Mom doesn’t want to be around me because I have an eating disorder?
September 7th, 2010
Hi,
I’m 18
5’3 96.6 pounds
I might want to reach 90 pounds, but I’m not sure
I don’t like to say I have an eating disorder, but I do
I have anorexia and bulimia
I see a psychiatrist for anxiety and depression
My mom hates it when I don’t eat
I can see why
She doesn’t want to be around me
She sometimes makes jokes
I want her to understand me and not get angry with me
Today I starved for most of the day but tonight i binged and purged
I might binge and purge again tonight
How do I get my mom to care and understand me ?
she won’t because she hasn’t been thru it. i have eating disorder too which is why i’ll be dead in a month.
good luck to you
First and foremost you should like yourself. Love yourself, accept the way you are and try to change yourself through practice, change will not come in one day my friend, it takes sometime.
Before you expect your mom to accept you, you should accept yourself first.
Gradually train your mind to eat at correct times and in right amount. Don’t starve yourself, eat at correct times.
You can work wonders when you respect yourself.
Your mom is frustrated and stressed out over your eating disorder.
of course she wants you to be healthy and happy–and she has no control over your anorexia/bullemia.
What medications are you on for depression and anxiety?
Do you go to an eating disorder clinic? have you been inpatient for your eating disorder?
If you continue, you will end up hospitalized. You are leaving yourself open to getting physically sick, as you won’t be able to fight off disease.
bullemia destroys your throat, mouth and teeth from the gastric acid.
Your psychiatrist needs to know about your eating disorder, if they don’t already. Sometimes we just have to do things that we don’t feel like doing, but that is when we need to *readjust* our thinking! And that is what you seem to need to do . . .
I recommend the following articles, for you to read . . .
“What Is Behind Eating Disorders?”:
– When Food Is Your Enemy
– Anorexia and Bulimia –The Facts, the Dangers
– What Causes Eating Disorders?
– Eating Disorders—What Can Help? http://watchtower.org/e/19990122/article_01.htm
“You Can Manage Stress!” :
– “The Silent Killer” & “Slow Poison”
– Good vs Bad Stress
– It Can Be Managed!
– PTSD–A Normal Reaction to an Abnormal Experience http://watchtower.org/e/19980322/article_01.htm
“Spirituality and Your Well-Being”
– A Positive Link!
http://watchtower.org/e/20040201/article_01.htm
“Help Your Children to Thrive!” :
– Harsh Words, Crushed Spirits
– Parents Under Pressure
– Help Your Children to Thrive http://watchtower.org/e/19970808/article_01.htm
“EMPATHY–Key to Kindness and Compassion”
– What IS Empathy
– Scriptural Examples of Empathy
– How to Cultivate Empathy
– Empathy Helps in Christian Activities
– Cultivate Fellow Feeling http://watchtower.org/e/20020415/article_01.htm
Perhaps she will be willing to read them, also . . .
especially:
“Eating Disorders—What Can Help?”,
“Help Your Children to Thrive!”, &,
How to Cultivate Empathy . . .
Maybe if printed out & left where she can see them, she might pick one or more up, & give the a read.
heres a news flash…. you mom DOES care….
and she understands you are going to die… you’re 18, you dont know it yet… but you are going to die… very very soon… you’ll be dead before you can legally drink, and your mom is the only one who will miss you.
if you really do see a psychiatrist, you need to explain to them the eating disorder as well.