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ok well i am 21 and in the national guard and college and college is very stressful on me i am failing classes and i am also depressed so i started smoking weed to coop with this stress and i failed a drug test now i have to go to rehab and i do not know how to tell my parents mostly my mother becuase she said she would disown me if i ever smoked weed and now i must tell her becuase since i am a full time student i am still on her insurance without a normal job so how do i break the news

She’s been at the center for 21 days. The nurses called to talk to us about post-center treatment and how we can help her. But my mom and I are both lost at what to stock the kitchen with. Some people said “Whatever she likes” but then some people said she’ll binge on that and purge. So…. now I don’t know…. thanks!

I have 4 beautiful step children. My husband and I have had custody of them for 4 years now. This past summer their mom moved to Kentucky to live with her mom to “get well.” She is an acoholic who suffers from severe depression. This Christmas she saw the kids over break and the kids were delighted to see her but at the same time angry that she isn’t moving back and can’t “not drink” unless she’s in Kentucky. How do I help my babies through this confusing time and make sure they know its not their fault their mom drinks and/or its not their responsibilty to take care of her. They are 7, 8 and 9 for gosh sakes! They shouldn’t have to be burdened with something like this… Help, please.
Several of you have said “don’t disrespect the mom”… I never do. I NEVER say anything negative about her, although sometimes it may be playing nonstop, full volume in my head, I never say bad stuff about her. She is their mom, I will never try to replace her or be disrespectful to my children because I may disagree with her life choices. I love our children too and I just want to be there for them and help them to understand that some things are beyond their control…

my mother in law (who i hate more than life its self! ) has been a alcoholic(mostly wine) for many years and she was just diagnosed with diabetes(which i think came from the many years of drinking). she has her moments when shes sober but it doesn’t last long, and not to long ago she told me that one of her boy friends told her drinking helps her sugar (glucose). which i find total bull crap! she bruises very easily and i read that it can be a complications with liver function. now my question is, Is it bull crap that she is telling my husband and i ? …thanx .
omg Mia thank you so much *HUGS*
thank you so much ! she hasnt told her doc that she is a alcohlic i dont know if i should call and tell her doc myself or not
no my mother in law is not over weight all she does is drink but omg does she EVER Bloat up like a balloon when she drinks even her fingers bloat up
oh god no im not an enabeler! i never give her anything i actually took away her car so she wouldnt kill anyone she drives drunk to go and get more booz and yes she may be a legal adult but she is no where close to being a grown adult
wow thank you so much for sharing that with me micheleae , and good for you on the 23 yrs :D

Is it true that an overbearing mother and a distant father can cause a child to be gay?
I recently came to terms with the fact that I am gay. I have not told anyone except my crush. Anyways, I heard that a gay son can be the product of an overbearing mother and a distant father, is this true?
My story: I was born when my mother was 17, my parents were not married at the time. My mother’s parents did not approve of my father and made life hell for them in their village. My parents emigrated to the US while I stayed in southern Mexico with my grandparents until I was around two years old. At that age, my mother picked me up and took me to the States. As I was the first born, my parents had no idea how to raise a child. I was and still am, very stubborn. I was unintentionally physically, verbally, and emotionally abused by my parents. Throughout my whole life, I’ve felt that my parents never understood me, and at times I believed I was born in a different family since I’ve never really felt comfortable with my family. As I got older, my father’s alcoholism increased, it got to the point that my parents now barely get along, though still married. My father now barely know me, and I don’t really talk to my mother on a personal level. When I was sixteen I had enough and simply told my parent “No!” They were shocked, but now respect my independence. My mother has been and still is, very nosy and controlling. As I grew up, I was raised a Pentecostal, and was not allowed to play with Pokemon, Digimon, Dragon Ball Z, Yu Gi Oh, etc… I wasn’t allowed to celebrate Halloween, Easter etc… I was taught that homosexuality was “an abomination” and “unnatural.” Since my father was away at work or at happy hour, my mother ruled with an iron fist. If I retaliated, I was beat. If I cried in public or showed any negative emotion, I was beat. I was beat for disagreeing with my parents. Though I’m depressed living in my house with my family, my mother has asked me to forgive her mistakes, she says she’ll love me unconditionally and that she wants me to accept her apology. I’ve forgiven her. My father is a different story, he barely know my name, my early childhood, and that’s about it.

So my question is, can an overbearing mother and a distant father cause a child’s homosexuality?
Edit: I’m 17.

I’m Christmas shopping for my mom. I remember her saying that she saw this show on basic cable about a professor who gets mixed up with drugs or something? I want to get her a box set DVD of the show, but I can’t for the life of me remember the name of the show. If you gave me the name I’d remember it.

it pisses me off. cause my mom thinks i took her “vadka” or whateevr you call it, and im getting my graduation party cancelled. its NOT FAIR. arrg i told her the truth but she doesnt even believe me.. what should i do?

