We will help you get your mom off drugs!

I’m a 19 year old male. After a bad decision I made one night, a woman I slept with is now pregnant. She is claiming that it is my child, however I do have some doubts.

A little history about her: She has had several issues in her past. Eating disorders, alcoholism, etc. She has also had very many sexual partners (I didn’t find out about this until after wards) so this is where I get the doubt that it could be my child. I have expressed to her that she either needs to have an abortion or place it up for adoption if she does have the child once it’s born.

I’m a college student and, in my opinion, not ready for a child.

What are my rights as far as giving the child up for abortion if she does keep it? I cannot afford the child at this age and how much I am working. I don’t work a lot, because of school.

If anyone can help me, please please tell me my rights as a potential father and if there is anything I can do?

I don’t mean to come off as a bad young man, I just cannot do this right now. I realize I am responsible for what I have done, so I’m not looking for the mother talk here. So if anyone can help me please, anything with suffice
This has nothing to do with “stepping up and being a man.” I understand the consequences of my actions, I am only looking for simple advice. Furthermore, I cannot drop down to being a part-time student. I would lose my insurance and I’m trying to go to law school. So I need to be a full-time student.

I appreciate all the advice I am being given. Thank you all

I am 44. We are married 25 years. He says he is not interested and I know he is not having an affair. I believe he is having a problem with his ability to perform due to alcoholism. I am still attractive and am complimented by men quite often on my looks and personality. I have never cheated in my marriage. But now I am lonely and very sad. He refuses help for our marriage (told me to go to counseling alone) and will not try to stop drinking. He drinks between 12 to 20 beers every night. Sometimes he falls asleep and sometimes he is very mean to me. I sound like an idiot (on paper) for staying. He always drank but this last year has been horrible. He lost his mother 1 year ago and has not stopped drinking since. He won’t allow anyone to help him. Friends and relatives have tried. Everyone kind of looks at me like I am crazy for not leaving. I am trying to keep myself positive but I do know the truth. When do I say enough is enough? I also go to al-anon each week. There are also men there that have shown interest in me. I just don’t know what to do. Please help. Thanks!

Violence is abuse. Children do not deserve to be put trough physical violence. Violence does not create good people.

What has been done to you you are more likely to do to others.

Those who grow up in violent families are MUCH MUCH more likely to be violent with their own families.

For example: My family isnt what you would consider violent , but they did spank. I remember one time when I was 11 I thought I had the right to spank my little brother with a belt (because my mother one day told my older brother to *grab* me from under the table for a spanking ) and as I look back, I think that was so wrong of me to hit my brother, but that I was influenced by my parents telling my older *brother* to grab me for a spanking.(so it was like we are hitting each other)
After all, the only real parenting lessons any person gets are from their own parents as they are being raised.

So is it any surprise that abuse (as well as alcoholism and other negative behaviors) has been shown to be an overwhelmingly cyclical problem?

a lot has happened this part yeah and half. fiance at the time had to quit college because we could not afford it, i got pregnant (which later lost the baby) so he decided to join the military. we got married and moved away after his training was over..money has been a tight squeeze every month for the past few months. we have had lots of fights because i have not gotten along with my brother in law or mother in law lately. which i prefer to never have to deal with them again. and i am fine with my husband seeing them where ever (its family) all of this has caused him to hit rock bottom. not wanting to be around me, any of his friends, he no longer wants to go out he just wants to stay home and try to drink away the problems. which alcoholism runs in his family and i do not want that to become an issues. he has gotten to the point he wants a divorce because he just does not know how to deal with all of this and i do not think that is logical thinking at all. i want him to stop running away. he has agreed to go to see a therapist so that is a start. i want to be the back bone for us because i do not want a divorce and i don’t want him to be depressed. would it be a good idea if maybe i tried to make emends with my in laws to show him that i am trying to make an effort at this and then the ball will be in there court…is having my husband see a therapist a bad idea…do you think it will make matters worse…and is there anything else you can think of that i can do to benefit from this and to better our marriage?

