How does dating become different once your a single mother?
March 20th, 2010
I am 22, and 6 weeks pregnant. The baby’s father is a drug addict/alcoholic and therefore unavailable.
I still dream of that happy ending and want to fall in love and get married. Once I am a single mother will men avoid me like the plague?
Not all men but make sure they aren’t dating you just for your children…It’s nasty but there are perverts out there.
No they won’t but you don’t want to bring guys that aren’t serious about you around your child because that is really difficult on a child. Seeing different men with their mother all the time can be mentally exhausting for a child. Just be careful with the people you share your life with because they will also be around your baby. So if anythings going to happen your going to become protective of your child and not want too many men around the baby.
Well depends on you really. I have 2 best friends that are single moms and they have no problem getting men, they are both engaged now. Me on the other hand…well I have to work a lot harder. I want the next one to be it, I hate dating…so I’m extremely picky and I am so scared of what happened to me happening again so I basically don’t put myself out there. It’s definitely not easy and I know it has a lot more to do with me than the fact I have a son. But I love being a single mom. Take some time for yourself and for your baby don’t try to rush into anything you can handle it on your own, just be smart in all your decisions from now on.
I was a single mom and recently got married. I was lucky to not have to worry about getting to know my husband since we had been friends in high school.
But I did always make sure that if I went out with him it was after my daughter was in bed. I know a child who has spent years sitting alone while her mom paid more attention to her boyfriends and it hurts her. To avoid this I made sure I put my daughter to bed every night (not the sitter) and was home early enough that I could get up with her in the morning.
I don’t think you will be avoided like the plague just make sure he is a good guy who likes you and who isn’t just looking to care for your child. And that he would be a good influence.