If a nursing mother continues to drink heavily, could her drinking continue to affect the baby’s growth? Facial features? Brain development? Explain your answer

She is 21. “C” was engaged to another young man and they were to be married October 5th and she called off the wedding in July when she started seeing the heroin addict. I know she is an adult and will make up her own mind. She doesn’t understand addiction in the least fights with bf about him smoking cigs. Her mother was an alcoholic and addicted to gambling, she died last May of heart disease sudddenly. My husband is just about speechless, no matter what we say, she isn’t listening. She is supposed to be going to work on a cruise ship in March for 5 mos., now she is already thinking about coming back sooner. We think he proposed to keep her from going. His family is ecstatic about them getting married, she is “his guardian angel” and will “keep him in check” they believe. He supposedly quit using H after two months in jail this past Sept/Oct. but he is drinking and not using a recovery program, just once a week private counseling. Any help, any suggestions?
I know she will make her own choices, but seriously, if you are a parent, how can you “stay out of it”? Wouldn’t you be concerned if it were your daughter?
Really, big-bad, you think a heroin addict that has already had jail time before the age of 21 is stable? Wow, I don’t even know what to say about that. He has never lived on his own, Mommy and Daddy pay for everthing, take care of everything and still he can’t cope. How stable will he be with the responsibilities of managing a home, a wife, and children? Yes they want children, and I just hope that is a few years away. Stable? seriously???
Most of you give great advice and I appreciate it wholeheartedly! Can anyone refer me to any decent websites that may offer us more information regarding heroin addiction and/or recovery or something for loved ones of addicts. I have been searching and have been disappointed thus far with the info available. Thanks again!

i understand cocaine and how a person uses that, but i don’t understand crack cocaine and how a person uses it. like what they use, etc…. i need infomation asap….a concerned mother.

Do you still talk to your mother? If not, why? My mom and I have not talked in ages. She was a drug addict and was in and out of rehab every 2 months and I never had a great relationship with her. I feel really guilty for not caring about her or talking to her. I want to communicate with her again, but I still have not forgiven her for everything she did through out my life. Thanks!

And the first 2 questions were questions I want you to answer.

-Riley O.

I just turned 16 and my boyfriend is turning 16 in two weeks. His mom is an alcoholic. She works in tampa and sometimes she doesnt come home. Hes worried sick about her. I don’t really know what to do. He ignores me when she pulls her stunts but he always apologizes for it. the other day his aunt picked up his mom in tampa and found out shes been doing some drugs and smoking marijuana too. i love him so much and he doesnt deserve what his mom is putting him through.
i dont know what to do for him.
i posted this question but all i really got was i should get him into a program from alcoholic’s children. i don’t really think its my place to do that. or is it? ive never dealt with this before.
when he tells me whats going on i never know what to say. is it ok not to say anything? because i feel wierd saying sorry all the time.
I’m just trying to help him because i love him and i dont want him to have to go through this alone.
any advice or stories are welcomed.
thank you

I got into a really heated argument with my alcoholic mother earlier today. She wants me to move out of her apartment. I think I can stay until the end of the month because I’ve paid half of the rent but she is a vindictive woman. I’m afraid that she may change the locks on me monday when i go to work or damage my belongings. I just started my job and I don’t get paid till the 30th.

I don’t have many relatives that I can stay with and i dont really want to because I need all of my money to help get myself established. if i stay with someone else I’ll have to pay them and I won’t ever be able to get out from under living with someone else.

I live in Chicago, do you know anywhere that I can stay week to week or month to month for minimal cost. My take home pay will be about $780 dollars every two weeks. What are my options I need to move fast!

This is a genuine question about a subject that is hurting me very much right now so please ~ no smart/nasty comments.

I’m 33 and my sister is 30 and she got married in September to a military man. She has had alcohol problems for the last few years, but has been taking a medication prescribed by her doctor to stop her from craving/enjoying drinking. I was so proud of her for staying off the booze. But she rang me yesterday, completely drunk, and I am heartbroken.

My parents both know of her problem, but I do believe that they are “enablers” ~ my mother does nothing but worry about her and is so smothering and such a neurotic that I made the decision not to tell her about my sister drinking again.

My family has always been very secretive, always worrying about what people will think and warning me as I grew up to keep my private life to myself. So other than immediate family, no one knows of my sister’s alcoholism.

My question is: should I tell her friends and the rest of her extended family about it, or should I keep it a secret. I just don’t know what to do for the best, because on one hand, by keeping her secret from them all, surely that’s enabling her to continue drinking without anyone saying anything to her. On the other hand, what if I make her life worse by spilling her secret and make her resent/blame me forever?

I would really appreciate the advice on this from someone who’s been in the same boat as me, or in the same boat as my sister.