My sister who is a 26 year old alcohoilc is living with my mother and I in our home. She is married and her husband is also an alcoholic. They have been married and living together for almost a year, in that time the cops have been to their house numerous times for domestic disputes. She tried to kill herself 2 weeks ago and realized she didn’t want to be with her husband anymore and wanted to get help for her alcoholism. Today she went back to her apartment with her husband to clean it up because he is moving out also. She is staying the night over at the apartment with him. If she comes home hungover tomorrow what should I do? She came to stay with my mohter and I to stop drinking and get out of that enviornment. If she is going to continue drinking we told her she can’t stay with us. She has already relapsed twice in the last 2 weeks. How many more times before I say “get out”?

I have been married for 8 years and have 2 boys. I feel that there is no hope for my marriage. I am not loved by my husband, who states that he is still here because of the children. If I stay, my children will be exposed to alcoholism and verbal abuse but if I leave there is the possibilty that the children will lose their father to alcohol. My mind keeps telling me that it’s not my fault and what he says to me is not true. I’m not the perfect wife and not the perfect mother. But I’m not God awful either. It’s like I’m dammed if I stay and I’m dammed if Ieave. I cannot bear another episode of hearing put downs when my husband is drunk. I can’t help but fear that I will blamed by his family if I leave and he drinks himself to death. He doesn’t drink everyday, but he goes on binges when we have unresolved issues. The issues are mainly about cooking or that I don’t take care of him the way I should. It’s getting worse and I don’t know where to turn for help

I have been married for 8 years and have 2 boys. I feel that there is no hope for my marriage. I am not loved by my husband, who states that he is still here because of the children. If I stay, my children will be exposed to alcoholism and verbal abuse but if I leave there is the possibilty that the children will lose their father to alcohol. My mind keeps telling me that it’s not my fault and what he says to me is not true. I’m not the perfect wife and not the perfect mother. But I’m not God awful either. It’s like I’m dammed if I stay and I’m dammed if Ieave. I cannot bear another episode of hearing put downs when my husband is drunk. I can’t help but fear that I will blamed by his family if I leave and he drinks himself to death. He doesn’t drink everyday, but he goes on binges when we have unresolved issues. The issues are mainly about cooking or that I don’t take care of him the way I should. It’s getting worse and I don’t know where to turn for help

My boyfriend and I are both 33. Divorced, with kids from previous relationships. We’ve been together for over a year now.

He is a former Iraq vet. When he came back from the war 7 years ago he struggled with alcoholism and his marriage ultimately ended in divorce. When we first started dating he came over drunk a couple of times (very drunk, sobbing, staggering, etc) and I told him that because I have a 5 year old son and got out of a relationship with a man who ended up being a drug user, that I don’t want to go through that again and won’t expose my son to it. He said he understood, was sorry, wanted to be with me, and that he was making himself a promise to no longer drink hard alcohol. He wasn’t going to swear off ALL alcohol as he didn’t drink daily (just would binge drink on occasion, when he did drink) and that he would allow himself to have beer as he didn’t get as drunk on beer. He wanted to still be able to meet up with friends and enjoy a beer, or drink a couple at a BBQ, etc. I was fine with that. Just didn’t want him to be drinking to the point that he made a complete fool out of himself and might have done something stupid (like one of the nights he asked someone to punch him in his face and they knocked out his tooth! A bad hard-alcohol night in the beginning of our relationship).

He did well for a year. No hard-liquor. But then the night before last he goes out with a buddy of his and gets wasted. He called me to pick him up at midnight. I didn’t want him drinking and driving so I got my son out of bed and went and got him. Dropped him off at his Mom’s place.

I might have overreacted out of fear, but the next morning I realized he’d left his wallet in my car, so I took it to his mother’s house and gave it to her along with a big bag of all of his stuff that was at my home. I decided I didn’t knowif this was going to be a repeating pattern (although I know it hasn’t happened for a while, I’m not sure how often these types of incidents will come up) and I didn’ know if he was trustworthy because he seemed to not be able to control himself.

