We will help you get your mom off drugs!

My husband filed for divorce in 3/2007. He is asking for sole custody of our 3 children with visitation for me being 2 days/week and 2 overnights/month. I am asking for joint legal, primary residential with generous visitation for him. He has made numerous allegations about me regarding alcoholism, drug abuse, child abuse and neglect. He has involved the police and DYFS multiple times. ALL investigations determined the allegations were unsubstantiated. I am currently $268,000 in debt due to legal fees. My husband is motivated purely by anger and revenge and he has a tremendous financial edge as his elderly parents are paying for his legal fees. When my children are with me (50/50 presently) , I care for them myself. When they are with him, they are pawned off to random babysitters because his job requires long hours and travel. My 14 year old son has already spoken to the Judge and has requested to live with me as he has for the past 9 months. Has anyone been through a similar experience and what was the outcome? Thank you

Heya.
I am a 24 year old female.. I am a single Mum, and live a pretty stressful life..
My dad is an alcoholic.. And alcoholism runs in my family. I have seen myself be like my Dad.. And that scares me.
I was just wondering if marijuana is really that bad? I worry alot if i am a good enough Mother.. Would it make me a horrible Mother smoking some marijuana once in a while when my Daughter is in bed? I have read up on both opinions..
Some other single Mothers have described it as being like a temporary holiday in their head. Helps them to relax etc. Some are totally against it.. and says it would make me a terrible Mother.
I used to drink alcohol every so often for stress.. i just end up sad and hung over.. That cant be good for my Daughter right?
Put aside it being illegal…. Is it better for me to smoke Pot or drink alcohol in times of need for stress ? Cheers.

a couple months back my mom started dating this guy
and he has a drinking problem. big time. he drinks morning to night
his hands are swollen from it, and hes been in and out of rehab
but no success. hes like 20 years older than my mom…

im 18 and my little sister is 13. and we live with our 84 year old grandma and mom
but when shes gone to her boyfriends, my sister and gma are my responsibility.
thats not an issue. but how can i root this drunk out of our lives?
seriously. he causes unnecessary strain on all of us.
Ive tried explaining it to her, and shes broken up with him, but hes always sick
(due to the alcoholism) and always pitys her back to him
i cant talk to him, hes selfish. and always drunk. he says ”im sorry i love her”
whenever i tell him that we need her around.
i dont know what to do…?

I have to write an essay about sugar. Here’s my essay so far.
Could i have some feedback?

Sugar
Sugar is very high on the glycemic index. It’s digested quickly and provides calories but has very little nutritional value. There are different kinds of sugar and some are worse than others. Fruit sugar, fructose, is less harmful than refined sugar. People have evolved to like the taste of sugar because the sweetest fruits are often the ones that have the most nutrients.

The average BMI in North America is 27.1, which is overweight. Sugar is clinically proven to cause obesity, which causes heart attacks. Sugar can cause a variety of medical conditions including alcoholism, Multiple sclerosis and ovarian cancer. Sugar also causes skin to age faster. Too much sugar can affect your brain and make it harder for you to learn. It can also cause depression, emotional instability and epilepsy. Sugar is in almost everything we eat, even places where we don’t expect it. Sugar also causes dental carries, because the bacteria in your mouth eat it and produce acid as a by-product when they digest it.

Most people consume more that their body weight in sugar every year. For the first time in history, there are more obese people in the world that starving people

Sugar is very harmful to pregnant women and the fetuses. It can be as harmful as caffeine or alcohol, but because there is less social pressure for women to stop eating sugar during pregnancy, they are lass likely to stop. There is also less information available to pregnant mothers about the effects of sugar. Although women are supposed o gain weight during pregnancy, the weight is not supposed to be from having extra fat. It can also cause the baby to be born already overweight.

The most disturbing part about sugar, however, is its long history of being grown by slaves. About 85% of the sugar we eat today is grown by slaves. Most of the modern slaves are dept, slaves, but they only get paid $2.00 for picking a tonne of sugar, and they owe huge amounts of money to the company store. Because most sugar slaves today are dept slaves, sugar plantation owners today don’t even acknowledge that they are using slave labour to grow their crops.

