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I know your mother loves you no matter what, right? Well in my situation I don’t’ think so. I have done everything in my life to make my mother proud but nothing pleases her. I’m to the point where I just want to tell her to not contact me again.

History: my parents split when I was one because my father had an affair and gave my mother a VD. From then on my mother used me as a weapon with my father. We would move and she wouldn’t tell him were we lived and she made me call my step father dad.
My mother never had me she always left me at my grandmother’s house. I basically lived there rode the bus to school and everything. My mother would use me for everything. My grandmother asked my mom once to have me pretend I was her daughter so she could lie to a man my grandmother was cheating on with my grandfather. My grandmother said I was their love child and for years I was forced to live a lie when ever we would visit. Along with many other things family members would use me to help them steal and I was sexually molested by one of my uncles. I never told my mother when I was young because I knew she would never believe me. I told her a few years ago and she tells everyone that she doesn’t’ think that my uncle would have ever done such a thing. She never asked me a thing about it either. There was physical abuse and metal abuse my entire childhood and when I was 16 my mother and I got in a fight and she call me a B***H and told me to leave. So I was on my own and she never asked me to come back home.

Now I am married to a wonderful man and two amazing children. However my mother still does things that hurt me. She never calls or asks how my kids are doing, she doesn’t know that I am in college (I’m in my 2nd year). Seriously I have done so much for her taken care of her when she was going through rehab for drugs and basically raised my little sister…What the heck…She doesn’t love me right? I’m feel I am such a strong individual but why does this woman have such an impact on my life?

My brother is the worst sort of person. He is a pill popper and a heroin addict who does it in the worst way. He has periodically gotten tickets for stupid stuff including marijuana and stealing scrap metal from a construction site. Now my mother has tried to help him understandably, but he left to go to my fathers house without saying anything which hurt my little sister and mother very much. B/c he is family! The last two times he has visited b/c my fathers does try and a teach the 25 y/o responsibility which he hates because of his vices’. The first time he disappeared for like a day or two and took my little sister to the store and came back in three hours. When questioned to where they went they said to the store. But my sister later admitted to going to a place where she had never been in the city and we believe to buy the junk. The second time he visited he not only disappeared, but during the week took my mothers car in the middle of the night to buy. He also hurt my mother trying to take the keys to do it again and she had to call me from work to stop the punk! I obviously don’t like him now ! But now she permanently wants to bring him back to try and sort him out. My mother had to buy me a safe my b-day and had to previously had to buy door locks to protect the homes valuables! Well, sorry about the grammar and I love my mother b/c she has helpped out the family and I do my best to help out too. I just don’t think he is very good to have around for n e 1. I’m not trying to be the person to stop helping him. I just want to enable him to keep using and abusing those who try and love him.

Hi I’m 15 and I have binge eating disorder. I haven’t been diagnosed with it from a doctor, but that because I’m just to ashamed to tell anyone, only my sister knows. I’m addicted to food. I have a serious addiction to food. I’m called skinny all the time though. And this is because most of the food I do eat ends up being thrown up. And every couple of days, I stave myself for about four days and then binge for days afterwords. And right now, I’m in that cycle where I’ve been eating serious amount for the past three days. But seriously, I ate so much in the past three days that I seriously feel sick, physically and mentally. I ate so much yesterday and today but I didn’t throw any of it up. I do this thing where I don’t eat all day and then just binge on everything. And if I binge I feel uncomfortable going out anywhere because I feel gross and disgusted. I ate bascailly all the candy my mom bought for the trick or treaters. And since I ate I can’t go out. But I really want to. It’s not fair. I hate this so much. I was suppsed to go to a party today. It’s halloween but I stayed in. Because my food addiction and discusting habits have been kicking in lately so bad. I can’t do this anymore. I want to go out right now, I’d be out right now with my friends but I feel to discusting. How you do you stop a food addition, binge eating, and bulimia? I feel sick. I miss my friends.

My mom is 48 and she has been an alcoholic ever since she got divorced with my dad, about 10 years ago, every night she is drunk and it makes me cry! And 2 years ago she got married to a guy (who now is my step dad) and he is very nice and we thought that he would help her with her drinking, and he said he has tried talking to her and she denies everything! I have talked to her, EVERYONE has talked to her!! Im only 12 years old and i am stressed out and i get panic attacks almost every night because i am so worried about her! It makes me so sad because i want to have a normal mom like everyone else…..but i dont! i love her so much but no one knows what to do!! She would never let us take her to rehab and everytime she has to get her blood taken, she doesnt drink as much just so the doctor wont find out! Its impossible to help her!! I NEED HELP! PLEASE!! And on top of all that, she is diabetic!!!!

