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Hi I’m 15 and I have binge eating disorder. I haven’t been diagnosed with it from a doctor, but that because I’m just to ashamed to tell anyone, only my sister knows. I’m addicted to food. I have a serious addiction to food. I’m called skinny all the time though. And this is because most of the food I do eat ends up being thrown up. And every couple of days, I stave myself for about four days and then binge for days afterwords. And right now, I’m in that cycle where I’ve been eating serious amount for the past three days. But seriously, I ate so much in the past three days that I seriously feel sick, physically and mentally. I ate so much yesterday and today but I didn’t throw any of it up. I do this thing where I don’t eat all day and then just binge on everything. And if I binge I feel uncomfortable going out anywhere because I feel gross and disgusted. I ate bascailly all the candy my mom bought for the trick or treaters. And since I ate I can’t go out. But I really want to. It’s not fair. I hate this so much. I was suppsed to go to a party today. It’s halloween but I stayed in. Because my food addiction and discusting habits have been kicking in lately so bad. I can’t do this anymore. I want to go out right now, I’d be out right now with my friends but I feel to discusting. How you do you stop a food addition, binge eating, and bulimia? I’ve been turning to cigarettes because it helps me not eat, and I’m only 15. My heath is unbelieveably fucked. I feel sick. I miss my friends.

I have a good paying job and I work very hard. (At least 60 hours a week.) I have a new truck that I just bought (I actually gave my mom my old car since she didn’t have one.) and I have a very nice apartment.

My mother comes over and makes rude comments about it – as well as saying things like “Gees, must be nice.” She has three little kids (their father is in prison) and has made a lot of mistakes – she used to be a drug addict, she is in rehab now – but I feel they are choices she made herself and she put herself in the position she is in now.

Now, I pay for my little brother’s school clothes and school supplies, as well as occasionaly pay the electric, rent or a bill that might come up when my mom can’t cover it. I’m not trying to brag or anything about what I’m paying – I just want ot make the point that it isn’t like I horde the money I make.

Well, yesterday my mom came over with her boyfriend and he looks around my apartment and says “you make enough money for all this and you can’t help our your mom a little more?”

I was so angry I told them both to leave. Do you think that I’m being unfair here? I mean, I could pay most of her bills and not buy nice stuff for myself but I don’t think thats really fair. It should also be noted that she doens’t have my little brothers right now – they are in foster care for a year because her drug habits lost her the kids – so she is only taking care of herself right now – she isn’t even looking for a job.

I’m so sick of helping her when this is the response I get. When I gave her my car 2 months ago, I admit it isn’t in the BEST shape – but it will last another year or 2 and it was free for her, when she got in she gave me a dirty look and said “You could have at least filled the tank up.” This is after I paid for the registration and her insurance.

How do I handle this situation – I feel terrible that my mom isn’t living a wonderful life but that is her fault – we have helped her every step of the way and she is continously ungrateful. I have told her she isn’t welcomed back for now and she told me that was “typical.”

How should I handle this?
I already look at my little brothers as separate from my mom, no matter what I’m still helping to support them because it isn’t their fault. They are young too – 9. 7 and 5.

Last night at dinner she drank an entire half bottle of wine. Then when we got home she drank two beers! Well… technically one and a half. How can her stomach hold that much alcohol? Should we send her to AA or something? Please help!

My mom committed suicide in late March. I am 25, and have had an on again off again relationship with someone for 3 years.
My mother and I were very close, but she has always been an alcoholic. She came from a very troubled childhood she never got over, and I guess that’s how she dealt with her pain. I drink sometimes, admittedly, but rarely.s
This boyfriend of mine is an alcoholic. We keep breaking up because he lies about drinking, continues to lose his job, never has any money, and basically just when I start caring about him again, thinking “he’s really going to deal with his problem”, he starts drinking again. I know about al-anon, and I’m considering it.
Another background is I had a boyfriend kill himself when I was 17, after a phone call with him, breaking up with him.
I know I shouldn’t be with him. I know he’s never going to treat me right if he doesn’t get help. But I feel so lonely since my mom died. I have friends and family, but it’s just not the same.

My ex-wife and i have a four year old daughter together. When she left our daughter was one and a half. She took our daughter with her at first, but brought her back after two weeks because ‘she couldn’t handle it.’

Over a period of about six months I tried letting my daughter have a relationship with her mother. At first we lived six hours apart so i would drop her off with her mother and plan to pick her up again in a month. Each time she would bring her back after about a week or two because, once again ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ After a few months she moved closer, so she was only an hour and a half away. I would bring our daughter to see her about every other weekend but would later find out that the whole time my wife had her, our daughter was with a babysitter the whole time, and my wife had been out drinking.(This was the case when she lived farther away too) Whenever I would call to check on her, my wife would sound wasted. I would hear from mutual friends and see on myspace that the whole time she was supposed to be spending time with our daughter, she was out at the bars and sleeping around instead. She didn’t deny it. Sometimes she would just not show up when it was her time to come get our daughter.

Finally I told her that if she wanted to see our daughter, she would have to prove to me that she could handle it and would be responsible. I told her if she called every day for one month to check on our daughter i would let her see her again. She stopped calling after a few days.

Over the past two years she has called sporadically to tell me that her dog died, or to wish my family a merry Christmas, usually not even mentioning our daughter. She did call once after about a year to ask if her father could come visit our daughter, but i said no since she didn’t even know who he was, and because he had never bothered to see her before. Our daughter now has no idea who her mother is, because she hasn’t seen her since before her second birthday.

When we were divorced my ex-wife didn’t show up to the custody hearing, and later signed a paper saying that i would have full custody, and she would be able to visit occasionally when we both agreed on it. She was supposed to be paying child support but hasn’t paid a penny.

