We will help you get your mom off drugs!

so my brother who is 17 started smoking weed at i would say 14 years old.. we never catch him or even thought he did it until we found out by one of his friends that he was smoking…. we have had countless conversations with him about making him stop smoking weed.. he never stopped… his addiction just keeps growing to the point that he now doesn’t care to get home with his eyes red, high as hell… we have talked with my mother about what to do with him and we never end up with decision, we thought of getting him into a drug rehab but then my mother said that wasn’t good cause he was gonna meet people like him over there and get worst than he is right now so .. right now shes just letting him do what ever he wants.. i’m tired of hearing my mother cry about this, my brother is driving her crazy and she thinks everything is her fault… i cant deal with this shit no more… cause of my brother i cant even talk to my mother cause we always end up fighting and theres never peace in our house… any suggestions on what to do about this…. my mother is just waiting for him to be 18 to get him out of the house, thing that she says shes gonna do but i really really doubt it and i think we gonna be in this situation for a long long time if we dont do anything about it…. but i we dont know what… suggestions please.
another stupid answer… dude in case you didn’t know you can get addicted to anything… even get addicted to watching porn.. it might not be like heroin but you can get addicted to anything….
and why i want him to stop? first because is driving my mother crazy for her personal reasons and at the same time driving me crazy seeing my mother suffer… and second cause my brother is stupid and not far away he will get in trouble with the law. and third because it might lead him to another drug..

i can feel that im steping twoards becoming a binge eater..i always over eat and i have a history of binge and purge and “starving” for a few days and vlcd(very low cal diets) i dont really do these things anymore but i can feel that i over eat..it is alot, its just not normal. im still trying to lose weight and all of the coments my parent make really hurt me ..like now mom said..go brush your teeth after your done eating and dads like what are you talking about she never stops eating..it really hurts me that they dont understand how much they hurt me sometimes. if youre a recovered binge eater what did you do to stop i really need help because i dont want to fall deeper into this. i cant get any help though because when i confesed to my mom that i had eating problems i felt weird/mad/uncomfortable around her and she didnt even help at all :(
so basicaly the question is how do i stop myself from binge eating?

My Mom is a raging alcoholic. I say raging, because she gets sooo angry with me and my siblings when she drinks! She’s a single Mom, and I honestly feel for her, but it’s getting out of hand. Her health is at risk now, and am only in my first year of college and need to worry about grades right now! My 4 other siblings are also off at college, starting new lives! It makes it hard to get together, and do something.

Does anyone have any advice? It’s very difficult to talk to her about it too, because she gets so mad when we bring it up.
i know what’s depressing her.. My father left my family when I was 8.. im now 19. He hasn’t looked back or called. And left her with 5 kids.

How could i ever fix that?

I am 21 years old and I am living with my alcoholic mother. My father died when I was 15 from a stroke and my mother has been a heavy drinker ever since. My mother has been to rehab multiple times, out patient programs, AA, the whole thing but she doesnt want to get sober. My brother and sister are older than me and live out of the house in different states. I am ready to move out and live with my aunt, her sister in law. I am scared to do this because Im afraid that she will give up on life if I leave. I feel like after my father died it is now my responsibility to take care of my mother, I know this is wrong. I really want to leave but feel really guilty at the same time. I know I am on the verge of a break down but I don’t know if I should stay or go…

My ex-wife and i have a four year old daughter together. When she left our daughter was one and a half. She took our daughter with her at first, but brought her back after two weeks because ‘she couldn’t handle it.’

Over a period of about six months I tried letting my daughter have a relationship with her mother. At first we lived six hours apart so i would drop her off with her mother and plan to pick her up again in a month. Each time she would bring her back after about a week or two because, once again ‘she couldn’t handle it.’ After a few months she moved closer, so she was only an hour and a half away. I would bring our daughter to see her about every other weekend but would later find out that the whole time my wife had her, our daughter was with a babysitter the whole time, and my wife had been out drinking.(This was the case when she lived farther away too) Whenever I would call to check on her, my wife would sound wasted. I would hear from mutual friends and see on myspace that the whole time she was supposed to be spending time with our daughter, she was out at the bars and sleeping around instead. She didn’t deny it. Sometimes she would just not show up when it was her time to come get our daughter.

Finally I told her that if she wanted to see our daughter, she would have to prove to me that she could handle it and would be responsible. I told her if she called every day for one month to check on our daughter i would let her see her again. She stopped calling after a few days.

Over the past two years she has called sporadically to tell me that her dog died, or to wish my family a merry Christmas, usually not even mentioning our daughter. She did call once after about a year to ask if her father could come visit our daughter, but i said no since she didn’t even know who he was, and because he had never bothered to see her before. Our daughter now has no idea who her mother is, because she hasn’t seen her since before her second birthday.

