We will help you get your mom off drugs!

Suppose you are a kid born as an accident from a drug addicted mother and unidentified father. She only keeps you till you are 12, then you get kicked out and you are forced to live on the streets. So now you are 18 and you finally found a job and not homeless anymore. But how can you be ever love yourself or someone else if you never learned meaning of love from your parents?
I didn’t mean that’s how my life was. It’s just a scenario similar to my friends situation although a bit worse. Although my life had similar aspects to this scenario too.

My crack addict mother is in jail for stabbing the father of my youngest sister. My sister was placed in foster care, the DYFS contacted my aunt ( who is the legal guardian of another sister and myself) and asked if she would adopt my little sister, my aunt said no. The child is now two and still in foster care. I’m 19 I work fulltime and live alone, i would very much like to adopt my sister because of the abuse I suffered while in the foster care system.

Okay, so my mom has been playing Runescape since I was in 4th grade. I am currently in 9th grade and im totally sick of it. She gets up at 5:45, goes on, drives me to school around 6:30 ( unless she has to wait for her Summoning thing to leave), comes back and plays until dinner where she cooks (but not recently, my dad is starting to cook dinner now) and then plays to at least 11 at night. To show you that this isnt fake, I will post her stats up her.

I used to play this game until I realized… I HAD A LIFE.

http://hiscore.runescape.com/hiscorepersonal.ws

USERNAME: Pharaoh233

Im really starting to get scared because she looks totally unhealthy and doesn’t even have her nails or hair colored anymore. && my grandparents recently came and all she could do was play Runescape. they said she looked like she gained 20 lbs since the last time they saw her.

Please this is really an addiction and i wont appreciate how funny this might sound to some people. It was funny for the first couple of years but now it is hopeless. Nobody else’s mom plays Runescape.

i mean is there any chance they have some kind of effect in blood or brains. Docters please

(Similar to a crack baby)

im a 25 year old father and i was with this girl for almost 2 years. she got pregnant by me while i was seeing her in the begining of the relationship. so we ended up moving in together and everything was good until now. i work 12 hours shift at night at least 6 days a week, i am the provider of the house im the one who pays everything and im the one who support her financially. just recently i found her talking on the phone with a guy i know. anyway she cheated on me. she left bcuz she dont want to face me and she left with my son of 6 months to one of her friends house. she 20 years old smokes a lot of weed and is unstable, irresponsible, and lazy. i spoke to her and she said that she dont know what to do and that im not there for her emotionally, she dont know why she was talking to this guy. i got the phone record and she was speaking to this guy 5 times a day for hours. i just want my son, i dont want him to be running around house to house. i dont want him to suffer because of her. please help what do i have to do to get my son.

How can i tell my mom that I’m not addicted to coffee,and stop trying to control every opinion i make and making a big deal over everything?
How can i tell my mom that I’m not addicted to coffee,and stop trying to control every opinion i make and making a big deal over everything?

Thanks for the great answers!!

I want her to stop. I am so angry at her I could scream. She has done this my entire life and does not care about anything other than RXs and over the counter drugs. My dad threatened to leave her if she abused again, he even dispensed her RXs from a safe… well she found the key to the safe. He knows she found the key to the safe and he didn’t leave her. I’ve come to the conclusion that I probably won’t have my mom at important events in my life (college graduation, having a baby, buying a home)… my husband is tired of seeing me get hurt by her actions. I want to tell her to clean up or she will be cut out of my life. If she is going down she’s not taking me or my family with her. Please help!
She’s been doing this for 14 years… since I was a pre-teen

How can i tell my mom that I’m not addicted to coffee,and stop trying to control every opinion i make and making a big deal over everything?
How can i tell my mom that I’m not addicted to coffee,and stop trying to control every opinion i make and making a big deal over everything?

Thanks for the great answers!!

She’s 37 years old.
She’s never even had a stable job or her own place to live.
She’s been in prison 3 times, and in jain countless times.

