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is going to graduate soon so she has to find a song related to her problem and i was thinking about good alcohol songs and i cant think of any they cant be about drinking more but they have to have a good end. I was going to used wasted but one of the other girls already played it!

I just had a horrible binge/purge session and I know I need to go to the gym to burn off the extra cals, or I’ll end up gaining weight plus I have errands to run, but before I do that I need to clean up but I’m afraid to face the mess, but I need to clean everything before my mom gets home and I’m feeling really anxious and upset and I’m afraid to go outside because I know I look so at and ugly and disgusting and I just want to cry what do I do?!

The Behavior of Alcoholic

“Alcohol addiction is a clear example of what I call a Love Buster because it causes so much suffering in marriage.” According to Dr. Harley, the Marriage Builders Counseling & Coaching Center. Besides being physically and emotionally harmful to alcoholics addiction is also harmful to those of who loves it so much. There are so many people who lives have been ruined because they married alcoholics or there is an alcoholic in their family. We are going to discuss the behaviors and feelings felt by the child/partner of a substance abuser and the behavior of Lorna Crozier’s mother and hers typical feeling in the story ‘What Stays in the Family’.

‘Addiction makes abuser insensitive to everyone who cares for them.’ Said by Dr. Harley. In the story Lorna’s mother had to mortify the shameful feeling of her alcoholic husband. In her whole life she has been to keep that in secret, and she also became an independent and a supportive woman for her family. Because she could not trust and depend on her husband anymore such as ‘when mom would ask for grocery money, he’d hand her a one-dollar bill with the attitude of a patron bestowing great gifts-and for that she’d almost have to beg’ (page78). He broke her heart so she wants to work, the idea of that was she could make some money, and she did not have to face him everyday. Moreover, Lorna’s mother not only goes to work, but also had her social life for example, ‘I can’t remember her getting together with women friends for a night on the town, but she curled and bowled in afternoon ladies’ leagues, and she met her neighbors for coffee once a week. If she wasn’t working’ (page79). She also has her own mind, she created a lot of lies to hide her family secret.

‘The fear that I have been tricking people has been with me almost all my life’ (page80). Said by Lorna. Under her mother’s influence Lorna must have to keep this shameful family secret as well for example, ‘I couldn’t tell anyone the real reason that mom and I walked everywhere’ (page79). Due to her father, she hides her real personality such as ‘On the surface I was well-adjusted, popular, optimistic. Inside I burned with shame’ (page80).
While she denied this disgrace secret, she also uses her creativity to make lies as well. For example, ‘What our secret meant in small and practical terms was that I couldn’t ask a girlfriend to sleep over if mom thought dad was on a toot’ (page79). And ‘I couldn’t tell my high-school boyfriend why I didn’t ask him to spend Christmas with my family when he was left alone’ (page80). Over all these sources are proved Lorna’s low self-esteem, humiliation and mortification.

According to the research from Al-Anon article they summarized that how to treat a relationship with alcoholic are ‘Detachment’ and ‘Forgiveness’. First ‘Detachment means to separate ourselves emotionally and spiritually from other people’ from Al-Anon (page2). Al-Anon article also said that alcoholic just like a disease, we should not take this behavior personally ‘in time we can learn to say to ourselves, “That’s just alcoholism” and let it go’ (page 2). Second ‘Forgiveness is no favor. We do it for no one but ourselves. We simply pay too high a price when we refuse to forgive’ (page 5). They mean people should forgive those of who did something wrong instead memorized in out heart. Lorna and her mother’s typical behaviors and feelings that is normal because they were just sucking in and was normal that they feel shameful and disgraceful. No one wants to tell anyone the family secret because that is a stigma for them. And at the end Lorna and her mother did forgive the dad, no matter how bad the dad was the mother even go back to take care of him because he got cancer at the end. They both sacrificed to protest the truth.

Let me explain…I have just met a great girl and, well, there are things in my family life that I am embarrassed about. I live in England although my father was American and he left us years ago. My mother is on benefits and suplements her income by selling crack. My sister is a heroin addict who sells her body on the streets of Manchester and my brother is in prison for assaulting a lollipop man. My question is this…should I be honest with her and own up to being half American?