When we were divorced my ex-wife didn’t show up to the custody hearing, and later signed a paper saying that i would have full custody, and she would be able to visit occasionally when we both agreed on it. She was supposed to be paying child support but hasn’t paid a penny.

My ex-wife is now pregnant with another child (mutual friends have told me she didn’t want to get pregnant in the first place, and that she is working at a bar, still going out to the bars drinking non-alcoholic beer so it looks like she is still partying, and didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant until really late into her pregnancy)and is suing me for FULL custody of our daughter. She is claiming that i violated our parenting plan by never letting her see our daughter and by not telling her when we moved into a new house. The only time she asked to see her was after she found out she was pregnant and i said no because she hadn’t called to talk to our daughter or asked to see her in two years, and our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.

Everything in the papers she sent is complete LIES, saying that i never let her see our daughter and that she has been trying to. I have about seven character witnesses lined up to testify against her. They are all mutual friends, or her friends who she has screwed over. My brother, who must have been a reference or something, has gotten numerous phone calls from debt collectors and even the police a couple times looking for her.

We have met with our lawyers, and our lawyers have recently met with the judge to determine if she will throw the case out, or if she wants to take it to court. I have been waiting a week and haven’t heard anything. What are her chances of her actually winning full custody, or any custody at all? Our daughter doesn’t even know who she is.
i was acting not nicely??? did you even read the story? why would i let my daughter go spend the weekend with someone she doesn’t know? someone who chose a life of partying over a life with her daughter..someone who didn’t bother to call her own daughter for two years? Would you let your child go with a complete stranger?

Hi,

I’m 20 and I’ve thought for several years that my mother is an alcoholic. I know she drinks too much, but I’m not sure if she should be classified as an alcoholic…

-My mother never used to drink. When she went back to work (when I was about 15), she began drinking in the evenings. She drank almost every night with my father. They probably went through about a bottle and a half per night. She would become quite childish, animated, and would often pick fights with me (sometimes also with my father).

-While drinking, she said odd things to me that were somewhat abusive in nature. When I would refuse to talk to her the next day, she was genuinely puzzled, and when confronted with what she said, she would forget (This happened maybe three or four times, though–not a lot).

-I told my father that she should cut down, but he though he admitted she drank a bit too much, he didn’t do anything about it. They both thought, I think, that I was inventing my mom’s problem with alcoholism to create drama.

-The last time I was around my mother, I noticed she was drinking about a bottle of wine a night. Even just a few glasses of wine make her completely inebriated. It got to the point that now I don’t take calls from her after 7 because she’ll be out of it.

Maybe I’m blowing this out of proportion and she just has a problem with alcohol? Thoughts?

Thanks for reading this far!

so i’ve been taking this drug, it’s a prescription drug [wasn't perscribed to me] and it has opium in it. it’s oxycodone or something like that. i only did it a few times, until i got to the point of running out, but there wasn’t way to much of this stuff in the medicine bottle.

i was snorting/sniffing how ever you wanna say it, this drug, and now i think i’m addicted.

i heard if you’re addicted and haven’t had it in so long you’ll get sick a throw-up and shit. and i’m feeling sick. also someone told me you’ll go on “the nod” or something like that and you’ll kinda fall asleep on a on and off again kinda thing. well i’m doing both. and i feel like i need it.

oh sh*t, i think i’m addicted. i can’t get ahold of it anymore.

i’m not gonna tell anyone about it or they’ll all freak. my mom has been trying to get me outa the house since who knows when, so i not really sure what to do.

anyone have any advice on how to help me out.

other than, go to rehab [lol], cause I DON’T CARE [not yelling there just wanting people to know that] what you say, i really don’t. i’m not going cause i’m not going to listen.

so like i said, anyone know what i should do??
it’s not oxycotin, it’s oxycodone. but they’re pretty similar and you can overdose on both.

Basically, every weekend my mom lets me drink alcohol or beer (with her) and she’s totally fine with it. Do you think it’s okay? I’m 14 btw..:S
BTW she’s from Europe, Germany, and the legal age is 14. Do you think that’s why she lets me drink?
Yes Ralf, I drank alcohol and beer. No, it’s not bs, why the hell would I lie?

Dre, lmao, well thanks I guess, she’s pretty cool. :)

TIMOTHY, she not a bad mom, nor irresponsible. So stfu.

He jokes around a lot about a lot of things, but this is the only thing that really worries me.

I know he used to do heroin when he was a kid, but he quit. he didn’t go to any fancy rehab, or anything, he said he just straight up quit it, that’s what he always told my mother.

He is kind of sick. He has emphysema (won’t quit smoking), glaucoma (just got a cornea transplant and is starting to gain back his sight), and some problem with his kidneys.