I am her 18-year-old daughter, and I’ve lived with my grandparents (her parents) pretty much my entire life.

My grandparents have pretty much no money and we’re barely making it by, but she constantly calls for money and to move in here.

She makes my grandma have mental breakdowns and drunk herself to death, crying.

I don’t know what to do now, or even in the future.

I know that there is going to be a time when I have a home and kids and she’ll be doing the same thing to me.

..If she’s not dead.

Worst of all, I love her. I’ve tried to talk to her on the phone to tell her she’s a grown woman and she always babbles about how sorry she is and crys and I say its okay, her only resposibility is herself and she needs to take care of herself! She HAS to, WE CAN’T. I told her we have no money to send her, we’re barely scraping by and she just goes on about how she has no one and no help and she’s starving and..

I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!
Okay, the statement about not following in her footsteps was unneeded. Obviously, I am not. Even my manner of typing should reveal I’m educated and stable. I have a scholarship and am going to college, and I know I will lead a succuessful life.

My grandparents are unable to cut her off, she’s their daughter. She’s mentioned killing herself lately.

While I live with them, I can never ignore her existance.

And I will never be able to completely. Despite EVERYTHING, she has always treated me like she loves me. She is my mother.

It is “easier said than done.”
And its really taking an emotional toil on me,
but more so my grandma…
I try so hard but I just can’t make this all go away!

I miss so much school because of panic attacks and break-downs and stress.

I think I make myself sick from stress.

I haven’t even mentioned half of the crazy stuff that goes on because I don’t want pity.

I just want to move away and leave everything behind

but at the same time I can’t abandon my family

I love them!
I KNOW only she can!
I even told her that but she just cries more and it kills me.
But its the truth!
Why wont she just grow up!

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I probably do need a psychatrist. =\
I went to one before, but she didn’t help at all. I never got to tell her anything, she just assumed, and all she ever did was teach me how to breathe. So I quit going.

Just bought a new dell, and although it has most of the microsoft (vista) games, it does not have Mahjong Titans. I have another, less than a year old, Fujitsu laptop (also vista) that DOES have mahjong titans on it. I tried copying the folder between the two computers, and although it looks just like the other game folders, it does not work. I don’t know my way around Vista, and I’m doing it so my mahjong-addicted mother finally has peace of mind. Help?

I’m doing a media short film about a person who’s mother is addicted to drugs and how it affects him/her mentally. Would anyone care to elaborate on their experiences, whether you were the user or someone else? Anything is appreciated, thanks :)

Im trying to meet people my age and has the same or simalarexperiences I have had
D-Facs came to my house and they got me in even more trouble and I talk to my counselors and my teacher.
Im only 12
I have been asking for help since 2005

I’m 20 years old and a year ago my father passed away, completely destroying my mother. A few months later, still vulnerable and weak at heart, she was reunited with an old boyfriend at a bar. Long story short, he has my mother addicted to medication (along with her drinking) and has her completely under control. She has made numerous comments in sober moments that she wants to leave him. A few days ago he physically and verbally attacked both my mother and I and I was forced to leave the situation. My mother, still under the delusion that he has manifested in her mind, refuses to leave even when the whole family came to intervene. It’s became clear and apparent that I need to take this to a legal matter but, having never dealt with this myself, I don’t know where to begin. Does anyone know who in particular I would need to speak with to take legal action against the monster that is devouring my mom. Please, I am desperate for help and I feel this is my last door to open for her – after this, I have to leave her to deteriorate. Thank you all for anyone who replies (or even read all of this).

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My mother, my brother and I live in a house together. About 4 years ago my father bought a house and decided to put it in his, my brother’s, and my mother’s names (equally). About 2 years ago, my mother became addicted to drugs.

She maxed out all joint accounts with her children ($40k total) in less than 3 months, she took out all of her RRSPs (has nothing to show for over 100k) and lost her car and job. She now has the garage set up where her and her crackhead friends live.

