My boyfriend’s mom is an alcoholic?
September 9th, 2010
I just turned 16 and my boyfriend is turning 16 in two weeks. His mom is an alcoholic. She works in tampa and sometimes she doesnt come home. Hes worried sick about her. I don’t really know what to do. He ignores me when she pulls her stunts but he always apologizes for it. the other day his aunt picked up his mom in tampa and found out shes been doing some drugs and smoking marijuana too. i love him so much and he doesnt deserve what his mom is putting him through.
i dont know what to do for him.
i posted this question but all i really got was i should get him into a program from alcoholic’s children. i don’t really think its my place to do that. or is it? ive never dealt with this before.
when he tells me whats going on i never know what to say. is it ok not to say anything? because i feel wierd saying sorry all the time.
I’m just trying to help him because i love him and i dont want him to have to go through this alone.
any advice or stories are welcomed.
thank you
Get her to read Allen Carr’s Easy Way to Stop Drinking.
It is the world’s most effective method for quitting the drink.
Go to some AL ANON meetings with him, that will help you be able to open up and talk to him about it. Look them up in the phone book or on line.
Not saying anything will make him shut down on you. If you know his aunt talk to her, she might be able to help you better understand what he’s going thru emotionally. Don’t feel bad about him iggin you to take care of his mom. Alcoholics basically train their kids that way from the time they’re young. My nephew (19) still goes thru that with his mom & step dad.
His mom is the one who needs to get into a program. He needs to try and talk her into going to some AA meetings, but since she’s still so dependant on the booze she won’t do that at present. He needs all the support he can get from you right now, and make sure when you two talk he knows this is not his fault!!!
He needs to see if his aunt will take him in for a short period of time. If he’s not there to enable his mom she might try and get herself the help she needs. Hope it all works out for you two.