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we are buying property from estate. have told a couple people to not come back to see nephew living in trailor on our property. trailor belongs to mother n law. don’t want to make her move it but do want these not so good people to stay off property. nephew just returned from drug rehab and these are his old runnin buddies. what can we do to keep them off our property? we have told them twice. do we have any legal means? it is becoming a constant battle

I don’t want to type paragraphs of my situation. I think just telling you guys that my mom is an alcoholic is a good enough explanation. Let’s just say me and my dad are sick and tired of it and she refuses our help. This was a very hard weekend for me as my dad had gone ice fishing, though he kept texting me making sure I was okay. My mom doesn’t get violent or abusive, but it’s still hard to watch her do this to herself.

Me and my sister were talking on the phone (my sis is 22 and is now moved out, she lives 2 hours away from us) and she was saying that my mom has been like this for a long time. Now that I think about it, I look back to my past and I can’t think of one weekend where my mom wasn’t drinking. My sister was even saying that it might lead to a divorce, and if so it will be soon. My dad loves my mom so much but it’s just too hard to bear. I don’t want my dad to leave my mom, I’m afraid she’ll drink until she gets alcohol poisoning because she’ll be so depressed, and eventually kill herself. Even though my relationship with my mom is so far that I can’t even tell her I love her anymore(as mush as that hurts) I can’t bear that thought. They are my parents, i dont want them to split up.

I know theres nothing I can do to help. My dad had told my mom what she had done to hurt me so badly this weekend and she apologized to me and promised that she would stop, but i dont believe her. It’s just not that easy. I know she wont be able to get help until she truly wants it. She’s found help before but it never worked because she didn’t try. Her siblings know of all this and they are all willing to take me for a weekend if my dads away, but I’m afraid my mom will hurt herself and be unable to get help while I’m gone.

What can I do? I’ve been crying myself to sleep every night now and my health is going down. I can’t concentrate in school or at my part time job anymore. My co workers begged me to go home today because I looked so tired, but I refused because I couldn’t see my mom today. I jsut did not want to go home. What should I do?
does anyone know any good songs i could listen too. music usually helps but i dont know what songs could help right now.
oh, and I’m only 16 so this is extremely hard for me
Paul, yeah I have 2 hobbies, quading and snowmachining. I used my sled and quad to run away a lot. Boondocking and doing donuts usually gets my mind off of it and it cools me off. but I eventually have to come home again.

I feel awful! I was so frustrated because she doesn’t want to listen and denies everything that has happened in my life. She went to prison for social security fraud and said it was all my fault- I was only 14 when she went to prison at the time and the fraud had been going on since I was 5. There is no reasoning with her. Both she and my father who I never see are alcoholics, but she denies it because she thinks drinking beer does not quantify as an alcoholic!

if a mother goes drunk driving with a 13 year old in the car and is stopped by a police officer .. the mother would get in trouble. but would the 13 year old also? because at 13 you are able to make a decision whether to get into the car or not with there drunken mother… so would the 13 year old be charged too? or no because they are technically still a young teen..?
the girl gets into the car because shes going home after a family party.. but she has no other ride home. her mother is making her get into the car. and her mother is intensely drunk… so drunk she can barley walk. would the girl still be charged, she really had no other choice but in the court of law would she get in trouble because shes almost a teen ager?
also the girl is clean of any crimes ever and clean of any drug useage or achol drinking ever.

in fact the 13 year old wants to be a police officer when she is older but is afraid that if she gets caught in the car with a drunk driver she is going to get in trouble too. =(

A friend of mine is a Legal Permanent Resident (he has a green card). He got himself into some trouble. He was caught traffiking 300gms of Heroin, and he’s in detention. There’s an ICE hold on him, so he faces 7-30 years in prison, and possible deportation.

A little background story on him… his mother is a natural born American, but he was born overseas. That’s why he has a greencard and not citizenship. He can’t get deported because his whole family is in the U.S.

What options does he have?

PS – I don’t want stupid answers like deport him and all that… this is a serious issue… there’s someone’s life hanging in the balance… so SERIOUS responses would be appreciated.