I know hello mother, hello father
i’ve been smoking marijuana
coke is good, but crack is better
i’m so f-ed up I can barely write this letter

She showed up at my sons birhtday party strung out.
I know the it’s not the child’s fault and she is a very well behaved and well mannered, but I am affaid that something may happen if her mother shows up to my house while she is high.
My kids do not go over to her house at all unless we are picking up the child and then either me or my husband are with them the whole time.

My boyfriend enjoys drinking. He usually doesn’t get drunk, mainly because his tolerance is so high and it takes a lot of alcohol to get him drunk. He did get drunk one night and became very angry. He doesn’t drink during the week, so he says. He may drink 3 or 4 nights a week. Today, he started drinking at 2. He says he likes the tastes of beer and he wants it especially after a hard day at work. His dad is an alcoholic, and I’ve read that alcoholism can be genetic. I do not want him to turn out like his father, and I do not want to live like his mother. Does this seem to be a problem or am I being paranoid? He doesn’t need alcohol and he doesn’t drink everyday. He doesnt get drunk or pass out. He also drinks only beer, not liquor. He of course says he doesn’t have a problem, and that he wont let it get that far. Any advice? What should I look for? Maybe I am paranoid.
Thanks!
notes:
he drinks the same kind of beer everytime he drinks.
today since two pm he’s had 2 22 oz and 16 cans.
he sometimes counts change for beer money

My mother found some bottles of alcohol in my brother’s room and then later found out from a neighbor that his house had been robbed. Articles that were taken were found in my brother’s room including the alcohol, but some very expensive jewelry was never recovered. My mom called the police and my brother was arrested. This isn’t the first time my brother was caught stealing. He stole money from my mom’s bank account and from her boyfriend’s wallet. We later found out that he had a serious drug problem and he went into rehab. Would you have your child arrested for a serious crime ?

hi there, my mom has been an alcoholic my entire life. I’m now 20, married, and live across the country away from her due to job relocation. ive tried my whole life to encourage her to stop, and to help her along the way, and at this point i dont know what to do. she’s had SO many “wake up calls” where she confided in me that she was done drinking, and that was her “rock bottom” but nothing ever has been. she still has a great job- she’s definately a closet alcoholic, but im so worried its going to kill her. and i KNOW that i would feel like there was something i could have done. I feel so helpless. YES I’ve tried counseling for myself to help deal with it, hoping it would make an impact on her, but it just made her even more upset. she’s EXTREMELY sensitive. I wish so bad that for once in my life I could actually have a real “mom.” and that she could just be herself, and be happy. Does anyone have any tips for me, or has gone through this? thanks so much! : )
PS she drinks every night or every other night. and its straight vodka out of the bottle. FYI. thanks again.

my mom is an alcoholic, but she says she’ll start to drink in moderation, my dad says that me and my brother should go live with him, and im not sure what to do, i know theres like allon or what ever its called :P and iv checked it out, but shes been so bad at times, but then in the day shes a perfectly great mother, its jsut at night that is bad, i really do want to go live with my dad and step mom, but im just not sure what to do, my mom has been better for drinking like she said she would for the last couple of days, but can an alcoholic just decide to drink moderatly and be okay PLEASE HELP!

My ex-wife and i have a four year old daughter together. When she left our daughter was one and a half. She took our daughter with her at first, but brought her back after two weeks because ‘she couldn’t handle it.’

Over a period of about six months I tried letting my daughter have a relationship with her mother. At first we lived six hours apart so i would drop her off with her mother and plan to pick her up again in a month. Each time she would bring her back after about a week or two because, once again ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ After a few months she moved closer, so she was only an hour and a half away. I would bring our daughter to see her about every other weekend but would later find out that the whole time my wife had her, our daughter was with a babysitter the whole time, and my wife had been out drinking.(This was the case when she lived farther away too) Whenever I would call to check on her, my wife would sound wasted. I would hear from mutual friends and see on myspace that the whole time she was supposed to be spending time with our daughter, she was out at the bars and sleeping around instead. She didn’t deny it. Sometimes she would just not show up when it was her time to come get our daughter.