He called the next day and I told him I didn’t know if I could do this. That I didn’t want to be with an alcoholic. He said he wasn’t one, said he likes to ‘aprty’ sometimes and sometimes people drink too much and it’s not a big deal. I mentioned his commitment to no hard-liquor and he said he never made ME any promises. He made himself a promise and he screwed up. We argued. He said I was looking for an excuse to dump him because that wasn’t a legitimate reason. Then got angry and said “fine! You’re done with me. I’m done with you. I’m not playing these games. You’ll regret this decision in 2-3 years, I promise you.”

Now, I’m obviously sad. I love him. I wonder if maybe I overreactedout of fear because of what’s happened with my ex in the past. Or am I right to be weary and see what happened as a red flag? Advice please. I’m heartbroken right now.

I am a 29 year old mother of three kids and was married fir eleven years to a drug dealing spouse and though he did that line of work he never paid bills always was out in the streets doing who knows what and recently in July of 2010 he dropped me and my kids off in another state which is my home state to basically fend for ourselves.I have no money no credit and just got a little piece of a job to support myself and kids.I live with my bipolar coke head mom and my dad is a vietnam vet suffering from alcoholism.My husbands parents are here too,but his mom just doesn’t acknowledge myself and my children she won’t even help babysit while I go to work and she is fully capable and alot safer than my own mom.Instead she would rather her son,my husband abandon us even longer to so called get himself together,but he can’t survive without my support so that will be never and on top of that he says he has a new girlfriend that attends law school and he is really into her,this hurts me because I could have been doing that and much more had I not been so gullible for him and doing everything that he said to do….Basically I am on here looking for a life coach to help me get my life back and keep me positive.Please is there anyone out there? I am not looking for handouts just a helping hand and resources.

alcoholism has trapped his mind body and soul
for year/ this disease effected his life to the
point he couldn’t go a day with out liquor or beer/
he lost his job his family and his wife/
he lost his friends his self respect and his life/
he living all alone inside of his car/drinking
has been the only thing left that he had so far/
its this guy used to be the the man he had
every thing/he was living the American dream
a life fit just for a king/but as time went
by things slowly stared to fall apart/
his mother warned his about this
from the start/liquor was like
rent it was always billing him/
but he had no idea that liquor
was killing him/fast forward
to that tragic mourning were
he would die/he was dressed
to go some were wearing a
suit and a tie/he was driving
and then he stared drinking/
driving out of control what
was he thinking/speeding
on the high way and then
it happen his car flipped
over and crashed/ the
impacted from the
accident killed him in a flash/
if only he gotten a chance
to quit alcohol to stay out/
but it to late now its just
another sad story about
a man who couldn’t find
no way out/

Hello, I am going through a divorce, and my ex doesn’t want to pay child support for our two year old son. I have been faithful to him despite all of the conflict during and after our marriage, his cheating, alcoholism, and sexual abuse in various forms. I found out after our son was born he was severely abused as a child and subsequently the effects manifested negatively into our relationship. I sought counseling, but he was in the military and regular therapy was impossible. He was in prison for the past 5 months, and upon his release went to live with his mother, resume drinking and etc. after mailing me letters almost daily about his renewed faith and how we could make our family work with devotion to God in our lives. I have been hurt and disappointed by this man so much, and he is hurting us more by not providing for us as I raise our son alone so he can regress and relapse with an abusive family member. I know legally I could sue him and other means of restitution, but as a Christian it is written I should turn the other cheek. I don’t want to set myself up to be a victim by him again, but I still have hopes one day he will return, healthy and ready to be responsible and happy with a simple life. I do not know how to handle this, I feel disgusted to have divorced as it is not with my beliefs, but lost in my faith as a result. Feelings of abandonment and resentment for not understanding God’s plan for me and my son are predominant. Should I let go of the impulse to pursue justice in a legal arena? Should I let God handle it even if it seems unfair and frustrating to allow us to continue suffering financially and emotionally? My ex is predominately Native American, and I am of small decent, and 2012 is a concern for our family as well. I feel like we are falling victim to dark presence/power in our lives. Very confused, but looking to seek guidance and light. Can you help? Please don’t send negativity, thank you.

