I need help my 17 year old nephew is in juvenile detention headed to an institution?
December 14th, 2011
He lost his cusines to foster care , his drug addict mom came back into his life and then in feburary of 07 his dad (who is biologicaly his grandfather) died. I know he is not a bad kid. The life he has had would be hard for an adult to cope with . he is doing what he feels he has to to survive. I need to know how to help him .there is alot more to his story i could right a novel . but any suggestions would help and please dont condem him . thats part of the reason he is where he is now .
he was not born to be bad
my parents adopted him from my sister they have had him since birth his real dad wants nothing to do with him
Some people are just born rotten. Sorry. He will not turn his life around until he hits rock bottom and has no one else to turn to but himself or the system. Hopefully himself.
He’s going to have to learn for himself. All you can do is be the best person you can be and offer your support when he needs it.
if you are willing for him to be with you, you can go the the courthouse and find out what you can do or his dr. or something..he sounds like he probably needs some kind of counselling or something he’s had a really hard time and prayer, he needs prayer..Peace
take hI’m in with you. i do not suggest counseling because im 12 years old, my mom threw me out on the street and took me into a mental hospital demanding they give me medication. she is bi-polar. i now live with my dad and i dont like counseling. i talk it out with my friends and dad and now I’m fine.
He needs to find the Lord. I know what i am talking about. I have been where you are. Pray and then pray some more. Keep praying and tell him to pray. try to get him to church.(even in jail they have church). send him religious material. and pray. there is power in prayer. and sometimes it take a long time, but prayer works. I finally have my son back.
The best thing you can do is BE THERE for him and let him know that you love him and accept him UNCONDITIONALLY. You may not like or accept what he has done, but that is not who he is. You don’t mention if he’s getting out of juvey or when. If you feel he can stay with you, that would be great, but be SURE you let him know your boundaries– what you will and won’t tolerate in your home. If he insists on breaking your rules, he will have to be responsible for the consequences. It’s really hard to say, but you can’t save kids every time they make a mistake- they don’t learn that way. So if it appears he has learned to obey your rules, you might try to find counseling for him. The fact that his mom is an addict and his dad was his grandfather is enough to give anyone emotional problems. Stress that he needs to be honest about his feelings with the therapist. Otherwise, therapy won’t work. Cognitive behavioral therapy might work well because they teach you tools to learn how to cope in non-destructive ways. Good luck.
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