In the 1700 hundreds, Thomas Clarkson was the first person to fight for the abolition of slavery. Most of the slaves at that time were also used to grow sugar. He faced a lot of controversy and, when he tried to prosecute slave owners for murder, the owners of sugar plantations actually devised a plan to have him assassinated. Luckily, he escaped.

The persecution of those who try to fight against sugar and sugar slavery, however, has not stopped. In the 1970s, many people who tried to spread information about the negative effects of sugar lost their jobs. Sugar manufacturers still claim that the evidence against sugar is not proven. They will not admit that sugar does damage to people.

Subway Station

Different faces blur before us.
Sadness and joy,
hatred and alcoholism,
homeless men with raunchy beards
each unique expression
human
greeting us in fleeting moments
beyond our reach.
Melting together,
like ice cream on a hot summers day,
taunting our taste buds.
Our stomachs swollen
from emotional starvation.

An abandoned infant
lying on the cold concrete floor,
calling out for it’s mothers touch,
not yet old enough
to understand
why no one stops to pick it up.

This modern method
of transportation,
outlined in silver,
like a burning spaceship about to go down.
Trying so hard to reach another galaxy,
yet unable to surpass the speed of light.

Business people
dressed in fancy suits and ties,
brave through the daily commute.
Pretending their jobs
can replace the people around them

An underground haven
hidden from the world above.
Unable to keep the vermin out,
no matter how many stairs we take
descending into the darkness below.

I am a 30 yr old recovering addict and I’ve been struggling with heroin addiction and alcoholism for over 10 yrs now. I was just recently hired at a construction company where there are more than a few drug users and on top of that I ride to work with my mothers boyfriend who is a pot head and he smokes the whole way there. I know for myself it’s a big problem but my wife seems to think it’s ok. It really bothers me but she thinks I should stay there. On the other hand I can work for this other guy for the same hourly wage without the problems. But my wife wants me too stay there I don’t get it am I wrong?

1. Illegal stimulant with dangerous effects that has seen an increase in use in recent years (1 point)
heroin
marijuana
methamphetamine
cirrhosis
2. Permanent mental and physical problems in babies whose mothers drank alcohol while pregnant (1 point)
tolerance
fetal alcohol sydrome
cirrhosis
overdose
3. Sharing needles while using this illegal narcotic can lead to HIV infection (1 point)
stimulants
marijuana
methamphetamine
heroin
4. What you may suggest when refusing drugs or alcohol (1 point)
alternative
overdose
tolerance
stimulants
5. Drugs that speed up the body’s fuctions (1 point)
marijuana
stimulants
heroin
methamphetamine
6. Scarring and destruction of liver tissue (1 point)
fetal alcohol syndrome
tolerance
overdose
cirrhosis
7. Condition in which there is a need for greater amounts of a substance to achieve the same effect (1 point)
cirrhosis
overdose
tolerance
alternative
8. A drug that comes from the hemp plant (1 point)
marijuana
heroin
methamphetamine
cirrhosis
9. To overcome an addiction and return to a mostly normal life
(1 point)
tolerance
recovery
alternative
overdose
10. Taking a fatal amount of a drug (1 point)
overdose
tolerance
alternative
fetal alcohol syndrome
True/False
Indicate whether the statement is true or false.
11. A physical and mental need for a drug is called tolerance. (1 point)
True
False
12. A person in drug rehabilitation lives at a facility with other recovering addicts. (1 point)
True
False
13. Alcoholism can be cured. (1 point)
True
False
14. Al-Anon and Alateen are community support groups to help the families of alcoholics. (1 point)
True
False
15. Alcohol carries short-term and long-term risks. (1 point)
True
False
16. A person’s body weight does not affect how alcohol may affect the person. (1 point)
True
False
17. In the Unites States, it is illegal for anyone under the age of 21 to drink alcohol. (1 point)
True
False
18. Drug abuse affects all sides of a person’s health triangle. (1 point)
True
False
19. Hallucinogens are drugs that relieve pain. (1 point)
True
False
20. The best way to avoid being pressures to use illegal substances is to use refusal skills. (1 point)
True
False

1. Alcohol acts like a _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _depressing the central nervous system

2.Babies born to mothers who drank heacily during pregnancy have a condition known as _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _.

