I am writing a paper on drug addicted babies (meth, cocaine, heroin). Everything that I have read leads me to believe that every child born to a mother who abused drugs during her pregnancy is going to have either long term or short term issues. Is this true? If not, what factors determine if the child is going to have major issues or is it a “luck of the draw” (for lack of better words) kind of thing?
I am married to an addict. He is both an alcoholic and addicted to pills. He has not drank in almost 6 months. But I know he is still taking pills and the worst thing about it is, his mother is giving them to him. He of course denies it, but I know because I have confronted her previously about it and told her if she continued to give him pills that she would not be welcome to our home again and that she is killing her son and causing problems in our marriage. She said she would stop, but he continues to get them. Feel she is still doing it. She has been giving him pills and enabling him since he was a teenager. He is now 37. What do I do? I am trying and have been trying to make our marriage work, but the lies, deceit, and BS are just more than I can stand. All trust is gone. I have nobody to go to for support. He has told all of his family that all I do is nag and gripe, of course this may be partly true, but only when I know he is lying to me and hiding things. I am so tired of it all, and have been going through depression because of it. We have no sex life and I feel like I am fighting a losing battle. Any help or a friendly suggestion would be appreciated.
He has no insurance, and we have no money for rehab. His mother is on Parole and I have thought about making a call, but it isn’t illegal for her to have pills she has prescriptions for and I can’t prove she is giving them to him unless I get on video… don’t see that happening. I have considered the first two suggestions, and yes, I know there is basically one way or the other. Either he gets help or I go. I guess the investment of 8 years is hard to just walk away from. This is my second marriage and I think I am trying harder this time to make it work. I do love him, but it is really hard to keep loving a person I can’t trust. I don’t want to be a bitter old lonely woman. I am still young, but not getting younger… ya know. I am scared of taking the step to leave, but I may have to. I don’t want to be the cause of his mother going to jail, I don’t know what else to do.
okay my cousin is i think 12 weeks pregnant and she is still using her pain pills called
roxicodone.. and it doesnt seem like shes gunna quite anytime soon. so i just want to know like
what some of the side effects are, can the baby come out with any deformaties, brain damage etc..
and i need some answers fast ive tried to help her now for weeks but she wont believe what i tell her..
so maybe if i get some answers from other people she might open her eyes and try and help her kid
before it really is wayyyy to late..
thank you for all of your help
I have a very delicate family situation that I need help with. I have a 10 year old nephew that has a drug addict for a Mother (47) and a Father(39) who will do nothing to get her help. She has been on drugs since she was 18. She has been arrested once, and he got her out of it. She has shown up at the child’s school so blasted out of her mind that the school nurse had to drive her home. She has had several escapes with the police, including two serious auto accidents caused by her drug-induced stupor. Yet he always gets her out of it. Also her twisted, drug enhanced views and paranoia are beginning to pervert the boy’s personality. He is very withdrawn and superstitious due to the crap she fills his head with. I am tempted to call CPS to do an investigation. I wonder if authorities will allow my nephew to stay with his Father or if they will allow me to take custody until she gets the help that she needs.
What are your views and suggestions?
I’m not sure. Ever since casinos became legal where I live, she goes A LOT. I don’t know whether she is addicted or not, or even if it’s okay or not. Here is what I see:
1. She goes at nights; sometimes she goes four nights in a row. She doesn’t go daily, but definitely goes at least twice a week. She always stays for more than two hours. Regularly she is out three to four hours.
2. She doesn’t gamble that much, and sometimes loses and sometimes wins. She loses most of the time, though. I’ll say something between $50 bucks per night.
3. She gets angry every time I mention to her that she goes too often. She just walks away immediately and says she is not hurting anyone. Although, considering that she doesn’t work outside home and that my father is near retirement, I guess she is diminishing her own patrimony.
4. She goes a lot more frequently now after my father came clean about various infidelities. He’s the provider of the family and was hospitalized after he confessed. I feel she’s afraid of getting a divorce; she has no way of supporting herself. On the other hand, she’s old fashioned and doesn’t want to be divorced. My older sisters kind of expect my mom to just get over it, like nothing has happened, and if they hear a row between them, they tend to side with him!
5. My older sisters aren’t too supportive. When they come home they almost expect my mother to take care of the grandkids, all afternoon, even if she’s tired of taking care of the household.
6. Also, my dad is a recovering alcoholic, so maybe she’s getting back at him on some subconscious level, don’t know. What’s sure is that they don’t get along.
7. She really doesn’t seem to believe she’s addicted, even though she really feels the need to go.
8. She rarely goes alone; she usually meets with different old friends there. All of whom were friends of her before the darn casinos arrived. Her friends go a lot too, but my mother goes more frequently than them.
9. Also, another of my sisters got married a few months ago and moved abroad. She misses her badly, since they had a pretty close relationship.
10. My mother was going to therapy, but as always: she dropped out of it.
So, I don’t know, is it dangerous for her that apparent addiction? Is there something I can do? Should I back off? Please, I really need some answers.
Ok, so my neighbor is an admitted drug addict. She has threatened me, and has tampered with my mail. I keep my distance. She also has a four year old son and a live in bf ( who is also visibly stoned much of the time)
Today I went home to find about twenty policeman going into my apartment building. I asked what happened, and they said the boy’s name, and told me that this four year old was found wandering the streets -ALONE- and was currently in the precinct’s custody. and they could not find the mother anyplace. I told them she was a drug addict, and expressed my previopus concerns for the child’s safety. IThey told me child services would be involved.
They asked me a few questions and left. An hour later this drug addict come waltzng into the buiding with her son in tow, like nothing even happened.
I guess what I said could be seen as hearsay, and this woman is I have to admit a damn good actress.
Is this standard procedure?
Is this still possibly being investigated by child services?
My mother has been addicted to crack cocaine for 17 yrs now. our county doesnt allow court ordered rehab. Unfortantly my family has been living with her for almost 2 months now and its driving us crazy….She’s in denile about her addiction. So i was wondering…after we move out should I cut off all communication with her unless she agrees to go to rehab…I cant support her anymore.
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