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I have a cousin whose son was removed from her custody when he was 1 day old because she tested positive for Meth. He was in a foster care home for a month and then our Aunt was given temporary custody while my cousin attended drug rehab, etc. My cousin completed the rehab program and was doing quite well for a while. She even got a job for a short period. But when the baby’s father went to jail she seemed to lose interest in getting the baby back. She was fired from her job for not showing up. She had a dirty drug test and has cancelled numerous visitation appointments because she said she was ill. At the last custody hearing the judge opted not to change anything as far as custody for the next 6 months. The baby is now 14 months old and has been with my Aunt for a year. I hear that the goal of the courts in Ca is to reunite the mother and baby. My cousin gave up her rights to 2 other children but seems to want this one because the baby’s father does. Do you think she’ll get custody?

Hi,
I’m 18
5’3 96.6 pounds
I might want to reach 90 pounds, but I’m not sure
I don’t like to say I have an eating disorder, but I do
I have anorexia and bulimia
I see a psychiatrist for anxiety and depression
My mom hates it when I don’t eat
I can see why
She doesn’t want to be around me
She sometimes makes jokes
I want her to understand me and not get angry with me

Today I starved for most of the day but tonight i binged and purged
I might binge and purge again tonight

How do I get my mom to care and understand me ?

Hi,
I’m 18
5’3 96.6 pounds
I might want to reach 90 pounds, but I’m not sure
I don’t like to say I have an eating disorder, but I do
I have anorexia and bulimia
I see a psychiatrist for anxiety and depression
My mom hates it when I don’t eat
I can see why
She doesn’t want to be around me
She sometimes makes jokes
I want her to understand me and not get angry with me

Today I starved for most of the day but tonight i binged and purged
I might binge and purge again tonight

How do I get my mom to care and understand me ?

My mom used to be a drug addict about 3 years ago.
She finally quit when i was 16.
Im 19 now, and it seems in the last year or so she has started drinking on a daily basis.
She says its relaxing and stuff and on the average day, she doesnt drink enough to get trashed.
Im 8 months pregnant and about 2 months ago, I was driving her home from the bar after she had gotten crazy, and she hit me in the face repeatedly while we were driving. Scary when ur pregnant and may get into an accindent.
She was really sorry the next day, and she said she would stop drinking and only drink carefully with her boyfriend and not get trashed at home anymore.
Well tonight she came home and started a physical fight with my older sister. I had to break it up, then i got into with her because she keeps telling me she doesnt care and I have felt like she hasnt cared most of my life because of the drugs when I was younger. Things got even crazier and we ended up calling the cops and her boyfriend to come and get her.
I just dont know what to do. I love my mom so much and I need her so bad at this time in my life. Im also bipolar, and pregnant on top of it. The babys dad is not around and I just need my moms love. I dont know how to get her to see that her drinking is really becoming a problem and tearing up our family. Theres also a 5 and 6 year old that live here, and my 14 yr old little sister. How do i get through to her and get her to see that I need a mom, and this drinking is a real issue? I think shes an alcoholic, but she says shes not. Any help? :(
sorry this is so long, but i really dont know what to do, and i appreciate any answers.

thank you.

I don’t know why I am doing this. Just thinking that this might help a little. I have an alcoholic mother, and my dad has a busy job and is often gone for 3 days every month or so. Also I have a sister who is in college. I am home with her, and my dad a lot, and I am tired of it and don’t know what to do. We have done an intervention, but it only made things worse. I really don’t like being around her, because I never know what is going to happen. I wish that I had a normal life like other kids, and didn’t have to deal with these added things. I have learned to care for myself early, and i don’t know. I also wish that I could have a girlfriend, and be able to actually show my parents my friends, instead I have to go to other people’s houses to have to do stuff. idk…..just needed to get it all out there, as I have bottled it in pretending that nothing is wrong, and now I have realized that stuff IS wrong and now I don’t know what to do….
She is not abusive, other than verbal, its just scary to be around her, because you never know if she will start being abusive.

I seen this question on a talk show yesterday about a mom who adopted 6 children who were born drug or alcohol addicted ,she is trying to pass a law that these moms should be prosecuted NOT just DCF involved . do you agree? I think its child endangerment and they should be prosecuted I think smoking cigarettes also.

Im 15, she knows i drink. I drink like every weekend (she doesn’t know that part.) and she has boughten my like smirnoff ice and the big vex bottle. But, she thinks that summers over she shouldn’t be buying me this stuff, and i just dont see why she wont buy it for me.,
like she has before and now she wont…? i just dont understand it. :S