3. the _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ is the proportional weight of alcohol per 100 units of blood and is expressed in a _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _

4. withdrawal symptoms often associated with alcoholism are called _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _

5. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ is the process that produces alcohol by the action of years.

6. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ is a disease that typically begins with social drinking.

7. the conversion of alcohol into water carbon dioxide and energy is called _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ and takes place in the _ _ _ _ _.

8. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ is a process by wich the poisonous effects of alcohol are lessened in the body.

9. the active substance in distilled spirits is _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _.

10. scar tissue developing on the liver id known as _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _.

I am an alcoholic and have been doing good on and off and I need to know if it is me or the people around me!?
I want to know if it is me or I am crazy,Please help, Ok Im 27years old I have been drinking on and off for years and for the last three weekends I have came home and drank I live with my boyfriend of two years whom I love very much, and he does not work and pays no bills(also he paid 2400$ to get us in this place and in his eyes I have forever been in debt to him) and my mothers husband just lost his leg in a motorcycle accident I have been very stressed and trying not to drink but I have been coming home every weekend to find that my house is a mess,and he needs me to drive him to the store etc.and the cats have not been taken care of,also my boyfriend has been smoking pot with our female neighbor and speaking w her while im gone all week and this bothered me very much and I would come home and not had any intentions to drink and he would start in right away telling me Are you gonna drink ******* alcoholic slut basically anything he can to hurt me and I begged pleaded and cryd and told him I cant have him hanging out with that neighbor smoking pot and conversating (he is not supposed to be smoking at this point)……soooo he promises me he wont….low and behold he quits smoking pot and continues talking to this woman while im gone working and paying the bills(mind you he has no car and I have to drive him anywhere)also he says its just friends and to be honest I don’t think its appropriate to do so while im gone all week knowing it makes me uncomfortable……sooo this last weekend I come home early go to the store buy steaks n good eats for the night and rented a movie(also not I did not buy any alcohol cause I did not intend to drink at all) …. first thing he says to me is I know all about you and you have done this and that and it would take me to long to right point being also while I was gone he started talking to my cousin sadie and she told him basically 1/3 truth and 2/3rds absolute bullshit and I went ballistic because I being attacked by him and he was believing all the crap she was telling him(also it was not about cheating or anything it was things about my alcoholism from the past and she lied about things I have done she told him that I had wrecked my grandmothers car that I had burnt alot of bridges and crazy **** that he ate up in a heart beat not to mention she is very pretty and he falls for that crap) sooooo I was crying and very upset and told him I couldn’t take this anymore and low and behold I left and got very very drunk (bad descion) ultimately it boils down to this am I crazy drunk or do I need to remove myself from this situation please help!!

Also his reasoning behind stressing me out is that hes concernd about my well being and thats why he was talking to them but I think thats crap when I make an effort and out and out tell him what will help me and I cant see how calling someone names and accusing them of lies and saying yaa go put all your money down your throat thats what your gonna do anyways I know all about you, is gonna help any alcoholic but please tell me if im wrong I need answers

