okay so i am very obsessed with weighing myself and staying thin. so today i only ate half a bananna and some sugar free cereal and i was starving so my mom cooked some alfredo noodles and i couldn’t help myself so i ended up eating 4 small bowls. after that i felt guilty and threw up most of it up. is this considered binge eating?
My daughter found out 2 things about the man she was dating, that he was a heroin addict and after breaking up with him that her birth control had failed and that she was 16 months pregnant by him ( she had no symptoms and she has always had very irregular periods). Because of the advanced pregnancy and personal beliefs she has decided to keep the baby, however, she is now considering allowing this man to be involved in the baby’s life… I am very concerned because I do not believe it is a good choice in an already difficult situation. He recently relapsed and began shooting again. He also abuses prescription drugs and alcohol. Ironically, his mother is a substance abuse doctor and his dad is a preacher. Both of his parents insist that their son is a “good” man, and that he should be given the opportunity to redeem himself; although according to my daughter his parents are unaware that he has relapsed… she also believes that he only relapsed “once” and that he learned from that mistake and that he is once again clean. I am not inclined to believe that a person with his character is able to change. My daughter is only 19 years old, she believes that people change, she also believes that hard drugs speak more of childhood trauma than of character, I think that unfortunately and ultimately it becomes one and the same…Would you agree that such persons that abuse hard drugs can still be a good influence in a child’s life?
I meant to say 16 week pregnant… not months! Sorry.
I am straight as an arrow and I have been fighting hard to get full custody of my kids and get them away from their immature mother who doesn’t even have a job to support them, she just lives off child support. She told the courts I do drugs and that my girlfriend beats the kids, this is a complete lie! Now the social service woman is investigating me when they should be investigating her, she is such a liar and is trying to ruin my life. I just want my children away from her. What should I do?
My younger brother is 20. He has been in rehab twice for drug/alcohol problems. At one point he was taking 30+ Xanax ‘bars’ a day until we got him into a program and detoxed.
Every time he gets out of rehab, he eventually goes out and gets his ‘fix’ again and gets hooked.
He even moved 2,000 miles away for a while to live with my Mother in CA. He did not know a soul there and still managed to find dope.
I think the reason he has such a hard time giving everything up is because he also has antisocial personality disorder. He seems to have no regard for other people’s feelings. He is very impulsive and a terrific liar and con. He plays on our (his family’s) emotions because he knows we want him to get help and always want to believe he is getting better….and then he will steal from us right under our nose.
I have been reading about antisocial personality disorder and know that the treatment of the disorder must be done first. He needs real behavior modification therapy to improve decision making skills. He could also use a mood stabilizer to help manage anger issues.
I guess what I would like to know is….how do you talk to someone about this disorder who has such blatant disregard for other people’s rights/feelings and even his own well being? How do you talk to someone who is virtually impossible to communicate with? How do you talk to someone who only indulges in conversation when there is some hidden motive to get something he wants?
How do you make someone realize the need for therapy?
Hi, my mom is alcoholic! Last year when I was 11 we had to call the police on here. I cant remember a night were she has not gotten drunk. My dad pined her against the wall and shouted in her face. I don’t blame him. Because she said that he had cheated. Right know I am 12 and it is still going on I cant even invite my friends over to spend the night.
I have a friend who’s only 14 years old and shes already addicted to Meth, Cocaine, Oxycontin, and X among other things. I met her in August but we hit it off immediately and I feel as if we’ve been friends forever. I’m really starting to care about her but she is always depressed at school because of her addiction and sometimes because she takes downers in the morning. Since my friend started using drugs (when she was 11) her mom started drinking and being crazy strict. She once told me she had sex with some boy to get Meth I have never met a person who’s as caring and overall as beatiful as her so her situation makes me depressed and sad. Her parents made her go to rehab several times but nothing has helped. I feel that I can help her, I just don’t know how.