Can he file for extreme hardship? How can he avoid being deported? He has no prior convictions… he’s been in the U.S. legally for 7 years. PLUS his mother is a natural born American.

Deporting him would mean separating him from his mother, brothers, and sisters for the rest of his life.

I’m 20 and I’m a female, both my parents met in rehab. My mother was addicted to Xanax and Ambien and way later on she got hooked on crack cocaine. When I was born my dad took full custody of me, my mom was rarely in my life.. seen her maybe 6 -10 times a year and for some years she had stints in prison / jail. Since I was VERY small I have memories of being very overly emotional. When I would get in trouble I would sit in my room stare in the mirror and scream and cry WHY ME! I HATE MYSELF! in Kidnergarten this was. Also on my 4th Birthday I tried to carry a peice of cake to my dad and I dropped it on the floor and remember crying and saying “I can’t do anything right” I was also extremely attached to my dad.. if he went anywhere without me I’d freak out and sit in the window making up songs like “where’s my daddy, where’s my dad” forever… people used to say I was glued to his belt loop. My dad’s mom – my grandma lived with me since I was born and still does to this day.. She is very verbally abusive and always told me my mom was a prostitute, and really mean things.. I was VERY jealous of ANY woman that tried to talk to my dad.. or even some of his male friends that would get him to drink. As I got older things got really bad… I felt like I was nothing… I was sent to a psych ward when I was 13 for cutting myself and drinking. Eventually I was diagnosed with severe depression/bipolar. My mom died when I was 14 of a crack overdose, and she was only 33. My dad got married RIGHT after my mom died, and he moved out with his new wife and left me with my grandma. Then I started smoking weed at 15, and doing really hard drugs (heroin and coke) but I thankfully never got addicted. I was in a school with lots of rich kids and I wasn’t rich at all I never felt loved or like I belonged. I never got along with my step mom, I always felt she judged me. We came from two different worlds – she grew up very well off, and her parents were teachers, and her dad was also a pastor. I dropped out of school at 17, I was addicted to xanax, and klonopin. I tried xanax because I always heard that my mom was addicted to it. I started blacking out and binge drinking, I was in and out of the psych wards. I was addicted to xanax for 3 years I took over 10 pills a day and barely remember my life from 17, til just recently. I’ve been sober for 3 months now. I’m trying to get my life together but I still have these feelings of worthlessness and I’m still overly sensitive. I have a boyfriend who is really really mean and since I understand his past and how he grew up and WHY he has so much anger.. I try to stay with him but he makes me histerically cry every single day. He knows my past and uses it against me.. I am now 13 weeks pregnant and just trying to live my life happy. I never want my child to go through anything I did.. I stopped drinking, pills, and EVEN smoking cigarettes the day I was told I was pregnant. I stopped everything. I just want to know what should I do to help myself feel better? I can’t stop being so sensitive why am I like this?

I am 16 right now but i am looking to pay my father back for what he has done to my family and I as soon as i turn 18. These are my reasons.
Well for starters, my mother cant try to get custody for my two little sisters because he told her that if she did, he would kill her and she already has what I guess you can call a piece treaty against him. He has messed me up emotionally by abuse. verbal and physically. he has beat me with chairs, choked me against the wall, ripped an belly button ring out of my stomach, which ripped the skin. I was about ten and he used to wake me and all of my sibblings up and forced us to drink jack daniels. He would threatin to beat us if we refused. sold pot in front of me and my sibblings.(bagged it up, seperated it.) Had his friends smoke crack in front of me and my siblings. I have mental issues now. I have cut, faught with my mother, and start fights with other people. there is so much more.
There was one time that he thought that I had stopped eating, and forced me to eat three servings of dinner every night, and I was not allowed to go to the bathroom for four hours straight. The thing that has bothered me the most is that he left my mother for her neice that they adopted after he forced me to call her my sister, and forced her to call him daddy. I was not allowed to go to the guidence counselor. everytime i did, I would get hit. I had to keep my emotions in side of me. now when i get too stressed, I see huge bugs crawling around and loud noises terrify me.
what do you think?
I have dropped out of school due to not being able to concentrate. nobody would help me and I cant bear to see my mother get her five children tooken away from her.
I’m screwed. I have went to the guidence counselor, but my parents tend to turn things around and make me look like the bad person. my father is a verry sneeky man and is also very strong. he will kill my mother if we do anything to stop him. my mother has lots of cop friends, and yet she does nothing.