I want to know if it is me or I am crazy,Please help, Ok Im 27years old I have been drinking on and off for years and for the last three weekends I have came home and drank I live with my boyfriend of two years whom I love very much, and he does not work and pays no bills(also he paid 2400$ to get us in this place and in his eyes I have forever been in debt to him) and my mothers husband just lost his leg in a motorcycle accident I have been very stressed and trying not to drink but I have been coming home every weekend to find that my house is a mess,and he needs me to drive him to the store etc.and the cats have not been taken care of,also my boyfriend has been smoking pot with our female neighbor and speaking w her while im gone all week and this bothered me very much and I would come home and not had any intentions to drink and he would start in right away telling me Are you gonna drink fucking alcoholic slut basically anything he can to hurt me and I begged pleaded and cryd and told him I cant have him hanging out with that neighbor smoking pot and conversating (he is not supposed to be smoking at this point)……soooo he promises me he wont….low and behold he quits smoking pot and continues talking to this woman while im gone working and paying the bills(mind you he has no car and I have to drive him anywhere)also he says its just friends and to be honest I don’t think its appropriate to do so while im gone all week knowing it makes me uncomfortable……sooo this last weekend I come home early go to the store buy steaks n good eats for the night and rented a movie(also not I did not buy any alcohol cause I did not intend to drink at all) …. first thing he says to me is I know all about you and you have done this and that and it would take me to long to right point being also while I was gone he started talking to my cousin sadie and she told him basically 1/3 truth and 2/3rds absolute bullshit and I went ballistic because I being attacked by him and he was believing all the crap she was telling him(also it was not about cheating or anything it was things about my alcoholism from the past and she lied about things I have done she told him that I had wrecked my grandmothers car that I had burnt alot of bridges and crazy shit that he ate up in a heart beat not to mention she is very pretty and he falls for that crap) sooooo I was crying and very upset and told him I couldn’t take this anymore and low and behold I left and got very very drunk (bad descion) ultimately it boils down to this am I crazy drunk or do I need to remove myself from this situation please help!!
Also his reasoning behind stressing me out is that hes concernd about my well being and thats why he was talking to them but I think thats crap when I make an effort and out and out tell him what will help me and I cant see how calling someone names and accusing them of lies and saying yaa go put all your money down your throat thats what your gonna do anyways I know all about you, is gonna help any alcoholic but please tell me if im wrong I need answers

1.(Points: 2.5)
The leading cause of premature adult death recognized by the World Health
Organization is:

a. obesity.

b. cancer.

c. alcoholism.

d. smoking.

2.(Points: 2.5)
A common outcome when in vitro fertilization is used to assist in reproduction in the
United States is that:

a. many of the babies develop learning disabilities in later childhood.

b. almost half of the pregnancies result in low-birthweight twins or triplets.

c. asthma is common in IVF children.

d. mothers are slow to bond with their babies.

3.(Points: 2.5)
Gus has been picking up some extra shifts at work to make ends meet, including taking
some all-night shifts. He has been making some costly errors on the job that he’s never
made before, even when he worked longer hours. What has caused the change?

a. The work is more stressful now that he is older.

b. His lack of sleep slows his thinking and his problem-solving abilities.

c. His age-related farsightedness is affecting his work.

d. Trying to keep up with the younger workers makes him nervous.

4.(Points: 2.5)
Desmond and Lucy, both in their mid-50s, wish to maintain their excellent brain
functioning into their 70s, 80s, and even beyond. The best way to accomplish their goal
is to:

a. solve crossword puzzles daily.

b. get at least 30 minutes of aerobic exercise daily.

c. maintain good general health.

d. include at least five servings of fruits and vegetables in their daily diet.

5.(Points: 2.5)
Gender differences in senescence indicate that:

a. men age more slowly.

b. women age more slowly.

c. men and women age at comparable rates.

d. women age more quickly but refuse to admit it.

