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My mother is addicted to World of Warcraft. As a gamer myself, I fully expect some snide comments about “hurhur don’t blame the medium, vidgamez r not wats wrong w/ ur mom”.. But I’m hoping for at least one or two rational people out there to hear me out.

I used to play, and I got my mom into it back when the game was brand new. I’ve since quit because I have real life obligations that just aren’t conducive to continuing any hardcore gaming on such an in depth MMO, and she’s continued playing – that’s totally fine. The problem is that she ignores everyone of my family when she’s playing, which is almost ALL the time that she’s awake. She doesn’t have a job, and she doesn’t even pay attention to my sibling who has cancer and is six years old. She’s even cheated on my dad with someone half her age that she met on it, and they had NO relationship problems before she started playing! She says they don’t communicate now but it’s HER fault because all she does is play!

Her only friends are on WoW so they continuously validate her playing as much as she does, and on the rare occasion she tries to log off for RL, they berate her with “Nooo stayyyy”. And so she does.

I’ve tried talking to her about it, but she grows defensive and we fight. I’ve tried talking to my dad about it, and he understands but has the same problem. Nobody knows what to do to fix the problem and I’m really worried and at my wit’s end. It seems impossible to help someone who genuinely doesn’t seem to WANT help, but any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I forgot to mention that I don’t live with my mother anymore. Subsequently, she has said and threatened with a few things that make me worried that if I push TOO hard, she’ll make it impossible for me to reach anyone else in my immediate family. They only use her cell phone for contact besides the internet, and the idea of not being able to speak with my little bro, especially when he’s sick like this, kills me.

This is also why I can’t bring myself to tell my dad about what she did with that guy she met, even though I feel guilty and horrible that I haven’t. =/

I have a friend that is meth addict. She has two small children, ages 9 months and 4 years old. Both children have separate fathers who are not in their lives and have no plans to ever be. She has a “friend” that lives across the country 2500 miles away and provides her full access to his bank account with a salary of $60,000 a year. He visits once a year for a few days. She lives in a luxurious house which costs $1500 a month, attends school, leaves the kids with sitters 12 hours a day, and does not work. The 4-year-old is attending a preschool program in which they are noticing odd behaviors and seizures (side effects from whatever medications he is on) and they want social services to visit the home for an “inspection”. She is attempting to legally refuse the inspection and their other requests for mandated medical attention. When she goes on a binge, she’ll have family babysit for 24-48 hour periods. When she crashes and needs sleep, but the kids are up, she’ll give them sedatives to incapacitate them or put them to sleep for 16 hours each time every few days. All of her friends are dealers and/ or addicts who generally exchange meth for sex. The “friend” providing her the funds is attempting to gain custody of the children because he was named a godfather, has gotten sober through the 12-step program, and is aware of her downward spiraling addiction. I have not alerted authorities because I have come to a point in my life where I have to accept that this is probably common and when she hits the bottom, it will be done without me getting involved in her affairs; at which point, I hope the children will no longer be harmed. My question is: Why would this man give this woman access to all of his money and a luxurious lifestyle when he knows she is harming her own children, continually argues with him & bosses him around, and is legally going to resist his attempts to help the children?
Thank you for the replies. Although I didn’t want to get involved, I alerted the child abuse investigators at our local police station.

My husband is the biological father of one of her two kids…they had recently been taken by child protective services and placed in the care of the mothers boyfriends parents..we were told since there is not a custody order between my husband and her that he can go take his child..she really did alot wrong to his son and we want to get full physical custody of him.. child services have already been in our home and they loved it…they also seen that we have a daughter that is very well taken care of..i think these are all things that could help us in a court case..right? do you think a father could win sole custody in this case? also we recently got married and dont really have the extra funds for a lawyer at the moment we live in PA does anyone know any cheap or pro bono lawyers concerning child custody cases?
the child is three years old

My uncle was a drug addict and now he’s add it again. I don’t know what to tell my other ’cause what ever i say gets her really mad. (She’s known for dealing with anger on other people) what do i do? And even if i stay quiet or not even talk about it she brings it up like she expects me to do something.