so heres the situation: i saw a picture of her smoking a cigar with young friends down at city walk (cali). to let you know more about us (so you can help):
we are both 17 (she’s 3 months exactly older than me). she acts 17 (duh) has 10 siblings most younger and only a couple friends that are 20. i was raised with adults and have no younger siblings and only have 2 friends under 19 (the rest are 30-). everyone treats me as an adult and thinks i’m 25 when they meet me. i work, i pull my own weight, and have bought my own clothes since i was twelve.
she was raised over the top conservitive and homeschooled, wasnt aloud to where pants until she was sixteen and wasnt alowed male friends untill 15. her mother is english, my father is dutch….so you can imagine. idk how english people raise there kids i just know that in my house, with a DUTCH dad, you have a job when your six, you wake up on time, and you dont sit in the living room unless company is over (in other words, i was raised to be VERY responsible and independant). to make it short, she was raised obviously different than me. i (and my siblings) have a LOT of freedom because we were raised extremely responsible (you can smoke cigars and drink at ocasions (yes under age) BECAUSE you have grown into the responibility of not over doing it and have a full understanding of what alchohol (and cigars) can do. she had NO freedom what so ever untill actually about 6 months ago an she was aloud to have her own group of friends that the family didnt meet (btw my dad wont let me ahve friends he hasnt met)
the things is…..i got SO protective of her when i saw that picture! and i dont know why! i honestly want to know why can someone please help? i know i have YEARS of experience and wisdom on her from being raised the way i was and by adults. ALSO having led my own life independantly of my family forever (thats just the dutch way). her parents STILL control everything she does (and her 20 year old sister that lives at home). so i was thinking maybe thats why!?? its because i know EXACTLY that “scene” i know what happens when you do that and you DONT have the wisdom of a person who’s done it a LONG time. its like living with an alcoholic and not knowing a thing about alcoholism or knowing even what alcoholic is. so seeing her ALONE in LA (where i’m from (she’s not)) with NO male or anyone older than 17, smoking, walking in the dark in heels and a short dress is like watching someone shoot heroine in a glass room when you abnging on the door and they cant here you. because i know that SO well and she doesnt at all, i lived in nashville too…you just dont go walkin at night with only girls in a short dress and heels where there are no lights.
i’m not sure ;( that really feels like the reason but maybe its not.

Okay so heres my story… about a year ago my father started drinking again… after he promised me and my familly that he would stop. He was a heavy drinker in the past, and still is, and when I say my Dad is an Alcoholic, i mean he is an ALCOHOLIC. He is quite literally drunk almost every minute of every day, he skips work at weeks at a time to stay at home and drink, and every hour or so he goes into the garage to take yet another shot of hard liquor. I might add as well that my Dad isn’t a crazy,wild,abusive drunk… hes more of a mellow… just sit there drunk. He sits in the same spot for days at a time… and only gets up to go to the bathroom or to drink more.

Needless to say, my Dad needs help. I’m scared he will lose his job…and his life. I fear that he will soon drink himself to death, and my mom does also. She threatens to leave him until he straightens up, but my Dad refuses to beilive he has a problem. His Alcoholism is not only affecting his work, his family, his life… but also…. me. After a horrific episode with Marijuana around 4 months ago my life has not been the same. After a panic attack with marijuana, i face constant De-Realization/Depersonalization.. Depression..Anxety..and Stress. Needless to say I will never use that stuff for as long as i live… but thats besides the point. Anyway… I see a Psycologist and he feels the chaos inside my house is only feeding my Anxiety.

So far I plan on going to group sessions with teenagers whos fathers are Alcoholics…I try and meditate and use relaxation exersises as frequently as i can… but I still can’t shake the frustration and anxiety that my Father is creating. He is not only making me depressed.. but also my mother, and my house is no longer a sanctuary… but a depressing place to be.

Anyway… I suppose my question is .. how can me and my Mom open my fathers eyes…and make him realize he his destroying his own life… and my own. The constant Anxiety i feel weighs more and more everyday, my life feels like its in shambles.. and sometimes.. honestly i feel like I don’t want to live anymore. I am only 15… and have my whole life ahead of me, but with this constant De-realization and depression..I feel like I am stuck in no-mans land.