I have a 1 year old son (a very happy amazing lil boy)
Well today was christmas and one that he finally understands slightly.
His father and i broke up 10 months ago (he no longer wanted to be with me and or my son)
We had an agreement drawn out but he is currently in contempt of the agreement. He last saw our son on his first birthday almost 2 months ago. (that is his doing as i have given him oppertunity) I dont allow our son at his mothers for specific reasons mainly her bipolar that is not controlled properly as well as her extreme alcoholism and suicidal attempts. I allowed my son to go there for day visits but not for overnights and that is where his father resides. She also lives 2 hours away from me which has been a problem for my ex because the distance is too great for him to take our son there and drive him back. (in my opinion its a ridiculous excuse)
So my ex hired a lawyer who contacted my lawyer but has not responded to my lawyer in 3 weeks leading us to believe that my ex has not paid his retainer. He refuses to talk to me directly and got his dad to call me to ask for a xmas visit.
I said that he can have our son on the 26th for the day but he requested overnight. I refused the overnight as our son has not seen his grandfather in 7 months and his father in 2 months and felt it to be unfair to my son to send him with strangers. I feel if my ex wants to be a part of his sons life and enjoy his company he needs to get to know him better.
The 26th was not good for them and they now left plans up in the air because they want him over night.
So today for christmas my ex didnt call or anything to wish his son a merry christmas.
I felt so badly because i enjoyed a wonderful day with my family and my sons dad was missing.
I know i cant do anything but does anyone have any suggestions on what i can do if there is anything??
I just hate that my son doesnt have his dad in his life. And although i have been pretty adiment about my son spending overnights with my ex i have been very accomidating otherwise with visits and access and he just isnt acting on anything. It makes me so sad.
What can i do??
And why am i the one feeling bad or guilty?? has anyone ever experienced that?

I have a 1 year old son (a very happy amazing lil boy)
Well today was christmas and one that he finally understands slightly.
His father and i broke up 10 months ago (he no longer wanted to be with me and or my son)
We had an agreement drawn out but he is currently in contempt of the agreement. He last saw our son on his first birthday almost 2 months ago. (that is his doing as i have given him oppertunity) I dont allow our son at his mothers for specific reasons mainly her bipolar that is not controlled properly as well as her extreme alcoholism and suicidal attempts. I allowed my son to go there for day visits but not for overnights and that is where his father resides. She also lives 2 hours away from me which has been a problem for my ex because the distance is too great for him to take our son there and drive him back. (in my opinion its a ridiculous excuse)
So my ex hired a lawyer who contacted my lawyer but has not responded to my lawyer in 3 weeks leading us to believe that my ex has not paid his retainer. He refuses to talk to me directly and got his dad to call me to ask for a xmas visit.
I said that he can have our son on the 26th for the day but he requested overnight. I refused the overnight as our son has not seen his grandfather in 7 months and his father in 2 months and felt it to be unfair to my son to send him with strangers. I feel if my ex wants to be a part of his sons life and enjoy his company he needs to get to know him better.
The 26th was not good for them and they now left plans up in the air because they want him over night.
So today for christmas my ex didnt call or anything to wish his son a merry christmas.
I felt so badly because i enjoyed a wonderful day with my family and my sons dad was missing.
I know i cant do anything but does anyone have any suggestions on what i can do if there is anything??
I just hate that my son doesnt have his dad in his life. And although i have been pretty adiment about my son spending overnights with my ex i have been very accomidating otherwise with visits and access and he just isnt acting on anything. It makes me so sad.
What can i do??

http://weirdnewsfiles.com/weird-news/weird-world-news/woman-kicked-out-of-new-zealand-for-being-too-fat/

So lets do this in the States…Free Health Care for all!!!

Except for..(the fine print) Over weight people, Under weight people, Blacks (sickle cells), Native Americans (alcoholism risk), Asians (Cardiovascular) Red haired people (higher cancer risk), People who drink Red Bull, Have had sex with more then two people or there partner did, people who eat fish pork or not 100% cooked chicken, blonds (going extinct), children of mothers who use way to much Clorox, smokers, drinkers, car drivers, women (way to many issues to list), low IQ’s (vascular dementia, suicide), High IQs in females (alcoholism), people with big feet (Diabetes and heart disease), people who have a kitchen in their home, city dwellers…as silly as these sounds these are all legit health concerns.

Yaa for Universal Heath Care!