plesae help me this is a serious post.
my mother is a 38 year old house wife she has five kids i am the oldes one and i am leaving in 2 months to the marine corps. i dont want to leave my little brothers and sister in this broken home. My family looks perfect from the outside nice house nice cars but the inside of my house is ruined its filthy dirty theres trash everywhere my family is in horrible debt my mom pretty much just sits around now that all of us kids are older and my dad works 16 hours a day 6 days a week. all my mom does is yells at my dad he tied to manage her pain killer intake but when he doesnt give them to her she threatens him with divorce. shes always angry shes exremyly bipolar ive had to call the medics 3 times to come pick her up cause she starts convulsing. SHE denies denies that she has a problem. i tried to confront her but she threatend to kick me out of the house. she doctor hops and buys the pills online. PLease please if god could please send me something i dont know what to do. My family is broken in debt and miserable shes not the same old mother anymore and im scared she will hurt one of my sicbling or herself. and at the rate she intakes the meds im scared she will kill herself. but on days when she has no medication she just lays in bed please help me ill do anyhting to fix my family… the reaon i signed up for the marine corps wwas to get out of this but now i relize if i dont do something for my little brothers and sister no one will. please help me. please

I know some of you could care less, but for the sneaker addicts, I could really use your assistance. I would like to get a pair for myself, but I can not find them anywhere.

My mom is addicted to Ajax, a bathroom cleanser, and she has been doing it for years. I mean, she literally craves it. I am afraid for her life, does anyone know some long term effects that can happen to her if she doesn’t stop? And will she die? is there any way to stop this addiction?
My mom is addicted to Ajax, a bathroom cleanser, and she has been doing it for years. I mean, she literally craves it. I am afraid for her life, does anyone know some long term effects that can happen to her if she doesn’t stop? And will she die? is there any way to stop this addiction? My mom is not pregnant.
My mom eats it. Literally, puts it in her mouth.

This has been going on for about seven or eight years now, and I don’t think our family can take it anymore. My mother is addicted to drugs like sohma and vikadin (spelled correctly?) and she says she uses them b/c she multiple schlerosis but she has been addicted to them far longer than she was diagnosed with her illness.
When she ODs, she goes into what our family calls “spells”. Her speech becomes slurred and she never knows what she is talking about, she can barely stay awake, and sometimes she just passes out. We always find a variety of pills in her pockets.
Apparently it’s illegal for us to talk to her doctor, and she keeps all of her medical information secret.
When she wakes up from these “spells” she acts as if she can’t remember anything.
She has only OD’d so badly that she ended up in the hospital once, and we can’t use that against her b/c we have no recollection of it.
How can we help her help herself? How can we make her see that she does have a problem?

I’m pretty much the most awful human being you can imagine and all I think of is jumping off of a building or laying down on railroad tracks. I hate myself.
Not really a question, I just don’t have anyone in my life to bounce ideas off of.
This is the most honest communication of any kind I have made in the past 3 or 4 years.

I am 27 years old and i have 2 daughters of my own. My mother is addicted to narcotics and xanax. She has been some form af an addict most of her life wether it be crack, meth, alcohol, or narcotics.SHE HAS DONE A VERY GOOD JOB HIDDING IT WHEN WE WERE KIDS. but lately it has been narcotics and xanax. eventhough she lives close to me she comes over to visit every once in a while. we get into a fight everytime about her addiction because she is ALWAYS doing something accidentaly to harm me and my family. Everytime she stays over she burns a hole in my couch or my rug by falling assleep with a ciggarette. I told her she is going to burn us all up and kill us one day. well this morning she called me and I she hung up on me with her last words being ” HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY ANYWAY” I hate my mother for being so selfish and disrespectful. Would it be wrong of me to tell her to never call me ever again?