have you ever left someone alone ( you were in a relationship with ) for a long time because even though things were not horrible you knew they may never get better? my recent ex of 4 years i love him to death i feel like we are perfect for each other – but we have so much drama that when he told me to leave because of something that happened i did and i havent been back ive talked to him one time in a week and a half and it wasnt pretty – his mommah is out of control she smokes crack – steals from everyone ( includeing me and her son ) she doesnt pay any bills, doesnt clean up, has a smart mouth – my boyfriend doesnt understand why i dont want her in my house, i would never make him choose between us – thats his mother – he says it wont be like that forever but i know shell never be able to take care of herself – she makes comments to me so he cant hear them and when i say something he only hears me n thinks im starting the drama. he has put her out b4 but she
comes right back
and i wont lie i wouldnt let my mommah run the streets either and not let her be safe when i can provide that – i left and i doubt ill go back – but its so hard because when it was just me and him living together we had so fewer problems and doesnt understand where im coming from – his nana used to take care of his mother ( support her and her habit ) and she passed away – when she did he promised her he would take care of her and his little brother ( who finally grew up and got a job i am happy for him and proud of him ) and i promised i would watch out for him – i dont even know why i put this question up there – maybe i really just want to hear someone else say yeah i left someone i loved with all my heart becasue it wasnt right at the right time -

every time i go to talk to my mother she is always on face book and winster. what can i do to get her unaddicted to the internet?

Ever sense my Grandpa passed away 3 years ago she has been drinking uncontrollably. Every time she goes to the store she buys 2 huge bottles of wine and drinks 1 every night. Every time she drinks she fights with me, my father, and 2 brothers and she hits and punches and screams. For example, Last night I had a 101.0 fever and felt really really sick. So I was laying in bed watching t.v. when I hear her and my father arguing. So after it stops I hear her stomping down the stairs and she barges into my room. She snaps on my light (which really didn’t help the horrible headache) and shuts off my t.v. and starts screaming “stop faking and start your homework!” and I’m like “it’s one in the morning mom. and I’m not going to school tomorrow, I’m too sick.” So she yanks off my bed covers and grabs my orange juice (which it was the last of our orange juice and that is the only thing that helps me feel better) and she starts gulping in down and gives my the most immature, childish, taunting face ever. so I say “mom stop! I need that!”. When she finished it she just threw the cup on the ground, grabbed my cell phone and said “no cell phone, your grounded!” and walks out of my room leaving the light on, the cup on the ground, and the door open. and as she’s walking down the hall I yell “mom that’s not fair!’ and she flips me off. That is what I have to deal with almost every night. When I try to talk to her about stopping she yells and turns it around on me. I’m sick of it and it is ruining My parents marriage and they have been married for over 20 years. I just want my mom back. Please help me!

She gets drunk every night then blames me for everything. I have no other family no siblings no grandparents no nothing. I’m stuck living with her, all she does is get mad and take all her anger out on me! Like about my dad walking out(which I had to deal with as well) For my whole childhood I’ve had to attempt to deal with almost constant fighting between my mom and dad. I’m just about to break I can’t take it anymore! She calls me names, once she called me a really extreamly bad name that I wont even repeat on here. She has said “I hate you” and other mean things. I feel like just running away but I know it would just be stupid and a waste of time. I don’t want to call child services or anything like that. I just want her to stop! What should I do! And I’ve tried to talk to her about it, it doesnt work at all.
tamwagon-didn’t you read the details?!?
and I feel like i have no family at all, i feel like no one cares about me at all. she is really mean when she is drunk…

I’ve been taking care of a 16 year old girl that is not related to me. Her parents are drug addicts. Mom is in a program and we dont know were dad is. I get no money from anyone for her I take care of all her expences.I had her for all of 2009, and I was hoping I can claim her on my taxes.

i was spraying bugs on the ceiling with rubbing alcohol and i’m scared of bugs so i sprayed them like probably 30 or 40 times cause my mom put rubbing alcohol in a spray bottle. i was talking to someone on the phone when i was doing this and i accidently breathed it in and i dont know if its dangerous cause i feel weird now like breathing weird and light headed. does anyone know if its dangerous or not? and if it is like how dangerous is it?

I’ve noticed I get sick when I am under too much stress. When I was a child I was under emotional stress from dealing with my mother’s drug use, my father’s incarceration, my grandmother’s emotional abuse, and my grandfather’s alcoholism. One Friday in my sophmore year of high school, I had a series of grand mal seizures. The medication the doctor gave me resulted in anaphalaxis and near death for me.According to the doctor, all this was a result of “stress”.
In 2002 I worked for a college professor who had multiple sclerosis for 2 years. I loved that job, but my boss was extremely demanding the hours were long, and at times I did her work. My menstrual cycle went berserk. I would have no period for 2 or 3 months, then I would bleed heavily for weeks at a time. In 2005, I required surgery to remove polyps in my uterus. The cause? Stress.This year, I began my first semester at a university and moved into a new apartment. During that time, I had stomach issues and diarrhea constantly.
I want to do many things with my life- get my degrees, launch my career, buy a house, raise kids. And I have to do this myself.
Since I was little I wanted to go to a university. I have many other dreams that I want to make come true, but how can I keep my body from reacting so badly from the stress that is inevitable?