So what do you think?

http://www.balancedpolitics.org/universal_health_care.htm

Living in an alcoholic family has had many disadvantages. Having to constantly care for my siblings for six years has given me patience to apply to my own life. I have become very close to my siblings as I have helped them and myself conquer all the typical effects of having alcoholic parents, including blame, hate, and depression.
I have learned to beat all the odds, and the importance in working hard for what I believe in. Through all the family problems I still managed to stay in school and do well.
Last spring one of my attempts to help my parents deal with alcoholism, resulted in my mothers evicting me out of the house. Since May I have lived mostly on my own. I blamed myself at first, for my position. I have come to accept that my parents are the way they are, they are not going to change, and most importantly it is not my fault.
Living on my own has given me a new perspective on life. I feel as though I am finally able to breath. Although the daily problems of food, shelter, and other things involving bills have now been added to my list of things to do, I feel more myself than ever. I finally live in a place quiet enough for me to study and to concentrate.
I am a stronger person now. I am more responsible than most students, in that I am able to completely care for myself. I may have done a little rough at school, when I was first on my own, but I have managed to jump back on my feet and work hard at everything I do. In health class I remember discussing the roles of children in Alcoholic families. While I have not managed to help my parents, for my siblings, and myself I have managed to be a hero.

When people used to ask where I worked I was ashamed to tell them that I was an employee at McDonalds. Many kids would laugh and tell me what a crappy, joke of a job I had. Now when people ask where I work I tell them with pride, because I am a McDonalds Manager.
I have had my job for almost three years. The first year was a little rough and I had many thoughts of quitting. Fortunately I had early motivation. Jim, my role model, amazed me in everything he did; it was because of him that I wanted to be a manager. Jim was fun, charismatic, helpful, and hardworking all at the same time. He was never too busy to help out a new person, or teach someone an easier more effective way to do something. Unlike the other managers he was not hypocritical. If any other manager saw someone texting on the job they would yell at them, and then go and text themselves. Jim never yelled at someone for things he himself did.
I worked very hard to know as much about the store as Jim did. I watched everyone and absorbed all the information I could. When I was made at trainer, I was able to relay the information to new employees. I succeeded at spreading my “chipper” mood to all the employees. Although I wasn’t allowed to accept tips, I have been offered them numerous times. Some regular customers ask for me by name to take their order, because of my “great smile.”
Now as a manager, I am not as amazing as Jim, but I am known as the hardest working manager by my fellow managers, and the nicest manager by my employees.

Foley started his political career as a democrat. which can explain the Foley issue the best, that A) maybe Foley joined the Reps and worked with them for a while to gain their trust and then sabotage them, or that B) once a democrat, always a democrat? molestation, messing around with kids, having sex with kids, alcoholism, drug addiction, single mothers, abortion for anyone who wants, hillary clinton, and nancy pelosi, etc. are just wonderful family values that until now, were mainly associated with democrats. could the Reps be learning about and picking up these policies of wisdom from the democrats? maybe the democrats are good teachers, who we can trust in public schools with their wonderful anti-white and anti-American textbooks?
Robert, the reason hillary “forgave” her husband was because if she didnt, she would lose money and political influence. she wouldnt be anywhere without her husband. classic case of gold-digging.

My mom’s parenting style was to shelter me and keep me close to her until I was thirteen. The most damage happened at age 5. She wouldn’t allow me to go beyond three houses from our house. Because of that, whenever I tried to make more friends, I was friendblocked by my mom. The only age-appropriate friend I had at the time found new friends that I could have had the opportunity of hanging with. But I was stuck hanging out with kids that were a few years younger than me. She tried to stop me from watching the stuff that was age appropriate. The only channels I was allowed to watch was PBS Kids. I wanted to watch Power Rangers, Digimon, Pokemon, and all the other superhero shows on at the time. My mom was afraid they were going to make me hyper. Plus, she never told me about anything PG-13, even though all the other kids were making PG-13 insults. I tried asking her, she quickly changed the subject. This is probably the worst one of all; She forced my dad to take showers with me, because I guess I couldn’t bathe myself.

