle would want him to continue living, and better himself. It ends pretty openly. Maybe he changes, maybe he doesn’t.

What do you think? Should I change anything?
I’ve never read a walk to remember.
But I probably didn’t explain the book well enough. It’s really not as cliche as you guys are making it out to seem.
It is brutally realistic, and it shows a lot of the bad side of Staten Island. The age group is 18-20.
I should have added a lot more detail to that I suppose :/

He wants to get joint custody because I do not want my daughter around his drug addicted family! His mom was a bad heroine addict back in the day, she was in jail/out of jail, has warrants out the wazoo and is now on methadone. She is a nice lady but falls asleep like that. I remember when my daughter was born she was about 4 hours old and his mom was falling asleep almost dropped my daughter. His older sister is in and out of jail steeling things and is on drugs very bad. Has three kids who were born off drugs. Just a whole bad scene. It’s unfair to me not to know what going on my my daughter. Yes he is a great dad..i would never keep her from him. He sees her All the time everyday he is at my house. He wants his mom to watch her etc. (b/c she wants to be with my daughter) So he wants joint custody. We have no agreement through court right now. I have my daughter more since he lives with his mom until he finds a job. If we go to court will i have to pay him? I don’t make a lot, i’m not living off minium wage or the state.. i’m just your average class woman working and paying bills. When he did work he made more than me and never paid me a penny not that i ever asked but still. People are just saying ill have to pay him..How is this fair?? He gives his family money for cigarettes gas..etc etc.. i don’t want my money given to them? ugghh what can i do? Maybe Im selfish.. But i just don’t want my daughter growing up in that environment.

i’m 17 years old. my family life has always been messed up – drug addict mom who left when i was young and my dad never really helped me get through that stuff. i saw a lot of scary stuff growing up and i was very depressed/suicidal in junior high. these past few years i’ve finally pushed it behind me and am the happiest i’ve been in a long time. however my dad told me he will get laid off soon and we’ll have to move far away. i don’t want to leave my friends my senior year or my mom who is now stable and has a family of her own. my dad is never around anyway, he is literally out of town for work at least every other week leaving me alone since my sister is in college. i just feel so lonely and i’m scared that i’ll have to move, which would suck because my friends are the only people helping me deal with stress from basically living without a parent most of the year. i try telling my dad i am sad he’s never around but he just says he has to work to support us. i understand that but it’s so hard..what can i do??
I’m glad to know i’m not the only one. that makes me feel like i’m not alone! thanks for your encouragement.

and just to clarify to the other poster, i am not christian – but the religion i follow helped me tremendously in becoming happy in the first place. i guess i’ve just been so stressed with everything that i’ve overlooked that. and your answer helped me realize i should let my religion help me again – so thanks!

i am going to leave for france before my ex will give birth.i am not flying back for it and since she is a drug addict she is probably a whore too.

would my mom or sisters be able to take a paternity test in order to see if the kid is even mine?

Let’s start with I live in a crappy row house that always gets water bugs & stuff always dirty (im the only one that cleans) Its packed with my grandparents,aunt,aunts bf,baby on the way,cousin,2 dogs,bird,& 2 friends of my grandparents that use our house as a flop house & me (3 bedroom house 1 bathroom). Im so tired of living in a crappy place but i dont have much choices. i get screwed from all angles because everywhere i pick im hurting myself or someone else. im not supposed to move till highschool but i cant wait any longer. my other choices are my overprotective aunt & uncle,drug addict mom & old woman grandmom (no offence to either),or where i am now. im always getting yelled at & told wat to do & my dreams are being crushed by the choices of my family. how do i bring it up that i want to leave without hurting anyone,where should i go & to make it better technically i dont belong to anyone considering half custody is nothing when my moms out of jail. please help?!!

Dad is an alcoholic and drug addict, mom is never home, get beat up at school, watched dad nearly kill my mom, got strangled by him, only time I’m still alive is my boyfriend and he’s going to base camp over the summer and I have a bad feeling about when he does go to the army he’s going to die and my feelings are usually right so what should I do to calm myself down, he said that once he’s done in the army we’ll never leave each other again
Can’t afford a therapist, I’m poor, barely have any groceries in the fridge even

He wants to get joint custody because I do not want my daughter around his drug addicted family! His mom was a bad heroine addict back in the day, she was in jail/out of jail, has warrants out the wazoo and is now on methadone. She is a nice lady but falls asleep like that. I remember when my daughter was born she was about 4 hours old and his mom was falling asleep almost dropped my daughter. His older sister is in and out of jail steeling things and is on drugs very bad. Has three kids who were born off drugs. Just a whole bad scene. It’s unfair to me not to know what going on my my daughter. Yes he is a great dad..i would never keep her from him. He sees her All the time everyday he is at my house. He gives money when he needs to .. food. clothes.. etc. He wants his mom to watch her etc. (b/c she wants to be with my daughter) So he wants joint custody. We have no agreement through court right now. I have my daughter more since he lives with his mom until he finds a job. If we go to court will i have to pay him? I don’t make a lot, i’m not living off minium wage or the state.. i’m just your average class woman working and paying bills. When he did work he made more than me and never paid me a penny not that i ever asked but still. People are just saying ill have to pay him..How is this fair?? He gives his family money for cigarettes gas..etc etc.. i don’t want my money given to them? ugghh what can i do? Maybe Im selfish.. But i just don’t want my daughter growing up in that environment. If he gets his own house i know he will make sure nothing happens to her, i’m always scared his mom will come over then he will take a nap or walk whatever, & she’ll get her shining moment to “babysit”

