My daughter sleeps in the room with my mom and I opened the door and my mother was smoking crack with my daughter in the room. Personally I dont care if she smokes crack anymore because for 20 years she has been making excuses (“sometimes, i slip up”, or “I’m sorry”) so if she wants to kill herself oh well…Im not saying I dont love her but she is dead wrong…she is trying to kill my baby by having her breath in that stuff. I already have a case with ACS because of my grandmother,she was trying to get custody of my baby so she can get some money, which is what she did to me and my brother. I recently found a job but I have no place to stay and my boyfriend recently got kicked out of his apartment, and he has the money for one but he just can’t find a suitable one. If he gets the apartment I can stay with him and my mom will NEVER see my baby again. This is her FIRST grandchild and she doesn’t even care. That really hurts, she is always letting me down. Im not gonna let my baby down.
SHE COULD HAVE AT LEAST PUT MY BABY IN THE ROOM WITH ME OR MY SISTER
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Call the cops. You have no choice. call them.
We went though something similar with my mother-in-law, finding crack and powder cocaine in her apartment when she was supposed to be babysitting my children. We made the hard decision and got our kids away and did NOT take them back. We have also tried to get her some help, and have dealt with this for 20+ years (as you stated) and all to no avail. We even tried contacting the police, who did basically nothing, even with detailed infomation about her hiding places. You need to do what is best for the child…PERIOD! There is no gray area. She gave up her grandparental rights, so to speak, when she decided to allow drugs into her life. Do NOT expose you child to that. Do whatever you have to in order to get away. You can go to http://www.helpguide.org to get information on organizations that can help you and your child in your area. Contact a member of clergy you trust or call the local police for drug information services and help organizations.
You’ve had it rough, but you sound like you’re doing the best you can. Great job. Remove your baby from your mother. There is a lot of harm that can happen, like you said your baby is breathing in drugs. Seek help from a local churches, and any other organization for low income families. You have access online, start searching. Don’t give a second thought to your mother not caring about your baby. She is too self involved right now, and too drugged up. Just keep this in mind, if she were clean she will probably love you and your daughter. Take your future as well as your daughter’s future into your own hands and make things happen. You can do it! It’ll take time and effort for you to look for help and support, but they are out there. Good luck!
well is there any other family members you can stay with?
if not talk to your b/f and explain to him what is going on and ya’ll go find an apartment together and get that baby out b/f your gradmother finds out about it and takes that baby
First you need to get you and your baby some where else immediately. Stay out of contact with your mother. You also need to know that there is a God watching out for you and your baby and he loves you very much. Pray to him, ask for guidance. Don’t let your baby down.
hi there,
sorry to hear your having such i tough time,
you really sound like a good mum, and well done for getting
a job it’s a really good start.
first off i’d try and get as far away from her as possible,
i reckon there’s a couple of ways to do this ethier by going to the local housing team, or goverment office and asking them to try and rehouse you, tell them the whole story, they wont judge you, just ask to speak to someone in private.
or if you can, why not try and get a place together with your boyfreind that way you could aford a bigger place and put both of your earnings togeher, also what about the babys dad ? is he paying child support ?
also you could try ringing the goverment benifits office and seeng if you are entiled to any money, over here we have something called the working child tax credit, when you are working.
i havent spoken to my family in years, i know i will hurt but when you move out you really shouldnt contact her again she will only bring you down, unless she wants some help of course, like rehab or something, but only she can decide that not you maybe once you leave she will see the error of her ways.
remember your life starts here good luck and take care xx
Have you tried to get into a women’s abuse shelter? They might be able to help you. From what you have said, your child is dealing with abuse; technically, you are too.
i’m sorry you are having such a hard time with your mom all i can say is i would take the baby and let her sleep with you and not your mom
YOU sound like an excellent mother! U put your baby before all else. Get a hold of the police and report her but make sure u take your baby out of the situation because they can make u sound like an unfit mother and take your child away from U even though u are trying to make it right. GET out of the situation like NOW!!!
GURL!!
make ur baby sleep with you…she can gett real sick and die,babe!
take the baby a way from ur mother..this is really bad and don’t except these exuses form ur mother
I’ve been threw the same probs that u’ve been in
Jesus, girl thats harsh. I really dont know what to say. if you are in Alberta I can give you some resources. just email me. Im so sorry. I can relate to the grandparents wanting to take babies for money. Mine did that too. GOOD LUCK
First of all I was in your position not to long ago… I found my self in a hospital bed pregent and no one wanted me and I had no where to go…. That was my rock bottom… You have to hit yours them make the decision to get the heck out and make a clean break and start over…. There are several agencys out there that will help you with this… but if your like me your not gonna want to be told what to do or be come a born again christian…. I knew what i wanted for my son and I at that point knew I had no choice but to give him the life we BOTH deserved…. So this is what I did… in Michigan we have whats called FIA (Family indipence agency) they are what gives you Medicaid witch is health insurance… they also give you food stamps… because you have access to a computer you need to find section 8 housing or HUD that web site I have listed below this is federal… this is housing based on your income if you do not have a job thats ok as long as you can come up with a min payment of $35.00 a month….most of the time FIA will help you with that…then you move into your apt find on the internet your county free cycle or cheepcycle on yahoo groups link is below… then write on there you need furiture…. its all free or cheep… then my goodness tell your mom to go get a life…. now you will be indepentant a good mom for your kids and well on your way to becoming the person you deserve to be and it will be all on your own no body to rely on to one there to hurt you and no one there to take it away…. oh I should also mention they usually play for your heat and cable so you can have a tv…I did this all in about 6 months… also try getting in touch with your local health deptartment they have all kinds of programs to help you also…I really feel for you and wish you all the best but its time to take charge and grow up not only for your self but for your kids so they dont have to see this or go though it…. best of luck to you and youll have to keep me informed on how your doing… any thing else I can do for you just write me… take care and best of luck