Five years later, they found out I had Asperger’s Syndrome. So all of that stuff she did was counterproductive to me growing up. And yet, she still continued her parenting style. I was so fed up with her restrictions that I (now I really regret this, really really regret it) hit her. My dad finally stepped in at that moment because my mom finally realized she couldn’t control me anymore. My mom used to be the rulemaker, and my dad would be the enforcer; despite my dad’s quiet protests to my mom’s parenting style. My dad would take me away from her every night he could and weekends to repair the damage. He did that every day until the day I left for college. But, it was too late.

Now, I’m 20 years old. I dropped out of college a year ago. I live with my dad after he divorced my mom. I don’t drive, don’t even have a license. I’ve never had a job. I’ve never had a true friend after Elementary School, and to top it all off, never been on a date with a girl or even kissed one. I am in a depression. I’ve had bouts with alcoholism. The first time I tried vodka, I tried to cut myself. That’s when my dad got rid of the alcohol. Now I’ve got nothing to take away the pain of what my mother has done to my childhood and the way my life is now.

My family and I can’t tell her what she has done to me, because she won’t believe us. She thinks everything she does is right and she never lies apparently. That’s what hurts me the most. She will never even be aware of the damage she has caused me.

I just need any advice on dealing with such a messed up upbringing, getting over depression, and making friends.
And please don’t say turn to Jesus. Because what are God and Him going to do to make the pain go away? I am a Christian, but religion does not always have the answer. They do have a lot of answers, but this is one of those times that it doesn’t.
I should add that I still love my mother, even though she was a bad parent. She is very manipulative. She prevented my dad from trying to contribute to the parenting. She only saw him as the enforcer of her rules, not an actually partner. So those of you weirdos actually trying to defend my mom, read what I say about her. She is manipulative, unaware of her problems, and thinks she perfect. When I was 11, she started to fill the house, to the point where you couldn’t even move around the house, with books and antiques. Whenever I would trip over anything; instead of asking if I was okay, she’d ask what I did in angry tone. So pay attention when I say that she has major issues. And stop trying to defend her. I have problems because of her. I tried the best I could to just live my life after she stopped trying to control me, but the damage had already been done.
I should add that I still love my mother, even though she was a bad parent. She is very manipulative. She prevented my dad from trying to contribute to the parenting. She only saw him as the enforcer of her rules, not an actually partner. So those of you weirdos actually trying to defend my mom, read what I say about her. She is manipulative, unaware of her problems, and thinks she perfect. When I was 11, she started to fill the house, to the point where you couldn’t even move around the house, with books and antiques. Whenever I would trip over anything; instead of asking if I was okay, she’d ask what I did in angry tone. So pay attention when I say that she has major issues. And stop trying to defend her. I have problems because of her. I tried the best I could to just live my life after she stopped trying to control me, but the damage had already been done.

A person is who they are because of their parents. I’m just lucky my dad actually got me away from her. She caused me deep psy

My father is a severe alcoholic and it has recently come to my attention that he is more than likely abusing prescription medications (opiates) as well. On average I have seen him drink a 6 pack of bud and 2 22oz bottles every day, sometimes starting as early as 10 am and never waiting till after 5 pm. The other day I noticed that he didn’t drink at all but showed no signs or symptoms of withdrawal, seeing as how he has had this habit for well over 15 years I am wondering how this was possible or what else he took to keep from exhibiting any signs of detox. I am concerned for him but have long since learned that I cannot control his abuse, and now I am 9 months pregnant and living with him due to the recent loss of my mother. I am more concerned about how out of hand his addiction overall is and what harm this could bring to my daughter once I bring her home. I have already started looking at alternate living situations due to these concerns but in the mean time I would really like to know about how much danger we are in. I have caught him using “bath salts” that he purchased online and I know he gets a prescription of hydrocodone on a regular basis, on top of all the medications he has stolen from me (I was on xanax and percocet and am still getting prescriptions for them due to my own disability, I have discontinued the frequent use of these medications under a doctors supervision but am still prescribed them as needed- which he steals). I am fortunate that I can control my own addictions as well as I have been and not take the medications habitually to the point of addiction, but I can clearly see this is not the case with him. I am pretty well educated on substance abuse issues after having been on such highly addictive medications for over 10 years and also have a degree in social science with a minor in chemical dependency. I just don’t have first hand knowledge of alcoholism to this extent and am still an undergraduate so I don’t know what the chances are that this wouldn’t affect him greatly (going without the constant heavy usage of alcohol unless under the influence of another substance) or what could possibly hide the withdrawal of the alcohol that well. Any help is appreciated.

