How can you love yourself if no one ever loved you?
March 31st, 2010
Suppose you are a kid born as an accident from a drug addicted mother and unidentified father. She only keeps you till you are 12, then you get kicked out and you are forced to live on the streets. So now you are 18 and you finally found a job and not homeless anymore. But how can you be ever love yourself or someone else if you never learned meaning of love from your parents?
I didn’t mean that’s how my life was. It’s just a scenario similar to my friends situation although a bit worse. Although my life had similar aspects to this scenario too.
You’re a survivor that’s for sure. I think that proves you do love yourself.
good Q. and a hard one. Im not sure what to say here…but I know this that we are given certain gifts in life…its a paradox in a way…things that you never have, you are to give them to others. You will find love growing inside you at one point in time. When the time is right, you will be shown how to use it properly. You already know the things ‘not to do’ with others. So, learn from them and when you do find someone you like or are bonding to…love will grow inside you and you will feel it. God is there to love each and every single person, even if they are not loved here. Good luck and smile. ;))
First of all, I’m sure ANYONE would give respect to you. Second, love is a mysterious thing. Nobody really knows what it’s about, but they just know it. Some people say that if you loved someone, you would care for them more than you cared for yourself. If you ask me, though, my answer is yes. You can still love somebody even if you have never been loved yourself.
You can love yourself more because you have overcome many obstacles .
If my parents were to forsake me, the Lord would take care of me. He loves me and everyone else much more than a human could. God pours His love into a person who accepts His Son, Jesus Christ, so the ability to love can grow. He promises to never leave or abandon His children who stick with Him. God promises a future and hope to those who earnestly seek Him, so all is not lost.
It’s about a relationship, not religion. It’s where we allow Him to take us, not where we’ve been.
If you don’t have this relationship, just ask Jesus Christ to come into your heart, to forgive you of any sin. Thank Him for dying for you so you can have eternal life. Confess that you believe He’s the Son of God who has risen from the dead. Tell Him that you’ll live for Him, and forgive those who mistreated you.
If you meant what you prayed, welcome to God’s family! Now stay in contact by talking to the Lord everyday, and follow an easy-to-read Bible daily, starting with St. John. Trust Him to let His love make up for what you can’t or don’t have. Make friends at a Bible-teaching church and tell others about Jesus.
Know that God can help you live a better life if you want Him to help you. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end — time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God’s Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God’s blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can’t explain the world’s natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner’s prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: “Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus’ name, amen.” I’m Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could check out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group as a good way to learn about God’s will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.
First of all, leave the past behind. You cannot control the past, you can only influence your future.
2nd, learn to know and accept yourself.
Start/Continue to develop yourself to reach your dreams.
Go to psychotherapy, it helps.