This is going be long, but please bare with me because I’m a very private person; she has no siblings, and this is the best way I can get advice anonymously. It all started last year .. my Grandmother, my mom’s mom and only remaining parent. , was diagnosed with terminal cancer of the stomach, they gave her 6 months… my mom followed her and stayed with her. Around that time, my mom has a gambling habit and during the time she was caring for her ailing mother, she was gambling and needed money and bugged my estranged half – brother for money she had given him for my grandmother’s treatment back. He got infuriated and assaulted her which resulted in hematoma and what they call raccoon eyes, that’s when there’s internal bleeding show up like bruises encircling the eyes. In July when my grandmother loss her fight with cancer…by October we find out my father has been cheating on her for over a year or so… and had basically saving up everything he was making for the other girl… he even paid for the girl’s nursing school. My mom was/is devastated, within 3 days he attempted to have my mom relinquish rights to his 401k, which she did, I wasn’t around and my brother is too stupid to understand the vocabulary.. and she believed his lies when he told her that he was not going to return to the other girl, when just the other night the whole immediate family got the other girl on the phone and for him to tell her that he was never going to see her again… he couldn’t. When the checked from his 401k, us not knowing, he told my mother that he was going to the other woman. I wasn’t around. When arrived.. I gave him a piece of my mind and he assaulted me. We called the cops and we haven’t seen him since. Now, he’s trying to prevent my mom from getting the money and now does not want it in lump sum… when he did initially.. according to the courts. My during these have been hanging around the wrong crowd and I believe she is under the influence…. she doesn’t seem to listen to either brother or me and no longer lives with us…. she comes and goes and seems to be meandering from house of friends…..I just don’t know what to do… I’m going to school for nursing and working…. I just don’t know what to do.

This is going be long, but please bare with me because I’m a very private person; she has no siblings, and this is the best way I can get advice anonymously. It all started last year .. my Grandmother, my mom’s mom and only remaining parent. , was diagnosed with terminal cancer of the stomach, they gave her 6 months… my mom followed her and stayed with her. Around that time, my mom has a gambling habit and during the time she was caring for her ailing mother, she was gambling and needed money and bugged my estranged half – brother for money she had given him for my grandmother’s treatment back. He got infuriated and assaulted her which resulted in hematoma and what they call raccoon eyes, that’s when there’s internal bleeding show up like bruises encircling the eyes. In July when my grandmother loss her fight with cancer…by October we find out my father has been cheating on her for over a year or so… and had basically saving up everything he was making for the other girl… he even paid for the girl’s nursing school. My mom was/is devastated, within 3 days he attempted to have my mom relinquish rights to his 401k, which she did, I wasn’t around and my brother is too stupid to understand the vocabulary.. and she believed his lies when he told her that he was not going to return to the other girl, when just the other night the whole immediate family got the other girl on the phone and for him to tell her that he was never going to see her again… he couldn’t. When the checked from his 401k, us not knowing, he told my mother that he was going to the other woman. I wasn’t around. When arrived.. I gave him a piece of my mind and he assaulted me. We called the cops and we haven’t seen him since. Now, he’s trying to prevent my mom from getting the money and now does not want it in lump sum… when he did initially.. according to the courts. My during these have been hanging around the wrong crowd and I believe she is under the influence…. she doesn’t seem to listen to either brother or me and no longer lives with us…. she comes and goes and seems to be meandering from house of friends…..I just don’t know what to do… I’m going to school for nursing and working…. I just don’t know what to do.

I’m talking about any baby who after it was born had to stay in the hospital to get weaned off the drug of choice their mother was on. I’m in the healthcare profession and I don’t believe in some of the decisions “the system” makes and was wondering what other people thought.

Particularly in the US.
Eric… no seas mamon (don’t be an idiot!) I am not and have never been pregnant. I have also never used a drug. If you can’t recognise a hypothetical question, don’t bother answering.

my stbx-husband’s parents were narcissistic and treated him as a nuisance. he felt he owed them a lot because they fed and clothed him. he was a porn addict and pathological liar, and was totally controlled by his parents. much as i feel sorry for him, i had to leave him because i couldn’t tolerate the dysfunction any more.

i wonder what effects bad mothering can have on a son’s adult relationships.

she goes to yahoo answers everyday. and when she laughs at the answers of some, she looks like crazy.

so my mother got sober about two years ago. At the time, i was 13, so i didnt fully understand the process that our whole family was going through. now that im a little older, i now realize the impact drugs made on my life. She hasn’t been going to meeting. When she does, shes so happy! Latly shesbeen depressed and in a horrible mood, i wanna be able to tell her to go to a meeting, but then she’d get defensive and angry. And when we get in a argument, she acts like a child!
So i really need some advice, ANY!