Finally I told her that if she wanted to see our daughter, she would have to prove to me that she could handle it and would be responsible. I told her if she called every day for one month to check on our daughter i would let her see her again. She stopped calling after a few days.

Over the past two years she has called sporadically to tell me that her dog died, or to wish my family a merry Christmas, usually not even mentioning our daughter. She did call once after about a year to ask if her father could come visit our daughter, but i said no since she didn’t even know who he was, and because he had never bothered to see her before. Our daughter now has no idea who her mother is, because she hasn’t seen her since before her second birthday.

When we were divorced my ex-wife didn’t show up to the custody hearing, and later signed a paper saying that i would have full custody, and she would be able to visit occasionally when we both agreed on it. She was supposed to be paying child support but hasn’t paid a penny.

My ex-wife is now pregnant with another child (mutual friends have told me she didn’t want to get pregnant in the first place, and that she is working at a bar, still going out to the bars drinking non-alcoholic beer so it looks like she is still partying, and didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant until really late into her pregnancy)and is suing me for FULL custody of our daughter. She is claiming that i violated our parenting plan by never letting her see our daughter and by not telling her when we moved into a new house. The only time she asked to see her was after she found out she was pregnant and i said no because she hadn’t called to talk to our daughter or asked to see her in two years, and our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.

Everything in the papers she sent is complete LIES, saying that i never let her see our daughter and that she has been trying to. I have about seven character witnesses lined up to testify against her. They are all mutual friends, or her friends who she has screwed over. My brother, who must have been a reference or something, has gotten numerous phone calls from debt collectors and even the police a couple times looking for her.

We have met with our lawyers, and our lawyers have recently met with the judge to determine if she will throw the case out, or if she wants to take it to court. I have been waiting a week and haven’t heard anything. What are her chances of her actually winning full custody, or any custody at all? Our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.
i was acting not nicely??? did you even read the story? why would i let my daughter go spend the weekend with someone she doesn’t know? someone who chose a life of partying over a life with her daughter..someone who didn’t bother to call her own daughter for two years? Would you let your child go with a complete stranger?

my friend is addicted what should i do….i am wondering if i should tell his mom so we can do something serious but idk what to do any suggestions?

I’m 17 years old and a high school student. My mom and dad are both divorced and me and my sister live with my dad. My mom lives about 30 minutes away from us and we go and visit her pretty often, since she’s always alone and we just like seeing her. But she has a serious alcohol problem, and sometimes she’ll get seriously drunk and stay like that for a week or so and then get normal again, and shed do her best to deny ever drinking. I NEVER want to see her while she’s like that, but it happens all the time, shes been doing this for many years, which led to the eventual divorce in the first place. I’m just sick and tired of looking forward to doing something with her, and then the next day she gets all bad again. She wants us to see her as much as possible each week, but I’m starting to think its somehow affecting her problem. What should I do about this?

Okay I know there are a MILLION alcoholism books out there but I was wondering if anyone could recommend one for a certain type of alcoholic, She’s not the type of alcoholic that drinks constantly, all day or even every night – she’s they type that drinks maybe one or two times a week but cannot control the amount she drinks once she starts. She drinks to the point of blackouts where she doesn’t remember what she said or did. This has long been putting strain on the family because of her actions when she drinks, (most of which she claims not to remember.) After a particularly bad night she always says that she’s never going to drink again, and every once in a while she’ll go several weeks without drinking but she inevitably a party or a wedding happens and then it starts all over again. The last time my parents drank together a few weeks ago they got in such a bad fight it almost cost them their marriage. She said she was done drinking after that.
My mother just got her second DUI last night, the one before that was 3 years ago. I need to know if anyone knows a good book I could get for her. I know she needs to get into an AA program but I am looking for something to supplement that. I’m sure any alcoholism book would be helpful but I’m afraid that if I get her one that is too focused on the ‘pouring vodka on their cheerios’ type then she will find a way to convince herself that the book does not apply to her. Sorry this is so long, I guess I just needed to get a little off my chest right now because I just found out about this and my husband is at work. I have to go pick her up from jail tomorrow and I was hoping to maybe pick up a book for her on my way.
Okay thank you for the answers so far, but I’m not just looking for someone to type ‘Alcoholism books’ on google and post the links. I’m quite capable of doing that myself. I am looking for someone who has actually read a particular book which they found helpful that they can recommend.
Like I said in my original question I am aware that she needs to go to AA. I cannot force her to do that. I am doing what I can here, which is to try to provide her with something that may open her OWN eyes to the fact that she needs to go to AA, because all of us asking her to go has not helped yet.