Ever since my mom got sick and died several years ago, I’ve had a really big problem with food…….. I will very often (it ranges from every day to once or twice a week) eat until I am painfully full. While I am eating, I acknowledge that what I am doing is harmful, is making me fat, think about how unhealthy it is and how much I want to lose weight (I am about 20 lbs overweight b/c of this) but I continue to eat until I feel sick (or, sometimes, am sick).

After my mom’s death I did get some therapy, which pulled me out of depression but I still have this habit.

I’ve come to realize that it’s a mind-numbing comfort – the repetitive chewing motion, the texture of the food in my mouth, the lack of need to think or feel. Also, how much/often I do it seems to be directly related to how much frustration and anxiety I am feeling in my life (early last summer I was really happy and content for a period and lost about 15 lbs, which I quickly gained back as soon as a situation started causing me anxiety).

How do I deal with these feelings in a healthy way? What can I do that will have the same effect, but is healthy?

I can’t afford more therapy (college student).

Note: I enjoy eating healthy food (veggies, fruits, fish, chicken, whole grains). When I binge it’s most often on bread products or sweets like cookies/brownies. I hardly ever eat fast food, chips, fried food, etc.

About every year it’s always the same…My mom practically begs the family to come to her house for Thanksgiving. Everyone pitches in, but my mom just totally stresses over everything. Then, after Thanksgiving, she goes on a binge and it’s just awful. Last year, she ended up in the hospital. I could just avoid her but I’m afraid it would just hurt her feelings and just make it all worse. I’m in Al-Anon and I’m trying to better myself after growing up in an abusive family. It’s so sad to be around my mom this time of year and it just brings up painful memories. I love my mom but she just refuses to get any help for her problems. What am I supposed to do on Thanksgiving?
She’s on antidepressants and since she already has addiction problems with presciption medications, I just don’t think more pills is the answer.

I have a shocking true story could WYE ME about a boy that had a alcoholic mother with metal helf problems.

the boy is now 34 and happily married with 4 step kid and 2 of his own

He had cancer last year an has a 40% chance of dieing.

The family moved to a new home when the boy was 7 years old, and then the boys troubles started !

The boy had happy life until his mum became ill and started to drink heavily .

One day the boy came home from primary school to find his mum had taken a over dose she had try-ed to kill her self .

The boy panicked and did not now what to do as she lay motionless ,he tyred to wake her but she would not wake.up.

So he ran out in to the street crying and then knocked on a nab biers door for help .

The nubbier went with the boy to his house then the Lady rang 999 for a ambulance.and covert-ed the boy an till his father arrived.

When his dad got home he said to the boy she will be OK son ,as tears ran down his cheeks.

She in a special hospital ,meaning a mental hospital called Hill end, the boy did not under stand what was going on !

He felt scared and confused, all he wanted was his mum.

The next day the boy an his dad and big brother went to visit his mum at hill end mental hospital.

When the got there the the started to cry saying i don’t like this please daddy it was a old victor en building with scary people.

They went to reception and asked to see his mum ,so they waited until some one came to get them to take them to the ward.

They all went up along corridor it seamed to go on for ever and then up some stairs to to door with bars on the man unlocked the door and the first thing the boy saw was a old lady rocking and burping over and over and people walking up and down the ward talking to them self s.

The will never forget that day ,that day was start of the boys problems !

The mum has never recovered she is still very ill.

This has had a great impact on to boy life the family broke down and the boy started pulling his hair out .

his dad did not know what to do with the boy so he sent him to see a doctor and they did not know what was the mater with him.

At the age of nine the boy talk his first over does he talk his mum peels and ran away cry to the park thinking about his mum and wye is his life has got so bad now.

His father started to confide in the boy saying he dose not know what to do with mum, this was hard for the boy as he did not really understand or know what to say or do !

All the boy wanted was normal child hood and to be loved

.Things went wrong at school he could no think state and play up he was throne out

Things went from bad worst when he stated puberty, he started getting aggressive and fighting with his family ,he was fall off anger and his father could not cope with him and his mum ,so his father told him he has to go to boarding school .

Thing never worked out there and he was expelled age 13.

To cut along story short the boy left home age 14 he slept in a hag opiset his house for some time and a west Indian boy bro-rt him food this went on for some time an till the west Indian boys mum found out and talk him in .

the boy ended up in care not a nice please call Bridges he ran away to a place called farmstead and slept in a bus stop.

were he met Fred .

Fred lived in a foster home on a farm we became good Friends and i slept in the barn .

Fred had a hard life to so we got on well .

One day Fred and the boy started cutting there arms up, this felt good to them it realest all there stress an tent-ion.

