Mom lets daughter sample alcohol?
August 29th, 2010
Last weekend my ex let my daughter sample a whine cooler. She is supposed to have supervised visitation, but took my daughter unsupervised to another state and let her try alcohol. My daughter said it was only one drink. But the mother got a DUI last year, and is supposed to be supervised on all her visits. Am I over reacting? What would you do?
You are NOT over reacting.
It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that wine coolers are yummy. That’s a load of crap. She wanted to be the cool mom and let her kid get away with a crime (under aged drinking is illegal). Kids DIE drinking wine coolers because the sweetness disguises the alcohol content. They over dose before they even know they’ve had too much.
I’d call the cops and report her. I’d try my hardest to get her butt thrown in jail. If I couldn’t do that, I’d cut off the unsupervised visitations and go back to the original agreement.
just a sip then no thats fine but taking her away un-supervised is kidnapping and that is not good you can get your daughter back away from her for good if she doesn’t abide by the terms, then you wont have to worry about what shes doing with her.
My wife and I are doing everything that we can to “passively” and actively make sure that our girls (age 7,5,3, and 1 year old triplets) never drink, use drugs, or pre-marital sex. Nothing very solid and harsh, just always mentioning it and drilling it into their heads. So far, no complaints (but yes they’re young).
I do feel that I have “cured” my eldest two from ever having any desire to drink alcohol. We were at a 4th of July street party, and many of the other men had bottles of beer. This was also one of the incredibly rare occasions where I was having a beer. We usually have sparkling cider while everyone else drinks alcohol. Anyway, they thought that it was sparkling cider, and asked for a drink. “Sure,” I said. They both took a sip… and when you’re expecting sparkling cider and you get a taste of Silver Bullet, it’s a shock. They were not happy with the sudden abuse to their taste buds.
We’ve heard a number of times since then that they will never try beer again, no matter how people want them to. They seem very vehement about it, and I believe them.
The point of all of this runs like this — kids, particularly underage kids, should not have alcohol of any kind, period. I don’t care if it’s hard vodka, a tequila shooter, or the wussiest wine cooler than you can find.
I would talk with your daughter and do your best to make sure that she gets just how unhappy you are, and how it might screw up her young life, at least until she becomes 21 and able to drink legally and presumably be mature enough to make up her own mind. Her mother should be reported to CPS, or whatever your state’s similar organization is. That is simply irresponsible and should not be accepted, not even just that “one drink.”
No you are not overreacting – based on what you have written here, she can lose custody of your daughter. Time to step it up Dad…get to court and protect that girl of yours from that irresponsible “mother” of hers.
How old is your daughter? I mean if she’s like 14/15 i don’t see what the big deal is, I mean it’s better for her to drink in a controlled enviroment rather then getting smashed and doing stupid ___ with her friends. If she’s a little girl (10 and under), then no your not overreacting. You need to tell your ex firmly your daughter is not to drink alachol, and if it happens again, you will take her to court and get her custody rights revoked.