My sister is 18, since she was 11 she has been a nightmare, kicked out of school at 12, in trouble with the police for selling drugs and attacking police officers at 13 sent to a special school for bad kids, in foster care as she lied and said my mum was horrible to her. When she was 17 she got on heroin. She Then came off it about 4 months later with help of pills. She then said she had changed and was stupid blah blah blah. Anyway i now find out from my mum she is back on it. I cant help but hating her so much, i have no sympathy and dont feel sorry for her in anyway. She used all the excuses such as i wanted to try it last time but for me, they dont work again. My poor mother is going out of her mind, she isnt sleeping and to make matters worse she is due to go on holiday for the first time in 5 years next week. She is thinking about cancelling now. I absolutely despise my sister for what she is doing. Im bored of her “No one loves me” and “you dont understand” stories How do i cope with this and help my mum cope? I live abroad which doesn’t help. To me she is just a selfish, attention seeking nobody. It may sound harsh to a lot of you but unless you have been in the same situation then please don’t bother judging!! I just need some advice please.
She is too selfish and self absorbed to admit she has an addiction. To her its “oh we dont understand” or ” oh we dont know what she is going through”. My mum isnt strong enough to just cut her off until she realises she is hurting everyone around her. All her boyfriends are junkies who sell heroin for a living. She is a lost cause as far as im concerned. Rehab isnt for her as she is too lazy to go and the doctors wont send her. As far as im concerned she is dead already. I know it sounds terrible and i hate saying it but the way i see it is that if she wasn’t my sister i would feel the same, so why feel different because she is family? She has done nothing but cause my family grief since about the age of 12, and i wouldnt accept that from a stranger so why accept it from an attention seeking, immature child?

Also to me its not an addiction, especially not twice, its a way of life. And thats the life she chooses to live. I just wish my mum would feel the same way.

When I was 10-11, My mother use to smoke crack, and she admitted me into a mental hospital, not because i was phsyco, who knows why the **** she did what she did, but i wasnt in there for more than 2 months, and i was placed into foster care after that.. shes clean now thank god, and she regrets doing it.. But the more I think about this, i think her decision may have ****** my chances of being egilble to join the military.. What are there policies on this issue, is it something i can work around? thanks all, its really bugging me, knowing i may not be able to join..
thanks all, and the recruiter says everythings looking good for me now, but i didnt wanna be one to get dishonorable discharge, if they were to look into it later..

My mother died four years ago today, I was 16 at the time. She had issues with alcohol and was addicted to painkillers, in the end this pretty much destroyed her marriage, her relationship with her children and her life.

She was sick constantly for about 6 years before she died and two months before she did I was living with her but I couldn’t take looking after her anymore, it all got too much after 16 years and I left home, she was out of it pretty much all the time on alcohol and pills and I just couldn’t handle watching her kill herself anymore.

We got into a fight right before I left, I said a lot of hurtful things that had been building up inside of me for 16 years, I told her that I hated her and that she was a terrible mother, and I meant it.
I can still remember the hurt on her face as I screamed at her, then I packed my bags and walked straight out never looking at her once.

That was the last time I saw her conscious, the next time was in hospital right before she died.
As today is the anniversary, I keep playing that moment over and over again in my head, the look on her face as I told her I hated her, my one last chance to tell her that I loved her and that I would come back home if she decided to get better. My once last chance to touch her, to hug her.

I feel like I killed her, I feel like when I left she had nothing left to live for and gave up on life, because of me, because she thought I didn’t love her anymore. At the time I didn’t, I hated her guts, I thought she ruined my life. It’s taken me four years to realize that I did love her, but I don’t know if I’ve forgiven her…I don’t know what I feel towards her anymore. I just know that I would give anything in the world to see her again, to talk to her, to work things out. But I can’t see her ever again, I can’t ever resolve this, and its killing me.

How do I get over this? because I don’t feel right now like I ever will, I don’t want to be forever looking backwards my whole life? help?