(there so much more to tell about that time) they are still Friends to day

the boy ended up in hill end !!!! he was put to sleep for swearing again and again an-till he got Armand to the drug then he jumped throw the window and escaped

(so much more to tell)

some of

key points to cut to short

1 stabbed by father

2 flats he could not keep

4 first son

5 swots

6 drugs and self harming.

7 pub and club fighting

8 army

9 different home in different places

10 boxing with travellers and gasters and living on sites

11 Hill end

12 door man in London

13 lived with Fred’s mum she was hard work .had to look after her

14 went to lansaroty with tenner

15 drink mum

16 dads death

17 roses, Fred’s mums death the same week

18 inheritance from dad

19 marred the sister of Gail friend and had a baby boy could Tommy

20 now living with happily marred and and he has 40% of dieing from cancer

Yes that’s me, my Friends said it would make a good book can i have your expert pinyin please if poss .

be on-est

kind regards lee

lthotstuff2006@btinternet.com

There is this girl named britney in my town she’s 17 years old and has a 1 year old son. britney and her family have a bad reputation Basically they are well known for causing problems. britney’s mother is a alcoholic who doesn’t have a problem watching her grandson while under the influence. britney’s father committed suicide when she was young sadly although who could blame him, after all that family is trouble. her two brothers are in and out of jail… anyway recently Child Protective Services took her son in their custody because she was snorting prescription pills, smoking crack, and possibly shooting heroin, her son tested positive for drugs.. and because the family is unstable the boy will probably go to a adoption agencie since britney doesn’t know who fathered her son. will she get into trouble for having drugs in her son’s system?
will the mother be sent to juvenile intill she’s 21?
The mother neglects her child by not watching him properly. she takes him out without dressing him warmly Not putting a jacket on him, or hat and gloves. she takes her son out for a walk 2:00 in the morning and later then that strolling him arould when she has no business being out in the first place. she starts fights with people and becomes very violent in front of her son, (she’ll fight another person with her son there)
Because we live in a small town basically everyone is in everybody else’s business therefore rumors are spreading about her alot. of course Child Protective Services did take her child but people are talking about why they took him from her. she deserved it she shouldn’t have children when she can’t even take care of herseif, britney will probably grow up and be just like her mother a alcoholic with four more misfits as children just like her siblings.

ok this may be confusing but help
i am from ohio. my mom is not a good mother in any way. she drank with me at the age of 15. and smoked crack with me at the age of 17. i am now drug free married and live in tn. however i have a younger brother 14 who lives with her, actually stays with a drug dealer 1/2 the time. she supposedly is off the crack. however is a major alcoholic and smokes pot. do i have a fighting chance to take custody of my younger brother away from her. p.s we do not have a ton of money for a lawyer but we can support ourselves and him if it happens!!!! please help!!!
i am 99% sure he would choose to live with us.
she has been in prison for drug charges

I was browsing the ‘net (something I shouldn’t be doing since I am at work) and I came across this old article:

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/chronicle/archive/1999/09/07/MN81261.DTL

In a nutshell, this program paid crack addict women to get long-term birth control or to get their tubes tied in order for the mom to stop having crack-addicted kids who are born with severe health problems.

Some said that they found it harsh because it targeted poor women of ‘color. (That is sad that when something like this is mentioned, the first demographic that is sited is ‘women of color’.)

What do you think of this? If a politician brought this up, would you support it?
@havenone–

intelligence, you have none!

I’m one of the performers in a benefit concert series next month for Mothers Against Drunk Driving. I know it doesn’t fit the theme whatsoever, but we can sing anything. I’m thinking of singing ‘Black Velvet’ by Alannah Myles, but I don’t know if that would be appropriate. What do you think?

I’m 26 yrs old and my mom drinks every night. Im the youngest of 7 children and my parents have been together for 40 yrs..I feel bad for my dad because my mom is mean to him at night – she’s never mean during the day – she treats everyone good, cuz she’s not drinking. But when 5:30 hits, she starts drinking..my parents now live alone and i dont really talk much to my mom at night – cuz her personality is so different. I try to treat my parents so good, but tonight my mom was so mean to me for no reason – she told me how i dont spend enough time with her and the family – which makes me feel tremendous guilt – i try to spend as much time as possible and i call my mom multiple times per day -but i admit, i stay away at night cuz it REALLY BOTHERS ME when she drinks. Its embarrasing when we go out to dinner or something. My mom WOULD NEVER want help for her disease. She’s in denial about it, but she has said that if someone ever did an intervention on her, it would b the worst nightmare ever..my mom is 70 yrs old and i dont want to hurt her by telling her she needs help. Everyone in my family just puts up with it. Im a sensitive person and im sad that my mom has this disease..but everyone, including my dad, enables it. Any ideas on how to feel better about my situation?