My alcoholic mother is putting me out, What are my options?
September 9th, 2010
I got into a really heated argument with my alcoholic mother earlier today. She wants me to move out of her apartment. I think I can stay until the end of the month because I’ve paid half of the rent but she is a vindictive woman. I’m afraid that she may change the locks on me monday when i go to work or damage my belongings. I just started my job and I don’t get paid till the 30th.
I don’t have many relatives that I can stay with and i dont really want to because I need all of my money to help get myself established. if i stay with someone else I’ll have to pay them and I won’t ever be able to get out from under living with someone else.
I live in Chicago, do you know anywhere that I can stay week to week or month to month for minimal cost. My take home pay will be about $780 dollars every two weeks. What are my options I need to move fast!
YMCA, or a cheap motel that offers weekly rates, or a rooming house
YMCA
hmmm. maybe you should try to appease your mother and smoothe things over at least till the end of the month…then get the heck out of there.
maybe you can go to a local church and they might be able to refer you to a place.
do you have any friends at work? check the local paper…or craigslist…people advertise for roommates all of the time…that might get you by for a little while. good luck
oh yeah just like the people above me said…check the YMCA
and also maybe you can rent out a small local storage unit to gert the stuff out of your mothers house…that shouldn’t be too expensive
Try the YMCA they have different program for temporally stay. Also check with your local church’s They will know about different non-profit agency that can assist you. Good Luck
Sorry to hear you’re having problems. I only know from what I’ve seen and heard sooo—here goes–I don’t think she can legally put you out. If this is where you eat, sleep and get mail, I think the law is on your side. You didn’t state your age. We know of a couple that has a 23 year-old son. The situation is reversed. He drinks and tears up the place, steals out of Mom’s purse, takes her car and wrecks it and they cannot put HIM out because this is where his things are, he sleeps there and gets mail there. He doesn’t work. The police have told this couple that they cannot put him out. Sounds like you are a responsible person. At this point, you haven’t said what the argument was about. Is there some way a truce could happen?? I’m thinking that would buy you some time to save more money for a FUTURE move. If she changes the locks, I really think the law is on your side. Call the non-emergency number and speak to an officer about it. It’s always good to know ahead of time how things will play out. Hey, good luck, I’ll pray for you and your Mom.
The question I have is will she be able to pay the rent without you?Could it be that she was just venting and doesn’t really want you out?You do need an escape plan if she locks you out,ask around to see if anyone you know will let you stay with them ,temporarily. Around here though to move into an apartment you need first and last month’s rent and a month’s security deposit.You could call your local salvation army,sometimes they can help in cases like yours,there are some social services that match people with housing with people who need housing,mostly older people who have payed off their home ,but who can’t do the yard work with younger people who can’t afford housing but who can cut the grass and help run errands for them.
Check the news paper classified real estate section for rooms for rent or home to share or roommate wanted. If you can find something for $500-600 per month you should be okay. Also, check with local church pastors and explain your situation; most will either have room for you or will know of someone who does. Good luck! The affects of alcoholism reach out to all family members, not just the alcoholic.