Okay, so my parents have been separated for two weeks. I was glad that they were separating, because I dislike my father.
Another thing, my mom is an alcoholic. She ruined my childhood because of her alcoholism. (She went to rehab FOUR times)
So last Friday, I found out that my mom started drinking again. I could tell something was different. I went into her bedroom, and right when I walked in, I could smell wine. After that, I didn’t know how to react. I was shocked because she has been sober for 60 days. She talked to me about it later on that night.
This evening, my mom started acting strange again. I could tell she was drinking… just about five minutes ago, I walked into the kitchen and I saw this one cup on the counter. I went over to smell it, and of course, it was wine. I am so fucking pissed off at her now.. I just don’t know what to do. My brother is with my dad at the moment, and I am home with my mother, who is drinking.
Does anyone have any advice on what to do in this situation? *sighs* I’ve been through it so many times.. but it’s just.. ugh…nevermind..
- I’m not depressed, I’m just extremely pissed off. I don’t know how to react..
- Also, I just heard a huge crash coming from my mom’s bedroom upstairs.. oh god..
Oh, my dad has OCD by the way

My husband and I have been together for 10 years now, and I have just found out that I’m pregnant. We are over the moon. But for me there is a slight tinge of sadness, as I am unsure what to do about a situation:

My husband is estranged from his family, due to some very serious incidents when he was a teenager. His family said cruel things to him on and off through his childhood, which led to him having no self-esteem, and serious health problems. When he finally plucked up the courage to stand up to them, they kicked him out of his home and then set out on a tirade of abuse and harassment. He made many attempts to mend the relationship, but his parents were only concerned with abusing him into doing exactly what they told him to do, and because he dared to disagree with them, they tried to make it impossible for him to live without them (we were threatened numerous times, and attacked), so in the end he had to make the decision that they were not a part of his life he wanted anymore.

When we cut contact, 10 yrs ago, I heard that my MIL had depression, and cried all the time about ‘losing her son’, so she obviously felt something, and was not in a very stable mind frame .. I’m not excusing what she did, but it’s fair to say she hurt herself as well as us. I’m not clear whether she had some serious mental problems and had real trouble being caring and loving, or if she was just “evil”…

I always feel so much sadness that things had to be this way – I want to bring my children into a large and close family, and I keep thinking ‘why can’t it be like that’? I am playing with the idea of actually going to see my in-laws, to see if they’ve changed at all, and if it is at all possible to unite our families [we've had no contact for 10 yrs, and they have had NO way of contacting us, so if they did want to apologise or talk, they haven't been able to, therefore surely it is fair/right to give them one chance?] ….. BUT, a part of me’s saying don’t do it, cos my mother-in-law was such a god-awful person, and seemed to have some mental problems, and also alcohol problems, but she refused to acknowledge them… however our last ‘contact’ with them was a letter saying that “if they ever admitted how they behaved, and got help for their alcohol problems, we would forgive them and welcome them into our lives”, and we also explained why things had ended up as they had, and how they had treated us when they were drunk – so maybe this was a reality break for them, because they were in denial about their alcoholism. I think it’s right to give them that chance now.

What should I do? I’ve never experienced such odd/cruel people before, so I have no idea whether such people might repent/change, or how to act in this situation?
Gerry – They could only go to court if they had a really good and frequent relationship with their grandchildren, so that’s no danger. By the time the baby is born, we will know whether to let them back in to our life or not.