The police have been by many times but will not touch that case. They say since she owns part of the house, she is entitled to have whoever on the property, whenever, for any reason. This is a problem because now they have started stealing the power from the house (which my dad pays (last months power bill was +$800)), the cable and the internet. The cops say that if she wants, she has the right to move all the crackheads in here if she pleases (stupid bitch cop) and now we have a real problem on our hands because this is potentially going to become a reality.
Are there any Canadian Property Legal experts out there who can give us a hand here? Or does anyone at all have any idea what kind of actions we can take to end this all?
We have tried calling many lawyers in the past, but none return calls once they hear what we’re dealing with, as ownership issues tend to be a hard win. However, I’m at my end… Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

She was thinking of calling her tomorrow since its her mom’s Birthday. Should she call her , or continue to not talk to her at all?

i dont mean just the child abuse that is found in lower class trailors with meth addicts. but child neglect happens in so called good families who go to good schools. so what is it? do these kids grow up and acheive some or alot of sucess just by being around good families and schools and opportunities despite how evil the parents are and one day realized thta they never had a chance… it catches up to them?
is it a failure of a father? a narcissistic mother? a mother guilting their children for life until they kil themselves for the fathers lacking?
i think i have a bad COMBINATION of things in my parents total trainwreck of a marriage that they insist on beating and beating everything more and more.

my sister is a sociopath personality. DEEP seeded shit in the mother. and she caused me all kinds of hell but eventually was like crossing the streams in ghostbusters to my head. the father is a failure as a father and the mother perhaps does have traumatizing things from a child rape? but she is crazy as hell, narcissistic… too embarassed to get help or talk about anything.. she CANT let go.. i have never heard her breath easy. she is in politics now too!!! what a fucked up world/country. perhaps she had children or did one thing after another to counter the fathers failure(s) or further denial by not opening up to friends.. she has friends who is a female judge and all about flashing money. her kids are flat out evil shits.. they will walk into a room univited and break things and laugh. aunts, unclesand grandparents r bett

They are 13 and 14 girl and boy. Their mom has not had custody of them. They visit on weekends and in the summer. The only reason my stepdaughter goes over is to see her friends. My step son wants to rescue her and save her from herself once he graduates. They have caught her using, found her drugs, and have confronted her. As they don’t live there, there is no reason for us to push for custody, and it is up to the kids if they want to go over there or not. But she is worthless. She has 6 kids total. 2 are twins and 9years old. 2 are my step kids. And 2 are kids of the jerk off she married. We raised all of them for about 3 years, then told her to find someone else to raise the ones that didn’t belong to my husband. CYS has been called about the twins having bruises and scratches and all, the school that they go to called. She is a crackhead, and worthless as a parent. She has no morals or values herself, and lets all kids in her house run free. My step kids have confronted her about drug use numerous times and she just makes up bs and tells them to stay the eff out of her business. I think she is the scum of the earth. They live off of welfare, trade food stamps for coke and pills, and lie about working so that they can get as much govt aid as possible. My step kids do know that their mom is an addict, that it is a disease, and that they cant fix her. But they adore her, my stepson in particular. She may have been a good mom once in a great great while, but is not from day to day or even year to year. She refuses to have birthday parties, doesn’t get them anything for birthdays or holidays, doesn’t read to the younger ones, just gets high all night and sleeps all day. Why are they so loyal to such a piece of dirt? They do know that I hate the way she is. I do not and will not apologize for that so if that is your advice save it. She has come into my house threatening me, tried to drag me out of a car…she is out there and always wants to fight about anything. I didnt instigate, or even respond anymore…its just not worth it. My husband doesn’t want to keep them from their mom, so he leaves it up to them. I just despise her. They are old enough to see her for what she is, so why is it that they even bother. She steals from them, borrows money and wont give it back. They are dumb and keep giving it to her despite our warnings. When will they realize that she is just a worthless junkie and not worth saving?