i really dont kno what to do anymore. see my mom has a drinking problem for about as long as i can remember. i recall alot of times when i was little when she would get mad at me for the stupidest things like not closing the door, not finishing my juice, entering the room, telling her i was sleepy, ect. i mean she would try to watch movies or listen to music and we would talk and make jokes. things would be ok. until the tequila, or wine would have an effect on her. then she would get mes at me or i would get mad at her for drinking and she would tell me to leave her alone. i would. but ever since about 3 years ago her drinking has gotten worse. she calls me a b*tch she starts cussing me out. and when shes sober i try to explain to her that what she is doing is wrong and that she needs help. she gets sad and then cries and says “im sorry…i do need help. i promise i will stop drinking” and she never does. when i know she has alcohol i come downstairs to check up on her or my 4 year old sister comes upstairs crying cuz she thinks moms dead. i come downstairs and shes knocked out cold on the table. and i have to take care of my sister.and then in the morning i cant go to school because my moms still knocked out and i cant leave my sister by herself. things have just gotten real bad i mean on thanksgiving my mom got drunk and we couldn’t go to my grandparents house for thanksgiving. so we stayed home. my mom kept going to bother me about the stupidest things like saying im tired or where is the f*ckin remote. stupid things like that i kept telling her to leave me alone that i was sleepy( it was 4:00 am) and she wouldn’t leave me alone so i locked my door and she got violent. she slammed and kicked the door and she started cussing at me tellin me b*tch open the motherf*ckin door before i get in there and beat the sh*tt outta you and she went to go get the hammer she started chopping at my door and broke the handle she was drunk and i didnt know what she was capable of i thought she might have killed me . i started crying and telling her to leave me alone to stop and she said “what u gunna do call the cops? call them im not scared of those motherf*ckers! call them!”and the police came came three times(the neighbors called) that night was one of the worst and this isnt the first time something like this happens. im angry and sad because there’s not a damn thing i can do about it. i dont know what to do anymore PLS HELPPPPP!!!!!!
P.S. im sorry it was long.
oh. and by the way im 13.
I have been fighting alcoholism my whole life. I am pregnant with our third and final child. I have been clean and sober for the past five months. Lately there has been insane pressure at home and I caved. My OB knows that I have this problem but I am so embaressed that everyone will think I am a peice of **** I’ve been afraid to scheadual an ultra sound. I had a nurse tell me that Ultra Sounds are only going to give me false confidence that I didn’t screw up our child becase she won’t look like anything is wrong. I’m considering rehab for 21 days, is rehab for people who just refuse to get it together? I’ve had people tell me that as well. Should I ignore them and go or should I “just grow up and knock it off” as my mother so bluntly puts it (who by the way is also a closet alcoholic) If I get involved in college and outside activities is it possibal to beat this with a good mental attitude? People are telling me a million different things.
I have a friend who says it’s okay to buy her 16 year old daughter cigarettes. We live in Texas and the daughter recently got out of a drug rehab hospital and told her mother that basically the mother can buy her cigarettes or she’ll start using drugs again. The mother said it’s the lesser of two evils. I say it’s illegal, but she says it’s not because in Texas you can serve your minor alcohol in your presence. Anyone have any ideas on the law aspect? (Let’s stay away from the moral aspect for this question, please). I’ve looked online and haven’t had much luck to prove my case to her.
Thank you for all of your answers. From what I can gather, there is no law limiting the age at which someone can smoke, but have to be 18 to purchase. Anyone other than a parent, legal guardian or spouse can buy tobacco for the minor and the minor can only use it in front of the said legal buyer. If the minor is caught with tobacco w/out the legal buyer present, then all applicable fines, classes & restitution apply.
I meant to say the only ones who can legally purchase is the parent, legal guardian or spouse. Sorry for the confusion.
i am 1 of three children, my brother my sister and i and i seem to have all of the hereditary ‘bad’ traits of both mum and dad and my siblings have none. i have a tendency for melanomas, sensitive skin, acne, low bone density and a low immune system. my mother drinkis alchohol every night and i believe her to be an alchoholic although she keeps it secret. if she was drinking while she was pregnant with me could this have caused my genetic deficiencies?
Well my mom is a alcoholic and she has been i think forever she is 50 years old and she cannot take her hands off alcohol even if i tell her to well this is how it started that i can remember im 13 and ill start this off from my age now which is 13 years old. here is the problem.