My ex-wife is now pregnant with another child (mutual friends have told me she didn’t want to get pregnant in the first place, and that she is working at a bar, still going out to the bars drinking non-alcoholic beer so it looks like she is still partying, and didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant until really late into her pregnancy)and is suing me for FULL custody of our daughter. She is claiming that i violated our parenting plan by never letting her see our daughter and by not telling her when we moved into a new house. The only time she asked to see her was after she found out she was pregnant and i said no because she hadn’t called to talk to our daughter or asked to see her in two years, and our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.

Everything in the papers she sent is complete LIES, saying that i never let her see our daughter and that she has been trying to. I have about seven character witnesses lined up to testify against her. They are all mutual friends, or her friends who she has screwed over. My brother, who must have been a reference or something, has gotten numerous phone calls from debt collectors and even the police a couple times looking for her.

We have met with our lawyers, and our lawyers have recently met with the judge to determine if she will throw the case out, or if she wants to take it to court. I have been waiting a week and haven’t heard anything. What are her chances of her actually winning full custody, or any custody at all? Our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.
i was acting not nicely??? did you even read the story? why would i let my daughter go spend the weekend with someone she doesn’t know? someone who chose a life of partying over a life with her daughter..someone who didn’t bother to call her own daughter for two years? Would you let your child go with a complete stranger?

My fiance’s mother is a severe alcoholic. She has allowed her house to fall apart, doesn’t do the dishes, clean, take out the trash, etc. My fiance feels like he is responsible for taking care of her since she is his mother and no one else can do it (his father died a few years ago). Every other day he goes to her house (an hour away) to clean up after her…she doesn’t thank him or appreciate a thing he does. She only bitches if he doesn’t show up. It drives me up the wall. We have a very busy schedule with 2 young boys and a baby on the way. I don’t think it’s fair for her to take him away from his family to do her menial house work so she can sit there and get drunk all day. I’ve brought it up to him several times and it always becomes a big fight. I think he is enabling her alcoholism and that it is assanine that he keep putting up with this behavior. Any advice??

my mom had to go to the hospital late last night because she’s stupid and won’t take care of herself amd won’t go to the dr. unless she thinks she’s dying which led my little sister having to spend the night over at my house….

A long time ago, my mom was addicted to drugs such as pot and meth and other illegals… and this morning when I saw her again, she said they told her she has a tumor in her leg and possibly cancer in her throat…..

could those be from some drugs she consumed a couple years back? she hasn’t been on them for 2-3 years but I know they’re bad for anyone…. I just don’t want her graduation present for me to be death or something like it… I’m only graduating in less than a month from high school…

My mom says pouring alcohol on cotton balls and rubbing it on my face will clear up my acne. Will it?
If it won’t what are some things that will?

I know it is a stupid question but I got to ask. My boyfriend told me yesterday that he tried heroin the night before and was like “I’m never doing that again.” I was really shocked that he did it, but since he said he was never going to do it again I tried to feel at ease about it to the best of my ability. I had my doubts that he would only do it that one time and boy was I right..
We hung out last night after he had hung out with one of his friends. He seemed– odd. I asked him right away if he had taken any sort of drugs and he was like “No.” Shortly thereafter I asked him again and he said “I only smoked pot. That’s why I seem fucked up.” About an hour later he randomly decided to just blurt out “I did heroin again.” I was so upset with him…
To make a long story short, I’m seriously afraid that he is going to get addicted and I don’t know what to do. He got addicted to pot and I know of people in my family who have done heroin and screwed up their entire life. I don’t want to see him going down a really bad path. He already has enough problems. Should I tell his parents about it? (He is only 19.) I know his mother would be heart broken if I told her, but I’m trying to look out for my boyfriend’s best interest. Please if you can give any serious advice I would appreciate it very much. This is a serious matter.

I’m gonna be frank and to the point. but this is not easy for me. My mom has done hard drugs since she was 14 years old. She’s been in prison twice. I was in foster care for a good portion of my life. I was forced to live with my father who physically abused me until I ran away when I was 12 ( when she got out of prison). So she gets me back and starts doing the same drugs again and ends up going back to prison ( for the second time ). I go live with my aunt who honestly really didnt give a squash about me for 3 years. She’s constantly kept messing up. One time she actually smoked crack all day on my birthday and didnt even call me. I had my daughter 9 months ago, and the ONLY time she has seen her was when she was born. She has not called to see how she ( or I ) have been doing since January the night she was born. I don’t know wether to completely cut ties, cuz i have always forgave her. She acts like im the one that has making up to do. I’m about to let go for good.
I have called her on many occasions since the birth of my daughter to make some relationship and she barely ever answered her phone. i have a wonderful life with my husband and his family. My stepmom IS my mom. its just she told one of my family members the other day that I think I’m too good for the family. I’ve never done anything but t ohelp her. I have 4 other sibilings, and none of them even try to make contact with her. I’ve always been the only one. Why does she make this on me? AM I justified to feel the way I do? I know I don’t have ANY making up to do. I was always the mom to her. She’s never been a mother to me. I feel so horrible thinking I should just speak to her again. Her wanting nothing to do with her first grandchild. She hasnt gotten my child ONE thing. not even a card. I’m not anywhere near the point ofneeding counseling. just wondering if i should stop stressing myself over her wrong doing

She showed up at my sons birhtday party strung out.
I know the it’s not the child’s fault and she is a very well behaved and well mannered, but I am affaid that something may happen if her mother shows up to my house while she is high.
My kids do not go over to her house at all unless we are picking up the child and then either me or my husband are with them the whole time.