How would it affect a child (girl) and on into adulthood if her father were an alcoholic, & her mother?
August 14th, 2010
neglected her and had an affair with her own cousin, which produced two step sisters (one of whom is semi-retarded) who were raised with the family. The mother beat the girl for asking for a bit more food when she was hungry, then as the girl got older, she had to help raise her 10 bros and sis. The mother rarely called and never wrote or visited (but visited other siblings) when the girl grew up and moved out. Other than being generally messed up, how would this affect a child specifically?
Would extreme need for control (of others usually) be a possible outcome? Emotional outbursts and other forms of manipulation? Verbal abuse? Unnatural attachment to her own daughter, even clinginess?
There are WAY too many possible outcomes to this. The most likely of this would probably be the child becoming a “parentified child”. The fact that the girl did actually get out of her chaotic environment is a positive, though. Many people who come from an abusive background want to stay in that environment because it is familiar to them, where as leaving for something totally unfamiliar, but healthy, can cause some serious anxiety issues. It could be that the person will subconsciously “stir things up”, to have that unsettled feeling that is so familiar to them. All of the above behaviors you mentioned are very possible, given the parameters. All I’m going to say is that I hope the person realizes she has a prob, and attends to her mental health.