I just needed to get this all out;;my mom drug addicted..and i can’t take it anymore!help!?
July 28th, 2010
I have knowone to talk to about thing’s besides my boyfriend..which isn’t the type of person you’d wanna talk about your mom being a DRUG ADDICTED person.
and my shrink Trish…she knows everything..but doesn’t exactly help.
okay, so here i go.
my mom’s smokes crack.
she’s done a lot of drug’s in her lifetime, she started at age 27.because she got with my brother’s dad who USED to sell weed, and do coke, acid,heroin, and other drug’s.
well she used to do those thing’s too.
When i was little like ages five(maybe) to ten..i lived with my aunt off and on.
and when i didn’t live with my mom, i’d live with my aunt.
she forced me to go to church, not that i didn’t enjoy it..it’s just you just can’t force someone to go to church like that..it makes thing’s worse…at times.
but anyway’s..i’m 14 now, and i’ve lived with my mom maybe 6 or 7 year’s of my life…because she’s addicted to drug’s..well crack.
she’s on methadone..which a drug well a medicine you take so you don’t pop pills and do drug’s and drink, (she used to pop pills..such as Vicodin, Oxycotten, and those sort of thinks! she’s OD’d off of soma three times..twice with a tube down her throat, close to dying) and she still smokes crack, when i was little she went to rehab for 18 day’s but then got out because she missed her family so much, which i don’t understand if she can continuously put me and my brother through her smoking crack and me and him not living/seeing her .
anyway’s she’s STILL Smoking crack..and she’s 36 turning 37 next month.
well she keeps saying she’s going to rehab..well has to…because she got caught with Crack in her car..while driving in suspended.
well anyway’s keeps saying i’m done with it..and right now..she is gone..out smoking crack once again, knowone knows where she is.
i’m very worried though, and i cant do this anymore..i feel like i’m breaking down..because my mom is all i can think about since i found out she’s out smoking crack.
i’m scared, i don’t know what to do..?
and i seriously can’t do this anymore…..i hate having a mom who’s addicted to drug’s..she pop’s xanax all the time..also has a hernia in her stomach..
also, then there’s my 17 year old brother who’s ”mr.weed man!” well think’s he is.
he smokes weed everyday.
i’m always around some kind of drug and if it isn’t a drug..it’s pill’s..
i want away from it..so bad.=’[
i love her, but it hurt’s so bad..for me to have to keep going through growing up with a drug addicted mom.
shes always saying it doesn’t effect me..when it does..how can i get her to understand the face that it does bother and effect me?
Also, about me.
i’ve cut myself over her before, thought about suicide..but i’m not stupid enough to do it.
i’m way to scared of dying.
i’m 14year’s old. i can’t tell my mom to get out.
are you kidding me?
i sorta was looking for better advice that that…!
and i also have knowwhere else to go.
give her an ultimatum. its either you or the drugs. tell her to take her pick.
call 911, and tell them whats going on. it might not feel right but its for her life. how much value does her life have to you.
P.S. if you keep cutting yourself, get a therapist.
Oh. My God.
So sorry you must live life that way! It must be sooo harsh!
The first thing that popped up into my head was to ask “Did you go to your school counselor?”
That’s what they’re there for.
Suddenly I’m very concerned! I can see that you can’t take it by yourself – have you tried obtaining outside help? If you’re hurting yourself because of your mother… something HAS TO be done, and quickly.
(we’ve all learned) that Drug addiction is HARD to get rid of. However, she should not have quitted rehab. I just can’t believe your whole family would watch you and your mother slowly dying from all the pain!
My advice: Get outside help! Please don’t hurt yourself, and don’t you DARE consider suicide.
Good luck.
Dude, shez a buzzharsh, just run away to europe…. nothing bad ever happens in europe!!
i feel bad for you. this is so common anymore. all i can tell you is to use your mother as a role model on how not to live your life. you sound like an intelligent young lady. honey, you can’t take care of your mother. i know you hate to see her waste her life, but she is beyond anything you can do. stay in school, don’t get pregnant and get a college education so you can get out of the life you’re in. your mother has to want to stay clean. you can’t let her drag you down. take care of yourself and plan your future. here’s some sites for you. take care of yourself.
http://www.hopenetworks.org/addiction/Children%20of%20Addicts.htm
http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/library/DS/00183.html
http://www.fight-drug-addiction.com/
http://ncadistore.samhsa.gov/catalog/mediaDetails.aspx?ID=64
make plans for yourself. achievable goals. where do you want to be and how you gonna get their? what do you need to get their? its gotta be about you. maybe you will want to help other people your age in the same situation, maybe you just want a porsche!
you can do all things…….you just have to never give up to what comes in front of you.
you have a counsellor but if she isnt helping you need to get a new one! ask to be transferred. sometimes people become used to each other and you need someone else at this stage in your life. if they say no, dont give up.
there is a reason you went to church wether you wanted to go or not. i went sunday school when i was little and just thought it was stories. but something always stays with you. you wouldnt have been there if God didnt want you to be. i think he wants to help you. if you ask jesus to forgive you for anything you ever done wrong and ask him to come into your life, you will never feel alone or unloved again, he is like a brother or father that you can rely on and talk to all the time. its not always that easy but you just know.
i dont want to bible bash you, but imagine:
someone who created everything, bigger than anyone, helping you. there is hope! he never promised that we would never be hurt and life made easy, but he does say he will be hter with us to help us through every trial and heal our every pain……..if we ask hm to.
you are never alone.
that also doesnt mean we do not need anyone else. he puts people in places and uses them to help us.
there must be groups where others in similar age and circumstances meet to chat and offer advice and support to each other. trish should be able to find these for you. even church youth groups, there should be kids there you should be able to talk to and they can pray for your situation and give you support.
its a shame you cant feel free to talk to your boyfriend. maybe you need one you can talk to lol.
be a go getter, be bold.
i think you already are.
i pray tonight is a peaceful and happy for you.
i so wish you all the best.
ps im 42 now and life is so much better than when i was 14. you HAVE got stuff to look forward to.
The issues you are attempting to deal with a far to complicated for anyone here to be able to help with.
However you must protect yourself. Your best resource right now would be to fine a Alano Club in your area. That is where AA/NA, holds there meetings. Call them and tell them what is going on in your life. They will hold out a helping hand, and help you to remove yourself from your present situation.
You will also find other teens there that have gone through what you are going through. They will of course be able to advise you.
My mother was/is still a drug addict and alcoholic. I ended up going to support groups for children or other relatives of alcoholics. Maybe you should look into support groups for you to cope with her. You should try to get help for your self too. I am the second oldest of 9 children. I dealt with being in foster care, my mother not going to my graduation from highschool, and more, it began for me when I was 14 also, which happens to be when I moved back with my mom after being with my dad for 9 years. Get some help for yourself so that you can cope. Do what you have to do to be better then your mom, not like her or worse then her.