My mom is 50 years old and she is a alcoholic/alcoholic abuser. My mom always drinks beer wine and it makes me so depressed and sad and i feel like running away from home. My mom drinks like 4 bottles of wine everyday and like 20 beers everyday and it smells so bad her breath when she talks slurring massively she can’t hardly walk when is she drinking. My mom hides the wine and beer someplace for example like the cabinets when im trying to look for it she hides it so i can’t find it. My mom has short hair and it gets all crazy when she is drunk/drinking. She has short hair and it looks pretty like she puts hairspray in it then when she is drinking every minute it gets all crazy and she looks ugly her face is all like it has no make up on it when she is drunk/ drinking and her eyes are going every where all over the place like they are rolling and her eyes are big when she is drunk and its ugly i can’t take it anymore I actually have to watch her I call it baby sitting my mom when she is drunk so she doesn’t drink beer/wine. Today she is drunk to and also she is slurring her words and she is dropping the TV remote its annoying and I just have had it I can’t take it anymore and you know what my dad doesn’t care he just really doesn’t care and my sister doesn’t either she is basically never home she is with her friends all the time and its so annoying my mom is just a mess. When my mom is drunk/drinking she always calls her supposively friends on the phone for like 10 hours and doesn’t stop calling her friends she doesn’t have anyone to talk to when she is drunk. She always calls her friends when she is drunk its so annoying and she swears to when she is talking to her friends she swears so much i’ve never heard someone swear like that ever. The swearing has to stop also its so annoying I feel like running away from home I have had it and she never stops drinking. My dad stopped drinking why doesn’t she. My mom drinks too much and right now she went to bed because she is drunk I actually found a empty bottle of wine which is 14% alcohol she drunk the whole bottle and I just threw it outside in the snow that’s how mad I get when she is drunk I would either break the bottle in the garage or throw it on the ice in the winter. She slurrs when she talks its so annoying and she is just a alcohol abuser swhe can’t stop and my dad won’t bring her to rehab he says supposively to him that she has to agree to go to rehab and I bet she will never agree with my dad she needs rehab I have asked my dad several times can mom go to rehab and let me tell you my dad is a softy and he is very nice and i love my daddy he is the best and so is my mom but I just don’t like it at all when she is drinking it makes me sad, mad, and depressed. It is hard for me because I love talking to my mom when she isn’t drunk its cool because I can like tell her anything I want to tell her she is like my best friend and I can tell her anything I want to tell her I can totally trust my mom I love talking to her when she isn’t drinking but when she is drinking it makes me sad because alot of my friend’s mothers don’t drink at all and I wish my mom never drank at all. When I ask my mom if she has been drinking she says nope when she really has been drinking because its so obvious in her voice she is slurring and when u look at her hair it gets all crazy like it got struck by lightning which im setting an example of lightning because her hair is all crazy like its gelled up but it isnt gelled up but anyways when u look at her also you can tell that her eyes are big are moving every where. That is how you can tell if she is drinking even if she has one sip of beer she will be drunk also I don’t know why but it’s weird. Also when she is drunk she never flushes the toliet when she is using the bathroom and she goes to the bathroom when she is on the toliet doing her business in the bathroom she is on the phone while she is doing her business in the bathroom I know ew and she NEVER FLUSHES THE TOLIET OR WASHES HER HANDS NEVER AND SHE MAKES ME AND MY DAD AND MY SISTER FOOD TO EAT SHE TOUCHES THE FOOD FOR SUPER AND SHE DOESN’T EVEN WASH HER HANDS WHEN SHE IS DONE DOING HER BUSINESS IN THE BATHROOM! ITS SO DISCUSTING AND SHE MAKES ME EAT SUPPER/DINNER THAT SHE MAde. It is so discusting she touches the food I eat and she doesnt even wash her hands after she uses the bathroom that has been going on for a long long long long time its so discusting. One time I was in the kitchen eatting carrots while she was drunk on the toliet going to the bathroom and the next minute i had to use the bathroom and she didnt even flush the toliet and wash her hands in the sink and guess what when I wa
I feel awful! I was so frustrated because she doesn’t want to listen and denies everything that has happened in my life. She went to prison for social security fraud and said it was all my fault- I was only 14 when she went to prison at the time and the fraud had been going on since I was 5. There is no reasoning with her. Both she and my father who I never see are alcoholics, but she denies it because she thinks drinking beer does not quantify as an alcoholic!