Her Mom texted me and asked me to call her, and I told her I would as soon as possible. I know her daughter has recently started using crystal meth. I love her and she is my friend and I only want the best for her. But I’m not sure if I should tell her Mother that she is using meth or not, and how I am supposed to tell her. I really believe that someone isn’t going to get sober unless they want to, and she doesn’t want to. So I don’t see how telling her parents is really going to help her. If they just send her to rehab, I know she isn’t going to stay sober. What should I do?

This is going to be long, sorry!

I’ve never really had an issue with my mother in law, up until my wedding. My husband is in the armed forces and our wedding was pretty last minute. It was tough trying to get it together, but we were doing what we could. We sadly had to borrow a lot of money from my MIL for the wedding, but we were definitely planning on paying her back, and not spending a lot at all as my parents were doing what they could, even while bankrupt.

We had decided on a Chapel that would do a wedding for 2,500. It was small, quaint, sweet, and they gave you a lot of stuff like flowers, decorations, candles. It was IDEAL, and my husband and I had really wanted THAT chapel, but my mother in law decided she didn’t like it. They didn’t have an opening on the day SHE wanted the wedding and at the time she wanted it, so she found somewhere else and booked up without consulting us. The place she booked happened to be in the basement of a bar.

I had told my MIL that I wanted VERY few people there, not just to reduce costs, but because I always saw my wedding as VERY intimate time for only very close friends and family. I didn’t want more than 20 people there. She said OK, and invited ALL of her coworkers, (my husband had no idea who some of them were). She actually had a sign up sheet at her workplace, and invited all the cousins under the rainbow. This broke my heart, as ALL of my family lives in England, so it’s not like I could just invite mine over. I had my parents and a couple of friends, where as my husband had all these random people.

She knows I hate roses, so she bought rose flowers for decorations. “I know you don’t like them, but they’re so cute.” Along with deciding that her coworkers sister should make my wedding cake. She let me choose the style and flavoring, but when we got the cake it was NOTHING like what I had asked for. I later found out that even though I wanted a 2 tier cake, my MIL ordered a 3.

With the food, she ordered all this meat stuff, knowing I was a vegetarian. I asked her what I was going to eat and she told me she would make me some MAC AND CHEESE. My mother made me my own special dish, but I was so insulted.

People turned up to our wedding in jeans and casual shirts. They complained about the music Adam and I had chosen for our wedding, and I didn’t hardly know anyone. The whole time during the wedding, I wanted to leave and cry.

I had TRIED to take control, but she wouldn’t let me, and I feel like my husband hardly did anything either.I appreciate her helping, but I feel like she completely disrespected me.

I let this go after awhile, because she’s my MIL, and I care about her. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. However, a week or so before I left to go to Korea, where my hubby is stationed, she started being extremely passive aggressive. For example, my Sister in Law threw a going away party for me, which was GREAT until my MIL showed up. I was talking to everyone, mingling, and then when my MIL came, she took over. I kept quiet because what she was saying bored me. My MIL knows I have a history of being shy, so she turned over and said “Quiet much?” I just smiled, and she rolled her eyes and scoffed. Again, I just brushed it off.

The last straw though was when she tried to talk to me about my mother, who doesn’t work (she’s very sick, she deals with alcoholism as well as being generally weak and anemic.) My mother is sweet, though, she tries her hardest to be a good person, even if she’s not all the time. The fact is, my MIL turned around to me and said “Maybe you’re mom should get a job, you know? Or a hobby or something. Maybe your step dad and her could go on a trip”. I agreed, but told her how sick my mother is, and plus my mother isn’t a people person, as she’s EXTREMELY shy, and doesn’t like to be around people. She retorted to this with “Sounds like someone else I know”, gave me this LOOK” and continued with “You know, maybe you should try and make some army wife friends and start doing something.” I found this extremely rude, as I get along with people fine, and I do a lot here.