I’ve also heard of a meeting for family members dealing with addicts and i was just wondering what they are called and if there are any websites. thank you for reading.

my mom is a crackhead who can’t provide any kind of good home for me.She’s been using for years,with no end in sight.I have nowhere else to go,my family refuses to help and my friends can’t help because i have no way to pay rent.what can i do about this?

why does your god punish an innocent babe, instead of the mother? Something that makes sense please, because those “It’s gods will” or we can never understand gods plan” stuff doesn’t cut it. God has a plan?? That defeats your claims of “free will” Plan does not equal free will.
Nɑɫïvє♀ “God isn’t punishing the baby the mother did.”–but I thought god is the one who is all knowing all good and all powerful according to christanity.

If your mother; father; brother; or sister commits a crime–would it be just to come and arrest you for their crime?–Ethically speaking, the majority of us would consider this unjust.–How just is it for a so called knowing all good and all powerful
PattyAnn, “Nothing defeats Free Will…”–but I thought your god is all good all knowing and all POWERFUL; I am glad that you prove that your god is not all good all knowing and all POWERFUL.
If god has a plan–is it good or bad. Perhaps the christian god is masochistic and just enjoys watching people suffer.
Do you really see a mentally or physically disabled person, as less of a person?–I do not but according to chaistanity it is a punishment for sin. In fact, christianity also considers all sickness to be the result of committing sin and or the result of demons. Even a sneeze was considered to be the result demons–that is why christians say bless you when you sneeze! This is still practiced today, even though most christians are not aware of this tradition nor its origin.
Rose: Ephesians 1:5
“Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will,”–The key word in this passage is PREDESTINED. On this view it was decided long before the mother was born that she would be a drug addict and that the baby would have to suffer as a result was also determined by god long before the baby was ever born!
The above passage and the others sited by Rose prove that god is to blame and not the mother!

My mother has been to 3 or 4 rehab centers willingly she has lost her 3 (my siblings) kids (who are minors) her husband and her job now the kids have moved in with their dad 4 hours away and she sits at her house all alone drinking all day since she doesn’t have a job she is constantly broke but somehow still finds money to buy booze I have been direct and clear with her and im sure my dad and siblings have.. my extended family have been direct with her also she literally doesnt move from the couch .. and we have all tried the sympathy card with her but nothing works We thought it was ok for a awhile but then my dad caught her drinking again she drunkenly started screaming and throwing stuff my siblings were terrified and then the next day she was drunk again and tried to check them out of school but they wouldn’t go with her so she left she now she moved back into her house and doesn’t even want to see her kids anymore …I have lost all emotional connection with her I just want to get her off her habit so that my dad does not have to pay for the house she is staying in anymore and she can get her own job and house and quit sucking the money out of my dad so that my siblings can participate in out of school activities they were forced to quit because my dad couldn’t afford to pay for everything including my moms bills and house note ….I just want her sober and out of our lives. Is there anything we havent tried?
I have read some answers some were very helpful others not so much… but maybe if I add more details I will get better answers? we have had many interventions with her ones were we have all cried my extended family and immeditiate family telling her how much we love her and then she would say im never dinking again but of course she does so we have another intervention telling her to stop feeling sorry for herself and wake the hell up she has even gone so far as to tell the cops my dad beat her with a bat when in reality she got bit by a pit bull at work she came home got drunk and I guess forgot all about it but I know she was lying because my dad was not even in the same state when she came home with that bruise ….. and me and my siblings have been dealing with her alcoholism since my youngest brother was born about 11 years ago when she got mad she called me and my sister sluts and sometimes slap us and she wouldnt hit my brothers but she made them cry
so please dont tell me to stand by her because she has already lost my love and respect I just want her to get a job and move on maybe when im ready I can forgive her but not now…