How to help my alcoholic mother?
September 7th, 2010
My mother has been a beer alcoholic since i can remember. she’s a social alcoholic and i mean she has always worked a very good job, has alot of friends. actually unless your really close to her you wouldnt even know. my mom knows she has a problem but she refuses to get help or go to AA meetings. she’s worried about her reputation and worried she might loose her job. My step dad helps her alcoholic behavior, he’s always bringing beer home for her. my husband and i lived with her right before we got married, and now that we’re married we now live in our own home, but i still see her about once a week. any advice to help my mother become clean even if she’s unwilling? any unique words of encouragement that could work. i think my grandma and i have used almost every phrase to help but nothing seems to work. i’m so worried because my husband and i plan on having kids soon and we’ve agreed if she doesnt stop before our children are born she wont be able to see them unless its supervised with one of us there.
People don’t quit drinking until they are ready. I only wish you knew how many people ask the same question every day…”how do I get X person to quit drinking when they don’t want to.”
The answer is: you can’t. Sorry. If you don’t like someone else’s way of life, your remedy is to remove yourself from the situation until they clean up their act.
I know, this isn’t easy. But it IS true.