I am a single father that and custody of my daughter because her mother does not want her. She dropped her off at my house 5 years ago and said she did not want anything to do with her except to be able to see her from time to time. We never went to court and I have no legal paperwork saying that she gave custody to me. I have never stopped her from seeing our daughter and never asked her for any support or anything. The problem is that now she is in a relationship with another man and for some reason wants our daughter to come to their house every other weekend which I was O.K. with because I feel it is important for my daughter to know and love her mother. This has been only going on for a couple months and every time I pick my kid up from their house she is crying and depressed for a few days after she comes home. She says that her mom is mean and yells at her the whole time she is there and makes her do all kinds of housework while she is there and does not even get to talk or anything with her mom. She says that when she is there she has to be quiet and watch the other kids because they are all younger than my daughter who is 11. The guy my x is with has 2 young kids and my x has a young son from another guy she was with after me.
It seems like she is using our kid as a babysitter so she does not have to take care of them and my daughter says that her mom and the new guy are always in the bedroom with the door locked. She told me there is no noise coming from the room other than a television and that they don’t knock on the door because if they make too much noise they will be in trouble and get yelled at. That is the history for my problem and this is what worries me.
Just tonight I called the father of my ex’s son to see if I could pick him up for a picnic this Sunday because he will have him that day. He is a really nice guy and a good father so he agreed to let me pick him up. He said that he trusts me to pick him up anytime that I want and told me that the guy she is with now is a heroin dealer and that my ex is using it too. I have noticed that she is looking really bad lately and is so thin you can see her bones through her clothes. I though she might be sick because she supposedly had ovarian cancer last year and told me she had to have a hysterectomy. I found out that she was lying about that from her brother and she had her tubes tied so she could not get pregnant again. She always wears long sleeve shirts now even when it is 80 degrees but wears shorts and like I said she looks like she is about dead.
I have heard from other people that she has been using heroin too but I just figured they were just trying to make me mad at her or some thing. I don’t know what to do now. Should I keep my daughter from her mom and risk losing custody of her if it goes to court? I am so afraid to lose my daughter. I love her with every ounce of my soul and don’t think I could handle losing her. I live in Pennsylvania where the court always gives custody of the child to the mother until the court has a chance to hear the case and I have no proof of the drug use. If I let my daughter go to her mom’s house and they get busted for drugs I will lose my daughter to the child protective services. If I call the police and turn her in she will file some thing against me to get our daughter from me and might even turn me in for kidnapping even though she goes to school right beside my house and her address is here I think she could do that. I don’t know what to do or where to turn for help.
Sorry for such a long question but I feel it is important to let you know the history so you can try to help me. Please take this serious because it is no joke and I can’t sleep because I am so scared to lose my kid. Thank You all for any help you can give me.
Thanks guys. I am going to talk to a lawyer Monday and I am going to see what he has to say before I talk to her. My daughter will NOT be going to that house until I speak with the lawyer and get his opinion. I don’t know why I didn’t think of talking with a lawyer before. I guess I was just too worked up but thanks again for the help.
I have never smoked a ciggarete, and i find it completely disgusting but people i spend a lot of time with are smokers. Like my dad, step mother, and my boyfriends parents. So why am i having dreams that I’m completely addicted to ciggarates? And when I’m dreaming about it I can feel it and taste it.
She left me when our daughter was 6 moths old to be with a guy who she met on te internet. I was taking my daughter,now 2/12, four days a week and she just up and left her with her disabled sister and mother. I did sign the paternity papers and the birth certificate. I also give her $75 a week for her. well anyway my ex’s sister who now has my daughter and also lives with her mom in a town 2 hours a way, will not allow me to see her at all but my mother takes her on the weekends, do I have the right to go and just take her.There has never been a court hearing or anything such as that? The mother had another babyiin the mean time and just gave it away to her sister also. I want to give my daughter a stable home with my wife and our new baby. She does not need to be tossed around and I do not feel i should have to fight in court…she is mine and rightfully so, please help me understand my rights as a father. like I said no one ever had any kind of court custody or gaurdianship
my mom bought some alcohol last night and left it next to my bed. i left the room to take a shower and came back to find the bottle knocked over and alcohol all over the floor. turns out my puppy (whos a little over a month old) knocked it over. im not sure if he drank any but i cleaned it up and then he went over and licked the towel. whats the worse case scenario?