I’m 16 and I see him once a week, because that’s all my mother allows me to spend with him, because of his record, and such.

I just don’t know what to do. Sometimes I feel like I’m the adult, and he’s the child.

Dear Sir:
I am not sure to send this e-mail when I have finshed it. I’m praying it makes it’s way into the right hands..I desperately need some intervention. My story is long and I apologize if I don’t tell it well but it truely comes from my heart…
In June of 2004 my husband and I took in my cousins children. 2 beautiful girls that immediatly stole our hearts. We agreed to this only because we were told the parents were giving them up for adoption. They said we had to wait for them to get out of jail to sign the papers..We trusted them. A months later the mother was released from county jail and we had to return the girls. In November of the same year and the mother called us again and asked if we could keep the children for 6 months while she went back to jail. No one else wanted them. They were 1 & 2 yrs old. Of course, we took them back gratefully. The mother ended up doing 13 months in prison on drug charges…The father did too.
My husband and I called every agency including DCFS to try to keep custody of the children and was told we were to far down the blood line to have any say in the children and that it was DCFS’s policy to clean the parents up, not to remove the children. Once again, we had to turn the children over and the mother refused to let us see them for 7 months.
In September of 2006, I get another call from the mother asking if I’ll take them and put them in school because she had no one to take care of them. Of course, I went and got them. I had them for another for another 11months.
In August of 2007, the grandfather was released from prison and reunited with the grandmother, who was also recently released from prison, decided they wanted the children back where they lived so once again, we had to return the children. 3 months later my husband and I gave up our jobs and apartment and moved to the city the girls lived in so we could at least see them. That month, the mother went back to jail, the father was released from prison and the children lived at their grandparents and we weren’t allowed to see them.
In August of 2008, my husband and I had to move where there was work and begged the mother when she got out of jail to let the kids come w/ us and we would help her find a place and get off the dope. The following month, the mother was busted smoking crack and the children were placed with the grandparents thru Luthern Services.We have not seen them since!!! We have been approved for visitation over a year ago but denied the visits because their Grandparents doesn’t want us to have anything to do with them so DCFS abided by their wishes. I can’t understand why the children were placed with them in the first place. They both have extensive histories of prison, violence and drug abuse just like the parents.
I recently called Luthern Services and was informed that the grandparents want to adopt which means we will never get to see the children we have loved and raised all these years. Don’t we have any rights? I have called agency after agency for the last 5 years trying to adopt these kids. I have followed all the rules and depended on the system not to fail us or the children but once again it has done just that!!! Can we contest the adoption and file ourselves? This is so unfair to us and the children. If you can get them away from the grandparents and convince them you wont tell, they will tell you the want to live with us. Each time we have had to turn them over they had to be pried out of our arms. Isn’t there anyone out the who can help us? All of us!!! Imagine loving and raising 2 children as your own all this time then be denied of seeing them ever again. This is just wrong on so many levels!!! Even if we cannot contest the adoption, is there anyway we can legally get some type of visitation? We are desperate. Everyday without them is a living hell!!! It’s like part of us is lost. Please help us or at least point us in the right direction for help. We have about 6 months before the adoption and we don’t know what else to do!!!

Thank You,
I have been doing internet searches for weeks but can’t seem to get anywhere. Just more phone #s of people who “can’t help” us. I was hoping to come across someone here that might have the right answers, not to cry “boo hoo” !!!
I forgot to add than I live in Central Illinois and I have called several attorneys and the few that will concider want huge retainers and all the others don’t want to fight DCFS. I have been calling state agencies for the last 5 years trying to get these children removed from that environment.

My mother is in a nursing home with dementia and won’t be back. My husband and I moved in with him to try and get him caught up but he is in thousands of dollars in debt. He has two pending foreclosures on the house and there is a lien on it from the state. He is telling everyone that its my fault he is losing the house when all he does is drink and do crack everyday. My husband and I both have full time jobs. Is it wrong to feel that I need to worry about where my husband and I are going and NOT my brother who could care less about us?

In the past two years I have lost my father, underwent an enormous home renovation while living there, had a breast cancer scare, lost my year old granddaugther when her mother abruptly moved away with her, put my son through drug rehab for cocaine addiction, lost my job of 9 years and am now looking for a new one, my second son decided to live with his father, I will be turning 50 next week and my husband and I are separated because he feels I haven’t been there for him. My extended family all lives 1200 miles away and my few friends I have locally are married with busy lives of their own. I feel so alone and depressed. I don’t know how to handle all of this. I cry all the time despite the fact that I exercise regularly and eat healthfully. I go to church but dont know how to fit in. It seems no one really needs friends but me. I’m certain there are others out there who do, but I don’t know how to find them. Any help or advice would be appreciated.

It’s been a few years since she passed away, but I don’t want to let her down.