I’m 17 and my girlfriend who also is the mother of my child gave me an ultimatum either her or my EX girlfriend Brooke. She told me if i don’t choose her she will make sure i never see my son Joesph ever again. This is a long story but while we were still dating Brooke got caught with possession of marijuana cocaine and heroin. And she was sentenced to a year in jail. I promised her i would help her get clean once she got out. However i had a one night stand at a party and it resulted in Joesph’s birth in late September. Brooke got out of jail and freaked out when i told her about my affair and Joesph. I then caught her using drugs again i was pissed she told me she went back to drugs because i cheated on her. She told me my son was a “bastard child” and a worthless piece of shit as well as his mother was a no good whore. As much as that hurt me i still continued to date her. Until she forced me to make a decision between her and Joesph and i choose my son and we broke up. I started dating Joesph’s mom she was excited she is in love with me and wants to start a family plus she hated Brooke and refused to let her be around Joesph. We have been dating for a month and i don’t think were right for each other she seems more focused on getting us to be a couple sometimes then being a mother to Joesph. I don’t love her but I’m trying to learn how to love her. I want to love her and be with her but i still love Brooke. After we broke up she went into rehab to get clean and show how much she loves me by finally getting clean. I met with her at a rehab meeting and i had a hard time not kissing her or hugging her. She is really trying hard to clean and i felt proud and felt her pain at the same time. I’m torn i love Brooke and it finally seems like is getting her life back on track and she is making great sacrifices for us. On the other hand i wanna love Joesph’s mom she is a great mother and really loves but i just don’t feel about her the way i feel about Brooke and i don’t wanna lose Joesph she is the most important thing in my life. Who should i choose?

If someone were to say, “Your mom smokes crack”, “Your mom smokes pole”, or anything else diragatory about my mother, I fail to understand why someone would get angry.

Who cares what anyone thinks about your mother (or anyone else in your family). Just because loser nitwit says something about your mother doesn’t mean it’s true…getting angry just validates what the person said…

So what’s the deal? Why do certain ethnic groups get so offended when you make fun of mothers. To be truthful, the more they get angry, the more I just want to do it…’Cause it makes me laugh!!

**Lots of people might get offended, but certain ethnic groups are notorious…for instance, go to Mexico and answer, “yer’ mom” to any question and you will get your @ss kicked…or Bolivia…or Chile…

I’m 19 years old, 5’10″ and very slender. Last night I drank 1 1/2 cups of pure rum (the bottle said it was 40% proof). I wasn’t looking to get plastered, but based on my body mass (and the fact that I can count the number of times I’ve drank on one hand…and never more than a glass of wine) that should have given me at least a little buzz, right?
I was trying to see how much I can drink and it not effect me. Not that I would ever try to drink and drive or anything like that. But, what I drank last night made no difference. I was with a friend and she said that she also noticed no difference in my behaviour or demeanour.

Is alcoholism hereditary? Looking at my family, it would seem so. On my dad’s side of the family, every single man is or was an alcoholic…a few (my dad and uncle) were/are also drug addicts. It’s how my dad died. On my mom’s side, though, there’s none. My mother says that I have an addictive personality and I know that when it comes to alcohol I need to be careful but, well, do you see where I’m coming from here? It kind of worries me that what I drank last night seemed to have no effect on me. That’s how my dad was…it took a lot to get him drunk, but he always seemed to manage it. But he had been drinking since he was 12. By the time I came along, he was an experienced drinker…more use to it, so it would obviously take him more. I never drink though.

I am adult. For the past 10 years or so after my parents divorced, she been involved with a man who came with A LOT trouble. He’s didn’t have a place to live, so she allowed him to move in with her. Couple years later he loses his job, was fired, for failing drug tests several times.
He wont get a job….she supports him financially 100%. Hes a grown man but yet is not responsble for anything in his life. He appears to be a alcoholic and a drug user has been in and out of rehab several times.
Even his family smooches off her and has been known to steal from my mother. Lastly, he dissapears days at a time getting high and then she allows him to come back home where he sleeps it off.
Because of this, I feel i cannot respect my mother nor do i want to be that involved with her because of him.

Everyone in my family has spoken to her about him. She is AWARE of all the trouble he’s been in. yet it doesnt seem to bother her in the least!!!

What do I do?

It’s so bad that she asked to watch my husband and mine’s 4 WEEK old daughter and I told her we’re not comfortable with her drinking beer and watching our daughter and she got offended. Wow. She turned it around on us, badmouthing us and saying stuff that she thinks we do is wrong. My husband works 2 jobs and I am a stay at home mom. We never drink at home and are great parents. She has nothing on us to say anything, all it is is that she is such an alcoholic that she has to defend her drinking. Can you beleive that my mom would get offended when I tell her we don’t want her to drink if she watches our daughter? Wow..I’m in shock! Who in their right mind would condone that? Is she that bad of an alcoholic? I never asked her to watch my 4 week old because I know she drinks..she asks to watch her and that’s the answer I get. I expect her to say “No problem, I won’t drink.” But instead I get guilt tripped and insulted. Anyone else understand this?

My mother has been a beer alcoholic since i can remember. she’s a social alcoholic and i mean she has always worked a very good job, has alot of friends. actually unless your really close to her you wouldnt even know. my mom knows she has a problem but she refuses to get help or go to AA meetings. she’s worried about her reputation and worried she might loose her job. My step dad helps her alcoholic behavior, he’s always bringing beer home for her. my husband and i lived with her right before we got married, and now that we’re married we now live in our own home, but i still see her about once a week. any advice to help my mother become clean even if she’s unwilling? any unique words of encouragement that could work. i think my grandma and i have used almost every phrase to help but nothing seems to work. i’m so worried because my husband and i plan on having kids soon and we’ve agreed if she doesnt stop before our children are born she wont be able to see them unless its supervised with one of us there.