Can Anyone please give me advice on what I should do to help my Anxiety… help my Dad….. and overall help my life? Any answers I will seriously appreciate and hope someone can help me. Thanks in Advance.

Governor Patterson has intense pressure by New York liberals to gift Caroline Kennedy a senate seat because she is JFK’s daughter. The same people who ridiculed Palin for being unqualified for VP, want to give Caroline a position just for her name alone. Caroline has absolutely no qualifications whatsoever but somehow liberals have no issue with this. Huh?

Please take a look at the Kennedy family; not the whitewash that the liberal media created but look at the history of this family.

Kennedys are known for their arrogance, elitism and not earning their way in life. Caroline’s mother, Jackie, was raised to be a socialite, to marry rich and powerful men. Her grandfather Joe, was Irish mafia, who led life of crime, earning his money the same way John Gotti did BUT somehow the liberal media loves the Kennedys and has spun heavy propaganda to fool the public about the Kennedys.

The entire family has lived off of others earnings, not believing in hard work or making your own way in life- the family has lived selfish elitist lifestyles, littered with alcoholism, drug abuse, one committed murder, one committed felony manslaughter, one raped a woman then used the media to disparage the victim, none of have achieved anything through hard work and self reliance. Truly the Kennedys mirror and represent everything wrong with liberalism.

Should Governor Patterson give in to Caroline’s demand to be senator, although she has no right or qualification for the position?
Heidi- were you one of the libs claiming Palin was unqualified for VP? I thought so……. Liberals are not entitled to control congress or the media as you think!

I had to write an essay on the show family guy and how it shows the role of the family hero, problem child, lost child, alcoholic, family clown and co- dependent. They are relate back to an alcoholism family. I’ve never seen this show so I tried my best but I felt that I should make some changes any ideas?

Peter Griffin is the father of the family and is also known as the alcoholic. Peter has a tendency to go out and drink with his friends when he should be home with his wife and children. He spends the families’ money on drinks rather than their education. Lois is Peter’s wife and mother to Meg, Chris and Stewie. Lois is known as the co- dependent and enabler of the family. She allows Peter to go out and drink with his friends because she feels that he has no problem with alcohol. Meg who is Peter’s daughter is known as he lost child. In the family no one appreciates nor listens to what Meg has to say. Meg is often ignored by her family and is in the shadow. Chris the teenage son is the mascot and family clown of the family. Chris is always laughing, having a good time, and has a great sense of humor. Stewie is the youngest of out of the children and plays the role of the problem child. Stewie is always getting himself into trouble and acts out inappropriately towards his family and peers. Brian who is the dog of the family is known as the family hero. Brian is always trying to do the right thing while looking out for the family’s best interest.

Sorry it’s long..

