Should I be extremely concerned about my boyfriend trying heroin?
September 4th, 2010
I know it is a stupid question but I got to ask. My boyfriend told me yesterday that he tried heroin the night before and was like “I’m never doing that again.” I was really shocked that he did it, but since he said he was never going to do it again I tried to feel at ease about it to the best of my ability. I had my doubts that he would only do it that one time and boy was I right..
We hung out last night after he had hung out with one of his friends. He seemed– odd. I asked him right away if he had taken any sort of drugs and he was like “No.” Shortly thereafter I asked him again and he said “I only smoked pot. That’s why I seem fucked up.” About an hour later he randomly decided to just blurt out “I did heroin again.” I was so upset with him…
To make a long story short, I’m seriously afraid that he is going to get addicted and I don’t know what to do. He got addicted to pot and I know of people in my family who have done heroin and screwed up their entire life. I don’t want to see him going down a really bad path. He already has enough problems. Should I tell his parents about it? (He is only 19.) I know his mother would be heart broken if I told her, but I’m trying to look out for my boyfriend’s best interest. Please if you can give any serious advice I would appreciate it very much. This is a serious matter.
Yes, you should. He is on the road to become a twisted violent druggie so unless you want to be beat up and kicked around like a football you better dump him fast.
No one needs that.
ive been through this,dump him now.he will lie,steal and cheat.to get his fix.
rat him out. he will be a very poor boyfriend very soon. the best you can do for him is to get his parents involved. there may be no future in this relationship. he will take drugs over you any day.
He probably already is addicted – I don’t believe that was only the second time. Finish your relationship with him (its pretty much over really anyway – people on smack only have a relationship with the drug) and then tell his parents.
Heroin addiction can occur after a person’s *first* encounter with it. I would be concerned as well. However, realize that if you decide to tell his parents or anyone else he will likely break up with you. He doesn’t see it as an issue yet. Maybe he never will even if he falls completely into the cycle of addiction with it. This is the catch 22 of drug use. Love them enough to help them and have them leave you or stay with them and watch them kill themselves. Neither answer is satisfying but you have to decide which road you’re going to take and soon. Before it gets much worse.
You need to make it a deal breaker. Seriously. Tell him no more drugs or you are out of the picture. You simply should not have to deal with a person who can’t face life without drugs. It will screw up your entire future if you get linked up with a drug abuser. Heroin isn’t something you can try and give up. That is how people get hooked. Nobody does heroin the first time and says oh yeah I want to be a screwed up drug addict. They do it looking for escape from their life for a moment… a chance to just feel good instead of dealing with the here and now. They think they can do it recreationally, but they can’t. The only thing you can do is talk to him face to face in a serious way. Don’t accept any BS and don’t let him run over the top of you arguing he just did it for fun or whatever. Deal breaker. Be strong, and be firm. Say no more drugs, period. End of discussion or end of me. If he chooses the drug, then he would have anyway and you are better off.
You have to intervene NOW, as his life will turn to crap because of it. You have to make him dispose of absolutely everything related to this and let him know that he cannot flirt with heroin. It is a mean and vicious drug and it destorys people
Don’t tell his parents yet. There’s very little they would be able to do about it anyway as he’s no longer a minor. Contrary to public opinion, it is very possible to try heroin without becoming addicted. It’s when a person starts doing it so much that their natural endorphin production starts to shut down that it becomes a problem. If you catch him high a 3rd time in the near future, then you should start to get concerned. Just make it clear that you won’t go down that road with him.
Very !!
Opium derivatives (morphine, heroin, etc.) are physiologically addictive i.e. once addicted, withdrawal will cause real (as opposed to psychological) symptoms, which can result in death.
There is no real cure to addiction and addicts may forever have to continue with subsititutes e.g. methadone.
Most other drugs (cannabis, cocaine) are psychologically addictive and addicts keep taking them becasue they feel good.
This applies to crack and crystal meth too, which are opium clonettes.
Do not open that door !!
from what ive heard, you dont just try it once and then are able to stop. he isnt going to get addicted, he already is. im sorry for you, try to get him some help. i would tell his mom. he is going to be furious at you most likely and maybe break up with you but you will have saved his life.
You need to break up with him and tell him it’s because of the heroin. Tell him he needs to clean that out of his life completely, and all types of drugs and then you’ll consider getting back together with him. This could be the best thing you ever do for him. Maybe losing you will wake him up to where he’s going before it’s too late.
And for your own sake, even if he only did it once, it shows that he doesn’t care about his own body and will just have his thrills when he wants to and not think about anyone else when he’s in that mood. Is he the kind, caring and considerate person you want in your life. People who do drugs and develop addictions usually aren’t. If they don’t care about themselves they find it even harder to care about others. Do you feel like he uses you to gain your compassion for the troubles in his life? That could be a type of phycological abuse which you don’t pick up, but might be suffering from.
Tell his parents, I seriously doubt it will do any good. Addicts drag down everyone else that cares about them, they will also steal or hurt anyone to support their habit. Save yourself a ton of heartache and wasted years. Go. Leave him to the life he chose. If you stay, you will likely end up on that crap too from frustration. .
No, you should be extremely concerned with your extremely poor taste in “men”.
Are you ready to put up all the dramas, thieving, lying, wondering where the hell he is for days at an end and court appearances?
His parents need to know something as serious as this…I would want someone to tell me my child is taking heroin.
I’m not saying you should tell his parents but speaking as a parent, I would want to know.
this doesn’t mean he is a bad person….good people sometimes do bad and stupid things
Yes dear.
He is , most probably, already addicted.
It is a well know fact that people addicted to heroin will do anything to get their dose. Lie, steal, kill if necessary.
YES. Heroin is highly addictive and he needs to be removed from the situation where he is in contact with guys who are giving him this drug. A lot of guys die from heroin since it is not medically supervised, and the amount of actual heroin injected can vary from a light dose to a massive overdose- even from the same supplier. Sit him down and tell him he has to quit NOW. Or you will have no choice but to leave him. This is HIS problem, not yours, and the only two ways to resolve the issue is either he quits, or you remove him from your life.
If you stay in the relationship and he gets hooked, he will almost without a doubt turn to crime to pay for his habit. Do you want to be sitting out in a car at the convenience store when he goes in, not sure whether he will rob the place or shoot someone to get money? (And make you an accomplice by sitting in the getaway car) Or rob people on the street or break into their homes, and bring stolen property to you and make YOU and accomplice? The dealers give it away free or cheap to get a guy hooked- and his supposed “friend” is probably the dealer. Once hooked, the guy will pay anything to get his fix.
You don’t need that burden, and aren’t responsible for him or what he could turn into once he becomes an addict so give him an ultimatum. Otherwise he will draw you into HIS habit, and its inherent bad bad side effects of crime, overdose, etc. Just think– do you want to be part of something where innocent people, yourself included, get hurt to satisfy a drug addiction of someone?
He quits, NOW, or you walk. And carry it through. Good luck, I hope he makes the right decision.
First, no question that concerns you is stupid. Given that….yes you should be extremely concerned. Heroin is a highly addictive drug that can hook you on first use. Since you already know from experience (your family history) how damaging heroin use can be I suggest you tell your boyfriend that either he gets professional medical help now to stop….or you’re gone. Trust me, you’ll be helping him and you.