Huge mom alcoholic problem?! Please answer, my life is miserable?!Seriously please answer, child abuse case?
August 19th, 2010
I am a 12 year old girl. My dad and brother and sister all know thta my mom has a serious drinking problem. A few times I have tried taking away her alcohol and hiding it or locking myself in my room with it. Today is one of those times. As I locked myself in the bathroom I waited ten minutes and my mom had my Nintendo Ds with her because she stole it bribbing me with “If you give me that, I will give you this!” I didn’t fall for it. It took ten minutes and she was still begging by the bathroom door. I was sad because my mom always drinks and she has no job or no life and all my friends are always bragging about their awesome moms, but mine is terrible. So I opened the door hoping to run to my room (much safer, I have some weapons in case..), but she was right there. She came in the bathroom and got really physical. I threatened to throw things at her and I finally threw a hairbrush and she picked it up and threw it back at me. She threatened to drop my DS in the toilet if I didn’t give her her beer back. I knew she was serious, for she had done things like this before. I started screaming and crying as she begged and threatened for her alcohol back. I began bawling and gave it back to her and got my DS back. If my DS broke I would be in huge trouble and not have anything to play with! )’: So I went downstairs and was trying to talk to her through my tears. I explained that it is a torture for me to live here and I wanted a normal mother and everything. I explained what I wanted and needed. Now she will just drink more! My best friends know my secret, but they can’t do anything. I tried talking to my dad, and he understood, but he said he couldn’t do anything. I will tell my brother tonight so that we can work something out. Now I am afraid she will kill herself or something (like running away) because she threatened to run away and never come back. And she said since we all hate her don’t bother to come looking for her. Then she said the worst thing of all; “Maybe then Dad will find somebody better and you will have a mom you actually like.” I cannot stand it. I love her very much but wish she would stop drinking!!!!!!!!!! I cry every single day because she can’t buy me bras or new clothes && every holiday my friends tell me they get lots of presents, but I only get a few. My dad is working very very very hard to support our family & that is why I love him most. )’: It’s just that I don’t know what to do anymore! I don’t want to cry everynight, I don’t want my mom to run away, and I don’t want her to keep drinking. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!
P.S. —–I want to call the police when my brother gets home from school, but I would be in serious trouble! My mom could go to court for child-abuse and maybe go to jail, which I would consider. But then again my whole family would hate me! They don’t know how I feel! And then my mom will hate me A LOT and I would not have a mom anymore )’: then again if I called one of those drug helplines my Dad would be pi$$3d off because he would have to pay thousands and thousands of dollars! I’m scared someone might get hurt )’:
P.S.S. ——– )’: Before she threatened to hurt me and my dad had a talk with her!!
)’: PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO!
aww i so sorry to hear that
i kinda know what its like because my dad is an alcoholic too.
i think the best thing to do is to sit down and have a discussion with your dad about her going to rehab
or you can go on that show intervention
YOU NEED TO CALL THE POLICE!!!! NOW!!!! Your right she might get arrested and go to jail for a while but at least the court will order her into treatment, I grew up with an alcoholic myself so I know where your coming from, also get yourself some counseling from AL-ANON it’s for people who live with substance abusers it will help you deal with it, but you need to act now and get yourself and your family members out of there, if they don’t want to go with you then you have no choice but to save yourself. Good luck
You poor thing. Could you just bail out and go live with other family members or something? tell your other family members like Aunts, Uncles get someone else on side besides your brother or Dad. Call someone, tell someone. How bout like the school chaplin or your teacher, tell them you need help but ask them to keep it annoymous. Then no one willl know it was you who got help. Call somebody, you need to get help. Be strong be brave, your obviously a very bright young girl Good luck!
I’m really sorry to hear that. Maybe there is someone you can talk to at school that can help, like a psychologist or counselor. She needs to go to rehab for her drinking. If she doesn’t, the courts will find her an unfit parent and take you away from her, which doesn’t seem like the worst thing right now. Talk to the rest of your family about it, and maybe you can all try to get her into rehab. God bless & take care. Stay strong, hun.
Im really sorry that you are going through that. I know exactly how it is. Both of my parents are alcoholics. My mom used to actually hit me. We would get in serious fist fights, and she wouldnt care at all. The worst thing about my mom is, she doesnt think she has a problem. You cant help your mom, unless she actually wants to be helped. My dad has been to rehab a couple times, and hes still an alcoholic. Just pray about it.
Your Mom needs help in a big way and she needs it right now. Ask your Father to contact AA. There is help for the families through AA and through the Savation Army, contact one of these institutions yourself as soon as possible. There is hope, many people like your Mom have been helped and were able to quit the drinking. She may have problems that you are unaware of and needs outside help to deal with these. Good Luck