Alcoholic substance abusing mother with severe social and behavioral issues…?
September 1st, 2010
Hello! I was raised with an alcoholic mother whom has, in the past 9 years, become seemingly severely mentally troubled. I wish I could post a name and you all could judge for yourself by tracking her status’ on a few of our most popular social sites. The past 9 years + have been rather unpleasant and can turn into a very long story but I will stick with the matter at hand. At around 16-17 I became involved with what I say is the love of my life. From the start of the relationship my mother disapproved, in her extremely “filter-less” way. Thus far, it has been a tumultuous roller coaster ride with her. She is wasting much of her time bullying my fiance and constantly doing anything within her power and feeble mind to bash this relationship and throw stones in the grinder. (She does this to many others as well, She calls herself the Crazy lady of Va***y Road) I know many of the ladies have devilish mother in laws but believe you me, this one is straight from hell. She can’t even hold a relationship with with her very own kids whom she vows are her own flesh and blood pride and joy and so on and so forth. It has recently become public bashings through “cyber” portals, with scandal and lies. She does the same thing with EVERYONE in her life, constantly finding it in her best interest to constantly be fighting with someone and bashing them to get the world on her side, many times with provable lies. The woman keeps winning, what can I do to silence her? I have lived the role of feeling bad for her and trying to keep civil for many years, abiding by the “Love thy mother and father” rule. But our tribulations have gone FAR beyond any ethical boundaries and I can no longer stand it. I have been angry with family, but words cannot describe the damage that my very own mother has caused. Somehow in some miracle she always finds a way around around even Johnny law. Even when she is totally wasted out of her mind and abusing my sister while saying she is going to kill herself. I get a return phone call from the officer saying she is fine, just drunk and there is nothing he can do. The latest is she is telling the population that my fiance is committing adultery with my very own father. Really, this crap needs to end. This whole dramatic ordeal is much deeper and lengthy than I am presenting at the moment, professional or first hand experience answers would be VERY VERY appreciated. It would be nice to grab her by the hair and drag her to a mental institution, but something tells me big brother wouldn’t let that fly, I need real solutions. We have a little boy on the way and need to be dealing with this bag of nuts no longer. Thank you very much in advance!
My mother is similar, in that she also is completely unable to maintain a relationship with me OR my brother OR her own parents OR any of her numerous husbands. She has nothing in her to give, nothing positive to contribute to any of us. She has caused tremendous emotional pain, heartbreak, sadness and psychological damage to all of us. She is pathologically selfish and immature. A very abnormal and psychologically disturbed human being.
I left home when I was 17. I have had very, very limited contact with her since then. We speak or email MAYBE once or twice a year. We often go years at a time with no contact.
She truly has NOTHING to give of herself, I do not benefit from a relationship with her, and I cannot help her (I tried)… so I simply do not maintain any relationship with her. I give my love to people who are capable of loving me in return: the rest of my family and my boyfriend.
Eliminate your crazy, toxic mother from your life. Your wife and child will appreciate and reciprocate your love. Also, they deserve to be protected from all that negativity and harm.