This is going to be long, sorry!
I’ve never really had an issue with my mother in law, up until my wedding. My husband is in the armed forces and our wedding was pretty last minute. It was tough trying to get it together, but we were doing what we could. We sadly had to borrow a lot of money from my MIL for the wedding, but we were definitely planning on paying her back, and not spending a lot at all as my parents were doing what they could, even while bankrupt.
We had decided on a Chapel that would do a wedding for 2,500. It was small, quaint, sweet, and they gave you a lot of stuff like flowers, decorations, candles. It was IDEAL, and my husband and I had really wanted THAT chapel, but my mother in law decided she didn’t like it. They didn’t have an opening on the day SHE wanted the wedding and at the time she wanted it, so she found somewhere else and booked up without consulting us. The place she booked happened to be in the basement of a bar.
I had told my MIL that I wanted VERY few people there, not just to reduce costs, but because I always saw my wedding as VERY intimate time for only very close friends and family. I didn’t want more than 20 people there. She said OK, and invited ALL of her coworkers, (my husband had no idea who some of them were). She actually had a sign up sheet at her workplace, and invited all the cousins under the rainbow. This broke my heart, as ALL of my family lives in England, so it’s not like I could just invite mine over. I had my parents and a couple of friends, where as my husband had all these random people.
She knows I hate roses, so she bought rose flowers for decorations. “I know you don’t like them, but they’re so cute.” Along with deciding that her coworkers sister should make my wedding cake. She let me choose the style and flavoring, but when we got the cake it was NOTHING like what I had asked for. I later found out that even though I wanted a 2 tier cake, my MIL ordered a 3.
With the food, she ordered all this meat stuff, knowing I was a vegetarian. I asked her what I was going to eat and she told me she would make me some MAC AND CHEESE. My mother made me my own special dish, but I was so insulted.
People turned up to our wedding in jeans and casual shirts. They complained about the music Adam and I had chosen for our wedding, and I didn’t hardly know anyone. The whole time during the wedding, I wanted to leave and cry.
I had TRIED to take control, but she wouldn’t let me, and I feel like my husband hardly did anything either.I appreciate her helping, but I feel like she completely disrespected me.
I let this go after awhile, because she’s my MIL, and I care about her. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. However, a week or so before I left to go to Korea, where my hubby is stationed, she started being extremely passive aggressive. For example, my Sister in Law threw a going away party for me, which was GREAT until my MIL showed up. I was talking to everyone, mingling, and then when my MIL came, she took over. I kept quiet because what she was saying bored me. My MIL knows I have a history of being shy, so she turned over and said “Quiet much?” I just smiled, and she rolled her eyes and scoffed. Again, I just brushed it off.
The last straw though was when she tried to talk to me about my mother, who doesn’t work (she’s very sick, she deals with alcoholism as well as being generally weak and anemic.) My mother is sweet, though, she tries her hardest to be a good person, even if she’s not all the time. The fact is, my MIL turned around to me and said “Maybe you’re mom should get a job, you know? Or a hobby or something. Maybe your step dad and her could go on a trip”. I agreed, but told her how sick my mother is, and plus my mother isn’t a people person, as she’s EXTREMELY shy, and doesn’t like to be around people. She retorted to this with “Sounds like someone else I know”, gave me this LOOK” and continued with “You know, maybe you should try and make some army wife friends and start doing something.” I found this extremely rude, as I get along with people fine, and I do a lot here.
I stopped talking to her after that, and she called my mother telling her she thinks I have an issue with her, which I do. I don’t know how to deal with how angry I am at her for her constant rudeness. We recently fostered a dog that was about to be put down, and he chewed up some furniture so she instantly suggests we should take him back to the shelter and scoffs at our efforts to rehome him. (Which, btw, he’s made leaps and bounds into a GREAT dog). She’s pressured me into adopting his son before, because his sons mom is a *****. I had told her I wasn’t ready for a child, and she still pressures me to adopt his son!
:( I feel like such a bad person for disliking her so much!
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