Mom has always been addicted to ecstasy. This addiction is really beginning to erode our relationship.?
March 19th, 2010
Mom has always been addicted to ecstasy. This addiction is really beginning to erode our relationship. My family and I are vaccillating between being frozen in fear and fearing the consequences. How can I help fix this personal problem? I live close to Glassboro, New Jersey.
Any help would go a long way to help.
you need to confront your mom about her addiction, you need to be very clear and specific with her about how it is affecting you and your family, and then you need to distance yourself. Simply tell her that you cannot have anything to do with her as long as she is using, then stick to that. She is the only one that can help herself out of her addiction, you can do nothing about that. But you need to protect yourself and your family, don’t let her addiction drag you down, because it will. If she wants help, there is help available, but she has to seek it out and ask for it, you can’t lead her to it and expect it to work. So, tell her you love her, but you will not let her destroy your life and the lives of those you love, with her addiction. It’s hard, no doubt about it, but sometimes necessary things are hard and we just have to do them.
would may be look in to some rehabs may be talk to a member of staff at a medical place as it all confidential so no body would no its you if thats a promblem but your mum must wont to stop this herself before any one will help
She needs to acknowledge she has a problem before you can help her. If she doesnt want to think she has a problem dont love her any less, let the police know who her supplier is and keep doing this anomiously as direct involvment could make you end up dead. Cut off her supply chain. Otherwise keep pleading with her, dont search out her stash and dispose of it, this will just drive a rift between you two and make things worse.
Love her and don’t give up on her don’t facilitate her by giving her money for drugs and take her out w/ you for walks and to the park ( while walking) let her see the beauty of the world from a loved one who cares, instead of one that is paid to do things for her . Try to be patient ask her why she needs to take it what can you do to make her feel better and stop taking it . and just listen to her,just listen you may find the reason why w/ out Her telling you
lastly do an intervention BUT BEWARE SOME PEOPLE SLIDE EVEN FURTHER OUTTA REACH AFTER INTERVENTIONS SO RESEARCH ON AND W/ WHO HOW U DO IT WITH may god be with you all ways so you can be strong .
TRY TLKIN 2 UR MUM N TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL AND DATS IT DESTROYI UR RELATIONSHIP
I wonder what fear and what consequences you are all frozen in? If mom is a drug addict you can either ignore the problem until she is dead or deal with it. keep in mind this isn’t a personal problem, this is your mothers problem and if she is truly addicted everyone around her knows. Talk with other relatives or your school counselor and see what kind of help is available. but doing nothing will only end in her death.