Both my mom and my neighbor having been hinting for the past two years how I should try to I guess be a mentor for my neighbor’s 15 year old granddaughter. She’s completely disrespectful to her grandma and constantly talks about how she wants to live with her drug addict mom simply since she buys her things. She also now goes to Cyber school and only hangs out with like 2 girls who are a bad influence.
I’m 21 and I have known this girl since she was in diapers. But because of the age difference we never played together and now just have nothing in common. A few times I’ve tried to befriend her so she had someone to talk to, but it’s hard because we really have nothing to talk about and no reason to hang out.
So I’m thinking of getting her a little gift. I know what teens like (I mean I’m only 21, I still like the same things) but I’m not sure what I can get her that she’ll like and think is cool and that might give us another bonding chance. It also can not be a lot of money, I really have like no extra cash so the cheaper the better. My only idea so far was victoria’s secret bath stuff but I don’t know what she would like of that.

My wife left me after I basiclly too care of her for 9 years. She didnt have to work and her crazy drug addict mom leached off of us and lived with us the whole time. Which started many ongoing arguments. I am aware that taking care of someone isnt love and I never made her feel that way, it was alwaysa partnership and I kind of think now that may have been my bad.
But anyways she left with our two kids and has been “living the single Las Vegas life”, she started right off the bat. I was torn up for 3 months and then moved on to dating other woman. We constantly faught on the phone, I paid more child support than I was supposed to even when I wasnt obligated to.
But now as of about 10 days ago, she calls to chit chat with me. Wants to go to dinner with me and everything. Then Friday she came over to pick up some money and she asks me to spend the night with her, so I did.
She says she wants to take it slow, which I never indicated that I wanted to be back together. I do of course because I love her with all my heart. But she really messed with my pockets, my brain and my heart. Slept with other people (1 that I know of) but shes been on a big drug and alcohol binge lately, but the sky is the limit.
I believe I can forgive her, I am certain of it. But am I a jackass or what?
Weve been apart for 7 months
She attempted to work but felt no urgency to be responsable. So she would just get fired. She says she missed out on her youth because we were married with children so young. I was 20 and she was 19

I grew up in an odd way. My dad was an alcoholic and drug addict. My mom was as well, but not nearly as bad as my dad. Whenever my dad smoked marijuana, life was great. However, he never just smoked marijuana…he got drunk most nights and he was a very violent drunk. When he mixed his alcohol with pills, he was dangerous. When I was little, my stomach hurt me all the time because it was always in knots from stress.

My dad was a good man…he was just messed up. He played guitar, sang, painted, wrote poetry and so forth. He lived a rock star life in a small town. When I was 11, my mom divorced my dad and ran off with a man worse than my dad (my dad had been in jail countless times, but they were all misdemeanors…this man had been in jail for shit like rape). I stayed with my mom for a while, but when her boyfriend hit me I left. I lived with my dad in a 1 room trailer that had no water, electricity, heat or anything. We had 1 piece of furniture…a love seat in which most nights my dad was passed out on, so I slept on the floor. We had a kerosine heater that cooked our food and kept us warm. We had cement blocks stacked up out back that we could do our “business” on. Despite everything that was bad, I was happy. Sure, my dad put me through hell…but, he was my dad and I loved him.

When I was 13 my dad left me. I moved in with my mamaw. My dad had moved about an hour and a half away…we know because the hospital in his new town had to call us several times because he was a regular patient (he got the crap beat out of him a lot apparently..but he didn’t feel or remember anything because he would be drunk). That’s all I’m going to say about that time in his life, because I can’t stand to think about it.

When I was 14, my dad died of a drug overdose. My heart became broken beyond repair it seems. For a year after he died, I didn’t leave my room except to go to school…and I’m not exaggerating. I didn’t leave the house for anything…well, around Christmas time I did go to the store to buy my grandparents presents. But that was it.

I wanted to die. I contemplated suicide every day…I even had a suicide not. However, I never acted…I was too afraid of what would happen afterward. I was like that for 3 years. In the past year, I’ve improved some. I’m still not happy, but I don’t hide in my room anymore. Sure, every other day I want to tell the world to f*ck off and go listen to Pink Floyd…but I don’t. Will I get better? Or am I forever screwed up?

I can’t afford to see a psychiatrist so I’m hoping some of you can give me some kind words. Thanks!
Sorry, I meant to tell you my age. I’m 18.

YES its true My niece,,9 year old watching the stars on the ranch has a trailer with a drunk for a dad and drug addict mom IVE TRIED, Icant do nothing,?She said lets pray for my dad ?Hes blind yes//and tears in my eyes watched the stars fall with her,brought herhome 9 years old and SHE had her bed maid on front poarch,life is easy for us that can see be thankfull we even get to see the stas,,let alone, not having any body there but your uncle yes school starts soon, and I will bye her what she needs thank god,,,our life is so good, shes” a ,”b” student and bright blue eyed blond , HI to all that read this is she lucky, iam her uncle,, <>R<> YES TWO Blind Brothers, i have NO children Iam so sad, HI skycat,your friend <>R<>