I stopped talking to her after that, and she called my mother telling her she thinks I have an issue with her, which I do. I don’t know how to deal with how angry I am at her for her constant rudeness. We recently fostered a dog that was about to be put down, and he chewed up some furniture so she instantly suggests we should take him back to the shelter and scoffs at our efforts to rehome him. (Which, btw, he’s made leaps and bounds into a GREAT dog). She’s pressured me into adopting his son before, because his sons mom is a bitch. I had told her I wasn’t ready for a child, and she still pressures me to adopt his son!

:( I feel like such a bad person for disliking her so much! I love h

my mom is a coke addict, how do i get her to quit, shes promised me three times shed stop, and i dont knwo what to do now…my friend told me to run away from home and tell her ill be back when shes clean, but im sure that would make her worst
i cant report her, because i have to think about my family, me and my brother would have to move in with my dad, but my half sister, would be put into foster care, my step dad is also in the same position as my mom

Last weekend my ex let my daughter sample a whine cooler. She is supposed to have supervised visitation, but took my daughter unsupervised to another state and let her try alcohol. My daughter said it was only one drink. But the mother got a DUI last year, and is supposed to be supervised on all her visits. Am I over reacting? What would you do?

my mom is living in alabama at the moment and i live in texas. my sister has pretty much disowned her. she is a drug attict, she wants everyone to take care of her, and she is very manipulative, she is 56 yrs old. she makes up illnesses and gets doctors to prescribe her LARGE amounts of pills, and she smokes weed, right now she is on speed/meth too. i want to put her in a home, wether that be mental, old folks, or rehab i dont know. i think it would be good for everyone especially my mom. if i could do this they might be able to find out what is REALLY wrong with her, and get someone to rashon her the right medications, she would be taken care of, i would visit often, and it would benifit all of our mental health. she is incompitent to take care of herself. anyways how would i go about doing something like this? is it possible?how much would this cost? ect…? plz help! no rude answers.
o.k. ive got the name and number of her doctor. what questions do i need to ask him??

This sounds so bad to say, but I really really REALLY don’t want my mom meeting my best friend. My friend lives around here, but is moving to the other side of the country … So, in a couple months I’m going to see her there. My mom wants to come, since I’m only 16 and “not old enough” to go by myself. I have been best friends with this girl for like, forever, but my mom and her have never met. Mainly because my mom is an alcoholic, bottom line … and I didn’t want them meeting. Now my mom says she wants to meet her when I go to see her. [I don't even know why she does though, she never even cared before.] My mom is also very sensitive and gets very verbally abusive if I bring up her drinking. And that is obviously the main reason I don’t want them meeting. So, is there anything I can do to prevent them from meeting? I was thinking of me meeting my friend in a public place then going back to her house to hang out, or something like that … so they wouldn’t meet but I don’t know. I just can’t directly tell my mom no … because of how she is … & My best friend DOES know my mom is an alcoholic, we have talked about it a lot of times. Especially when I’m really upset. When my mom is drunk [which is pretty much all day] she does crazy things … like taking her shirt off or singing and dancing and stuff like that. It’s embarassing. I just don’t want her to see that … Please help me. I’m not trying to sound like the worst daughter on earth but I really can’t stop thinking about how terrible it will be.

My mom has a drinking problem and she has for a while.
She has been married 5 times and divorced 5 times and they have failed because she screams and hits whoever she’s with when she’s drunk.
Sometimes she drives me to my bus stop drunk and if i warn her the previous night to watch her drinking she gets furious and tells me to f*ck off, which should give you a hint at how stubborn she is.

Anyway at all you think I could ease this in? I’m out of ideas and it’s already been on too long.