Case Study 3 – Paula Evans
Paula Evans is a 25 year old woman brought to the emergency room by her boyfriend, who has become progressively more alarmed at her complaints, demands, and errant behavior. Her chief complaint to the staff is “I keep thinking about wanting to kill myself.” Paula is a competent secretary, has her own apartment, and is self supporting. She is also attending university classes in the evening because she wants to advance her education and does not “want to stay a secretary all my life.”
The current crisis began when her boyfriend, Mark, refused to consider her demands for marriage after a 2 year exclusive relationship. Paula began to call him at work demanding more and more time, finally threatening to kill herself if he didn’t spend every evening with her. Mark reported that her demands, phone calls, and escalating threats were becoming intolerable and were making him want to break off the relationship entirely. On the evening Mark brought Paula to the emergency room, he had told her that he had to go on a business trip and would be away for several days. Paula insisted that he was doing this just to get away from her. She became severely agitated and began to talk wildly about killing herself. In the emergency room, Paula angrily belittles her boyfriend in front of the staff and accuses him of using and then rejecting her. After physically separating the arguing couple, the staff is able to obtain a history of the progressive development of Paula’s symptoms.
In response to the stress of the past several months, Paula has developed fluctuating depressive moods, a tendency to over sleep (especially sleeping in the evenings and on weekends), and a tendency to binge eat that has resulted in a 20 pound weight gain. Paula says she is constantly anxious and has been having increasing difficulty concentrating on her studies. She has continued to work throughout this stressful period, seeking support from those in her office. Attention from Mark or her co-workers produces a brightening of her mood that she is able to sustain while they are with her.
Paula experiences her most severe symptoms when she is alone. These include prolonged fantasies about hilling her boyfriend and a desire to hurt herself. She says that on several occasions she has cut her thighs with razor blades and describes watching herself do this as if from a distance, numb and dead inside and feeling little pain. Paula says that at these times she feels fat and unattractive as well as completely unlovable and worthless. At such moments, she calls Mark on the phone and threatens to commit suicide unless he comes and keeps her company. Mark reports that she has also begun to lose control of her temper. For example, shortly before he brought her to the emergency room, she attacked him with her fists in the midst of an argument.
Paula was the youngest of four children and one of two girls. Her parents separated and divorced when she was 3 years old because of her father’s alcoholism and physical abuse of his wife and children. A family secret was that Paula was sexually abused when she was 10 years old by a brother 5 years her senior.
In adolescence, Paula associated with a rebellious group and became involved in drug abuse and early sexuality to fit in. Paula said that her mother attributed Paula’s teenage rebellion to a need to “find a father” and that she thought that Paula had gotten “her sexual urges confused with wanting to be loved and cared for.” By age 16, Paula had already embarked on the pattern of chaotic unstable involvements with men that continues to characterize her adult life.
Her first drug overdose occurred at age 17 in response to a perceived rejection by her boyfriend. A series of intense relationships followed this incident, each of which followed a similar pattern: Paula would become progressively more clinging until she gradually alienated her partners. Each rejection was marked by a period of anger and self abuse, followed quickly by a new and identical relationship. Paula’s current boyfriend is only the latest in a long series of disappointing partners.

Sorry it’s long..

Case Study 3 – Paula Evans
Paula Evans is a 25 year old woman brought to the emergency room by her boyfriend, who has become progressively more alarmed at her complaints, demands, and errant behavior. Her chief complaint to the staff is “I keep thinking about wanting to kill myself.” Paula is a competent secretary, has her own apartment, and is self supporting. She is also attending university classes in the evening because she wants to advance her education and does not “want to stay a secretary all my life.”
The current crisis began when her boyfriend, Mark, refused to consider her demands for marriage after a 2 year exclusive relationship. Paula began to call him at work demanding more and more time, finally threatening to kill herself if he didn’t spend every evening with her. Mark reported that her demands, phone calls, and escalating threats were becoming intolerable and were making him want to break off the relationship entirely. On the evening Mark brought Paula to the emergency room, he had told her that he had to go on a business trip and would be away for several days. Paula insisted that he was doing this just to get away from her. She became severely agitated and began to talk wildly about killing herself. In the emergency room, Paula angrily belittles her boyfriend in front of the staff and accuses him of using and then rejecting her. After physically separating the arguing couple, the staff is able to obtain a history of the progressive development of Paula’s symptoms.
In response to the stress of the past several months, Paula has developed fluctuating depressive moods, a tendency to over sleep (especially sleeping in the evenings and on weekends), and a tendency to binge eat that has resulted in a 20 pound weight gain. Paula says she is constantly anxious and has been having increasing difficulty concentrating on her studies. She has continued to work throughout this stressful period, seeking support from those in her office. Attention from Mark or her co-workers produces a brightening of her mood that she is able to sustain while they are with her.
Paula experiences her most severe symptoms when she is alone. These include prolonged fantasies about hilling her boyfriend and a desire to hurt herself. She says that on several occasions she has cut her thighs with razor blades and describes watching herself do this as if from a distance, numb and dead inside and feeling little pain. Paula says that at these times she feels fat and unattractive as well as completely unlovable and worthless. At such moments, she calls Mark on the phone and threatens to commit suicide unless he comes and keeps her company. Mark reports that she has also begun to lose control of her temper. For example, shortly before he brought her to the emergency room, she attacked him with her fists in the midst of an argument.
Paula was the youngest of four children and one of two girls. Her parents separated and divorced when she was 3 years old because of her father’s alcoholism and physical abuse of his wife and children. A family secret was that Paula was sexually abused when she was 10 years old by a brother 5 years her senior.
In adolescence, Paula associated with a rebellious group and became involved in drug abuse and early sexuality to fit in. Paula said that her mother attributed Paula’s teenage rebellion to a need to “find a father” and that she thought that Paula had gotten “her sexual urges confused with wanting to be loved and cared for.” By age 16, Paula had already embarked on the pattern of chaotic unstable involvements with men that continues to characterize her adult life.
Her first drug overdose occurred at age 17 in response to a perceived rejection by her boyfriend. A series of intense relationships followed this incident, each of which followed a similar pattern: Paula would become progressively more clinging until she gradually alienated her partners. Each rejection was marked by a period of anger and self abuse, followed quickly by a new and identical relationship. Paula’s current boyfriend is only the latest in a long series of disappointing partners.

