How do i stop my mom from being a mean drunk?
August 27th, 2010
When my mother drinks she becomes very mean and judgmental. She always apologizes for it the next day but its starting to get annoying that she puts me through this then apologizes every time when i know she will do it again. How can i learn to deal with it better or talk to her about it.
Please Let Me Know ASAP!
Thanks
You can’t stop her from being a mean drunk. All you can do is walk away or not be there when she’s drinking if possible. If her apologies were really heartfelt, she’d stop drinking. She knows the way she acts under the influence, and obviously prefers being drunk a mother. You don’t have to deal with this: she does.
sorry, friend, you can’t.
she’ll someday realize the extent of the pain she caused you. Until then she’ll apologize and repeat the behavoir over and over again.
The best thing you can do is talk to your school counselor who will point you in the direction of helpful resources like Ala-non, the org. who helps loved ones of addicts.
Sorry, friend. She’s got to change herself. You can’t make her change. There are no magic words. SHe’s going to have to hit rock bottom, likely, before she realizes what she’s done. You’re kind of left on your own to deal with it.
You can’t. But you Can stop her from abusing you. When Mom starts drinking, she gets sent home. You don’t allow her around you or your home if she’s drinking at all. You aren’t obligated to take that cr@p.
If mom chooses not to go by the rules you set in your home, so be it. It’s her choosing.
Tell a sincere apology means getting help with alcoholism. Being mean with over drinking is an indicator of alcoholism.She is ill,but that is no excuse to abuse you.(I am sorry but I am not going to get help.I would rather drink and upset my child.)I have no empathy for alcoholics around children.