my stbx-husband’s parents were narcissistic and treated him as a nuisance. he felt he owed them a lot because they fed and clothed him. he was a porn addict and pathological liar, and was totally controlled by his parents. much as i feel sorry for him, i had to leave him because i couldn’t tolerate the dysfunction any more.
i wonder what effects bad mothering can have on a son’s adult relationships.
so my mother got sober about two years ago. At the time, i was 13, so i didnt fully understand the process that our whole family was going through. now that im a little older, i now realize the impact drugs made on my life. She hasn’t been going to meeting. When she does, shes so happy! Latly shesbeen depressed and in a horrible mood, i wanna be able to tell her to go to a meeting, but then she’d get defensive and angry. And when we get in a argument, she acts like a child!
So i really need some advice, ANY!
I’ve also heard of a meeting for family members dealing with addicts and i was just wondering what they are called and if there are any websites. thank you for reading.
why does your god punish an innocent babe, instead of the mother? Something that makes sense please, because those “It’s gods will” or we can never understand gods plan” stuff doesn’t cut it. God has a plan?? That defeats your claims of “free will” Plan does not equal free will.
Nɑɫïvє♀ “God isn’t punishing the baby the mother did.”–but I thought god is the one who is all knowing all good and all powerful according to christanity.
If your mother; father; brother; or sister commits a crime–would it be just to come and arrest you for their crime?–Ethically speaking, the majority of us would consider this unjust.–How just is it for a so called knowing all good and all powerful
PattyAnn, “Nothing defeats Free Will…”–but I thought your god is all good all knowing and all POWERFUL; I am glad that you prove that your god is not all good all knowing and all POWERFUL.
If god has a plan–is it good or bad. Perhaps the christian god is masochistic and just enjoys watching people suffer.
Do you really see a mentally or physically disabled person, as less of a person?–I do not but according to chaistanity it is a punishment for sin. In fact, christianity also considers all sickness to be the result of committing sin and or the result of demons. Even a sneeze was considered to be the result demons–that is why christians say bless you when you sneeze! This is still practiced today, even though most christians are not aware of this tradition nor its origin.
Rose: Ephesians 1:5
“Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will,”–The key word in this passage is PREDESTINED. On this view it was decided long before the mother was born that she would be a drug addict and that the baby would have to suffer as a result was also determined by god long before the baby was ever born!
The above passage and the others sited by Rose prove that god is to blame and not the mother!
My mother has been to 3 or 4 rehab centers willingly she has lost her 3 (my siblings) kids (who are minors) her husband and her job now the kids have moved in with their dad 4 hours away and she sits at her house all alone drinking all day since she doesn’t have a job she is constantly broke but somehow still finds money to buy booze I have been direct and clear with her and im sure my dad and siblings have.. my extended family have been direct with her also she literally doesnt move from the couch .. and we have all tried the sympathy card with her but nothing works We thought it was ok for a awhile but then my dad caught her drinking again she drunkenly started screaming and throwing stuff my siblings were terrified and then the next day she was drunk again and tried to check them out of school but they wouldn’t go with her so she left she now she moved back into her house and doesn’t even want to see her kids anymore …I have lost all emotional connection with her I just want to get her off her habit so that my dad does not have to pay for the house she is staying in anymore and she can get her own job and house and quit sucking the money out of my dad so that my siblings can participate in out of school activities they were forced to quit because my dad couldn’t afford to pay for everything including my moms bills and house note ….I just want her sober and out of our lives. Is there anything we havent tried?
I have read some answers some were very helpful others not so much… but maybe if I add more details I will get better answers? we have had many interventions with her ones were we have all cried my extended family and immeditiate family telling her how much we love her and then she would say im never dinking again but of course she does so we have another intervention telling her to stop feeling sorry for herself and wake the hell up she has even gone so far as to tell the cops my dad beat her with a bat when in reality she got bit by a pit bull at work she came home got drunk and I guess forgot all about it but I know she was lying because my dad was not even in the same state when she came home with that bruise ….. and me and my siblings have been dealing with her alcoholism since my youngest brother was born about 11 years ago when she got mad she called me and my sister sluts and sometimes slap us and she wouldnt hit my brothers but she made them cry
so please dont tell me to stand by her because she has already lost my love and respect I just want her to get a job and move on maybe when im ready I can forgive her but not now…
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