I come from a very plutonian/neptunian family. I am one myself. My son has moon in scorpio and my daughter has moon square pluto. I know this is only a small piece of the personality. But, every moon/pluto person I know was either emotionally or physically abused or had a parent suffering alcoholism. My mom abandoned me. My dad was great most times, but he was a liar, manipulator and he physically assaulted me and every wife or girlfriend he has ever had. I know that’s strange to say that he was great most times, but it’s true. I could “see” his heart, which was great, but his ego was out of control! My kids’ also have moon square pluto and he can never have a “real” conversation with his mom; she never validates his feelings and experiences. she also used to cry before he could even express his perspective of her. He’d say, “mom, in childhood I couldn’t go out with friends and….” but she would have tears rolling down her face before he could finish his sentence. “Well if you think I’m a bad mother, why don’t you right down all the horrible things you think about me and I’ll stay away since I’m not wanted,” she would reply. Our parents/family labeled us as the sensitive one, but they were the ones being abusive or pouting all the time.

Now we are afraid that we will be like our parents. Can we change for our children? Even if we do better than our parents is it fate for our kids to feel the same about us as we do our own parents. Sometimes it seems that, based on a person’s inherited personality traits, he or she will interpret the parent(s) based on their own outlook-he or she will “hold onto” certain parts of the parent. Because, as I said, my dad had many great qualities. I just can’t let go of the hurtful ones!

I want to be a good mother. Even more than that, I don’t want to do anything to cause deep psychological scars to my babies. I know no parent is perfect, I just need any type of HELPFUL info! We can’t go to our families for advice; those plutonians don’t want to HEAL!
Sorry gintable I am new to Yahoo Answers; that was my first question! I don’t know if I am sending THIS RIGHT ! You seem threatened and offended by my beliefs. I understand! I will try to find the CORRECT category. Thanks
I use to be threatened by differences in thinking and beliefs, but I get to know who you are that way! Go ahead and bash me and the “entertainment” I choose. It makes me stronger as astrology has taught me!
Okay, it does kinda bother me for you to relate to me that way, but at the same time it excites me because, again, I get to know you. For a person to be a “not nice” with his way of communicating to someone he doesn’t even know says something about him!
gintable, it’s obvious that you don’t get astrology very well because you would know that your sun sign isn’t the tell all of the personality. I’m sure you will come back and say that is because it’s all bullshit LOL. any sign can be a “jag off” as you so eloquently put it. I like you, gintable! Keep it coming! I’m better with the “feel” of you, not the “logic” of what sign you are!
Iridflare, did you conduct this research yourself? If so, how did you conduct your research? Do you know yourself, really know yourself to know if it’s worthless? Or do you not like what astrology has to say about you? If it’s useless, why do you care? Why did you have to reply?-but please do. I like to get to know you!
Jim D, not gintable I’ve been communicating with, right? Wrong use of name!
EDIT: Thanks Oklatonola! LMAO. I felt they were bullies. I have been bullied most of my life so am learning how to handle them. 3 years! Well, if they want to mess with me, then I’m ready! It’s hilarious and I don’t take people of that nature as seriously as I used to. I just speak my truth and give them what they give me. Thanks for the parenting advice! Even without astrology, if a parent (wants) to do better, she can try her best! Good luck to you and your friend.

