when i was younger my mother died, she left me with my abusive drug addict father. how can i cope with this?
April 12th, 2010
he hurts me and does terrible things, i have heard that there are ways of becoming a foster child but even though my father does these things i do love him dearly. i dont want to lose him. what should i do?
oh my god! you shouldnt have to go through that, no one should. you could call childline? (0800 1111) or maybe talk to a proper councillor… you’re dad may be the only immediate family you have, but if he abuses you she doesnt love you as a father should. you have to get help, please let me know how things are going with you!
good luck, phants x x x
Please,live apart of your father.You can contact only sometimes for a short time.He was acting very selfish.I think he doesn’t deserve your love and respect to him.He had no mercy to you as a child not thinking that you are undefended child and he must protect you and care about you.It is not honored to him.I think even forget about him is better because he hurt probably your psyhic and that can last all your life and in the relationship with the people.
I am an ex-chemical dependency counselor. Burnt out-tried to do too much. Basically, this boils down to a few very simple facts. 1. No one deserves abuse. He doesn’t have the right to hurt you-period. 2. Drug abuse destroys all that come in contact with it. I have seen familys ripped apart by this and it isn’t pretty. The damage to you is far greater than what you would believe. The fact that you have put up with abuse is indicative of this. 3. You cannot stop his using. Only he can make this choice. So don’t blame yourself for this. 4. You can only help yourself. Look into Ala-teen, Naranon or the like-they are support groups for the families of addicts and alcoholics. You will need their support in getting past this and to hopefully keep from falling into the trap that your father did. 5. Addiction is hereditary-do not use under any circumstances. 6. Foster care will take you out of the home, but will not necessarily force you to lose your father-that is his choice. He will have tasks to meet in order to regain custody-if he is able to prove that he has stopped using and has taken the parenting classes-then there is a chance that you would be reunited. The choice is ultimately his. If he thinks you are worth the effort, then it will happen. 7. If he has committed a felony during the periods of abuse, then the chances of reuniting become slim to none. There is a reason as to why certain actions are felonies-mainly because of the level of damage that they do to the victim. Even then, provided that he does what he is told, then the chance of reunification is still possible. He has to do what he is told-you cannot make him do this, he has to. 8. You need to be safe and have the opportunity to finish your education and growing up. That is your main task at the moment and his usage and abuse is making this increasingly difficult-if not impossible for you to do this. 9. Finally, talk to a counselor at school about the situation-as long as you don’t go into specifics and keep the conversation in a theoritical context, then no action can be taken. However, don’t delay, if you are being physically or sexually harmed-get out of there ASAP. The counselor is who can get you into the foster care program and can start the ball rolling when it comes to getting help for your father. Good luck. My prayers are with you.
Darling if he is hurting you he doesnt deserve your love. Find a way to get out. Tell the police anyone or a teacher you can trust. No one should ever have to suffer. Even when the cause of pain has stopped its effects can stay with you. Believe me i know.My heart goes out to you angel. Good luck.
Im not sure what to tell you, I’m not the one in your shoes……but …abuse is unacceptable, no one deserves that! I had to get away from my mother at the age of 13 or 14, as an act of self preservation! I needed a stable home to live in and I did what I had to do. It hurt like hell, but I don’t regret it…..I still love my mother. If pop is in to drugs, and is abusing you, you could be in an enviroment that will only get worse…..Think hard about this…please! When it comes down to the bottom line, you have to protect you. If you choose to act, dont halfway do it, backing down only makes it worse, slows down or stops any help you may get…There is help out there. Go to the police or the er if you feel its needed, you dont have to be a victim, good luck and god bless….riff
=*[ You should like totally like go somewhere ta get some help!!! That's like mega dangerous. It aint good that your daddy abuses you...=[ You should call a hotline or somethin....I was in the same situation...a few times yea....I called a few and they helped me out a lot!!! Only thing is, my mama doesn't use drugs. If that's triggering his outbursts, you should call someone to help you. =[ If it's like possible (I don't know much bout it....) maybe you can be a foster child and see your daddy every weekend or something. That way you won't be getn abused as much and you'll still see 'im.
I really, really, truely hope that you get out of that situation. =[ I hope your daddy gets better and stops hurtn you. I hope you stay safe!!!! Tell me what happens please.....There's gota be sumthin you can do bout that. =] I hope it all works out.
even though u love him, he abuses u and does things that u dont like. u shouldnt go through this, it might get worse, and u’ll live with bad memories for the rest of ur life.