My mum and my friends mum are drunk right at the moment its past midnight and its kinda scary and how get her out of my house my friend asked hes mum when till they go she replied fuck off , little goblin. We kinda laughed but its sounds scary any thoughts how to get them out?

About 1 year ago I found out my brother had used heroin. He had admited to injecting and snorting it. When my whole family found out we all had individual talks with him and I believe he quit for a while. Than when he turned 18 in 5/2010, he received an inheritance of $12,000. It was gone in approx 6 weeks. Our Dad died when we were young and thats what the inheritance came from. Our Mom is really passive, sometimes I feel like I am more of a mother to my brother than she is. Dont get me wrong, she loves us so much, she does everything she should, she just likes to let things get better on there own. Anyway, since than we all moved to a different state. My brother went too, with out saying it directly we asked him to come to our new state and start fresh. My brother and my mom now live together in a small town in the middle of no where, my brother just got his first job. Im doing everything I can to keep him from visiting his old friends and his old ways….Im almost positive he is clean now, however I think he is taking loads of otc drugs like benedryl and whatever else he can use to kind of cope with not having the heroin. That makes me scared but I am trying to find the right balance on how to deal with this. About 2 weeks ago he wanted to take like 3 trains and 2 buses to get back to our old state and I got into a big yelling match with him, telling him to stay here…
He actually listened to me and stayed, but one of the things he said during our argument was that he doesnt like how I mother him and try to stop him from doing things…. I dont want to be a motherly sister but Ill say something when no one else will… He seems really depressed in his new town, I dont really live that close by. Im trying to help him make new friends and start a new life but he doesnt really seem to want to do it for himself.
Any advise on the otc drug abuse thing and any advise on how to balance when the to speak up and when to trust him.
Any advise at all would be greatly appreciated….Thanks!!

im 16 i was born in 94 i was my mothers 4th child she was only 5months prego she went into labor she had a csection because the docs knew i wouldn’t make it through the birth canal i was born 2lbs 2oz when the incision on my mothers tummy was made they made whatever mistake and wound up cutting me from under the arm pit to the side of the right breast . i had a stroke on the right side also they didn’t think i would make it and had to stay in the hospital for well over 7 months due to my stroke one the one side the docs said i would never walk talk right but my grandfather walked me himself around the Block everyday and thanks to him i walk normal except for the left leg being longer and the right being shorter,my mom smoked crack when she was prego with me she said she didn’t know . my mom today is clean and has been for the last 14 years but whenever i bring up my birth or a doctors appt comes up for me she hates bringing that up i want to tell her that i have a right to know i think about it every time i look in the mirror and see the scar i think about it every time i walk and my right leg starts to hurt i know it could have been much worse but part of me belives as long as its out of sight ITS outta mind for her what should i do to tell her the scars for me don’t stop literally . just because they are in the past?

When is How i met your mother season 6 coming out? Is it coming out anytime soon? I just finished season 5 recently and I’m totally addicted to the show.

I’ve heard that if one of your parents is an alcoholic, you’re more likely to be an alcoholic yourself.
My friend’s father was an alcoholic and his mother was at least a boderline alcoholic (possibly a full alcoholic).

Does this make him more likely to develop alcoholism? If so, how much more likely?

Thank you.

I’ve been divorced for 5 years, my ex was sleeping around.I originally got custody of my kids. At the final hearing of your divorce she got custody. Since then she has started doing drug went to rehab and been a walfare case. Idon’t make very much money, about 15,000 per year. I am currently attending college and next semster will have an assosiates degree. Overall I have around 100 semester hours. I have worked in the same place for 3 years and they’ve always work around school for me. I struggle finacally, I always pay my child support. I only see my kids one day a week but would like to take care of them forever. Has anyone been in a situation like this? Over the past year I have saved around 2,500 to take her to court. This will wipe out my savings but it’s what I’ve saved for. How hard is it to get custody,I want my kids to have a smooth transition, I think they would be better off not seeing her. They sometimes ask me not to be taken away from their mother, they are 5 and 7.