I come from a very plutonian/neptunian family. I am one myself. My son has moon in scorpio and my daughter has moon square pluto. I know this is only a small piece of the personality. But, every moon/pluto person I know was either emotionally or physically abused or had a parent suffering alcoholism. My mom abandoned me. My dad was great most times, but he was a liar, manipulator and he physically assaulted me and every wife or girlfriend he has ever had. I know that’s strange to say that he was great most times, but it’s true. I could “see” his heart, which was great, but his ego was out of control! My kids’ also have moon square pluto and he can never have a “real” conversation with his mom; she never validates his feelings and experiences. she also used to cry before he could even express his perspective of her. He’d say, “mom, in childhood I couldn’t go out with friends and….” but she would have tears rolling down her face before he could finish his sentence. “Well if you think I’m a bad mother, why don’t you right down all the horrible things you think about me and I’ll stay away since I’m not wanted,” she would reply. Our parents/family labeled us as the sensitive one, but they were the ones being abusive or pouting all the time.

Now we are afraid that we will be like our parents. Can we change for our children? Even if we do better than our parents is it fate for our kids to feel the same about us as we do our own parents. Sometimes it seems that, based on a person’s inherited personality traits, he or she will interpret the parent(s) based on their own outlook-he or she will “hold onto” certain parts of the parent. Because, as I said, my dad had many great qualities. I just can’t let go of the hurtful ones!

I want to be a good mother. Even more than that, I don’t want to do anything to cause deep psychological scars to my babies. I know no parent is perfect, I just need any type of HELPFUL info! We can’t go to our families for advice; those plutonians don’t want to HEAL!
Sorry gintable I am new to Yahoo Answers; that was my first question! I don’t know if I am sending THIS RIGHT ! You seem threatened and offended by my beliefs. I understand! I will try to find the CORRECT category. Thanks
I use to be threatened by differences in thinking and beliefs, but I get to know who you are that way! Go ahead and bash me and the “entertainment” I choose. It makes me stronger as astrology has taught me!
Okay, it does kinda bother me for you to relate to me that way, but at the same time it excites me because, again, I get to know you. For a person to be a “not nice” with his way of communicating to someone he doesn’t even know says something about him!
gintable, it’s obvious that you don’t get astrology very well because you would know that your sun sign isn’t the tell all of the personality. I’m sure you will come back and say that is because it’s all bullshit LOL. any sign can be a “jag off” as you so eloquently put it. I like you, gintable! Keep it coming! I’m better with the “feel” of you, not the “logic” of what sign you are!
Iridflare, did you conduct this research yourself? If so, how did you conduct your research? Do you know yourself, really know yourself to know if it’s worthless? Or do you not like what astrology has to say about you? If it’s useless, why do you care? Why did you have to reply?-but please do. I like to get to know you!
Jim D, not gintable I’ve been communicating with, right? Wrong use of name!
EDIT: Thanks Oklatonola! LMAO. I felt they were bullies. I have been bullied most of my life so am learning how to handle them. 3 years! Well, if they want to mess with me, then I’m ready! It’s hilarious and I don’t take people of that nature as seriously as I used to. I just speak my truth and give them what they give me. Thanks for the parenting advice! Even without astrology, if a parent (wants) to do better, she can try her best! Good luck to you and your friend.

He is 38 … he has not worked for years, and when he did have a job, it was never really consistent. He lives with him mother.

He is an alcoholic, and he had three DUIs. He has never sought help for his alcoholism. He also uses street drugs (marijuana and crack cocaine). He talks about suicide fairly frequently and has anxiety attacks.

He has had a number of short term relationships with women. They never last longer than six months or so. When anymore tries to get “too close” to him, he gets defensive, sarcastic, and ends up pushing them away.

If you had to diagnosis him, what do you think is wrong with him?